When Women PLAY GAMES by going HOT AND THEN COLD on you - DO THIS! (Q&A with CASEY ZANDER)

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USGvsIIWDio

Zusammenfassung

TLDRThe speaker addresses a situation where a subscriber is experiencing hot and cold behavior from a woman he likes. By analyzing the email, the speaker suggests that this behavior may stem from her having greater life distractions or dating multiple men instead of her intentionally playing games. The advice includes the necessity of maintaining emotional detachment, creating communication boundaries, and treating the woman as casually as other interests. Ultimately, this approach aims to increase one's perceived value and potentially shift the dynamic of attraction.

Mitbringsel

  • 🌀 Understand hot and cold behavior is not always intentional.
  • 🚫 Avoid being overly emotionally invested in one woman.
  • ⏳ Set communication boundaries to enhance your perceived value.
  • 📱 Reduce the number of communication platforms with one woman.
  • 📉 If she feels she has higher value, your interest level should be adjusted.
  • 📊 Treat the woman you like like others to maintain balance in attraction.
  • 🙏 Pull back and let her reach out to show strength.
  • 🧐 Detach emotionally to prevent appearing needy.
  • 🔄 Change your approach to increase dating success.
  • 💬 Communicate your availability clearly and confidently.

Zeitleiste

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    The email discusses a man's experience with a woman displaying 'hot and cold' behavior, indicating she is possibly dating multiple men. The host advises that her behavior might not be intentional but rather reflective of her busy life. He stresses that men often become overly invested in one woman, while she may not reciprocate the same level of interest, highlighting the importance of emotional detachment in such situations.

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    The host emphasizes setting communication boundaries to increase perceived value and suggests that the man should treat the woman as he would other women he dates, avoiding needy behavior. He points out that if she's not responding as desired, it's a sign of her higher perceived market value and suggests a strategic retreat to see if she becomes more interested, reinforcing the idea that emotional strength can attract success in dating.

Mind Map

Video-Fragen und Antworten

  • What does it mean when a woman is hot and cold?

    It often implies she is playing games, but it may also suggest she's busy or has other priorities.

  • How should I respond to hot and cold behavior?

    Consider pulling back and allowing her to come to you, showing you are not overly invested.

  • Is it good to post about dating other women to get her attention?

    Generally, no. This can appear needy; instead, maintain your value and detachment.

  • How does emotional investment affect attraction?

    If you're overly invested, she may feel superior and less interested.

  • What are effective communication strategies with women?

    Set clear boundaries on when and how you want to be contacted.

  • Why might a woman take a long time to respond?

    She may be preoccupied with her life and is not prioritizing your messages.

  • Should I treat the woman I like differently from others?

    No, treat her similarly to other women to maintain your value.

  • How can I increase my perceived value?

    Limit accessibility and only communicate under your terms.

  • What should I do if I'm emotionally invested in someone?

    Practice detaching emotionally and focus on your own interests.

  • Can my interest level affect her attraction?

    Yes, if she senses you are more interested, it may decrease her attraction.

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    so I got an email from a subscriber and
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    he's dealing with a woman who's going
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    hot and then cold on him say that with
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    me one more time she's going hot and
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    then cold on him now to most of you what
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    that would imply is she is playing games
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    what I'm going to do is I'm going to put
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    his email up here I'll keep his name
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    private but I'll read this line by line
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    and then we are going to dissect this so
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    he goes hi Casey I'm hanging out with
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    multiple women at this moment but I'm
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    only interested in one girl who's been
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    showing me obvious signs of this hot and
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    cold technique that women do like one
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    week she's calling me to see what I'm
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    doing answering fast direct messages but
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    the next week she's leaving me on
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    delivered for hours and even days
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    whenever I snap her she opens up my
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    Snapchats fast when she's showing this
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    cold Behavior I thought about posting
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    other girls while she's doing that to
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    punish this sort of behavior I don't
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    condone and he goes just Snapchats and
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    stories of me eating with another girl
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    or stuff like that he goes do you think
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    this would be a good move and what would
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    you do if you were in my position thanks
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    a lot okay this is a really really
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    really good question because the first
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    thing is I have dealt with women like
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    this in the past and I'm going to be
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    breaking this down line by line um kind
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    of how I did in the other q&as because
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    this is a very good question and all of
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    you are going to come across this so the
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    first thing I'm going to say right off
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    the bat is you have to understand that
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    this is a woman who is dealing with
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    multiple men and the reason why I know
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    this is because it's not even that she's
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    trying to necessarily not give you as
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    much attention to play games it's that
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    she literally is dealing with that many
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    notifications on her phone I'll give you
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    an example I'm in that position right
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    now as I just moved recently as I move
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    there's tons of messages in history that
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    I have not um seen or checked recently
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    because the thing that you got to know
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    is number one women have lives too they
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    also have social lives even when they're
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    dating and number three um
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    she's probably dating multiple men now
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    even me myself as a man there are
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    certain friends that I have like even
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    today there's friends today who have
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    text messaged me that I have not yet
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    replied to but I have opened up their
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    Instagram stories this happens okay
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    people are on their phone but they don't
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    always reply at your pace so I'm going
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    to be breaking this down line by line to
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    show you why he goes Casey I'm hanging
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    out with multiple women at the moment
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    but I'm only interested in one girl
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    who's been showing me obvious signs of
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    this hot and cold technique that women
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    do okay there's two things here number
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    one I'm going to challenge most of the
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    other dating content on the internet
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    where guys tell you oh you'll forever be
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    fulfilled by having multiple women
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    here's the truth all of you and I mean
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    every single one of you will come across
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    one specific girl that you like more
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    than others and when you like that one
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    girl more than others you cannot help
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    but to get your emotions emotionally
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    invested into her you start to think
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    about her more you start to wonder what
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    she's doing you start to think about
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    future dates that you can plan with her
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    and the funniest thing about that is
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    this all of the other girls who you're
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    talking to you could give a flying [ __ ]
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    when you reply to them or when you get
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    to see them next or when that next date
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    is and that's why they keep chasing you
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    the one woman that you do want you're
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    sitting there just like you're doing
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    which is why you're writing this email
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    to me where you're strategizing on your
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    phone you're strategizing the text
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    messages that you're going to send to
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    her and you're thinking about how you
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    can eventually get this girl to be with
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    you she will sense that energy until you
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    fully stop giving a [ __ ] on all levels
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    you can never actually get the women
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    that you want you have to completely let
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    go and completely release any of this
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    attachment type energy to any one
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    circumstance because you have to realize
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    this just because you view her that way
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    there is another guy that she's talking
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    to that views her as one of the girls
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    who you view in your rotation so all
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    these other girls you're talking to or
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    you have a you know rotation or a roster
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    of women you're talking to there's a
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    different guy who's giving her that
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    energy who's going going to end up
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    winning this girl over so always keep
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    that in mind your perception of her or
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    your perspective of her is very rarely
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    her perception or her perspective of
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    herself so let's dive into this I'm
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    hanging out with multiple women but I'm
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    interested in one girl I'm only
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    interested in this one girl who's
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    showing me obvious signs of this hot and
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    cold technique women do okay here's what
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    you got to know she's not doing a hot
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    and cold technique she literally just
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    doesn't give a [ __ ] when she texts you
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    back see that's the thing is men often
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    times think that women are purposefully
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    playing games and there definitely is
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    women who do that because women have
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    game too but what you have to know is
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    that she is literally just living her
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    life and she ain't operating on your
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    time she's operating on her time
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    sometimes she decides to check her
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    Snapchat when she wants and other times
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    she replies to her text messages when
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    she feels like it so I'm going to tell
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    you something about people people will
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    always do what they're going to do
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    regardless of what you say if you're
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    dating a girl no matter what you do that
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    girl gets to wake up and decide every
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    single day if she's going to cheat on
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    her boyfriend or not if you're in
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    business with somebody that person no
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    matter what you do no matter what you
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    say no matter how you curate that
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    relationship that person you're in
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    business with decides for themsel if
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    they're the type of person where they
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    would screw somebody over or not you
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    cannot control people natural human
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    nature says that people will do what
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    people are going to do and people are
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    going to do regardless of what you want
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    them to do or not so she's not
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    necessarily playing games she just is
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    operating on her own time that's how
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    most women do things is they operate
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    their day-to-day on their own emotions
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    and her emotions dictate when she wants
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    to reply to things so let's keep this
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    going one week she's calling me to see
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    what I'm doing answering fast direct
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    messages but the next week she's leaving
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    me on delivered for hours and even days
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    yes it's because she doesn't care when
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    she replies to you so what you have to
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    know is your interest level is higher
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    than hers and she can sense that your
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    interest level is higher than hers which
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    means the reason why she's pulling back
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    and the reason why she's leaving you on
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    delivered and she's not replying is
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    because she believes in her heart of
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    hearts that she has a higher sexual
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    market value than you do which means the
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    only way that you navigate around this
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    is you need to fully stop pursuing you
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    need to fully stop pursuing and you you
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    need to fully let her come to you on her
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    terms what you have to understand about
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    women is when they want a guy they will
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    fight tooth and nail through hell in
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    high water no matter what they have to
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    do to try to lock him down she's going
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    to be strategizing ways she can get a
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    relationship out of the guy that she
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    wants and right now we live in a day and
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    age where majority of women have far
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    more options than majority of men okay
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    right now you can be a multi-millionaire
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    with a private jet and you can be 6'5
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    with six-pack abs and guess what's going
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    to happen that girl who is a you know
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    just naturally woke up and was blessed
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    by God of being being the cute girl
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    she's probably always going to have more
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    options than that guy keep this in mind
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    your your emotions in this are too
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    invested for for a potential you know
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    relationship or a woman that's not even
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    necessarily your girlfriend yet you're
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    too invested so he goes next week she's
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    leaving me on delivered for hours and
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    even days whenever I snap her and I'm
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    guessing he means Snapchat she opens my
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    Snaps fast when she's showing this cold
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    Behavior so the first thing that I can
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    tell you too or another thing that I can
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    tell you you are communicating with her
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    on far too many communication panels
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    meaning you should not be direct
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    messaging a woman and Snapchatting her
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    and text messaging her and calling her
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    on the phone all that signals is you
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    have super high interest you need to
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    come across that you have some value in
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    these interactions too so what I mean by
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    that is tell the woman that you're
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    talking to how you would like to be
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    communicated with so you say hey only
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    text me between this hour and this hour
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    of the day this is when I reply I'm
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    working the rest of the day right away
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    you're already going to Signal higher
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    value than majority of the other men in
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    her inbox that will freely communicate
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    with her throughout the day so that's
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    first set the parameters on when you
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    want her to reply to you you know you
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    can say hey I'm busy contact me at this
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    time another thing that you can say or
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    you can do is hey I don't check XYZ app
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    XYZ app XYZ app I only text here's my
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    number you know here's my number to
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    contact me what you're trying to do is
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    you're trying to use some pschological
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    frames of value to make your value Stand
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    Out compared to the other men so that's
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    important always and I mean always set
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    the parameter for how people get access
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    to you okay a a a true man's man or a
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    true man with things going on in his
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    life a man of status is hard to get a
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    hold of I want you to think right now
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    imagine you're a Fortune 500 CEO or
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    you're the president of some
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    country is anybody going to just have
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    access to that guy is anybody going to
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    be able to snap Snapchat that guy or to
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    text message that guy absolutely not
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    there's going to be parameters around
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    his communication you need to carry
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    yourself as if your time has value right
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    now if she has access to you on all
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    these different media panels rest
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    assured you're going to look like an
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    average everyday run-of-the-mill guy
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    that she doesn't want because women want
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    men of status and women want men of
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    value it is important to carry yourself
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    as such or you will not have options
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    let's keep this going whenever I snap
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    her she opens up my Snaps fast when
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    she's showing this cold Behavior once
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    again it's not cold Behavior your
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    interpretation of how you see the world
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    of how you're guessing she judges life
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    is typically never her view of the world
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    the way she sees the lens of Attraction
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    is typically never the way you see the
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    lens of Attraction and you will never
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    know what that woman is actually
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    thinking you will never know what she's
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    actually feeling and you'll never know
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    what she's actually wondering because of
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    that it's best to not make assumptions
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    and it's just let let the let let the
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    communication and let what's actually
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    happening in the real world dictate your
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    next move and right now she's not
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    showing you a lot of effort or emphasis
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    which means you don't need to show her a
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    lot of emotional effort or emphasis
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    either because she doesn't care about
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    you that way let's keep this
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    going I thought about posting other
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    girls while she's doing this that way
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    she can or when she's doing this for the
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    behavior that I don't condone just
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    Snapchats or stories of me eating with
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    another girl or stuff like that do you
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    think this is a good move what would you
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    do if you were in my position so I do
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    not think that that is a good move
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    because once again if you're having to
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    write me this email and I can feel the
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    energy that you're giving off she can
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    definitely feel the energy that you're
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    giving off she can tell that you really
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    like her she can also tell that you're
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    really invested in her and she can tell
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    that you really desire her and those are
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    the reasons why she doesn't desire you
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    because the frame of value that you have
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    set for yourself is not one of value it
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    is not one of status and it is one that
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    oftentimes women really despise women
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    despise men who are easily accessible
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    who appear to be needy and who appear to
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    be emotionally invested this one girl
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    that you really want if you get back
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    into your masculine energy where you
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    treat her as if she is one of the other
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    girls that you're hanging out with
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    because you say in the beginning of this
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    message you say I'm hanging out with
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    multiple women at this
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    moment the girl that you really want you
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    need to be showing her that same type of
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    energy as these other girls that you're
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    talking to so no if you start if you
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    give off the energy and the vibe that
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    you really like this girl the second you
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    start posting pictures of you eating
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    with other girls and stuff like that and
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    you try to do things subtly she is most
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    likely going to know that this is
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    directed towards her she's going to know
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    that you're probably hurt she's going to
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    know that you're probably emotionally
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    invested and she's going to know that
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    you're doing this as a strategy to look
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    like you still have options will it
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    potentially work maybe but at the same
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    time if this is not normal behavior for
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    you don't do it now if you would have
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    came to me with this email and you say
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    hey I consistently post women on my
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    stories and I consistently take pictures
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    of the dates that I'm on I'd say yeah go
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    ahead but those are things you probably
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    should have been doing from the
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    beginning so to recap this the one girl
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    that you really want and this is for all
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    of you watching this channel the one
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    girl that you really want you need to
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    treat her the exact same as if she is
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    all of the other girls that you've
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    talked to in the past that you didn't
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    care if you actually dated longterm or
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    not you need to give her that same type
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    of energy the second thing that I want
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    you to remember is a man of status sets
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    parameters around the communication for
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    how women get access to him if you
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    communicating with her on direct message
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    voice message way too much set the
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    communication patterns for how you want
  • 00:12:32
    to be spoken to not how you're hoping to
  • 00:12:34
    get a hold of her and number three you
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    need to detach your emotional investment
  • 00:12:38
    from this woman she probably feels as if
  • 00:12:40
    she has higher sexual market value than
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    you if she has higher sexual market
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    value than you or she feels that way
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    because hypergamy is a feeling naturally
  • 00:12:48
    hypergamy is no longer satisfied and
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    she's going to be looking for a better
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    option you do not have to read between
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    the lines it's not hot versus cold it's
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    not her hot and cold technique she's not
  • 00:12:59
    playing games she literally just doesn't
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    like you to the same level that you like
  • 00:13:03
    her and the way you do that the way you
  • 00:13:05
    shift this energy so hopefully she views
  • 00:13:07
    you the way you want to be viewed is you
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    need to play your cards different than
  • 00:13:10
    all of the other men out there who are
  • 00:13:12
    consistently chasing this woman and that
  • 00:13:14
    are in her
  • 00:13:15
    inbox that is how I would reply to this
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    this is how you need to act and care of
  • 00:13:19
    yourself if a woman is going hot and
  • 00:13:21
    cold on you and the the best bet that
  • 00:13:23
    you can have right now if it's not
  • 00:13:24
    completely tarnished if it's if the
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    relationship or if the interactions are
  • 00:13:28
    not yet destroyed is to completely pull
  • 00:13:30
    back show that you have the strength to
  • 00:13:32
    pull back show that you have the
  • 00:13:34
    strength to not need her and then let
  • 00:13:35
    her mind wander so it shows that hey
  • 00:13:37
    maybe he found somebody else maybe he
  • 00:13:39
    wasn't as emotionally invested in me as
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    I thought the better you get at playing
  • 00:13:44
    the game of Life on your own terms the
  • 00:13:46
    higher level of dating success you'll
  • 00:13:48
    have if you like this video I want you
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