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we've all been there before you're
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talking to someone you like and you
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can't quite tell if they're flirting
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with you
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or just being friendly mrs robinson
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you're trying to seduce me
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[Music]
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aren't you you might feel this
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uncertainty when talking to someone
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you've just met
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or maybe with someone you've known for a
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while but have trouble reading
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either way in this video we'll go
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through 6 subtle signs
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you can look for to figure out if
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someone is attracted to you
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one quick note before we begin for
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visual aids we'll be
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looking at clips from celebrities but
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given that the cameras are rolling and
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these are actors
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it doesn't necessarily mean these people
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are attracted to each other
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also no single sign guarantees anything
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but if you see several of them together
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you'll start to get a clear picture of
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how the person feels about you
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superhero film we've all seen a bunch of
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superhero films
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the first subtle sign that someone is
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attracted to you is something you might
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see while speaking with them
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or you might catch it even before being
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in conversation
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it's preening examples of preening are
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standing up straighter
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playing with or fixing their hair
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straightening their clothes or playing
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with jewelry
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you can probably think back to a time
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when you did this while talking to
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someone attractive
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here's an example from margot robbie
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that bullied him
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on the boardwalk on his way home one day
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yeah i was bully number
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two i think these are things we all do
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some of the time but when we're looking
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at someone we're attracted to we do it
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for longer periods of time or more
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frequently
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so if you notice someone fix their hair
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once it might not mean anything
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but doing it a lot can be a subtle sign
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they're interested in you for example
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watch a few moments with craig ferguson
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and kate mara her words give away that
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she's flirting in the first clip but for
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yourself
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you want to pay attention to the body
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language even during the more innocent
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parts of conversation
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i like to do the shoulder pads and heels
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and then nothing else
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oh yeah that's uh it's all right
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what else do you want to talk about i
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love dunkin donuts coffee no no he's not
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he's not he's not a donut horse he's a
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regular yeah he's a horse
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people preen subconsciously as a
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combination of nervous fiddling and a
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desire to make themselves look better
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so in this next clip notice how
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catherine's hair touch comes after craig
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calls her out on something
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yeah toronto's crazy by the way i like
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that little do you feel that little leg
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thing happen in there
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yeah yeah you are a black belt aren't
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you
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as you just saw touch can be another
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sign that someone is attracted to you
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but not every touch means the same thing
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there's two kinds of touches to look out
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for that are subtle signs someone is
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attracted to you
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the first is a drag touch or lingering
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touch for example
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notice how this woman's hand stays
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touching the guy for as long as she can
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can i get another egg absolutely i'm so
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glad you're here yeah
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i don't know which way i'll just go this
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way a hug can definitely be platonic but
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if afterwards someone drags their hand
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across your arm or down your body rather
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than immediately disconnect
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it might be a sign of something more
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here's a quick comparison of a platonic
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hug
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versus a drag touch the drag touch won't
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always be that obvious so here's a more
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subtle example
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it goes quickly watch how instead of
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dropping her hand after the hug
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she drags it across cristiano's back
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basically not disconnecting completely
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until the last moment she can
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so next time you hug someone and you
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aren't quite sure how they feel about
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you pay attention to whether they
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quickly disconnect or let their hands
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linger
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that said not every touch needs to be
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drawn out in order to be a sign of
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interest
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the second touch related sign that
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someone is attracted to you involves
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little touches
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but frequent unnecessary little touches
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here's an example of an unnecessary
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touch it's just the two of them speaking
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so she could have said this without
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touching his arm
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i could tell you again later you can
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tell me again later that'd be fine
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one unnecessary touch doesn't
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necessarily mean anything on its own
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it's when you see several back to back
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that it becomes a sign of attraction
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here's a quick example i've been
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studying you
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you've been studying me yeah and i've
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been wondering what's going on here
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and well i sort of like created the link
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between this
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and this is there a link there is there
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something is there a theme running
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yeah it's a you know it's a service
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because i'm guessing how far that's
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going
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yeah there were actually more states now
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as i think about it keep going i can get
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up don't make a joke out of that
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none of those touches on their own mean
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anything after all some people are just
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touchy
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so what you really want to pay attention
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to is if someone is touchier with you
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than with other people that shows they
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may be attracted to you
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now in times of social distancing you
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might not see a lot of touching
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so another subtle sign you should pay
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attention to is where someone points
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their body
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for example here's robert downey jr
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having a platonic conversation with
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craig ferguson
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slight correction it's not the number
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one movie in america it's the number one
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movie worldwide
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he phases his legs and body to the
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audience only turning his neck to look
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at craig
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compare that to this conversation where
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the woman is completely perpendicular to
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her chair
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looking at the two side by side it's
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obvious who's engaging more with craig
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here's another example where you can see
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a change in body language during the
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conversation
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notice how tiffany starts with her body
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fairly even between james corden and jay
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but as the flirting starts she cheats
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her body more and more towards
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jay that's a good madden pi which has
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mondays at nine on cbs
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so you didn't answer my question though
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can we go to break please she even keeps
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her body facing jay while james corden
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is speaking
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you're never going to break him
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if you see someone point their body
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towards you even while they talk to
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someone else that's a great sign that
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the person is interested in you
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closely tied to this is another body
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related sign that someone is attracted
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to
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if they lean their body towards you this
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can be done in a variety of ways the
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obvious example would be while speaking
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to you like this
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a less obvious time that you might see
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this and not realize it's happening is
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if they fall
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towards you while laughing
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she easily could have fallen backwards
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or to the other side but she fell to the
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side that put her closer to craig
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this could just be by chance but it may
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also be a subconscious desire to get
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closer to you
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for a quick comparison watch alice eve
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with fairly neutral body language with
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conan although she is facing him
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and compare it to her body language with
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craig i grew very quickly
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i grew like three feet in a year and uh
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what you can't pick and choose like well
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i suppose you can actually
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yeah yeah you can no i feel bad country
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it is a free country you're absolutely
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right well done alice for reminding us
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that it's a free country the last sign
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someone may be attracted to you is
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likely to happen before you're even
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speaking to them it's the smiling eye
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dart
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here's a great example in this case
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henry cavill is looking at her first
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but normally it'll be when you catch
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them looking at you our series
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so we also were talking about how to
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make sure that we bring her in early
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enough
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it's normal for someone to look away
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when you accidentally lock eyes with
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them so what you're looking for
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is that sheepish smile while they look
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away that's a tell that they feel like
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they've been caught
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meaning they were likely purposefully
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looking at you perhaps because they have
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a crush on you or are checking you out
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so now you know some subtle signs that
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someone is feeling attracted to you
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