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disidentification is a critical element
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of Spiritual Awakening because it is so
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important though people assume that it
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can only be good but there's a shadow
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side to disidentification in this video
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I'm going to reveal this Shadow side of
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disidentification so that you don't
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succumb to
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it so first let's talk about what
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disidentification is identity is the
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condition of being oneself one separate
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self another word for this is ego
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you cannot have a sense of self without
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also simultaneously having a sense of
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other whenever we associate something
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with oursel we identify with it it
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becomes part of us we make it the same
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as us this is what attachment really is
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it is
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identification before people start down
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this path of Awakening they are
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completely identified with their
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temporal self the temporal self being
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this human self that they call by their
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name this means that they think they are
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their body they are their emotions they
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are their thoughts they are whatever
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relates to their mortal human self in
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this one
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lifetime most people are completely and
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totally ignorant to their non-physical
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aspect the one that created this
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Incarnation that they are calling by
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their name by the way people use many
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names for this aspect names like the
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soul or the spirit or the higher self or
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Newman or the stream of Consciousness
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Eternal witness essence immaterial force
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and so many more in different languages
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trust me they don't understand that
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their temporal self is a creation an
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expression of their non-physical aspect
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and so they mistake the temporal self to
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be the totality of who they are really
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you could say that a person is two main
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points of perspective non-physical and
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physical or spiritual and temporal same
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thing we're describing on the path of
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Awakening a person begins to gain
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awareness of their non-physical aspect
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and starts to disidentify with their ego
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I.E their temporal self in this life
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this disidentification is a profound
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thing to disidentify with something you
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must identify it as different to
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yourself you must see it as other than
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you for example if you would like to
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disidentify from your own pain all you
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have to do is to conceptualize of your
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pain as a separate entity and when you
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experience pain observe the pain as if
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you are watching this separate entity
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reacting in this way you do not take the
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pain personally when you
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disidentify you become able to see
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things much more
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objectively so let's look at some other
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benefits of disidentification okay like
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disidentification allows you to be more
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aware of the non-physical elements that
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play in any given
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situation it makes it so that you are
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the Observer of your own thoughts it
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makes it easy to change beliefs it tends
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to make you less emotionally reactive it
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allows you to not resist the
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everchanging conditions of your physical
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body it allows you to change roles and
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be more flexible as a being it causes
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you to be able to let go of what no
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longer serves you to change and adapt
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what does serve you it helps you to let
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go of the past and be far more present
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in the here and now this is just the tip
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of the iceberg there are many more
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benefits to
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disidentification because of what it is
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it makes people feel better and because
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of this disidentification can be used as
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a coping mechanism and drag us deep into
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the shadow expression of
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disidentification when people are in
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enough pain sometimes they detach from
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their emotions alt together this is
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sometimes called emotional blunting and
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sometimes when people are in enough
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physical pain they disconnect from their
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body this is often called dissociation
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this is to intentionally create a
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separation between our Consciousness and
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the thing that is in pain so that we
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don't experience that pain if we
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understand this concept in general we
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can now move to an understanding of the
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Shadow side of
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disidentification so what is it it's
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when we identify the problem that is
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causing us pain as being our temporal
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human self and so we choose to separate
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oursel from it so as to get away from it
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it's a radical self- disownership
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basically our temporal human self is is
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in pain and we don't want to experience
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that pain anymore and so we disconnect
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from it and detach from it and
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disidentify with it and no longer
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consider it to be a part of us this is
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the most extreme form of
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self-abandonment that a person can exact
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upon themselves they no longer see the
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aspect of their ego or temporal form as
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theirs any of what's associated with
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that aspect and as a result they remain
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disconnected from those things deny them
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refuse to acknowledge them renounce them
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minimize them and see them as totally
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inv valid to them no greater cruelty can
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be exacted upon your temporal self and
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as if this isn't bad enough the doing so
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is so often Justified with spiritual
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beliefs and even spiritual truths things
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like the purpose of life is to transcend
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the illusion of the physical plane or
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the body is simply a vessel for the
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Divine or you are not your body and you
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are not your mind or strong emotion only
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arises as a result of attachment to that
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which is not you okay literally I could
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be here forever giving of these types of
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beliefs and even truths the shadow side
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of disidentification is a deep state of
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resistance because the entire process is
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done out of resistance to the self
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resistance to the ego resistance to the
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temporal form this coping mechanism of
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disidentification is absolutely rampant
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in the religious and spiritual
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communities because the focus of these
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communities is the non-temporal and so
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many people within these communities are
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using religion and
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spiritual spiritual practices we should
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say for pain relief and because it's
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working for them to feel less pain using
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the coping mechanism they're all
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encouraging each other to do so and
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presenting each other with beliefs that
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support the idea that you should do
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so so just to get the straight these
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communities in the religious and
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spiritual World support this coping
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mechanism in the same way that bars
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support the use of alcohol as a coping
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mechanism the absolute tragedy about
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this is that people who are effectively
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using disidentification As A coping
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mechanism to blunt their conscious
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experience of their temporal self are
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often considered by others to be the
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most awakened and enlightened of them
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all they are considered to be
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Transcendent and above it all so that
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you understand this better I'm going to
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give you an example isan grew up in
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rural India he was very very smart from
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the get-go and because of this let's
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face it he wasn't very happy right he
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couldn't simply accept and believe
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anything that he was fed without
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experiencing it for himself he was
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fairly non-compliant his father would
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consistently bered him and his mother
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was just oh so manipulative to try to
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get isan to do whatever she wanted him
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to do for her sake she was especially
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prone to victim control
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drama his grandfather who he was really
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really close to his only safe attachment
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figure died when he was seven and as a
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result the family had to move to a major
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city where he was put in school for the
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very first time which for isan was an
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absolute
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jail okay so let's fast forward isan
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ended up in more and more and more pain
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and until he became suicidal and one day
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in his early 20s he wandered into a
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Ganesha Temple and immediately felt
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relief because of this he became really
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interested in studying about spiritual
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philosophy as he did this he met many
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gurus now isan had a very important
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Epiphany one
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day this Epiphany was that there were
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two parts of himself the part of himself
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that was miserable that he couldn't live
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with anymore and the part of him that
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was watching or able to observe that
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part he came to the conclusion
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that the one that was watching was his
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real self his
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soul the isan that existed before this
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life and that will exist after and he
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came to the conclusion that the other
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part was his ego not his real self now
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this realization caused this major
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internal shift whereby he drastically
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identified with his non-physical aspect
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and drastically disidentified from his
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temporal self his unhappy self he no
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longer saw of his temporal self that he
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calls by the name isan as him or as his
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he radically disowned it this is not my
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body and my body is not who I am it is
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not me that is in pain it is the ego and
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this emotional body that's in pain it is
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this aspect of me that was conditioned
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in such a way to stay in pain these are
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not my emotions these are reactions that
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I'm watching happen in the body that
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isn't me when isan would experience an
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emotion he would not see it is his
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emotion he would minim it see it as
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totally invalid to him refus to engage
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with the language of felt perception as
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a result he may have been observant of
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the things going on within his temporal
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self but he was fundamentally
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unresponsive to it he was dismissive
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towards anything that related to his
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temporal self he did not act in a
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considerate caring and loving way
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towards
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it isan has effectively disowned his
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human self the thing is in this state of
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disconnection and separation from his
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own temporal self he was very very very
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non-reactive he felt very at peace truly
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he felt very little he spent all of his
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conscious energy on the non-physical
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planes due to being solely identified
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with his non-physical aspect now and as
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such people started to regard him as
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someone to follow and emulate a teacher
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isan gained a very large following and
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went on to teach people that the
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solution to their suffering is to
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disidentify from their temporal self but
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he was not simply teaching them to
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disidentify from their temporal self he
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was teaching them to disconnect from it
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to dismiss it and to disown it here is a
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rule that you need to follow so as to
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not fall into the shadow side of
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disidentification there can be no
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healthy disidentification without
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radical self-ownership you cannot
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disidentify from the ego without owning
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the ego as a cherished part of you you
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need to be loving caretaking responsive
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valuing of all aspects of your temporal
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self you must integrate physical and
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non-physical integrate temporal and
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non-temporal the point of expansion of
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consciousness is not to wake up from
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some illusion and realize that you are
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not your body and you are not your
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emotions and you are not your mind and
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you are not the you that you call by
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your name and you are not
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human so what is the point of expansion
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of
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consciousness the point is to understand
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that you are your body and at the same
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time you are not you are your emot tions
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and at the same time you are not you are
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your mind and at the same time you are
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not you are human and at the very same
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time you are not you are the you that
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you call by your name and at the very
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same time you're not you must hold
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dichotomy as such one of the intentions
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of disidentification from the temporal
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self must be to better own and caretake
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and integrate the aspect of you that is
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temporal the you that you call by your
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name this is meant to be a harmonious
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marriage between your non-physical
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aspect and your temporal human self in
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this life the hardest part of spiritual
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practice is the complimentary
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contradictions inherent in a
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multi-dimensional universe that quite
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frankly don't feel very complimentary at
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face
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value ultimately the highest truth is
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that all is one the painter is one with
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the painting and
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so any form of disidentification with
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must not be done to enhance self and
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otherness in this universe nothing is
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other than you not your mind not your
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body not your emotions not other people
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not your kitchen table not your dogs not
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the
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clouds not the cement on the sidewalk
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but to even see much less experience and
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live in alignment with this truth we
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must first disidentify with the very
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things that are keeping us locked in our
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own intense sense of
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identity have a good week
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