Exposing What Really Happened with Stephanie Soo
Zusammenfassung
TLDRIn this video, a YouTuber discusses their past fallout with fellow creator Stephanie Sue, known as Rotten Mango. They express feelings of being misrepresented in Stephanie's narrative, which framed their interaction as a serious conflict. The speaker reflects on their character development on YouTube, their immature reactions during the fallout, and the emotional impact of Stephanie's video, which they believe exaggerated the situation and misused serious themes for dramatic effect. They apologize for their own actions but also call for accountability from Stephanie for her portrayal of events, emphasizing the need for both sides to be heard in order to heal and move forward.
Mitbringsel
- 🎥 The video addresses a past fallout with Stephanie Sue.
- 🗣️ The speaker feels misrepresented in Stephanie's narrative.
- 😔 They apologize for their immature reactions during the fallout.
- 📈 The speaker shifted their content focus after the incident.
- 📝 They emphasize the importance of both sides being heard.
- 💔 The fallout has had a lasting emotional impact on the speaker.
- 🔍 The speaker calls for accountability from Stephanie.
- 📖 They reflect on their character development on YouTube.
- ⚖️ The speaker seeks to clarify the truth and heal from misrepresentation.
- 🎭 The video critiques the use of serious themes for dramatic effect.
Zeitleiste
- 00:00:00 - 00:05:00
The speaker reflects on a past experience with Stephanie Sue, known as Rotten Mango, which has been misunderstood and taken out of context online. They discuss how Stephanie's portrayal of their fallout has led to ongoing discussions and misconceptions about their relationship, particularly after the speaker's recent weight loss video went viral.
- 00:05:00 - 00:10:00
The speaker explains their background as a YouTuber who developed a chaotic online persona, which made them an easy target for criticism. They recount the initial interactions with Stephanie, expressing regret for their immature reactions when she canceled a collaboration, acknowledging their unprofessional behavior and apologizing to her.
- 00:10:00 - 00:15:00
The speaker shares how the fallout with Stephanie prompted a personal transformation, leading them to shift their content focus away from involving others in drama. They recognize their past mistakes but also highlight how Stephanie's response felt like a preemptive strike to control the narrative, using emotional language and imagery to frame their conflict in a misleading way.
- 00:15:00 - 00:20:00
The speaker critiques Stephanie's use of dramatic storytelling techniques in her video about their fallout, arguing that she manipulated the narrative to portray them as a villain. They emphasize the importance of accurately representing experiences and the harm caused by equating their disagreement with serious issues, such as the #MeToo movement.
- 00:20:00 - 00:25:00
The speaker addresses specific claims made by Stephanie, particularly regarding their first meeting and the context of their interactions. They clarify that they did not know about her past traumas and that her portrayal of their relationship was exaggerated and misleading, which has had lasting consequences on their reputation.
- 00:25:00 - 00:33:00
In conclusion, the speaker expresses a desire for healing and accountability, urging Stephanie to acknowledge her role in distorting the truth. They emphasize the need for both sides to be heard and the impact of her narrative on their life, seeking a resolution that allows them to move forward.
Mind Map
Video-Fragen und Antworten
What is the main topic of the video?
The video discusses a past fallout between the speaker and Stephanie Sue, addressing misunderstandings and misrepresentations.
Why does the speaker feel misrepresented?
The speaker believes Stephanie exaggerated their interaction and used serious themes to frame them negatively.
What does the speaker apologize for?
The speaker apologizes for their immature reactions and venting about Stephanie's absence during a collaboration.
What does the speaker want from Stephanie?
The speaker hopes Stephanie will acknowledge her part in misrepresenting the events.
How has this fallout affected the speaker?
The fallout has impacted the speaker's reputation and emotional well-being, leading to a desire for healing and truth.
What changes did the speaker make after the fallout?
The speaker shifted their content focus to avoid dragging others into drama and to create more personal, authentic content.
What does the speaker think about Stephanie's video?
The speaker views Stephanie's video as a calculated narrative that misused serious themes for emotional impact.
How does the speaker describe their character on YouTube?
The speaker describes their character as chaotic, loud, and messy, which contributed to misunderstandings.
What does the speaker want to achieve by sharing their side of the story?
The speaker aims to clarify the truth and heal from the public misrepresentation.
What is the emotional tone of the video?
The video has a reflective and serious tone, addressing themes of accountability and emotional impact.
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- 00:00:00Here we go. Hi everyone. We're going to
- 00:00:03do this. We are going to talk about it
- 00:00:05today. I want to talk about an
- 00:00:07experience from my past. An experience
- 00:00:10that's been deeply misunderstood online.
- 00:00:13An experience that was taken out of
- 00:00:15context in ways that felt deliberate.
- 00:00:18And one that cost me a lot. This video
- 00:00:20is about Stephanie, also known as Rotten
- 00:00:22Mango. What happened between us took
- 00:00:24place over half a decade ago. We're
- 00:00:26talking like five or six years back. But
- 00:00:29people still talk about our fallout to
- 00:00:32this day. Stephanie Sue told the
- 00:00:34internet about our real life interaction
- 00:00:37together in a way that seemed less like
- 00:00:39a personal story and more like a true
- 00:00:41crime special. She took moments between
- 00:00:44us and magnified them into something way
- 00:00:47bigger. Weaving it in and out of an
- 00:00:49emotionally charged narrative that in
- 00:00:51the end felt designed to hurt me. The
- 00:00:54reason I'm bringing this up now is
- 00:00:55because my weight loss got 50 million
- 00:00:58views and it sparked a lot of interest
- 00:01:00in who I am. Millions of people are
- 00:01:03coming in. They're watching old content
- 00:01:05and this includes videos made about me
- 00:01:08and Stephanie. Back in 2019, she put out
- 00:01:11why I'm afraid of Nikocado. It went
- 00:01:14viral. It's got like 17 million views. I
- 00:01:17made a response to that years ago, but
- 00:01:19it only got four. That means that the
- 00:01:22vast majority of people coming in aren't
- 00:01:24hearing my side. So, this video will be
- 00:01:26a shortened recap of exactly what
- 00:01:29happened between me and Stephanie. And
- 00:01:31it will also be the truth because if you
- 00:01:33want to hold people accountable, both
- 00:01:36sides deserve to be heard. I am an actor
- 00:01:39and for the past 8 years, I was on a
- 00:01:41character development for my YouTube
- 00:01:43channel. I was intentionally gaining
- 00:01:45weight. I was intentionally acting like
- 00:01:48a buffoon. I was developing an online
- 00:01:51persona. In the earlier years of this, I
- 00:01:54leaned very heavily into covering drama
- 00:01:57from other YouTube creators. I'd spill
- 00:01:59the tea on them, even holding a kettle
- 00:02:01prop. Sometimes I'd stir the pot, throw
- 00:02:04the shade. I literally injected myself
- 00:02:06into any drama. And a lot of people
- 00:02:08couldn't separate that character from
- 00:02:10the real me. And this is how this is how
- 00:02:13things started to develop in the very
- 00:02:15beginning. By the time Stephanie and I
- 00:02:17crossed paths, I had already gained over
- 00:02:19a 100 pounds and built a reputation for
- 00:02:22having a character that was chaotic,
- 00:02:25loud, and messy. We have a few things to
- 00:02:27discuss.
- 00:02:29The tea is steaming hot.
- 00:02:34Then I don't tell someone. You eat. I
- 00:02:36have some receipts. Sit down. You these
- 00:02:39clowns. Your [ __ ] Everything about me
- 00:02:41is
- 00:02:43no or anything. You actually sit down
- 00:02:45sticking her nose in drama, acting like
- 00:02:47she doesn't want drama.
- 00:02:49[Applause]
- 00:02:52I was not always seen as credible. And
- 00:02:55this made me an easy target the perfect
- 00:02:57fall guy. I mean, who's going to believe
- 00:03:00or even take seriously the man throwing
- 00:03:02food on his face and shirt? Probably no
- 00:03:05one. And Stephanie Sue knew it. She
- 00:03:08leaned into it and she leveraged it. I
- 00:03:12want to tell you the quick 30se
- 00:03:14secondond summary of what exactly
- 00:03:16happened between us. I wanted Stephanie
- 00:03:18Sue to sit down and gossip with me in
- 00:03:20one of these types of videos to spill
- 00:03:22the tea about drama happening in our
- 00:03:25mukbang community. Nick said it very
- 00:03:27assertively. We're going to talk about
- 00:03:29Veronica and we're going to spill all
- 00:03:30the tea. I freaked out and again I
- 00:03:32wanted to defend myself by sharing my
- 00:03:35story which is I think what he wanted
- 00:03:37and that made her uncomfortable. I
- 00:03:40clearly didn't pick up on that well
- 00:03:41enough and that was my first mistake.
- 00:03:43And then as a result, she didn't show up
- 00:03:45to one of her collabs and gave me what I
- 00:03:48perceived at the time to be a flimsy
- 00:03:50excuse. So, I reacted poorly. I sent her
- 00:03:52angry text messages. I vented about it
- 00:03:54with my friends and I made it pretty
- 00:03:57clear that I was going to bring up the
- 00:03:59situation in my next drama video. I'm
- 00:04:01this effing close to making an video.
- 00:04:04That was the core of what happened
- 00:04:07between us. And that was 100% my fault.
- 00:04:11I was immature. I was unkind. I was
- 00:04:13unprofessional. I was childish. I was
- 00:04:15wrong. Stephanie, I am genuinely sorry.
- 00:04:19You were not obligated to sit and gossip
- 00:04:21with me on camera. You didn't owe me
- 00:04:24that. And I was totally out of line for
- 00:04:26reacting the way I did when you didn't
- 00:04:28show up to film. I was too wrapped up in
- 00:04:31trying to get juicy content for my
- 00:04:32channel. I clearly lacked the maturity
- 00:04:35to handle the situation the right way. I
- 00:04:37also want to apologize to you,
- 00:04:39Stephanie, for saying I would call you
- 00:04:41out for ghosting me. You know, plans
- 00:04:43change. It happens. Looking back, the
- 00:04:46way I treated you, the way I responded
- 00:04:48to you was not okay. Like I said, I was
- 00:04:50caught up in trying to get juicy content
- 00:04:52for my channel that I wasn't being
- 00:04:54considerate of how I was making you
- 00:04:56feel. You didn't deserve that, and I am
- 00:04:58sorry. And there's something that I've
- 00:05:00never actually shared with anyone until
- 00:05:02now. That situation with Stephanie
- 00:05:05changed me. It made me take a hard look
- 00:05:07at myself, how I was using my platform,
- 00:05:09how I was creating content, how I was
- 00:05:12making people feel. And I realized if I
- 00:05:14was going to keep this going, if I was
- 00:05:16going to keep putting myself out there
- 00:05:17in this way, trying to make edgy
- 00:05:19content, I had to go about it
- 00:05:21differently. Not overnight, but around
- 00:05:24that time, I made a choice. No more
- 00:05:27dragging other people into my drama. So,
- 00:05:30I started to shift. It would be my own
- 00:05:32mess, my chaos, my circus. Smashing pies
- 00:05:36in my face, bouncing on scooters with my
- 00:05:39belly hanging out, screaming and crying
- 00:05:41and laughing like a lunatic. It was
- 00:05:43absurd,
- 00:05:44but it was mine. I didn't need to bring
- 00:05:47other people into that tent. And sure,
- 00:05:49every now and then I would clap back at
- 00:05:51someone or throw a little shade here and
- 00:05:53there, but overall, there was a real
- 00:05:56shift to the content I was making
- 00:05:58because deep down I didn't want to hurt
- 00:05:59anybody. I just wanted to put on a show.
- 00:06:02With that said, two things can be true
- 00:06:05at the same time. Yes, I was wronged egg
- 00:06:07on drama during my collab with
- 00:06:09Stephanie. Yes, I was out of line for
- 00:06:11getting upset over text. And yes,
- 00:06:13venting about it on social media wasn't
- 00:06:15okay either. But what happened next
- 00:06:18didn't feel like a response. It felt
- 00:06:21like a preemptive strike. You see,
- 00:06:24before we filmed together, Stephanie
- 00:06:26wasn't exactly the persona many knew her
- 00:06:29as. Off camera, she talked poorly about
- 00:06:32other creators in our community. It was
- 00:06:34bad. She wasn't actually that shy about
- 00:06:37throwing shade. And to be honest, that's
- 00:06:39okay. A lot of YouTubers have a more
- 00:06:41professional front for the camera and
- 00:06:43then a more relaxed, candid one off
- 00:06:45camera. That's just real life. I don't
- 00:06:47fault her for that. But when our collab
- 00:06:49fell apart, she panicked. She knew I was
- 00:06:52upset. She knew she said things that she
- 00:06:54didn't want going public. So before I
- 00:06:56could say anything, she got ahead of the
- 00:06:58story and she rewrote the story.
- 00:07:01Stephanie opened her video about me with
- 00:07:04what looked like security footage, her
- 00:07:07shaking on a couch, visibly distressed,
- 00:07:10with someone holding on to her. It was
- 00:07:12dramatic. It was intense. And for the
- 00:07:14millions of people unfamiliar with
- 00:07:15either of us at the time, it planted a
- 00:07:18powerful impression that the person in
- 00:07:20that footage was me and where she
- 00:07:23wouldn't clarify who the man was until
- 00:07:2530 minutes into the video when many
- 00:07:28people had already clicked out. From
- 00:07:29there, she invoked language and imagery
- 00:07:32that directly echoed the med a movement
- 00:07:35created to support the survivors of
- 00:07:39in and out of sleep. getting out of
- 00:07:42sleep.
- 00:07:43# She repurposed the emotional weight of
- 00:07:46that cultural reckoning and redirected
- 00:07:49it at me. Not only did this lend her
- 00:07:51story immediate credibility, but it also
- 00:07:54cast me in the role of a within the
- 00:07:56first 10 seconds before even having to
- 00:07:59say it directly. That movement isn't for
- 00:08:01you to use as a prop. It's not a
- 00:08:03storytelling device for dramatic effect.
- 00:08:06It's not meant to be used as emotional
- 00:08:08currency. But in Stephanie's video, it
- 00:08:11became all those things. I feel like
- 00:08:13I've been at fear that I can't say no to
- 00:08:17him. I just want to take back my power
- 00:08:20to say no. I think when someone shows me
- 00:08:22a pattern of behavior, I'm not going to
- 00:08:25not listen. #2
- 00:08:28and feeling like framing our fallout
- 00:08:30with references like that shifts how
- 00:08:33people understand it. She said that my
- 00:08:35interaction with her was at a similar
- 00:08:38degree to when she was and the only way
- 00:08:41that I've ever felt like this to any
- 00:08:43degree in my life prior to Nick. It was
- 00:08:46one where I felt
- 00:08:48[ __ ] I was as in my own home. Felt like
- 00:08:52no really didn't have a lot of power.
- 00:08:54Stephanie literally co-opted the me to
- 00:08:57intensify and distort the nature of her
- 00:09:00conflict that was at its core about
- 00:09:02gossiping on camera, cancing a collab,
- 00:09:04and venting about it through texts. She
- 00:09:06used dark imagery to connect us to a
- 00:09:09serious cause. I think when someone
- 00:09:11shows me a pattern of I told myself I
- 00:09:14would never ever ever feel like that
- 00:09:16again. And I'm sorry that's a terrible
- 00:09:19thing to do to a person. And I'm not
- 00:09:20saying that Stephanie didn't feel uneasy
- 00:09:23or that she wasn't allowed to set her
- 00:09:25own boundaries. Of course, she was. But
- 00:09:27there's a major difference between being
- 00:09:30uncomfortable with gossiping on camera
- 00:09:32and equating that to serious
- 00:09:35lifealtering viations of her video about
- 00:09:39me wasn't just sharing her experience.
- 00:09:41It was about turning me into a real
- 00:09:43villain and doing it through the lens
- 00:09:45that guaranteed public outrage. In the
- 00:09:48video, she claimed that she lost the
- 00:09:50power to say no. Your basic human
- 00:09:52fundamental rights to say no. Can't say
- 00:09:55no to him. I just want to take back my
- 00:09:58power to say no. Lost the power to do
- 00:10:00what? To say, hey, change the subject. I
- 00:10:03don't want to talk about that on camera.
- 00:10:05Or, hey, I don't want to come to the
- 00:10:06next collab. Sorry. Not feel like
- 00:10:08someone's holding this thing over me.
- 00:10:10That's performative. She even dug up
- 00:10:13anecdotes about me, ones totally
- 00:10:15unrelated, and repurposed them to make
- 00:10:17our situation seem 10 times scarier.
- 00:10:20What was the purpose of all of this? To
- 00:10:22hurt Veronica? To hurt me, to get your
- 00:10:26sucked? Uh, yeah. Our mukbang had
- 00:10:29nothing to do with that. Why did
- 00:10:31Stephanie evoke themes that resonated
- 00:10:33with the YouTube climate? Why use those
- 00:10:35emotional cues? This was a takedown, a
- 00:10:37carefully constructed, emotionally
- 00:10:40charged hit piece. Whether it was to
- 00:10:42protect her own image or grow her true
- 00:10:44crime brand or control the narrative of
- 00:10:47our fallout, this was the strategy she
- 00:10:50chose. And I hope we can be honest about
- 00:10:52what that choice looked like and what it
- 00:10:55cost me. I think one of the most hurtful
- 00:10:57and harmful things that Stephanie said
- 00:10:59was that I already knew about her being
- 00:11:02in the past. I told him about
- 00:11:06the one thing that I don't talk to
- 00:11:07anyone about. That was not true.
- 00:11:10Stephanie and I had met just one time in
- 00:11:13person before filming. One time at a
- 00:11:16restaurant. We didn't know each other
- 00:11:17very well. We weren't close. We were
- 00:11:19just trying to break the ice before
- 00:11:21filming. Telling me about the times she
- 00:11:23was in the past was never one of those
- 00:11:26ice breakers. I promise you we didn't
- 00:11:29talk about anything like that. And why
- 00:11:30would we? We just met each other. I had
- 00:11:33set up this dinner with me, Zach, and
- 00:11:35Nick at Hot Pot. Honestly, immediately
- 00:11:37going in, I was nervous. I definitely
- 00:11:39had a guard up. Does it even make sense
- 00:11:42that someone who describes herself as
- 00:11:44being an anxious person and hesitant to
- 00:11:46meet me, as she said in her own words,
- 00:11:48that this person would suddenly open up
- 00:11:50about the most private, deeply personal
- 00:11:53experiences of her entire life that, as
- 00:11:55she said, most the world never knew. And
- 00:11:58to do this on the very first day that we
- 00:12:00met, surrounded by friends, surrounded
- 00:12:02by strangers eating at tables next to
- 00:12:04us, it doesn't make sense because it's
- 00:12:06simply not true. The truth is, we were
- 00:12:09two YouTubers meeting for the first
- 00:12:11time, trying to break the ice before our
- 00:12:13job. So, we talked about our job. We
- 00:12:15talked about the things we liked, the
- 00:12:17things we didn't that led to gossiping,
- 00:12:19who we liked, who we didn't. It wasn't
- 00:12:21some deep emotional exchange. But later,
- 00:12:24she told the internet that I knew these
- 00:12:27personal things about her and I was
- 00:12:28nervous. I definitely had a guard up. I
- 00:12:30ended up opening up about something that
- 00:12:33I don't even talk about on YouTube. I
- 00:12:35was that in my own home. It was somebody
- 00:12:38that I had to let into my home. I told
- 00:12:41him about
- 00:12:42the one thing that I don't talk to any
- 00:12:45that was strategic so that she could
- 00:12:47paint me in the worst possible light and
- 00:12:50then turn people against me in the worst
- 00:12:53possible way. And you've probably heard
- 00:12:55the phrase in and out of sleep. It's
- 00:12:57something that people say when they're
- 00:12:59tired. And that's exactly how Stephanie
- 00:13:01used it with me when she texted me when
- 00:13:03she didn't show up to our collab last
- 00:13:04minute. I was in and out of sleep. Hey
- 00:13:06guys, sorry I've been in and out of
- 00:13:08sleep. I remember thinking really in and
- 00:13:10out of sleep. I mean, I cleared my whole
- 00:13:12schedule to be here. I flew to her
- 00:13:14state. I was really upset and I ranted
- 00:13:17about it. Just been in and out of sleep
- 00:13:19and I don't know what's like in and out
- 00:13:20of sleep, in and out of sleep. But in
- 00:13:23her video, she reframed the phrase in
- 00:13:26and out of sleep in the context of but
- 00:13:29only after telling people that I knew
- 00:13:31she had been in the past, which I
- 00:13:33didn't. You knew why I'm so paranoid.
- 00:13:36You know why. Was it wrong for me to
- 00:13:38vent about it with my friends? Yes. Was
- 00:13:40it wrong for me to vent about it online?
- 00:13:42Yes. But we weren't joking or laughing
- 00:13:45about her being.
- 00:13:47I didn't know that. My friends didn't
- 00:13:49know that. None of us knew that. We were
- 00:13:52reacting to what felt like being ghosted
- 00:13:54before a major collaboration. A major
- 00:13:56collaboration. In and Out of Sleep was
- 00:13:58the only context we had. It's the only
- 00:14:01reason she gave me. And honestly, I felt
- 00:14:03blindsided. I felt stood up. In and Out
- 00:14:05of Sleep, we turned something that
- 00:14:07really bothered me into something that
- 00:14:08we could laugh about. It's just you have
- 00:14:09to laugh about things to get over. And
- 00:14:11my friends were honestly just trying to
- 00:14:13cheer me up. You know, I got things to
- 00:14:14do. I just got I got things to do.
- 00:14:17You've been Have you been in and out of
- 00:14:19sleep? In and out of sleep. Oh my gosh.
- 00:14:21In and out of sleep, right? And so I was
- 00:14:23mocking her excuse. But Stephanie, who
- 00:14:26was afraid I might speak up about what
- 00:14:28really happened or the things she told
- 00:14:30me off camera, got ahead of the story
- 00:14:32and repackaged that moment into
- 00:14:34something it never was. And then
- 00:14:36thousands of people made emotional
- 00:14:38interpretations linking the in and out
- 00:14:40of sleep thing to her history,
- 00:14:42concluding that I had been mocking a
- 00:14:44survivor. And that's what hurt the most.
- 00:14:47not just being misunderstood, but being
- 00:14:49deliberately misrepresented. But
- 00:14:52Stephanie didn't just rely on her words
- 00:14:54to sell this story. She relied on
- 00:14:56performance. The trembling voice, the
- 00:14:59sudden tone shifts, even moments where
- 00:15:01she appeared to cry only for the emotion
- 00:15:03to vanish seconds later. It just all
- 00:15:06felt calculated, like a script meant to
- 00:15:08feel raw without actually being raw. And
- 00:15:11once you see it for what it is, it's
- 00:15:14hard to unsee. Is there anything else
- 00:15:16you'd like to say? And I just remember
- 00:15:19feeling so gutted, like my heart had
- 00:15:22dropped to the ground because I thought
- 00:15:24it was going to be another
- 00:15:26interrogation. That's performative. Real
- 00:15:28emotion is messy. It shows up physically
- 00:15:31on the body, the swelling of the face,
- 00:15:33the mucus, the vocal cords being blocked
- 00:15:35by mucus, the tears that come that don't
- 00:15:38wait for a cue. But in her video, it was
- 00:15:40like flipping on a light switch. And
- 00:15:42it's not the little movement. How dare
- 00:15:45you discredit an entire movement that
- 00:15:50the sole purpose was giving people a
- 00:15:52voice because you had a bad date in New
- 00:15:55York City. No one's going to believe you
- 00:15:57because a flip of a switch, two shaky
- 00:16:00sentences, and then she's back to
- 00:16:01baseline. Almost like that emotion
- 00:16:03wasn't lived. It was timed, designed to
- 00:16:06land a punch. And the editing only makes
- 00:16:09the case that much stronger where the
- 00:16:11most intense moments were stitched
- 00:16:13together with jump cuts as if they had
- 00:16:14to be assembled just right to maximize
- 00:16:18impact. I feel like I've been manipated
- 00:16:20by that I can't say no to him. I just
- 00:16:24want to take back my power to say no not
- 00:16:27feel like someone's holding this thing
- 00:16:29over me and me. I feel like in normal
- 00:16:32circumstances I probably wouldn't share
- 00:16:35a private text message. That's
- 00:16:37performative. It's like going through
- 00:16:38the motions, hoping the delivery feels
- 00:16:41real, even if it's not. This wasn't just
- 00:16:43storytelling. This was narrative control
- 00:16:46wrapped up in vulnerability, and then
- 00:16:48pointed directly at me. And when most
- 00:16:50people recount something serious, they
- 00:16:52don't use parts of their brain to switch
- 00:16:55in and out of character voices. They
- 00:16:57just talk. The emotion flows naturally,
- 00:16:59or it doesn't at all, depending on the
- 00:17:01person. But here, the emotion switches
- 00:17:03on and off mids sentence. One moment
- 00:17:06she's gasping and quivering for air and
- 00:17:08then the next moment she's cool as a
- 00:17:10cucumber. Take our text messages for
- 00:17:12instance. She starts out all smiley and
- 00:17:14giggly. I have been in and out of sleep
- 00:17:16all afternoon after staying up late and
- 00:17:18I realized I had a few sponsors due. I
- 00:17:20hope you guys understand. But then
- 00:17:21seconds later switches into a new
- 00:17:24character voice when reading my texts.
- 00:17:26Stephanie, I have been sitting here for
- 00:17:275 hours. So no, I'm sorry. I do not
- 00:17:31understand. But ignore me for 5 hours
- 00:17:32after that. don't play games. And then
- 00:17:35it goes back to her texts, now suddenly
- 00:17:37gasping for air, all breathy and broken,
- 00:17:40but ignored me for five hours after
- 00:17:41that, don't play games. I texted it back
- 00:17:44and I said again, I'm so sorry if and
- 00:17:47then the next moment she flips the
- 00:17:49switch and goes back to the Nikocado
- 00:17:51voice. I'm so sorry if there was any
- 00:17:54miscommunication and if I made you feel
- 00:17:56that way. So sorry for today and I hope
- 00:17:58you're able to enjoy the rest of your
- 00:17:59day. and he responded with, "Please talk
- 00:18:03to me. Zach told me he wants to be left
- 00:18:05out. I reached out half a and I feel we
- 00:18:07need to chat." Literally moments apart.
- 00:18:10It just doesn't feel like she's saying
- 00:18:12straight up what's going on. It feels
- 00:18:14like she's bringing out the theatrics
- 00:18:16and performing for the camera. A true
- 00:18:18crime audition tape for many different
- 00:18:20roles. That's what I normally do. And I
- 00:18:22just want to say thank you so much for
- 00:18:25giving me a platform and giving me a
- 00:18:27way. And I just want to say thank you so
- 00:18:29much for giving me a platform and giving
- 00:18:32me a platform and feel like I have a
- 00:18:34voice. And I just want to say again
- 00:18:37performative. I just need to do whatever
- 00:18:40I can to get through tonight and
- 00:18:43tomorrow cuz we have collab schedule
- 00:18:45tomorrow. It feels highly performative.
- 00:18:48Just be done with it. I don't want him
- 00:18:51to make a video trying to say all these
- 00:18:54things I said about making yourself
- 00:18:56suddenly gasp for air and then coming
- 00:18:58right back down 2 seconds later working
- 00:19:00together to frame our situation far
- 00:19:03darker than it ever was to justify the
- 00:19:05title why she was scared of me how
- 00:19:08extreme things have gotten I was already
- 00:19:10feeling really scared and I can't
- 00:19:12imagine how much more frightened I just
- 00:19:14couldn't I was just so scared why the
- 00:19:16viewers should feel scared and tomorrow
- 00:19:18cuz we have collab scheduled tomorrow.
- 00:19:23So, I must have
- 00:19:25believe that they know the full story.
- 00:19:28Not just going up against Nick, but look
- 00:19:30at all the friends he has.
- 00:19:34You know who who do I have? And I just
- 00:19:36felt like I couldn't say anything.
- 00:19:38That's performative. I felt like I
- 00:19:40couldn't talk about it because what was
- 00:19:43there to talk about? I felt like I
- 00:19:45couldn't talk about it because again
- 00:19:47performative texted me or called me. I
- 00:19:53that feels less like a personal story
- 00:19:55and more like a true crime reenactment.
- 00:19:57Not because emotion isn't valid. Of
- 00:19:59course it is. But because this emotion
- 00:20:02didn't feel organic, it felt
- 00:20:05choreographed. And if this were fiction,
- 00:20:07it would be one thing, but I'm a real
- 00:20:09person. Can't say no to him. I just had
- 00:20:12to take back my power. It's disturbing
- 00:20:15how heavily she felt the need to lean
- 00:20:17into these themes of you know what to
- 00:20:20sell her story. She even typed in the
- 00:20:22phrase, "Hi, Nick. I know you're seeing
- 00:20:24this into the tags of her YouTube
- 00:20:26video." And tags are something only
- 00:20:27YouTubers would tend to look at. That
- 00:20:29doesn't feel like the behavior of
- 00:20:30someone claiming to be so scared. So
- 00:20:33scared, yet you'd go and taunt and
- 00:20:34imitate them, too. What purpose would
- 00:20:36that have served to anybody else
- 00:20:38watching the video? None. And so it felt
- 00:20:42highly calculated. Even the thumbnail
- 00:20:45felt calculated. Look at what she's
- 00:20:47sitting in front of. Look at what it
- 00:20:49implies. The tears set on Q holding
- 00:20:52herself in distress. A teary scene, by
- 00:20:54the way, that never even appeared in the
- 00:20:56actual video. Out of every possible
- 00:20:58place she could sit and film, she chose
- 00:21:01this spot. That wasn't random. That was
- 00:21:03a visual strategy meant to shape
- 00:21:06perception before a single word was ever
- 00:21:09spoken. And Stephanie didn't just lean
- 00:21:11into the theatrics. She took it a step
- 00:21:13even further with editing. We filmed an
- 00:21:16ASMR video for my channel. Whispering,
- 00:21:19softspoken, relaxed, calm, but that's
- 00:21:22the whole point of ASMR. And they're
- 00:21:24going to help me make it. So, let's get
- 00:21:26started. At the end of the video, when
- 00:21:27we were wrapping up and saying our
- 00:21:29goodbyes, asking our viewers to
- 00:21:30subscribe, I turned to her and I asked,
- 00:21:32"Is there anything else you'd like to
- 00:21:34say?" Ready? Okay. What would you like
- 00:21:37to say? Stephanie took this out of
- 00:21:39context and distorted it to make me
- 00:21:42sound way worse with dramatic zoomins
- 00:21:44and everything. Nick turned to me and he
- 00:21:47said, "Is there anything else you'd like
- 00:21:50to say?" And I just remember feeling so
- 00:21:53gutted, like my heart had dropped to the
- 00:21:56ground because I thought it was going to
- 00:21:58be another interrogation. What What
- 00:22:01would you like to say?
- 00:22:03Say
- 00:22:06thank you for watching us, EP. And so I
- 00:22:08Your heart dropped to the ground. We
- 00:22:10were saying goodbye. So now I'm going to
- 00:22:12show you the real version that she
- 00:22:15edited out. In fact, watch her hand
- 00:22:17movements toward the end where it seems
- 00:22:19as if she wanted to say something before
- 00:22:20closing out the video. Thank you.
- 00:22:27What do we do now?
- 00:22:33Goodbye. She's playing the flute.
- 00:22:38Okay. Ready? Okay. What would you like
- 00:22:41to say?
- 00:22:43Thank you for watching us eat these.
- 00:22:47We love you. This is the new Flaming
- 00:22:50Yans. The Flaming Yachts.
- 00:22:54Bye everyone.
- 00:22:58But Stephanie brought out the shaky
- 00:23:01character voice and I just remember
- 00:23:04feeling so gutted like my heart had
- 00:23:06dropped to the ground. My heart had
- 00:23:08dropped to the ground because I thought
- 00:23:10it was going to be another interrogation
- 00:23:13to misrepresent me. He really thought
- 00:23:16that I wanted to spill my guts about
- 00:23:18Bronica all of a sudden. Does this sound
- 00:23:19like common sense? that I'd suddenly
- 00:23:21just launch into spilling tea in whisper
- 00:23:23format at the end of a very quiet video
- 00:23:26to sit there and start whispering like
- 00:23:29we were in some ASMR confessional booth.
- 00:23:31I mean, it just it doesn't even sound
- 00:23:34believable. She also claimed she had
- 00:23:36made it apparent how uncomfortable she
- 00:23:38really was in the video. There's no way
- 00:23:41Nick did not know that I was so
- 00:23:43uncomfortable for those 30 minutes.
- 00:23:46Really, he knew. There's no way he
- 00:23:49didn't know I was uncomfortable. Would
- 00:23:51you have gathered she was experiencing
- 00:23:53utter distress?
- 00:24:11Yeah. Not exactly broadcasting
- 00:24:14discomfort, is it? So when she ghosted
- 00:24:16me for the collab the next day, that's
- 00:24:18why I felt blindsided because that was
- 00:24:20the last interaction we had. I'm this
- 00:24:23effing close to making an exp video.
- 00:24:26What the f is wrong with people? So rude
- 00:24:28and inconsiderate. I didn't sense there
- 00:24:30was anything wrong. She didn't tell me
- 00:24:32there was anything wrong, but the only
- 00:24:33thing that she did do was deliberately
- 00:24:35misrepresent what happened at the end of
- 00:24:37that ASMR video. And he said, "Is there
- 00:24:40anything else you'd like to say?" while
- 00:24:42just having spent 30 minutes connecting
- 00:24:45me to the me movement #2 and associated
- 00:24:49me with the person who her years before
- 00:24:52we met and the only way that I've ever
- 00:24:54felt like this prior to Nick it was one
- 00:24:57where this was performance supported by
- 00:25:00deliberate editing choices she clipped
- 00:25:02she cut she curated and there was a
- 00:25:04clear intention behind it and it didn't
- 00:25:07stop there she continued to exaggerate
- 00:25:09our experience together and this
- 00:25:11includes the House photos. Stephanie and
- 00:25:13I talked a little bit about interior
- 00:25:15design. She had recently bought her home
- 00:25:17and I was looking to renovate mine. She
- 00:25:19gave me a house tour of her place upon
- 00:25:22arrival and we had what seemed like very
- 00:25:24nice conversations about lighting
- 00:25:26layouts, appliances, security features,
- 00:25:28the usual when you talk about home
- 00:25:30projects. During much of this
- 00:25:32conversation, we were in the kitchen,
- 00:25:33which was a shared open concept space. I
- 00:25:36was taking photos of different elements
- 00:25:38that she was pointing out. I was also on
- 00:25:40FaceTime with Orland sharing the ideas
- 00:25:42in real time. This isn't the most
- 00:25:44flattering screenshot of Stephanie. The
- 00:25:46point is, she knew I was taking photos.
- 00:25:49She was there. She was participating in
- 00:25:51the conversation and actively involved
- 00:25:53in showing me around. Nothing about it
- 00:25:55was hidden. She said she didn't know why
- 00:25:58I was taking photos of her house. And
- 00:26:00then immediately he started looking
- 00:26:02around at the ceiling. I didn't have any
- 00:26:04cool light fixtures up there. I just
- 00:26:06don't know what else would be out there
- 00:26:08other than security cameras. She also
- 00:26:10mentioned that after briefly leaving the
- 00:26:12room, she saw me on her kitchen security
- 00:26:14camera taking photos. And during that
- 00:26:16time that I slipped away to the restroom
- 00:26:17very, very quickly, the one time that I
- 00:26:19did without letting me know what he was
- 00:26:22doing, he took multiple pictures inside
- 00:26:23my house. Seeing that footage was
- 00:26:26shattering. This is where things get
- 00:26:27more nuanced. I can actually understand
- 00:26:30that having someone take photos when
- 00:26:31you're not in the room can feel
- 00:26:33uncomfortable. Truthfully, I wasn't
- 00:26:34trying to cross a boundary because in my
- 00:26:36mind, I saw it as a continuation of
- 00:26:38taking the photos we had been taking
- 00:26:40together thus far. I never left the
- 00:26:42common area. I didn't go looking around
- 00:26:44the house. I stayed right there and
- 00:26:46continued to take photos of the things
- 00:26:48we were talking about while she stepped
- 00:26:49out of the room. Looking back, I
- 00:26:52realized I was at fault with this part.
- 00:26:54I was too presumptive. We didn't know
- 00:26:56each other like that. I totally get it.
- 00:26:58I do. I do. Especially for someone she
- 00:27:00had just met. And after all this
- 00:27:02happened and she made the video about me
- 00:27:04and I learned that she had passed trauma
- 00:27:06in that house. I can see how that
- 00:27:07freaked her out. I can Stephanie for
- 00:27:09that. I am sorry. I genuinely apologize.
- 00:27:12What I didn't feel was fair however was
- 00:27:14how she portrayed this moment in the
- 00:27:17context of but only after telling people
- 00:27:20that I knew she had been in the past
- 00:27:23which I didn't. And by now it's clear
- 00:27:25that this narrative building was
- 00:27:26intentional. She also referred to the
- 00:27:29kitchen security monitor, implying that
- 00:27:31I revealed something private by taking a
- 00:27:33photo of that, too. But that monitor had
- 00:27:35already been visible in dozens of her
- 00:27:37own videos, seen by millions long before
- 00:27:40we ever met. It was visible in her house
- 00:27:42tours, her vlogs, her interviews. I
- 00:27:44mean, it was something that literally
- 00:27:46sat on her kitchen counter when people
- 00:27:48come to my page and comment, "You
- 00:27:50jeopardize her security system." I
- 00:27:52didn't wander around the house and look
- 00:27:54for her system or all the controls. It
- 00:27:57was the monitor. It was the same screen
- 00:27:59that you see when you watch her mukbangs
- 00:28:01or her vlogs. I was simply interested in
- 00:28:04it cuz I wanted one for myself and she
- 00:28:06knows this because we talked about it.
- 00:28:08He asked me, "What's the name of your
- 00:28:10fancy security system?" I lowkey want
- 00:28:12that security system. And again, looking
- 00:28:14back, it was out of step for someone she
- 00:28:16had just met. I'm not excusing that. And
- 00:28:17I take ownership that I shouldn't have
- 00:28:19done it. that I wish she would take
- 00:28:21ownership on how she amplified it. It
- 00:28:23was just something that I don't think
- 00:28:24I'll ever be able to understand. Now,
- 00:28:26someone might say, "Well, if that
- 00:28:28security monitor is already online, what
- 00:28:30would be the need to take a photo,
- 00:28:31right?" And, you know, that's a fair
- 00:28:33question. It makes me think like, why do
- 00:28:35we take photos of the Statue of Liberty
- 00:28:38even though it's already all over
- 00:28:39Google? I was just excited. I was there.
- 00:28:41I was in person. I was talking about it
- 00:28:43with Orland. She was telling me about
- 00:28:45it. I was learning about it. But I don't
- 00:28:47appreciate how this got turned into
- 00:28:49something dark and calculated. That's
- 00:28:51why there's nuance here. You know,
- 00:28:53taking photos of her ceilings and her
- 00:28:54cabinets and security when she steps out
- 00:28:57the room. That's wrong. Lesson learned,
- 00:28:59and I I apologize for that. But she
- 00:29:01wasn't being straight up about it in her
- 00:29:03video either. This was a strategic
- 00:29:06exaggeration. She embellished it. I
- 00:29:08didn't have any cool light fixtures up
- 00:29:09there. This was a targeted takedown
- 00:29:12against me. This point my home safety is
- 00:29:15kind of in questions of my safety. My
- 00:29:18security any sort of security maximum
- 00:29:20emotional impact #2 a carefully
- 00:29:24constructed spectacle how extreme things
- 00:29:27have gotten built on exaggeration. I was
- 00:29:29already feeling really scared. A mission
- 00:29:31effects. Is there anything else you'd
- 00:29:33like to say? and staged vulnerability
- 00:29:35like my heart had dropped to the ground.
- 00:29:39Because when you strip away all of the
- 00:29:40theatrics, the edits, the acting, the
- 00:29:43misleading claims about what I
- 00:29:44supposedly knew, the trembling voice,
- 00:29:46the tears that never quite seemed to
- 00:29:48make it, you're left with the truth. And
- 00:29:50the truth was so much simpler than what
- 00:29:52she had made it to be. So much less
- 00:29:55pearl clutching than the viral version
- 00:29:57she created. She didn't just put me on
- 00:29:59blast for being someone to difficult to
- 00:30:02work with or for being explosive at
- 00:30:05texts. She portrayed me as somebody
- 00:30:09who knew she was which I didn't. Someone
- 00:30:12who made fun of the fact she which I
- 00:30:14didn't aligning our problem with the
- 00:30:16gravitational pull of the med movement
- 00:30:19which was unwarranted. saying that I
- 00:30:21took away her ability to speak. And she
- 00:30:25did all of these things sitting in front
- 00:30:27of a bed, a deliberate shift from her
- 00:30:29usual filming setup on that channel as
- 00:30:32if she were recounting a true crime
- 00:30:34experience she had had with me. I'm very
- 00:30:37hurt by what she did to me. It has been
- 00:30:40a constant reminder, not because I can't
- 00:30:43let it go or I can't move on, but
- 00:30:45because millions of people take her
- 00:30:47version at face value. And when aversion
- 00:30:49isn't true, it doesn't fade over time.
- 00:30:51It actually sticks. It shapes how people
- 00:30:54see me. Since losing weight, I've had no
- 00:30:56choice but to enter a new chapter of my
- 00:30:58life. I've launched a new YouTube
- 00:31:00channel. I'm back on Patreon, posting
- 00:31:02daily again. I'm trying to pour my
- 00:31:05energy into growth, connecting with
- 00:31:08people. But to fully connect with people
- 00:31:10means I need to heal the wounds
- 00:31:11surrounding this public issue. And a
- 00:31:13part of healing is telling the truth
- 00:31:17fully. and without distortion because
- 00:31:19for years this story has lived lopsided
- 00:31:22and the only way that I can move on is
- 00:31:24by having the truth acknowledged.
- 00:31:27Stephanie, I regret trying to pull you
- 00:31:29into drama. I regret the way I vented. I
- 00:31:32regret being inconsiderate of your
- 00:31:34boundaries and disrespecting your space.
- 00:31:36I regret all of that. I am truly sorry
- 00:31:39you didn't deserve it and I own that.
- 00:31:42But I also hope you can own your part,
- 00:31:44too. It wasn't accurate. It exaggerated
- 00:31:46the truth and that exaggeration has had
- 00:31:50real consequences on my life. You knew
- 00:31:53the emotional weight your video would
- 00:31:55carry. You knew how your delivery would
- 00:31:58all work together to shape how people
- 00:32:00saw me. You knew
- 00:32:04that type of storytelling has the power
- 00:32:08to destroy somebody,
- 00:32:11the power to ruin them,
- 00:32:14even permanently. I had already become
- 00:32:17the villain on my own channel.
- 00:32:20I'd never expected to be cast in a
- 00:32:23production on yours.
- 00:32:27Every day somebody somewhere out in the
- 00:32:31world is saying I did things to you that
- 00:32:34I never did.
- 00:32:38I've owned my part and I need to move
- 00:32:41forward.
- 00:32:42I'm asking that you find it within
- 00:32:44yourself to own your part, too.
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