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so I got an email from a subscriber and
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he's dealing with a woman who's going
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hot and then cold on him say that with
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me one more time she's going hot and
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then cold on him now to most of you what
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that would imply is she is playing games
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what I'm going to do is I'm going to put
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his email up here I'll keep his name
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private but I'll read this line by line
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and then we are going to dissect this so
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he goes hi Casey I'm hanging out with
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multiple women at this moment but I'm
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only interested in one girl who's been
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showing me obvious signs of this hot and
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cold technique that women do like one
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week she's calling me to see what I'm
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doing answering fast direct messages but
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the next week she's leaving me on
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delivered for hours and even days
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whenever I snap her she opens up my
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Snapchats fast when she's showing this
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cold Behavior I thought about posting
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other girls while she's doing that to
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punish this sort of behavior I don't
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condone and he goes just Snapchats and
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stories of me eating with another girl
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or stuff like that he goes do you think
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this would be a good move and what would
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you do if you were in my position thanks
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a lot okay this is a really really
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really good question because the first
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thing is I have dealt with women like
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this in the past and I'm going to be
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breaking this down line by line um kind
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of how I did in the other q&as because
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this is a very good question and all of
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you are going to come across this so the
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first thing I'm going to say right off
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the bat is you have to understand that
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this is a woman who is dealing with
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multiple men and the reason why I know
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this is because it's not even that she's
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trying to necessarily not give you as
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much attention to play games it's that
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she literally is dealing with that many
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notifications on her phone I'll give you
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an example I'm in that position right
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now as I just moved recently as I move
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there's tons of messages in history that
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I have not um seen or checked recently
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because the thing that you got to know
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is number one women have lives too they
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also have social lives even when they're
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dating and number three um
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she's probably dating multiple men now
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even me myself as a man there are
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certain friends that I have like even
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today there's friends today who have
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text messaged me that I have not yet
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replied to but I have opened up their
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Instagram stories this happens okay
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people are on their phone but they don't
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always reply at your pace so I'm going
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to be breaking this down line by line to
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show you why he goes Casey I'm hanging
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out with multiple women at the moment
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but I'm only interested in one girl
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who's been showing me obvious signs of
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this hot and cold technique that women
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do okay there's two things here number
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one I'm going to challenge most of the
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other dating content on the internet
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where guys tell you oh you'll forever be
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fulfilled by having multiple women
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here's the truth all of you and I mean
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every single one of you will come across
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one specific girl that you like more
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than others and when you like that one
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girl more than others you cannot help
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but to get your emotions emotionally
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invested into her you start to think
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about her more you start to wonder what
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she's doing you start to think about
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future dates that you can plan with her
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and the funniest thing about that is
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this all of the other girls who you're
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talking to you could give a flying [ __ ]
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when you reply to them or when you get
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to see them next or when that next date
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is and that's why they keep chasing you
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the one woman that you do want you're
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sitting there just like you're doing
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which is why you're writing this email
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to me where you're strategizing on your
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phone you're strategizing the text
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messages that you're going to send to
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her and you're thinking about how you
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can eventually get this girl to be with
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you she will sense that energy until you
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fully stop giving a [ __ ] on all levels
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you can never actually get the women
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that you want you have to completely let
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go and completely release any of this
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attachment type energy to any one
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circumstance because you have to realize
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this just because you view her that way
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there is another guy that she's talking
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to that views her as one of the girls
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who you view in your rotation so all
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these other girls you're talking to or
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you have a you know rotation or a roster
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of women you're talking to there's a
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different guy who's giving her that
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energy who's going going to end up
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winning this girl over so always keep
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that in mind your perception of her or
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your perspective of her is very rarely
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her perception or her perspective of
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herself so let's dive into this I'm
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hanging out with multiple women but I'm
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interested in one girl I'm only
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interested in this one girl who's
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showing me obvious signs of this hot and
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cold technique women do okay here's what
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you got to know she's not doing a hot
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and cold technique she literally just
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doesn't give a [ __ ] when she texts you
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back see that's the thing is men often
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times think that women are purposefully
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playing games and there definitely is
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women who do that because women have
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game too but what you have to know is
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that she is literally just living her
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life and she ain't operating on your
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time she's operating on her time
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sometimes she decides to check her
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Snapchat when she wants and other times
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she replies to her text messages when
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she feels like it so I'm going to tell
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you something about people people will
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always do what they're going to do
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regardless of what you say if you're
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dating a girl no matter what you do that
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girl gets to wake up and decide every
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single day if she's going to cheat on
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her boyfriend or not if you're in
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business with somebody that person no
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matter what you do no matter what you
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say no matter how you curate that
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relationship that person you're in
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business with decides for themsel if
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they're the type of person where they
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would screw somebody over or not you
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cannot control people natural human
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nature says that people will do what
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people are going to do and people are
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going to do regardless of what you want
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them to do or not so she's not
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necessarily playing games she just is
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operating on her own time that's how
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most women do things is they operate
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their day-to-day on their own emotions
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and her emotions dictate when she wants
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to reply to things so let's keep this
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going one week she's calling me to see
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what I'm doing answering fast direct
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messages but the next week she's leaving
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me on delivered for hours and even days
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yes it's because she doesn't care when
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she replies to you so what you have to
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know is your interest level is higher
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than hers and she can sense that your
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interest level is higher than hers which
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means the reason why she's pulling back
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and the reason why she's leaving you on
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delivered and she's not replying is
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because she believes in her heart of
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hearts that she has a higher sexual
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market value than you do which means the
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only way that you navigate around this
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is you need to fully stop pursuing you
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need to fully stop pursuing and you you
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need to fully let her come to you on her
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terms what you have to understand about
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women is when they want a guy they will
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fight tooth and nail through hell in
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high water no matter what they have to
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do to try to lock him down she's going
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to be strategizing ways she can get a
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relationship out of the guy that she
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wants and right now we live in a day and
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age where majority of women have far
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more options than majority of men okay
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right now you can be a multi-millionaire
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with a private jet and you can be 6'5
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with six-pack abs and guess what's going
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to happen that girl who is a you know
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just naturally woke up and was blessed
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by God of being being the cute girl
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she's probably always going to have more
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options than that guy keep this in mind
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your your emotions in this are too
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invested for for a potential you know
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relationship or a woman that's not even
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necessarily your girlfriend yet you're
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too invested so he goes next week she's
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leaving me on delivered for hours and
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even days whenever I snap her and I'm
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guessing he means Snapchat she opens my
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Snaps fast when she's showing this cold
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Behavior so the first thing that I can
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tell you too or another thing that I can
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tell you you are communicating with her
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on far too many communication panels
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meaning you should not be direct
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messaging a woman and Snapchatting her
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and text messaging her and calling her
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on the phone all that signals is you
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have super high interest you need to
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come across that you have some value in
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these interactions too so what I mean by
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that is tell the woman that you're
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talking to how you would like to be
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communicated with so you say hey only
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text me between this hour and this hour
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of the day this is when I reply I'm
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working the rest of the day right away
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you're already going to Signal higher
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value than majority of the other men in
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her inbox that will freely communicate
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with her throughout the day so that's
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first set the parameters on when you
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want her to reply to you you know you
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can say hey I'm busy contact me at this
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time another thing that you can say or
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you can do is hey I don't check XYZ app
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XYZ app XYZ app I only text here's my
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number you know here's my number to
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contact me what you're trying to do is
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you're trying to use some pschological
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frames of value to make your value Stand
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Out compared to the other men so that's
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important always and I mean always set
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the parameter for how people get access
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to you okay a a a true man's man or a
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true man with things going on in his
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life a man of status is hard to get a
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hold of I want you to think right now
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imagine you're a Fortune 500 CEO or
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you're the president of some
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country is anybody going to just have
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access to that guy is anybody going to
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be able to snap Snapchat that guy or to
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text message that guy absolutely not
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there's going to be parameters around
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his communication you need to carry
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yourself as if your time has value right
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now if she has access to you on all
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these different media panels rest
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assured you're going to look like an
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average everyday run-of-the-mill guy
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that she doesn't want because women want
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men of status and women want men of
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value it is important to carry yourself
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as such or you will not have options
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let's keep this going whenever I snap
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her she opens up my Snaps fast when
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she's showing this cold Behavior once
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again it's not cold Behavior your
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interpretation of how you see the world
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of how you're guessing she judges life
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is typically never her view of the world
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the way she sees the lens of Attraction
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is typically never the way you see the
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lens of Attraction and you will never
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know what that woman is actually
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thinking you will never know what she's
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actually feeling and you'll never know
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what she's actually wondering because of
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that it's best to not make assumptions
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and it's just let let the let let the
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communication and let what's actually
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happening in the real world dictate your
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next move and right now she's not
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showing you a lot of effort or emphasis
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which means you don't need to show her a
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lot of emotional effort or emphasis
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either because she doesn't care about
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you that way let's keep this
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going I thought about posting other
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girls while she's doing this that way
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she can or when she's doing this for the
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behavior that I don't condone just
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Snapchats or stories of me eating with
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another girl or stuff like that do you
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think this is a good move what would you
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do if you were in my position so I do
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not think that that is a good move
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because once again if you're having to
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write me this email and I can feel the
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energy that you're giving off she can
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definitely feel the energy that you're
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giving off she can tell that you really
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like her she can also tell that you're
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really invested in her and she can tell
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that you really desire her and those are
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the reasons why she doesn't desire you
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because the frame of value that you have
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set for yourself is not one of value it
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is not one of status and it is one that
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oftentimes women really despise women
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despise men who are easily accessible
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who appear to be needy and who appear to
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be emotionally invested this one girl
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that you really want if you get back
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into your masculine energy where you
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treat her as if she is one of the other
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girls that you're hanging out with
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because you say in the beginning of this
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message you say I'm hanging out with
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multiple women at this
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moment the girl that you really want you
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need to be showing her that same type of
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energy as these other girls that you're
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talking to so no if you start if you
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give off the energy and the vibe that
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you really like this girl the second you
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start posting pictures of you eating
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with other girls and stuff like that and
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you try to do things subtly she is most
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likely going to know that this is
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directed towards her she's going to know
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that you're probably hurt she's going to
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know that you're probably emotionally
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invested and she's going to know that
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you're doing this as a strategy to look
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like you still have options will it
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potentially work maybe but at the same
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time if this is not normal behavior for
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you don't do it now if you would have
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came to me with this email and you say
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hey I consistently post women on my
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stories and I consistently take pictures
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of the dates that I'm on I'd say yeah go
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ahead but those are things you probably
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should have been doing from the
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beginning so to recap this the one girl
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that you really want and this is for all
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of you watching this channel the one
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girl that you really want you need to
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treat her the exact same as if she is
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all of the other girls that you've
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talked to in the past that you didn't
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care if you actually dated longterm or
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not you need to give her that same type
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of energy the second thing that I want
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you to remember is a man of status sets
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parameters around the communication for
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how women get access to him if you
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communicating with her on direct message
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voice message way too much set the
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communication patterns for how you want
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to be spoken to not how you're hoping to
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get a hold of her and number three you
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need to detach your emotional investment
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from this woman she probably feels as if
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she has higher sexual market value than
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you if she has higher sexual market
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value than you or she feels that way
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because hypergamy is a feeling naturally
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hypergamy is no longer satisfied and
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she's going to be looking for a better
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option you do not have to read between
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the lines it's not hot versus cold it's
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not her hot and cold technique she's not
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playing games she literally just doesn't
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like you to the same level that you like
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her and the way you do that the way you
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shift this energy so hopefully she views
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you the way you want to be viewed is you
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need to play your cards different than
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all of the other men out there who are
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consistently chasing this woman and that
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are in her
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inbox that is how I would reply to this
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this is how you need to act and care of
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yourself if a woman is going hot and
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cold on you and the the best bet that
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you can have right now if it's not
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completely tarnished if it's if the
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relationship or if the interactions are
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not yet destroyed is to completely pull
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back show that you have the strength to
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pull back show that you have the
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strength to not need her and then let
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her mind wander so it shows that hey
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maybe he found somebody else maybe he
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wasn't as emotionally invested in me as
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I thought the better you get at playing
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the game of Life on your own terms the
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higher level of dating success you'll
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