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oh hello babies we've solved dating for
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you let me cut to the chase when she
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says she solved dating what she means is
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that she appeased her own ego and that
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of the Modern Woman in general she made
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herself feel better about her dating
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experiences by constructing a graph of
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men according to their objective
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qualities rather than their subjective
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ones like mine and then simply declaring
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that all women deserve the a good kind
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of man and not the kinds of men with
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flaws because women have no flaws I
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guess it's a weird take but I think
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we're familiar with it anyway as usual I
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have fixed the square by turning it into
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a cube cubes are cubes are pretty much
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it my name's Amy this is my best friend
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Grace they're from Portland make of that
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what you will and together we've created
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the smart dumb sweet evil matrix it's
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going to help you it's going to help you
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become more entitled speaking of
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deserving things I found this report on
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ground news saying almost half of 18 to
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27 year olds still live with their
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parents most of them for free we're in
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an economic situation that nobody
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deserves I'm going to help these girls
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upgrade their chart but first if you
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want help explaining why you still live
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at home it's the cost of living it's not
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avocado toast you should check out this
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deserve chart let's see what they have
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to say okay so what we've discovered is
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that every man in the world falls on
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this Matrix um not me I don't fit in any
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of these I am nice and I'm smart but I
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don't quite fit here I'll let her
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explain in quadrant one we have the
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sweet smart Matrix this is the Unicorn
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Matrix you have your husbands your ones
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who got away and your fictional men
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written by women these are the ones you
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want to keep they're the ones you dream
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about they're the ones you deserve honey
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deserve their favorite word which means
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absolutely nothing so again I pretty
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nice I am pretty smart I do not belong
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here I am nobody's unicorn I do not have
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this reputation I alternately have these
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reputations let's let her continue okay
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quadrant number two we got the golden
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retriever quadrant we got very sweet but
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a little bit dumb they can fall anywhere
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in this quadrant in their golden
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retrievers they have a high EQ but a low
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IQ so they could be a nuclear scientist
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but if they're getting you pot holders
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for your birthday they are a golden
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retriever honey and finally the most
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important quality of a golden retriever
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is that they are willing to learn they
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can be taught and eventually these
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golden retrievers can become unicorns
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which is why they are part of the keeper
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Hemisphere okay important note when she
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says dumb here what she means is not
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buying her the correct presence so again
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you can be a nuclear scientist in this
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box but if you are not serving her needs
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then you are dumb and must be fixed
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quadrant number three we have the yuck
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quadrant that is the dumb and evil fair
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enough finally we have your smart and
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evil quadrant this is the trauma
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quadrant I agree with that one too in
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the trauma quadrant you have your
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standard narcissist narcissist usually
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but not always means got the better of
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me your situationships that last longer
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than 6 months that again is a good
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Insight hanging out in this area for too
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long is a bad sign and finally your
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guitar players who hate themselves hey I
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don't hate myself anymore I hate
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everything else I hate that I have to
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explain this uh notably I am not allowed
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to date in the trauma quadrant anymore
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good for you personal growth nobody mean
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is a good rule this has never proved us
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wrong it is true for every man we have
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ever known okay it's true from your
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perspective that's how you see all guys
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there's something that you're missing
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from our perspective that might help you
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on your journey and also maybe lay off
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the deserve word in my opinion deserving
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is at an all-time high and it's kind of
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resulting in women ending up in these
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areas a little more than is necessary
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that's when they are encouraged to uh
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deserve someone who doesn't agree so so
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you say that your model solves dating
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first of all uh you're only talking
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about this part of it and assuming that
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this part of it is all here to your
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satisfaction which is a different
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conversation uh second of all I think
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that this model is going in the right
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direction but you're probably putting
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some men uh in one of these categories
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preemptively because you are ignoring a
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hidden Third Dimension so to help you
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solve dating I've created the investment
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Cube It's a little rough but you get the
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idea I changed your axes a little bit
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instead of nice and meat I think you
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wrote Sweet and evil I put willingness
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to invest and give you what you want in
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a relationship and instead of Dumb and
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smart I put experienced that's knowing
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what to do in relationships and how to
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do it and then finally the aspect you
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left out was able how how able is he if
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he's willing and experienced but maybe
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not able at the moment but that could
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change in the future that's something
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that you maybe should consider you gave
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an example of a guy in the fix category
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who gets you pot holders because he's
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inexperienced and doesn't know what you
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want but what about a guy who is getting
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you po holders cuz he just isn't quite
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able yet in this yellow box over here to
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get you what he already knows you want
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what if there are guys out there who are
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very willing and very experienced but
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just not able enough for you at the
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moment which you know may or may not
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change in the future this is something
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that actually happened to me recently I
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met someone who assumed I was in the
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dark green here and as time went on I
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had to just say whoo that's going to
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take a few years that's kind of and then
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she feels like this now there is a
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saying out there that women do not
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struggle with men they wait at the
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finish line and choose the winner so
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they can get the benefits and that might
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be a self-defeating strategy at least in
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today's dating environment it used to
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work better in the past when we had more
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structure in society and men in General
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even middle value men could accumulate
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enough to buy a house and provide
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stability for a woman on his value level
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but times are different now these guys
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are not really buying houses exactly so
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the more that you tell all women that
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they deserve someone who can provide
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them everything they want uh the fact
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that those guys are fewer and fewer in
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number is going to mean that they have a
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lot of women clustering around them
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which is going to make them a lot less
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willing to pick one and and provide for
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her you'll notice that I colored all of
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the unwilling boxes red you should be
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getting away from guys who are not
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willing those guys who have a lot of uh
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access to women they tend to get a bunch
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of temporary ones rather than a
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permanent one and lead them on for a few
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years by saying things like this so
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let's solve dating even more by going
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over the investment Cube here it is your
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sweet evil matrix pictured here breaks
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down men into sweet versus evil and dumb
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versus smart and then claims that all
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men are to be found on this grid and
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that all women deserve a guy who is nice
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and smart or at least the opportunity to
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fix one who is nice and dumb putting him
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in the deserve category now this is an
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insufficient picture and that's because
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as time goes on there are more and more
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men who are willing to put in the work
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which you call Sweet and who know how to
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put in the work which you call smart but
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simply are not able to put in an
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adequate amount of work for you it's the
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economy so as standards of living
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decrease this was 2011 God knows where
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this is by now but your standards do not
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decrease there's just going to be uh
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fewer and fewer men over time who can
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provide what women deserve so your
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advice to women to solve dating for them
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was to just simply pick this guyy the
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guy who is willing to invest in you and
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knows how to do it and is able to do it
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but in reality there are not enough of
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those guys to go around that those guys
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are so small in number that they're
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going to have a lot of options to pick
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from and that that's going to make them
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unwilling to pick one that's you can't
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all be at the front of the line so if a
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guy is willing and experienced that
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would be your sweet and smart but not
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able to give you the type of investment
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that you're looking for that would be
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the struggle box I put that in yellow
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back here women do not really like being
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in the struggle box they don't want to
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win the race with us they want us to win
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first and then share finally back here
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we have the Project Box in Orange and
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that would be a guy who is willing to
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take care of you properly but neither is
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he able at the moment at least nor does
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he know what he's doing and that is a
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project okay I wish I had exact
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percentages here I'm just estimating to
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make a point some percentage of men are
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going to be unwilling to invest in a
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relationship and the more options they
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have the more unwilling they're going to
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be some percentage of men are going to
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be ready willing and able if you can
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lock one down good for you some
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percentage of men are going to be able
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and willing but not ready and don't
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understand and uh if you want one of the
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fixers then good for you also but in my
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estimation the struggler section of
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society is going to be larger and
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growing and the project section is
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probably going to take up I don't know
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if this is more than half already or
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what I wish I had numbers but my point
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here is that you told all women to pick
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this guy you said they deserve it you
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basically just took this this green
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color right here and you just said
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that's all of you uh are in the in the
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deserving category of just a few you can
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see how mathematically that might not
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work out now I not telling you that you
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have to settle for someone who doesn't
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have enough of what you want you don't
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have to I'm just saying that some of you
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are going to have to choose between
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either one of these back row guys or
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pursuing someone who could be here but
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is unwilling or maybe like a Jack
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Russell they're pretty cute so in order
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to clarify what women should be
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deserving in order to maximize people
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finding an appropriate match let's break
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down income by category now first of all
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the median income for the male
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population of the United States is about
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$46,000 and that is going up but not as
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fast as rent and groceries I also want
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to mention I made about this much money
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in 2014 and it did not go very far
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here's a quick breakdown of income
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brackets in the United States I have
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stacked those up for you now as you can
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see there's a good percentage 37.5 of
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people in the United States who make
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over 100 K but as you can also see
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they're going to be overwhelmingly old
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probably not in the age range you're
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looking for guys more of your age are
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going to be concentrated in these lower
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levels so let's go by age here average
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salary for 20 to 24 is $
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38,2 per year which is uh I could not
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imagine I think that's rent in Manhattan
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average salary for 25 to 34 is
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$4,080 per year average for 35 to 44
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which I'm imagining is beyond the upper
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Lim limits of your dating range after
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this ad here is
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$65,625 per year now I made more than
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this in 2018 and it did not go far to be
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fair it does say that men earn more at
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1401 per week which would be 72 852 but
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that does include 44y old men so in
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other words more guys than you think are
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going to be at the lower end of the able
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to invest axis in these unattractive
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dingy colored struggle in Project boxes
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so when you encourage women to deserve
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even harder than they already are you're
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telling them to focus on these front
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boxes full of men who are able to
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provide which looks like this they begin
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to Cluster around the men who have the
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ability to do that which makes those men
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fall from the Willing category to the
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unwilling category because they have an
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abundance of options that's why even
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though your boxes are not wrong and
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you're smart to stay out of this one
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encouraging women to deserve is going to
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make them look for guys who are already
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able who have already made it which is
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going to clog the market some of you
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most of you should probably be looking
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for a guy who is willing a guy who wants
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to become more able because of your
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presence in his life is a pretty good
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sign that's a guy who wants to move from
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here to here or from here to here and
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then you can do the rest of the work so
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more deserving is not going to solve
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dating if anything it's going to clog up
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these two cubes and drop them down to
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here which is what you don't want but
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what might help solve dating is if maybe
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a few more of you were willing to run
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the race with us rather than waiting at
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the finish line and picking the winner
