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hey so I want
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to I want to talk about
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some stuff all right um basically just
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to reinforce authenticity here on this
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channel um look I'm not a I'm not this
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like huge motivational speaker I don't
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know why a lot of you guys watch my
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videos but anyways here we go
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so um look uh I want to talk to the
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people who
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play video games all day long and who I
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think this goes mostly to guys right but
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let's just let's
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just um let's just talk to to you all
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right
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um You have a lot of unta potential that
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you
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could try and use you know um I I see a
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lot of potential in in young
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guys and I think they just don't know
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what to do with themselves very much cuz
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you know no one no one tells us you know
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what to do I
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think um
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so I'd say lay off the video games for a
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while
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and try and be a bit more
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mature
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um you know I I think I for me you know
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I'm a very I tend to
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be you know in my own world and I tend
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to be naive and it's something I hate I
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don't like to be naive I don't like to
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um you know be be you know trying to be
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a grownup and stuff obviously it's it's
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kind of boring and stuff but you know at
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some point you you kind of have to like
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admit to yourself like okay well can I
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just you know I can't just [ __ ] play
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video games all day long you know and
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and honestly you might think it's what
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you want you know it's like the um the
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things that make you happy like okay I
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bought
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myself a uh a
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handheld it's a to play video games on
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you know I was I was trying to play The
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Witcher 3 and it's a great game and you
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know it's a stupid
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idea but
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um you know because you know I haven't
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been playing video games for like two
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years now and um I'm focused on my own
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path you know I'm creating stuff but I
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was like okay you know what
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I've been feeling very miserable because
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I haven't been doing anything or given
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myself anything to provide myself some
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sort of fun and video games is something
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that for me you know I grew up with and
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it's a huge part of me in my life and
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then you know it's like [ __ ] it you know
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and it's also a test to see if I am
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going to fall back into a sort of
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addiction and you know they are very
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addictive you know and I think a
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handheld is is a good start instead of
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you know for for example you know if I
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were to like build myself a PC and
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everything and there's this great video
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by doozy which I'm going to link down
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below um great Creator I really like
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your videos by the way if you're
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watching man um I support you um so yeah
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um
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and the he made a video that also went
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kind of viral and which I really like
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and rewatched last night actually which
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is how you play video games is how you
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do everything and you
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know you know I have a tendency of not
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finishing things you know as soon as
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something gets a bit too harder I you
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know there's stuff that I could
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change through the
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uncomfortable conversations or changes
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that you know or or through
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disappointing
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people um and just sheer
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force or or or or trying to be
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consistent or
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um not giving up things like that um or
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basically as as soon as things get hard
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and and kind of not as fun you know as
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the as the learning curve becomes
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steeper um I tend to just stop you know
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I don't tend to keep going I don't tend
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to go all the way and I focus on having
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things be set up the right way so if I'm
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going to contrast this with video games
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basically
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the video that like I'll focus more on
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the gear that I have like I'll focus on
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how the graphics look how is the
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performance um is this really the right
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experience am I going to get the most
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out of it instead of just playing the
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[ __ ] game you know um and enjoying it
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and trying to actually get good and and
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you know I would always I would never
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really play um the uh first person I
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mean sorry
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uh yeah know um single player story
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games you know like The Witcher and
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things like that just because I would
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always go for Shooters and just I don't
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know it's it's kind of they're they're
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very addicting man and there's something
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about like working with your like I
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don't know just being skill-based kind
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of things rather than taking the time to
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learn about the game learn the story
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learn the mechanics you know what is
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that you know um um you know using po
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like for example I remember
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like my cousins you know they they uh
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they're big Gamers and thanks to them I
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got into video games
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and they would always
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know some like they would play games you
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know like MMO RPGs you know where
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basically in those games you can like
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depending on what build you have you
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know what you know see I even struggle
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knowing the terms and obviously it's
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been quite a long time but like you know
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it's it's like farming you know for a
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certain thing you know which means you
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have to really put in a lot of work to
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build your character up and build
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certain stats up and and you can you can
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connect like they would they would be
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great at using the games mechanics to
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being to having like this huge strong
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character right okay now that for me
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which is like you know it's just like no
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I just want to go straight into to it
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and just like just give it to me now you
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know like I want the cool looking
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character now I want the [ __ ] like I
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want everything now and I'm not the most
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patient
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person this gives me two things and this
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is a weapon that that you know all these
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double-edged swords is is essentially
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still a weapon a double-edged sword is
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still a weapon right like let's not
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forget it I think um that's one of my my
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things that I
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proudly uh start sharing more online of
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like a double-edged sword is still a
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weapon if you're strong enough to wield
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it if you are someone who wants things
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now like if you're impatient that means
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you're still kind of willing to take
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risk or like to get started on things
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which is great you know but it also
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means you're a very impatient person you
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won't finish things as you know
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as me
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um when it comes to my job as a barista
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I've I've I've worked at a few places
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and you know I'm really good
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at uh you know being really fast and
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like leveling up you know and getting
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good with everybody and you know um
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doing a good job but then sort of As
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Time continues it's like okay now now
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try to be consistent you know try to be
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consistent for a while you know how long
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can you hold out it turns from a Sprint
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to a marathon and then you know it's
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like how do you how do you make the
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marathon still like how can you how fast
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can you run in a
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marathon
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um and I tend to just kind of lose um at
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some point just kind of like I don't
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know effort there there's been times
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where I would
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go like I would just Sprint you know
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from the start like just all all the way
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like just give it my all and just burn
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out you know
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and and that has a lot to do I actually
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published a newsletter about that um on
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how you can use your job and I'll
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definitely talk more on that topic in
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the future because I think I've learned
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so much from my job as a barista and
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it's going to be down in in the
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description as well I I hope you can
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check it out um it's not that long so
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you know and I I think there's some good
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tips in there on how to know you can use
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your job and and you make an active time
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and love that job which is an idea I I
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remember getting from Robert Green the
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author of 48 Laws of Power so definitely
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check that out as well
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um but let's just go back now right to
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to video games and um yeah I mean I have
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it now I have my hand held here and I
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can definitely tell like oh you know
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it's fun but I'm still basically doing
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the same [ __ ] you know it's like ah the
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settings and stuff instead of just [ __ ]
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the [ __ ] thing instead of enjoying
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the game and um playing the games that I
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never played I had in my library but I
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just never
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played sure you know I'm I'm someone you
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know you could say focus on your
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strengths right but it's like H I don't
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know which in that case would be like
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FPS games but anyways I'm getting
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carried away
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so and to put it into perspective right
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so I uh yeah I mean look I was a I was
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severely addicted to video games uh and
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I just mean that
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because it was just I would do it even
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if I didn't felt like it even if it was
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making me miserable even if there was
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things that I should do right and I
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think maybe that's I'm sure that's
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probably the definition of addiction I I
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I don't know but
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um it would get to the point where I
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would sit in front of my
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computer
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and I just felt miserable like
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it it was just like oh I have all these
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games and I'm I'm I'm bored like I don't
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know what to play and like it makes no
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sense like it just makes no [ __ ]
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sense you
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know like as a kid I wanted to have the
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PC and all those games you know to play
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and then I had it and it was just like
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H I don't know don't want to do this
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anymore it's like I got the whole
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streaming setup going and I was like oh
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it's getting hard now I don't want to do
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it anymore it's like come on man like
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what's going
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on you
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know and so I knew I had to do I had to
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make a change
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right um I had bigger issues at hand you
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know it was that um you know I was I was
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a
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um big people pleaser of course as a lot
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of you know I
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was uh the there was just a lot a big
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lack of Independence you know and I
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think um for a lack of better word I was
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just I was just very weak you know I was
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a very I had a very weak character you
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know very irritable and very depressed
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and um and all these
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things and so you know I I'd say you
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know skip out on the video games for a
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while you know
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um instead of trying to get good at a
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video game try to get good at at
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yourself you know in real life like
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that's that's where it stems from like
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the the whole be or hero thing you know
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cuz like in the end it really does start
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with you like it's not about the gear as
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I mentioned in in one of the
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earliest
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um newsletters that I posted uh letters
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to a hero I mean that I
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posted should be calling them letters to
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a hero rather than newsletter but I mean
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it's a [ __ ] newsletter
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whatever
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and cuz it just it starts with you you
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know like no matter how good things get
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for me I will still always find an
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excuse you know oh you know it's this or
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I don't have that or um and if you can
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if you can become like sort of obsessed
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with with your own self like
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scratching your own itch like like um
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fixing your own pain right or dealing
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with your own
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pain which for me you know there's a few
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right but I mean I'm sure every as
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everybody does
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right
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um and trying to be that person that you
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would like to be you know the person
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that you want to be like in game or um
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the characters that you admire you know
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from the stories that you that you read
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or watch um the you know you can be that
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sort of person even even the people that
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you admire right and um you know embark
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on some sort of Adventure for yourself
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um leave home you know um get a job
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something that you're kind of curious
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about not something that you know I'm
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just I'm just telling you what what it
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is that I've done right but you know
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stick with it for some
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[Music]
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time and
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just
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yeah try to get
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good you know aim high you know like
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build a vision you know these are all
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things that I've talked about before and
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that just work for me but yeah just lay
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off the video games for a while you
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know like
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man the brain rot I think I'm probably
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just unaware
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of
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how how my Baseline for dopamine was so
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messed up you know with video games too
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A lot of the times I'm sure it comes um
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um you know the um corn corn videos I
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think you know on YouTube you can't say
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the the word but anyway
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anyways
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um yeah you know you get addicted to
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that as
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well you all those things it's it's
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just and then the the way that like the
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culture itself you know the way people
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talk and stuff you know
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um it's not about trying to like be
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normal either like you can be into
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whatever it is that you want to be you
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know you can be a nerd um I'm a huge
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nerd I think you know I'm not that huge
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of a nerd I think cuz I lack a lot of
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knowledge right
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but
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um still you
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know just boost up your stats in real
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life in other aspects right start your
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own self-improvement Journey you know
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it's not about
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like um yeah I think I think
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self-improvement is a
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shitty term
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I don't like to call it that way people
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ask me like oh what do you talk about
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it's like well [ __ ] I I don't know I
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just talk about myself I guess that's
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what I should say I just um I'm just
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myself on the
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internet
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cuz a lot of that you know pain that I
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had always was just to be myself too you
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know um and escaping into video games is
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is not necessarily I think the answer or
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into that whole world I think um or at
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least it didn't help me you know um you
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know I think most of the things that you
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want are just really outside of that
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comfort zone there's nothing I
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can sort of say against it you know the
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more I you know the more I try out these
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cliches the more I Venture into like
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sort of the unknown uh whether that's
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you know you know trying to break these
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these li like
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as cliche as it sounds these limiting
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beliefs in my head
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like I
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can't I can't say anything against it
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because it just it's just happens to be
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true like I can't like I don't know what
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to say you know
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like yeah you know Comfort kills it does
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in a way it
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just
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like you get stronger like that's the
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whole point you're supposed to be strong
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right
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stronger at least no you're supposed to
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be strong like you're not you know I
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think there's people lot stronger than
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me and I admire them a lot you know and
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that's something that's something you
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know you should admire those people too
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you know um there's so much stuff that
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you can get upset about like the small
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things in life and if you can just I
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guess I guess if you can aim at being
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someone that doesn't sweat the small
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stuff that's great you know it really is
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if you can be be that and have a purpose
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have a Direction have a vision and be
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the person that like if you look in the
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mirror and you like what you see
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wouldn't that be
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great wouldn't that be great and it's
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completely in your own
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hands you know like embark on the
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adventure embark on your own path I
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guess that's what I would like to say I
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don't know and uh that's where it stops
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you know with this whole motivational
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stuff all the time I
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I I don't think like yeah I I do a lot
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of it just cuz you know I don't know I
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like it
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um yeah lay off the video
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games there's a lot more to you that you
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yet have to discover I think um
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I mean if you have the discipline you
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know
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of not being addicted to those gains
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well then fair enough you know
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but that's not my case you know or at
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least it wasn't we'll see I don't know
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um I'm trying to get comfortable with
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uh the fact that I'm just I'm not the
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same anymore and that I have changed and
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it's weird to see uh or to to think
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about because it's you
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know the the the problem with I think
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the problem with growth is that you just
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forget about it you just don't see how
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much you change you know you think oh I
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just got lucky or you know everybody
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else does it anyways and it's
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like well not I mean not if you
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willingly go out of your way to grow you
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know to Embrace pain you know that's
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that's
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different cuz not a lot of people do I
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think um now I'm I'm guilty of it as
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anybody else but uh we we we tend
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to look for comfort and uh and not not
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for pain I mean it's
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yeah and that's an double-edged story
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again if you are someone who struggles a
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lot and
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um and you just you
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know cuz here's the other thing when you
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live in the comfort zone at least for me
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and I'm not sure this accounts for a lot
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of people
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but I'm sure some people need to hear
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this and you know you you you are very
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much comfortable right like
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you the comfort zone kills
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when small things that are necessary
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annoy you when you're very irritable and
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no matter how much
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self-indulgence you do you don't feel
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happy
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and you feel pathetic with yourself and
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you're very hard on yourself then that
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kind of just tells
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me that you're just very ambitious and
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you're have you have no aim and that you
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have nothing at stake and that you need
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to just venture
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out and and and just you know you need
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you need a goal you need a a Direction
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you need something to work at towards
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because you You' like I read this from
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um this post the other day and um I'll
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try to link it in the description as
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well Jesus Christ I need to link a lot
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of stuff into the
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description
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uh
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doy um
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basically aim I I read the other day
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that aimless ambition is anxiety or
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creates anxiety and I think that's just
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it's really true it's just very much
00:22:44
true um most of the pain that I feel and
00:22:48
I and this happened to me yesterday
00:22:50
again and it felt like man like I went
00:22:52
back in time like oh God like it wasn't
00:22:55
like oh I did a few steps backwards it
00:22:57
was just like holy [ __ ] I haven't
00:22:59
changed one bit you know
00:23:04
um I just I I I felt completely blocked
00:23:11
um and it's kind of weird to admit but
00:23:14
basically like I I had
00:23:17
taken like I was deciding
00:23:20
between um going to the gym now or later
00:23:23
that
00:23:24
night and I just I had some stuff that I
00:23:27
needed to do so like you usually like we
00:23:31
we tend to have a task that we're
00:23:33
avoiding and that also creates a lot of
00:23:36
stress and I just I have a lot on my
00:23:38
plate too you know but I can't complain
00:23:40
Jesus Christ it could be way worse
00:23:42
things like there's a lot of better
00:23:44
problems now new problems like you know
00:23:47
every time like I just tell these things
00:23:48
to myself like
00:23:50
okay
00:23:51
um look around like be you know things
00:23:54
are pretty [ __ ] good or better um
00:23:58
don't control the things you can't
00:24:00
control
00:24:02
um there's a like thousands of people
00:24:06
who wish to who would kill to be in your
00:24:07
shoes right now and it's not hard it's
00:24:10
just
00:24:11
new you just you know you just need to
00:24:14
[ __ ] like pull yourself together you
00:24:16
know and you know I T I tell like I know
00:24:20
that my My Success is basically just
00:24:22
determined by my own ability to pull
00:24:25
myself together and and be
00:24:29
effective um and just do the thing when
00:24:32
it's supposed to be done or when I know
00:24:34
I should be doing it or you
00:24:36
know like I think I'm at the point now
00:24:39
where um well okay I'm I'm getting
00:24:41
carried away again so [ __ ] oh my God
00:24:45
Jesus Christ okay stick to the point
00:24:53
santho yeah aimless ambition creates a
00:24:56
lot of anxiety H yeah and I was in that
00:24:58
point I was just like completely Mind
00:25:00
Block like I was just like so anxious
00:25:02
like I was like oh my God like okay I
00:25:03
did take a lot of caffeine but like I'm
00:25:06
I'm a bar that it shouldn't be that that
00:25:07
big of an issue um but maybe it was the
00:25:10
slight empty stomach anyways these are
00:25:13
all just excuses what I'm trying to say
00:25:14
here
00:25:17
is bear with me I'm
00:25:21
sorry just
00:25:23
the this sort of
00:25:26
weird fear irrational fear of oh my God
00:25:32
like what should I do how am I going to
00:25:35
like am I going
00:25:37
to it's like having too many options you
00:25:39
know
00:25:41
um um what if what if I disappoint my
00:25:45
friend because I'm not going to be there
00:25:47
tonight you know um why do I even have
00:25:50
this fear I thought I was over this
00:25:52
already and and like who gives a [ __ ]
00:25:54
but like right now I'm fully caffeinated
00:25:56
like I can go to the gym you know this
00:25:57
is going to be like the best times I was
00:25:58
like oh my God man I was just thinking
00:26:01
too much and U it's just like there's
00:26:05
this there's this thing I have on my
00:26:06
phone which says which is by Dan Co
00:26:09
which
00:26:10
says
00:26:12
um you don't have anything I'm going to
00:26:15
butcher it but it's like you're lacking
00:26:18
some sort of very meaningful project or
00:26:21
Direction and you're not fully committed
00:26:24
that's why you were drowning in
00:26:25
options and yeah I think
00:26:29
think going back to being in the comfort
00:26:32
zone if you have a lot of options you
00:26:34
know and no matter what you what it is
00:26:37
that you do like you know um getting
00:26:41
like buying cool clothes or doing fun
00:26:44
stuff or playing video games or singing
00:26:47
or whatever the [ __ ] like if you don't
00:26:51
have a
00:26:54
certain sort
00:26:55
of Direction you know
00:26:58
if you don't have anything like at stake
00:27:00
if you're not confronting any sort of
00:27:02
fear if there's no like willingful pain
00:27:04
or if you're not venturing outside of
00:27:06
the comfort zone you kind of feel
00:27:08
miserable and I felt very miserable at
00:27:10
that point yesterday because it was just
00:27:12
like I I think I inertly had just kind
00:27:17
of given up on my own path or I was just
00:27:21
like I was seeking comfort you
00:27:26
know and
00:27:30
and that
00:27:32
Comfort it was it was like I I had
00:27:34
pulled away my my aim I had lost sight
00:27:36
of what what it is that I'm where I'm
00:27:38
trying to go and maybe it's been a bit
00:27:41
accumulated
00:27:44
but yeah self-indulgence and and things
00:27:47
like that don't make you happy and this
00:27:48
is a lesson that I I thought I had
00:27:51
already learned but I guess you
00:27:54
know
00:27:56
um here to learn again
00:27:59
although I did overcome it of
00:28:03
course but it's it's you
00:28:05
know yeah those things don't don't make
00:28:07
you very happy at least that happiness
00:28:09
doesn't very like last very long you
00:28:12
know I
00:28:13
think like if you have if you're if
00:28:16
you're lacking some sort of purpose if
00:28:17
you're lacking some sort of Direction I
00:28:19
think it's very easy
00:28:25
to become bitter and weak weak and
00:28:31
um and then you have the audacity to be
00:28:34
a perfectionist you know thinking oh you
00:28:36
know everything has to be perfect it's
00:28:38
like yeah that's that's me you
00:28:42
know that's you you can't you can't do
00:28:46
that you
00:28:52
know like I think it's just so [ __ ]
00:28:54
cool like if you basically make
00:28:57
something the enemy and you like say I'm
00:28:58
okay I'm going to go to war you know
00:29:01
like that there there's real fulfillment
00:29:03
there there's real fulfillment
00:29:05
in trying to slay the dragon you know
00:29:09
and and venturing there and
00:29:13
and I think also like if you're
00:29:15
struggling with knowing when to chill
00:29:19
out or when to indulge in something it's
00:29:22
like well you won't feel guilty right if
00:29:25
you have done something like as you get
00:29:29
stronger and as you as you get smarter
00:29:31
and you build more leverage the things
00:29:34
that you do sort of become easier for
00:29:37
your for you right like life doesn't get
00:29:39
easier you just get stronger and
00:29:42
so I think maybe that's what it means to
00:29:45
like be comfortable being uncomfortable
00:29:48
because we'll always probably have to
00:29:50
keep doing [ __ ] that at some point we
00:29:53
don't want to do or or you know like the
00:29:55
the Bea beauty of life is work and rest
00:29:59
and
00:30:00
um you can't have one without the other
00:30:03
if you only have rest well then you'll
00:30:06
be very miserable and um I'm very
00:30:10
certain of that
00:30:13
like when was the last time you went on
00:30:15
vacation you know and after a certain
00:30:17
while you just kind of feel like ah and
00:30:20
small things irritate you and you kind
00:30:23
of start feeling a bit pathetic about
00:30:24
yourself even though you don't notice it
00:30:26
probably like I think a lot of
00:30:30
my lack of inner
00:30:34
confidence was that I simply was not
00:30:38
very independent you
00:30:41
know
00:30:42
um Mel Robbins she said something I
00:30:47
recently
00:30:48
heard you know it goes to show if you
00:30:50
surround yourself with the right content
00:30:52
or or you know like you you live in the
00:30:55
best time some of the best times in
00:30:58
human
00:31:00
history let's not forget that you know
00:31:02
you can have mentors without them being
00:31:04
present just by surrounding yourself
00:31:07
with with their
00:31:08
content um but anyways she said
00:31:11
something
00:31:13
about you know if you can't get yourself
00:31:15
to wake up at the time you want to wake
00:31:17
up eat the thing you wanted to that you
00:31:19
said you were going to eat and work out
00:31:22
when you said you were going to work out
00:31:23
like you're not going to have a lot of
00:31:25
self-respect you're not going to have
00:31:27
that self respect that self
00:31:34
um and self-respect is self- L and self-
00:31:39
L is
00:31:41
uh inner
00:31:44
confidence I think there's two
00:31:46
confidences right there's the you can be
00:31:48
very confident like loud and be on stage
00:31:50
and stuff but if you don't have the
00:31:51
inner
00:31:53
confidence as someone who who likes to
00:31:55
go on stage and stuff and I love acting
00:31:58
um I love to
00:32:01
perform and I want to and um but that if
00:32:05
you don't have the inner confidence like
00:32:07
you're
00:32:07
[ __ ] pretty much
00:32:12
so yep that's the Yap of
00:32:16
today
00:32:22
um
00:32:26
yeah um
00:32:30
yeah there there's a lot of potential in
00:32:31
a lot of people out there I think um
00:32:35
there certainly wasn't me and I
00:32:38
just yeah I'm thankful that I kind
00:32:41
of let those things aside and that I I
00:32:43
found out about you know
00:32:47
um sort of self-improvement or that I
00:32:50
that I that I got the courage to that I
00:32:53
that I
00:32:54
heard the words
00:32:56
of okay okay I'm I'm very lucky and
00:32:59
fortunate and thankful that I had the
00:33:01
comforting words of someone telling me
00:33:03
and reassuring me that I'm not a
00:33:06
burden and then
00:33:09
also the kick in the ass of someone
00:33:13
telling me that I'm not supposed to be
00:33:15
that weak and that I'm supposed to aim
00:33:19
high and supposed to be ruthlessly
00:33:22
ambitious
00:33:23
and and then I started taking sort of
00:33:26
things into my own hand and
00:33:28
I guess I find myself in the same
00:33:29
position
00:33:31
now um and it's just like okay great
00:33:35
because now I know
00:33:36
that it's pretty much up to me you know
00:33:39
to change
00:33:42
things I have no excuses you
00:33:45
know um but yeah it makes life harder
00:33:50
but also a lot more enjoyable I think
00:33:54
so yeah
00:33:57
and um yeah some struggles might never
00:34:00
go away but you kind of I guess you kind
00:34:03
of learn to deal with them no so and um
00:34:07
I'm sure you
00:34:09
know I'll get better with
00:34:11
time and and and just to mention just to
00:34:14
give a small reminder to to everybody
00:34:16
who's already grinding you know um hey
00:34:20
you know um life is much broader
00:34:25
too there's a there's so much Beauty um
00:34:29
in the in the everyday you know and
00:34:31
small stuff like like you know just the
00:34:35
the present moment brings me a lot of
00:34:37
Peace like you know looking at
00:34:40
the at the Sun hitting these dead
00:34:44
flowers of mine but um yeah I don't know
00:34:47
we're just kicking back
00:34:51
and guess it's kind of counterproductive
00:34:54
or controversial what I'm saying right
00:34:55
now but like kicking back in the playing
00:34:58
video games just for 30 minutes because
00:35:01
you've got better S well you know I've
00:35:03
become more addicted to writing and and
00:35:06
and and I've burned the bridges to the
00:35:09
point where you know I can't kind of get
00:35:12
like back out now you know like so it it
00:35:15
is a lot more enjoyable actually to me
00:35:18
like making these videos and and trying
00:35:21
to figure out like how can I improve
00:35:23
these things and because it's just um it
00:35:26
connects to a deeper level to me and you
00:35:29
know
00:35:32
anyways I've gone from gamer gooner I
00:35:36
don't know gamer
00:35:38
[Music]
00:35:39
to addicted to
00:35:43
to writing quite literally like even
00:35:45
though I'm not posting most of it which
00:35:47
I should I know I should but um
00:35:52
yeah just kind
00:35:55
of writing and and kind of building
00:35:58
something even though I'm not the most
00:36:00
efficient at it I'm not the most capable
00:36:02
at it you know but um I think if you're
00:36:06
on the right path then you're you've
00:36:07
already won right
00:36:10
so put out a lot on you today so we'll
00:36:14
keep it there and um yeah keep
00:36:18
walking one foot at a time I don't know
00:36:22
I don't need to tell you anything I know
00:36:23
you got this
00:36:25
so yep have a good one
00:36:28
thanks for being here and uh till next
00:36:30
one bye-bye
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