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core identity is a person's innermost
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Essence is who you truly are underneath
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all the posing and posturing our core
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identities formed during childhood and
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some of it's innate but our environment
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as kids brings on a large part of our
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core identity the relative age of effect
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studies supports this Theory this shows
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that kids with late birthdays actually
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make up the majority of professional
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athletes the reason is that a kid born
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shortly after the cut off date grows up
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in a completely different athletic
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environment than a kid born right before
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the cut off date although their age is
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just a day apart one kid gets to compete
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at a lower level throughout all of grade
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school and the confidence he builds
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shapes his core identity and this is
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proven the carry over into adulthood so
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if our environment as kids had nothing
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to do with our court identities this
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wouldn't be possible and the study has
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been duplicated multiple times and every
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single time the results have been the
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same let me give you a few different
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hypotheticals to drive the point home if
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a kid happens to grow up in a place
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where they the biggest the fastest or
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maybe even both their identity will form
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around being a good athlete but if you
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take that same exact kid and move him to
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a place with a higher concentration of
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talent he might get overshadowed
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athletically and then develop a
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completely different coure identity here
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he didn't make the basketball team so in
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order to stand out he goes and watches
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the game wearing his freshest outfit he
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then becomes the cool fashion forward
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kid now for being fresh and having on on
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the latest Jordans completely different
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core identity depending on the
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circumstances if you put a b student in
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a class full of C students the B student
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will develop a different core identity
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than they would if you put them in a
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class full of a students in the class
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with the c students the B student is the
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smart kid in a class with a students
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then he's just another kid average at
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best he develops a completely different
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coure identity so if it's true that
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identity is built by circumstance this
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explains why we sometimes have these
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identi crisis as circumstances change I
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think this is why we sometimes struggle
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with identity as we age how do I fit
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into this new role my core identity just
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ain't messing with it cuz with each
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stage of Life the circumstances change
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as your environment shifts and morphs as
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our environments change and time goes by
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the primary goals and expectations for
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our age group changes as well with each
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transition you're presented with the
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chance to either get catapulted to the
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front of the line or picked up by the
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collar and demoted to the back and every
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single time your core identity will be
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challenged to adapt to its new place in
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line now it's possible that your brand
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new environment will perfectly mesh with
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your court identity but for a whole lot
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of people as their world expands BR your
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court identity is put on trial usually
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this results in US receiving a life
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sentence that we don't even know we
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being sentenced to we don't know why
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we're suffering internally we try to
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explain it but we barely understand it
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ourselves it's because the real us our
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core identity is locked in a Cell in the
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depths of our subconscious but Society
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is simultaneously telling us that if
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we're unhappy then we must be weak
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ungrateful Mal content men ain't got
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time to be depressed we too busy getting
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money and stupid like that it's
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like we just don't think have you ever
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heard of a functioning alcoholic okay so
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you can be depressed and still function
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you see this in a lot of popular pockets
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of men self-help or men self-improvement
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type channels on YouTube and even though
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to a trained eye it's immediately
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obvious they always proved to be dealing
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with the most inner turmoil of them all
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now if you're the type to complain about
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everything while never doing anything to
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better the situation then maybe that
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previous Mal content description does
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actually fit you it does fit some people
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but this article this whole newsletter
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and YouTube channel everything I'm
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putting down from this point forward is
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for the people who want to do something
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about it but might not know exactly what
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to do okay here's the core idea of this
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piece our core identity formed when
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we're kids but as our environment and
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our lives change those ideas are
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constantly challenged Society
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communicates to us that we need to
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disconnect from our core identities and
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become something else entirely but
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disconnecting from your core identity is
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in truth a type of death once you
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disconnect from it you'll never truly
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feel whole and you're likely look to F
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that void with something destructive
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like substances women money or status
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not an audience I'm cultivating and the
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ones of y'all sticking around I'm sure
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are mature enough to think with actual
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new on and you can understand that none
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of these things are inherently bad it
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all comes down to how you use them the
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mistake most people make is using them
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to numb their internal struggles instead
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of actually addressing them cuz once you
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address the struggles all the things
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listed if utilized properly can enhance
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your life but you have to strike a
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delicate balance while we shouldn't
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disconnect from our core identities we
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absolutely have to adapt them properly
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if we can do that then we can feel whole
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and make the most of our days in this
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life and after a quick break I'm going
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to show you exactly how I'm attempting
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to do that and I'm going to break down
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the steps so you can pursue the same
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things in in your life today's video was
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sponsored by Better Health with certain
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relationships in your life talking about
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certain topics can challenge your
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identity and while I'm working round out
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the relationships of my life I can only
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talk with certain people about certain
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things some of your friends won't get
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some of your more introspective
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emotional stuff or try to solve it with
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a joke other friends will think every
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time you express a problem that is
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actually just an indictment on them so
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you can't be open cuz you guarding other
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people's belief system systems and
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emotions so you hold everything inside
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in my opinion this is where therapy
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should come in play a neutral party who
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allows you to unpack without judgment
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better help is just one form of therapy
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and it's their goal to make starting
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therapy easier to start you simply fill
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out a quick questionnaire and they match
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you with a therapist in as little as a
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few days so whether it's better help or
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any other form of therapy if you on this
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self-improvement journey you going to
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need it at some point don't let it use
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you bro use it as a tool to help you
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figure yourself out when you feel stuck
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or confused or when you dealing with
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something that the people in your life
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just can't fully understand without
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getting a feelings hurt or emotions
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involved or if it just challenges your
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identity within that relationship if
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you're struggling and think You' benefit
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from a therapy session click the link in
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the description or go to betterhelp.com
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Fimo to get 10% off your first month of
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therapy but there's two major pitfalls
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most people succumb to one many of us
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disconnect from our court identities to
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fit into societal norms and expectations
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in that process we just become glorified
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Bots example Sunny has a passion for
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Collectibles he could talk about it all
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day been like that since he was a kid
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but instead of Leaning into it and
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adapting it as he ages he allows
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societal forces to suppress his true
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self he settles for a woman he doesn't
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truly connect with who forces him to get
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rid of all his Collectibles he saves a
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few and know hide them in a basement and
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he had to sneak down down there in the
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dark just to try to be hisself over the
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course of years he slowly buries that
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part of himself down in that basement he
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works an okay job got a okay wife and a
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okay marriage that produces okay IG
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pictures he looks to part his social
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outings and he's got a date for weddings
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and stuff that he don't want to go to he
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shoves his entire Essence into this
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little ass box this crevice that Society
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has told him that he's allowed to occupy
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this is all that you can be his wife
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complains about his lack of romance and
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his lack of General enthusiasm for life
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but Sunny can't connect to those
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feelings cuz his spark is gone he's
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completely disconnected from his core
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identity and at this point he's
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basically a bot a MPC who is only there
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for the people who are actually playing
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the game to have a brief surface level
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interaction with this is the reality for
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way too many people two others might not
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disconnect from their core identity but
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they fail to adapt it to their new
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environment they usually stunt their own
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growth and get trapped at a mental ede
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where their unadapted core identity
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still fits I could talk about the former
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star high school basketball player who's
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30 now but still acts like he's in high
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school but let's use sunny again as an
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example and see how this plays out in
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his life in this example Sunny fills his
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apartment to the brim with a whole heap
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of rare toys and collectibles he has no
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space for anything else not in his
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apartment or in his life no woman is
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going to set foot in this apartment
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without thinking he's a serial killer or
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some kind of Manchild he still works an
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okay job for which he has no passion but
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he accepts it because it funds his
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collectible lifestyle Sunny grows old
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and alone and then one day when he's 57
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some kid does a documentary on his life
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the documentary is fascinating viewers
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learn a lot and about 20 minutes in they
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start to empathize with sunny but then
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in the last scene of the dock they
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realized the true lesson to be taken
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from his life the audience sees a grown
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man alone and married to his
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Collectibles a man who feels he's wasted
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his life he's filled with regret and
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wishes to God that he done just about
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everything differently then he tries to
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speak and tears flow down and then a f
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of Rage bro he knocked all the
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Collectibles off the shelves he rips
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them down off the wall bro and curses
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their existence he now despises the only
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thing he's loved all his life he's
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broken and he's lost because he feels
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that his passion his core identity has
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robbed him of a meaningful life he can't
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get it back because you only get one
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shot at this he dies alone heartbroken
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and full of regret he didn't have this
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tragic outcome because he pursued his
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passions mentally slap all these people
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that's trying to convince you of that he
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had the tragic outcome because he failed
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to adapt it it has to evolve and adapt
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to your life so how do we maintain feed
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and remain connected to our core
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identity as the world shifts around us
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even as the usefulness of our core
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identity seems to fluctuate none
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freaking stop to answer this question
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all we need is
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luck not luck as in chance I mean Andrew
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Luck the former quarterback who had his
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identity forcefully Stripped Away From
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Him sending him into a dark depression
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that caused his life to spiral for some
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years before he finally climbed out of
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that pit Andrew couldn't change his
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identity but he successfully adapted it
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to his current stage of Life order to
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maintain consistency his new environment
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Andrew Luck was considered to be one of
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the greatest quarterback prospects of
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all time maybe you had to be there but
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that identity matched perfectly with his
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life through several stages from
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childhood to adulthood for the longest
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time he never had to change it and
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didn't have to adapt it and as long as
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he was able to stay in it he always felt
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fulfilled for most of his life his
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identity was never challenged so the
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first time it was he couldn't help but
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spiral dude was forced to retire early
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due to several debilitating injuries and
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next thing you know that laundry list of
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injuries turned into a literal list of
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laundry as he became a stay-at-home dad
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for the first time in his life his core
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identity didn't perfectly mesh with his
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current environment instead of solving
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complex problems on the football field
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or in an engineering class my boy was
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changing diapers now a lot of times we
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give fooled cuz even as we're
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disconnected from our core identity we
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can still find pockets of Happiness
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that's because parts of our identity
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that has developed will actually mesh
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with our current life cuz you're like
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man I love my kids I love my wife why do
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I not feel complete I think you see this
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a lot with like stay-at-home moms and
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I'm about to explain why I believe that
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is like most of us Andrew Luck
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discovered that he actually enjoyed
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parts of this new role or at least
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didn't mind him this is because if you
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are a real man and you got a wife or
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kids being a good husband and being a
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good dad becomes a part of your identity
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as it should it's great it's
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beautiful but that is not all that you
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are that's why you don't feel complete
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that's why the void exists most people
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with substance abuse problems bro they
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love their families but there's still
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this hole that they're trying to feel
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and a lot of times they end up digging
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themselves into a deeper hole because
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they feel guilty that they not satisfied
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with they like I said this goes for moms
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and wives as well you could be a great
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mom and wife but that is not all that
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you are you was a person before that and
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while you need to respect the union that
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you're in and respect your kids don't be
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out here going all while represent them
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in the best light but you still need to
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find ways to connect to your core
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identity I think most people can agree
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with that but this is the tricky part so
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now let's say you're reconnected to your
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core identity but the the last time you
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connected to it you was 15 years old now
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you're 32 and that cour identity can't
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manifest itself the same way it did then
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so you have to adapt it to your current
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stage of life I've been saying this over
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and over in different ways so it click
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let's stay with Andrew luck right this
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is how he did it so he took what he knew
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about his core identity he's competitive
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analytical and he likes to build he
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wanted to reconnect with that without
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compromising the new parts of his
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identity as a great dad and husband and
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this is real cuz if you watch my Andrew
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Luck video honestly one of the best
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videos I think I've ever made but during
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his final days as a football player he
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confessed that he wasn't a great husband
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at that time but now he's achieved that
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and he wants to reconnect but he's not
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willing to lose the other things that
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he's built so he was very careful in how
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he proceeded when it came to
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reconnecting to that core identity first
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he worked as a volunteer High School
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football coach check it out he got to be
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around the game he got to be competitive
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he got to build in terms of helping
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those kids develop and because he was
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volunteering he still got to be 100%
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present and engaged in his wife and his
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daughter's lives so that was his first
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crack ad mesing his core identity with
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his current life and it set up pretty
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good that said there's always multiple
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paths there's lower level connectivity
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higher level connectivity just depending
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on whatever season you in in your life
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for him he didn't get to finish his big
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pursuit of winning the Super Bowl so it
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does make sense that he wanted to go
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into something a little more high stakes
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and pursue something larger than
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volunteer coaching but he allowed the
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volunteer work to fully reignite that
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fire and then once it was burning at
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full blast it was time for Andrew to
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reach a little higher so today Andrew
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has accepted a larger role that
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nourishes his court identity but still
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allows for the space and freedom to be
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the dad and husband that he wants to be
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he's accepted a position as the general
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manager at Stanford University this is
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actually where he met his wife so it
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tethers him to that history it's also
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probably where he played his best
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football and I'd imagine it's the
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happiest time he'd had playing the game
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and of course there's little to no risk
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of physical injury which was the thing
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that sent them down the dark path to
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becoming let's say not the husband that
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he wanted to be it's a perfect gig for
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where he's at in his life and honestly
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I'm happy for him you know what I'm
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saying that's what's up this is what it
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looks like when you successfully adapt
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your core identity to your current
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environment Now understand this was
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years into making he had a lot of dark
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times like seriously dark but once you
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align things properly you're no longer
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aot and can appreciate life's true
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beauty common mistakes a lot of men get
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stuck or lost in life because as we get
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older we feel we are forced to shift our
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identity and dutifully we try you know
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what I'm saying bro we really try but
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usually we fail in one of a few ways one
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we disconnect from that core identity
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and lose our Zeal for Life causing us to
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become mechanical lifeless and joyless
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we basically become worker ants at the
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whims of society we become more
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interested in upholding Norms than we
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are in our own self-fulfillment we
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become more enamored with job titles
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status and numbers than we are with
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actually contributing something real to
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society we deal with tremendous inner
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conflict that tears us down from the
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inside out and some of us are strong
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enough to wrestle with this beast but
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regardless it still takes a toll on us
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all three is the infamous midlife crisis
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this one is pretty much self-explanatory
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four we break up our families and build
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a secret life we don't know why we're
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not happy in our normal lives we usually
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just blame someone else usually our wife
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so we find the Mysteries and create this
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fantasy world that keeps us always on
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edge guarding our phone and constantly
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lying each one bigger than the last
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unless you really are a sociopath it's
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pretty much impossible to experience
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peace when you are living in that way
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five we become perpetually distracted by
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negative on the news social
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media politics and sometimes even Sports
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we pour ourselves too deeply into these
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things and then confuse our sedation
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with real life purpose but it's only
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surface level and won't truly feel the
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void that we feel when we're alone
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that's probably why you can't stand a be
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by yourself you trying to ignore those
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screams from within these are just a few
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of the familiar outcomes of attempting
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to suppress your core identity I'll say
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this part again you have to embrace it
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but you have to adapt it how do we do
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this first you got to evaluate your life
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like an NFL scout start with these three
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Basics how old are you how physically
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healthy are you and what are your daily
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responsibilities how can this Cur
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version of you today implement the
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strength of your court identity into
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your life but it's very important to
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implement your court identity in a way
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that's feasible to you right now not 15
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years ago if you realize your core
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identity is that of an athlete it's
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probably too late to make it to the
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league and the lifestyle of a spring
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League player trying desperately to make
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an NFL practice squad after not touching
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a field for the past 6 years probably
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won't mesh well with the stage of life
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that you're in so what should you do you
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just have to look deeper Identify some
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aspects of your previous athletic
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Pursuit the aspects that you enjoyed the
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most it usually comes down to these few
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things camaraderie for some it's the
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camaraderie in the locker room but
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camaraderie can be achieved through
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alternative Pursuits coaching is the
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easy one the first thing that comes to
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mind but if you don't want to do that
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you can find camaraderie in anything all
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you need to experience camaraderie is a
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small group United around a common go
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the best way to do this is to just build
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a business with a small team of
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like-minded people this gives you and a
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few colleagues something to Rally around
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something to build that is bigger than
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yourselves and this should mesh well
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with most adult circumstances and like
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our discontinued NFL dreams you're once
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again building towards something with a
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financial upside but please dog and this
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a major key choose to build a business
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that nourishes your core identity
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something that feeds your soul and feels
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important to you when you start to map
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out this idea start with the passion
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then figure out how to build a bridge to
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the money competitiveness if you simply
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like to compete all you need to do is
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develop a new skill when you develop a
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new skill you start at the bottom and it
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really feeds the competitive parts of
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you as you see yourself begin to
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progress also again we are all adults so
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ideally this skill can make you some
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money don't confuse this part with the
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actual leisure the Leisure is the thing
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you will attach to this the Leisure is
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the fun thing on the side I literally
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just made a video about this because
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Leisure is key but that's just not what
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I'm talking about right here here I'm
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talking about the main Pursuit that you
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will then attach the Leisure activity to
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once you start to build that new primary
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skill you'll realize that competition
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lives everywhere as a matter of fact
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these fields where we're competing for
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resources get very competitive so to the
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competitive people just understand what
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I just laid out and then go back to the
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camaraderie section because 90% of what
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I said there also applies directly to
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you other possibilities maybe it was the
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structure for you maybe it was just
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having a larger goal or maybe it was the
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routine the daily practice you can
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recreate all of these things in your
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current life you just need to identify
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which part of your core identity bonded
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itself to your athletic Pursuits it's
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probably one of those I just listed
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coure identities are not as limited as
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they seem they can be attached to
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various activities at different points
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of life I've talked about this before so
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I'm not going to get too into it for me
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a part of my court identity has always
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been writing but has manifested itself
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in several different ways over my life
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was rapping you know what I'm saying
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writing poems to my girl writing
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characters in the video game writing the
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life stories of NFL players and now
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writing what I'm writing now plus books
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and all that other stuff that I'm
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currently working on all right to close
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close out the video Let's return to the
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collector example my boy Sunny so
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Sunny's first two outcomes were not good
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at all and the first example he
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disconnected from his core identity and
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got the brochure version of the quote
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unquote American Dream he had a okay
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wife a okay job and a okay house but was
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unhappy in the second example Sunny
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never disconnected from his passion but
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he completely failed to adapt it as he
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aged in that example he still ended up
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unhappy happy and by the end of it felt
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that he wasted his life example three
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represents the ideal outcome next
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example Sunny starts a Blog dedicated to
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Collectibles he talks about not just the
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items but the feelings they induce and
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how they allow us to live fully in the
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present or never losing that connection
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to joyful moments from our past one of
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the main themes he talks about is
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connectivity at times he talks about the
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stories the Collectibles connect him to
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way more then he talks about the actual
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Collectibles themselves he talks about
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the importance of preserving these
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artifacts and how they bring him back to
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a simpler time in his life he ends up
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growing a following around his passion
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and half of his audience ain't really
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even into Collectibles they come for the
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stories they come for the passion they
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now feel connected through Sunny
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eventually he launches a business behind
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this where he reviews rare Collectibles
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from across the world not only that but
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he Brokers the sale of the rare
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Collectibles to Enthusiast worldwide he
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takes a commission to act as a broker or
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a connector and builds a great living
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for himself his exchange of goods is
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something positive and he's now being
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compensated for that instead of scamming
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his way he meets a lady who's in search
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of a particular piece that reminds her
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of her days growing up with her father
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he and the lady Bond over the joy that
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collectibles can bring and they
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eventually get married and build a life
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together he now has a wife who shares in
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his passion not one who wants him to
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bury them deep in the basement he's
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built a life from the pursuit of his
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passions but this time he adapted it as
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he aged his core identity manifested as
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a collector but the underlying core
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identity was that of a connector dude
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connected with the past and later in his
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life basically acted as a conduit for
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others to connect this is one of the
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best parts of living in a way that
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connects to your core identity just by
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being yourself and progressing through
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the natural stages of life and adapting
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appropriately you can have a positive
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impact on others bettering the world in
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your own little way don't hide those
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gifts bro we need them let them joins
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out Sunny experiences true fulfillment
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for the rest of his days still has his
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bad days still has his rough patches but
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he always knows how to get back to
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himself living like this puts everything
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in line making priorities clear and
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keeping you on the right path so that's
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the idea and I'm currently pursuing this
00:25:08
and again I'm documenting this journey
00:25:10
in my newsletter A playbook for life if
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00:25:22
I'll catch y'all boys in the next one
00:25:23
man peace
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