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this is you okay you have a desire to be
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liked by others you have a desire for
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all of these different things in life
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essentially you have a desire to become
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the highest version of yourself whatever
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that is for you you want to be that girl
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you want to be that guy you want to be
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perceived by others as desirable
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essentially you want to access your
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Highest Potential and who doesn't who
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doesn't want to access their Highest
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Potential so whatever that is for you I
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need you to write it down how are you
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being received in the reality you so
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desperately want don't think too much
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about it just write it down just think
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about it and then I want you to ask
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yourself how much of your current
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self-concept is based on chasing after
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this idea of who you are trying to
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become how many of the choices you make
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in life are based on whether or not
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other people will accept or deny you be
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honest with yourself I don't want you to
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lie and say none I don't really care
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about other people because every single
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person on this Earth does things to
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impress other people in some way way or
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another now there's a distinct
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difference between how you perceive
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yourself how others perceive you and
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what you actually are and I'm going to
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go over those things because you can
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only understand how you perceive
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yourself you can never understand how
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others truly truly perceive you this is
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your self-concept we all are boxed in in
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some way or another by our own
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self-concept of what we perceive
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ourselves to be and this isn't an
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intentional thing and this isn't
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something that we can ever get out of we
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can expand the Box we can move our
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location into a different box one that's
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a little bit Cozier but we are only
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limited to our own perception of
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ourselves if that makes sense so
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sometimes you're in this really small
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box right you keep complaining about how
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small this box is and how much you just
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want to break out and go into more of
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like this type of reality right but you
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assume that other people are the one
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that's limiting you from doing that
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their perception of you is what's
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keeping you from changing your
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perception of yourself and not that
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other people can't limit you I believe
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people limit you about this much of the
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time right but most of the time it's you
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that is limiting yourself and I think
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you're very aware of that too I don't
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think you're an unaware person I don't
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think you're stupid to the fact that you
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limit yourself but I do think you're
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scared to uncover how much potential you
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truly have write down your current
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limitations of what is preventing you
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from getting this thing in life whatever
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that is for you whether that is a
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relationship a job opportunity a better
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self-concept as a whole we all have
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things we want in life and sometimes
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we're so focused on getting them that we
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forget to ask ourselves the limiting
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beliefs that could be preventing us from
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that reality I'm going to use myself as
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an example and if you're new here hi my
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name is Natalie and this is where I
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share ways in which I'm getting my [ __ ]
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together so that you can get your [ __ ]
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together and what I'm about to say might
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sound a little bit delusional but a part
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of self transformation is always always
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going to be a little bit delusional
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Reinventing yourself never happens on
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accident you might assume that it
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happens on accident because we naturally
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go through changes but when you have an
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intent to reinvent yourself to recreate
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your life you're making a conscious
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decision to move from that box of who
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you view yourself as into a box that's a
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little bit more fitting to where you're
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at in life when I was a little girl I
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always wanted to be a YouTuber I
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distinctly remember recording videos and
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Vlogs of myself doing things and I
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always ask my parents
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when can I do YouTube and they said
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never you're never going to be able to
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do YouTube I got a little older and when
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I was around 13 years old I decided to
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start making YouTube videos without my
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parents knowing um I never included my
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face in them I just made little videos
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about this game I was playing right and
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the channel ended up gaining 20,000
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subscribers and it was actually
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technically my first ever job because I
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actually made money from YouTube but the
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only way I was able to make money is
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because I went up to my parents and I
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told them I lied to you guys
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I actually was doing YouTube this entire
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time and they were very mad at me they
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were actually livid at me that I went
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behind their back and I did what I knew
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I needed to do I remember they wanted me
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to delete my channel and I was so
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extremely sad because I thought they
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were going to delete it but I convinced
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them that if I just don't show my face
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and if I just post these videos I'm
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doing and I get approved from every
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single video that I post that I can
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continue doing it so I convinced them
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this is who I am so I got a little bit
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older and I was now in high school and a
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couple of my friends found out that I
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did YouTube and they made fun of me okay
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they they absolutely made fun of me now
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granted it was something that was like
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more of a kids game but it was something
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that made me feel good and at the time I
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remember it really really messed with my
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self-concept because I felt like I had
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to hide who I truly was my desires and
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at that time I felt like my own need to
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be accepted was greater than my need to
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create and be on on YouTube so I quit
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and my point of telling you guys this is
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sometimes our own self-concept we think
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of ourselves actually clashes with how
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other people perceive us our own dreams
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and desires clash with what other people
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expect us to do in a perfect world we're
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completely ourselves and everyone loves
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us but every single human on this Earth
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has to fabricate themselves at some
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point in their life in order to be
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accepted by others and so when people
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make videos talking about this is how to
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stop caring about what other people
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think about you it's unrealistic it's
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unrealistic because every single human
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on this Earth cares about what other
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people think about them you just need to
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start asking yourself the question of
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whose opinion matters because the world
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has taught you that in order to be
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accepted you must hyperfocus on how
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other people perceive you and tweak
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yourself when other people aren't
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perceiving you how you want to be
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perceived that is backwards thinking you
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are attracting people who don't like you
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because you don't like yourself enough
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to be true to yourself and so when your
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desired self-concept clashes with who
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you see yourself as the solution isn't
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to double down on who you see yourself
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as and how other people perceive you
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it's to start acting as if you are
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already the person you are wanting to be
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perceived as you start acting in
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accordance with who you want to become
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so my desired self-concept was I want to
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be a YouTuber and what a lot of you
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don't realize is underneath the idea of
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what you want to become there's always
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going to be an actual belief that you
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are denying yourself of underneath that
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I had a belief that I was incapable of
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being a YouTuber because being a
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YouTuber is associated with delusion
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right and the delusional aspect about it
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is you are craving attention a lot of
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the time people don't like to admit to
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themselves that they want attention in
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life in some way shape or form they deny
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themselves this reality because they've
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been conditioned that what they want in
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life is actually at the cost of other
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people I'm going to be honest with you
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you will never feel comfortable stepping
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into the highest version of yourself if
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you keep holding on to lower level
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self-concepts self-concepts that you've
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outgrown and the thing is these
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self-concepts of you were never actually
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given to you by yourself you often pick
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them up along the way from experiences
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like I had people telling me I was
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cringe for posting these videos people
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telling me that I'm delusional these
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were all things that were a part of my
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self-concept that were active blocks
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preventing me from embracing my own
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desires and so whatever that is for you
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I need you to look beneath the surface
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you can be delusional about your future
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and the desires you have for your life
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or you can be delusionally in denial
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about who you are and where you're going
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another aspect of delusional denial is
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you'll assume that other people are
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holding you back nobody's holding you
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back bestie other people in your life
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are not your limitations 99.9% of the
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the time they are just a reflection of
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the parts of yourself that you are
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resisting of the aspects of yourself
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that you need to let go of in order to
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step to the next level I dislike this
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idea in self-improvement content that
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you know everyone is praying on my
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downfall nobody wants to see me win that
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is why I'm not at this place in life
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it's because nobody wants to see me win
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and they're keeping me inside this box
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that is learned helplessness you have
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learned you have picked up throughout
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the years that you are helpless and that
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you will never be able to get to that
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point in life these are not even beliefs
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that are your own these are labels that
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other people have stuck on you and you
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have delusionally accepted that that is
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your reality reject it reject that
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reality and while it is true that other
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people will perceive you differently if
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you go after what you want your desire
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to be seen is not a crime your desire to
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shine is not a crime you are used to
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limiting yourself because the comfort
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that comes from blaming other people for
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your lack of dedication
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is easier than admitting that you have
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personal responsibility and that the
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reason that you haven't done it is
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because you don't want to okay but I
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want to but if you wanted to you would
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some limiting beliefs or self-concepts
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you have that you are unaware is holding
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you back it's similar to when a mosquito
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lands on you right you have three
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options it's either you smack the
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mosquito you shoe it away and it keeps
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coming back and biting you over and over
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and over again or you watch the mosquito
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on your hand as it sucks the blood out
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of of you because you're scared to kill
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it when you become aware that a false
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belief is no longer working for you not
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taking steps to heal it is confirmation
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that it's true you are living out the
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story that you told yourself is not
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working for you and now you're doing it
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willingly because you're aware that it's
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not working for you something that's
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really helped me is turning the idea of
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others perceiving me into something that
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can motivate me for example I'll prove
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them wrong if they think I'm stupid then
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I'll prove them wrong if they think I
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can't do it I want to do it more that or
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asking who is talking who is the person
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that is saying all of these things and
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you have to check yourself too because
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when you say these limiting beliefs to
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yourself you have to go back and go
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where did I pick this up from the more
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you can lean into this idea that nobody
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cares and it's literally just you making
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up these ideas in your head about how
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other people perceive you you'll stop
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letting your own projections of how you
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see the world limit you from whatever
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you want to achieve one thing that
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really helped me get out of this
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impostor syndrome is is really asking
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myself who are you who do you want to be
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I stopped wishing to be that girl and I
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started embodying her how would the
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person you want to be act and act that
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way what does she do what does she wear
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does she include other people's opinions
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in every single little thing she does in
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Life or does she just do it and the last
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thing I'm going to leave you guys with
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is the pain you get from denying
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yourself has to be greater than the pain
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you get from just going after that thing
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you want because there's always going to
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be struggle struggle is your Birthright
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because you will always struggle in life
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you just need to learn how to pick a
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struggle with that being said you guys
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thank you guys so much for watching this
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video I decided to have it be just like
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a sit down talk type of video this week
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and I'm going to be uploading a
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different podcast next week I'm trying
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to find the balance of posting videos
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like this and also posting my podcast
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and for those of you who stayed to the
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end I am going to be giving away a $50
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Visa gift card so comment down your
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Instagram usernames you must be
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following my Instagram at myif ased and
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my new Tik Tok account it's going to be
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improvement. imbecile I decided to make
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a new Tik Tok account because honestly
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Tik tok's been doing me dirty so I just
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want to start over to be honest so
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follow my new Tik Tok account and that's
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all you have to do make sure you're
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following my Instagram also I'm only
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going to be contacting the winner from
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my account at my life asch that is my
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only account guys and I'm going to end
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the giveaway once we get to 60,000
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subscribers so be sure you subscribe
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obviously you have to be subscribed in
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order to win I see if you guys are
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subscribed or not so just just so you
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know with that being said you guys thank
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you guys so much for watching this video
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and I'll see you guys next week bye
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y'all
