00:00:00
do not click on the ad have you ever
00:00:03
just been scrolling the internet or
00:00:05
social media and you see those ads pop
00:00:07
up they can be flashy they can have some
00:00:09
great one-liner that just hooks you and
00:00:11
it just captures your attention but
00:00:13
whatever you do do not click on the ad
00:00:18
these ads are like your random thoughts
00:00:20
those intrusive thoughts that you don't
00:00:22
really want but they keep coming back
00:00:24
anyway what is worse is that they start
00:00:26
joining your everyday life and
00:00:29
activities
00:00:30
these ads can be so intrusive if you
00:00:33
actually allow those ads to be there
00:00:35
they'll slow down
00:00:37
sometimes they'll be non-existent you
00:00:39
just told the computer or these thoughts
00:00:41
that these ads have no value in your
00:00:44
life you simply are just not interested
00:00:46
when one topic disappears another may
00:00:49
take its place this new flashy ad seems
00:00:52
so important it's new you're not used to
00:00:55
it it seems highly important for you to
00:00:57
pay attention but do not click on the ad
00:01:01
when you're scrolling through social
00:01:02
media moving from page to page and you
00:01:05
notice this ad following you the ad
00:01:07
might say you don't really love your
00:01:09
partner do you are you sure that bump
00:01:11
wasn't actually a person what if you
00:01:13
pushed that person into traffic what if
00:01:15
you're gonna get sick now have you ever
00:01:17
thought about that past experience how
00:01:19
awful it was days the day you need to
00:01:21
figure out your identity how do you even
00:01:23
know there's a God you're a monster and
00:01:25
I will show you why how tempting would
00:01:28
it be just to click on one of these ads
00:01:30
just to take a peek they don't know me
00:01:32
seriously I'm not that kind of person I
00:01:36
am so strong and my faith I would never
00:01:38
harm anybody I love my partner so much
00:01:40
but let me just click on that ad so I
00:01:42
can just see what the fuss is all about
00:01:43
this thought seems so intriguing and
00:01:46
that thought goes completely against who
00:01:48
you are which is why you want to figure
00:01:50
it out why is my brain saying something
00:01:53
that isn't actually who I am it isn't
00:01:55
natural to me I mean I would want to
00:01:57
know why these thoughts are against me I
00:02:00
mean I'm just scrolling through social
00:02:01
media I'm doing my thing I'm doing my
00:02:03
homework I'm watching TV why are these
00:02:06
ads following me they're Relentless but
00:02:09
do not click on the ad great you now
00:02:12
clicked on the ad here is what's gonna
00:02:15
happen the ad is going to make you
00:02:16
question your partner gonna show up
00:02:18
everywhere you've just taught your brain
00:02:20
that this ad has value
00:02:22
you gave it permission to say here I am
00:02:25
here I am remember me I'm still here
00:02:28
thanks for giving me some attention
00:02:30
today
00:02:31
I'm here to tell you that this thought
00:02:33
has meaning thank you for clicking on me
00:02:36
and paying attention in the digital
00:02:38
world when someone actually clicks on an
00:02:40
ad it teaches it that you care but thus
00:02:44
it people spend more money to get this
00:02:46
ad in front of your face they often call
00:02:49
it retargeting this intrusive thought is
00:02:51
retargeting you the cool thing is that
00:02:54
as it retargets if you stop clicking on
00:02:56
this ad it will eventually go away
00:02:59
depending on the budget of the person it
00:03:02
may last a few days it could last a few
00:03:03
weeks months even but the thing that we
00:03:06
can always count on is that this will
00:03:09
slow down as long as you don't pay
00:03:11
attention to it who wants to spend money
00:03:12
or energy on somebody who just simply
00:03:15
isn't showing interest so if you're not
00:03:16
getting what I'm saying do not click on
00:03:20
the ad and here are some tips to give
00:03:22
you a better chance of not doing this
00:03:23
notice the ad allow them to be there
00:03:26
don't use an ad blocker we don't push
00:03:29
these thoughts away we don't try to
00:03:31
troll them we let them be when you're
00:03:34
scrolling through and you notice that
00:03:36
there's a thought or this ad pops up it
00:03:39
is not your job to click on it your job
00:03:42
is to keep scrolling you must give this
00:03:44
thought a response like hey thought
00:03:46
welcome great to see you sure maybe
00:03:51
maybe not thank you for that thought
00:03:54
today you are welcome to stay as long as
00:03:57
you want my friend when we give these
00:03:59
types of responses you may have to do
00:04:01
them a lot
00:04:03
it shows the brain that you've
00:04:05
recognized this thought but you're not
00:04:07
going to give them any value it's the I
00:04:09
don't care attitude this attitude is the
00:04:11
antidote to intrusive thoughts allow
00:04:15
them to be there respond differently
00:04:17
than you normally would and move forward
00:04:19
continue living life and do exactly what
00:04:22
you want to do these thoughts May
00:04:24
infiltrate various aspects of your day
00:04:26
and your life but you do not stop living
00:04:29
you do not stop moving forward just like
00:04:33
these ads it's got nothing on you when
00:04:36
you simply give them no value they don't
00:04:39
seem as flashy they don't seem as
00:04:41
important and when the ad switches we
00:04:43
treat it the exact same way no one
00:04:46
thought is more important than another
00:04:48
thoughts are thoughts let them be
00:04:51
thoughts we can't ignore the anxiety and
00:04:54
distress that comes from these thoughts
00:04:55
just know that this feeling tends to be
00:04:58
false it's that extra push just to get
00:05:02
you to click on that ad to me this is a
00:05:05
fault signal anxiety without immediate
00:05:07
danger is false anxiety
00:05:10
it's based on a complete guess on
00:05:12
whatever my brain says could happen we
00:05:14
can treat this anxiety the same hey
00:05:17
anxiety welcome you can stay as long as
00:05:20
you want I love that feeling all my
00:05:22
stomach is gurgling oh that's so great I
00:05:24
love it right now this is wow thank you
00:05:27
when you respond to this anxiety as if
00:05:29
you really just don't care it doesn't
00:05:31
want to stick around put your arm around
00:05:33
it it's gonna freak out but you're cool
00:05:36
as a cucumber teaching it to no longer
00:05:38
freak out about those intrusive thoughts
00:05:40
but guess what your brain's not gonna
00:05:42
know until you teach it these ads have
00:05:44
nothing on you you are too powerful so
00:05:47
tell yourself this do not click on the
00:05:50
ad next time you have an intrusive
00:05:52
thought that demands your attention
00:05:54
act as if you don't care welcome it
00:05:58
acknowledge it move forward this is only
00:06:01
a small part of how you can power
00:06:03
yourself up with these intrusive
00:06:05
thoughts to enhance these skills more
00:06:07
you need to watch this video I'm going
00:06:09
to put here on the screen I've come up
00:06:10
with even more responses to those pesky
00:06:13
thoughts go watch it right now it's
00:06:14
worth your time and you're gonna need to
00:06:16
know it flashy
00:06:18
click on me I'm important hello bye me
00:06:22
when you simply
00:06:25
you know what I'm going to tell you this
00:06:27
is important
00:06:29
to me this is a false oh my goodness why
00:06:33
does this keep falling off