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so we have a lot of information in our
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heads and trying to sound smart about
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that information is quite frankly a
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disease if you dare to speak greatly
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dare to be dull with your speech and I
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want to show you in today's video how if
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you can be curious honest and humble in
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your speaking you will be unstoppable I
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want to share with you the seven-step
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journey
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that has allowed me to fundamentally
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find the opinions in my mind on certain
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topics take those opinions and refine
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them into something that is articulate
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and structured and I want to give you in
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this video three resources that will
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help you bulletproof you're speaking in
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this way so the first thing that I want
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to address is give you a 30,000 foot
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overview of what we are trying to
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achieve when we share our opinion on a
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topic there are three things the first
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is we want to share what is buried
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inside our mind not some artificial
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opinion from others what is
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uniquely ours the second thing is we
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want to choose the right words to
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capture our
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idea and the third is that we desire
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Clarity our opinion needs to make sense
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it should not be unnecessarily Tangled
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or complex now here's the problem most
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of society lacks these three qualities
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in their speaking the opinions that most
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people share are poorly worded they're
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plagiarized they're adopted from others
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or they're just plain unclear and this
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often leads to speech that sounds
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unsatisfying what do we mean by
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unsatisfying well it does not fulfill us
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when we say it we feel as if we didn't
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fully
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articulate what we're holding in our
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minds there's a communication itch
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that's just not being scratched and you
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can alleviate that discomfort by
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understanding a few few simple things
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about how our minds and mouths
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collaborate when we communicate so the
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first thing I want to address
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is understanding how to find what is
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inside your mind so imagine your
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knowledge on a topic as a small circle
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you've got thousands of these circles in
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your mind then the younger you are the
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smaller the circles are inside each
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circle is everything you know about a
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particular subject outside the circle is
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everything you don't know as you acquire
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more experience as you mature that line
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expands to include more information
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what's usually in any one of our circles
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in a given moment is a makeshift opinion
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composed of half-remembered
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anecdotes shocking statistics and sound
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bites from social media think about what
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most people say in conversation yeah I
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read recently a study about that person
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oh I saw that person is not good from
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the economy and they're quoting some
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article or social media Source this is
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most people and there's nothing
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particularly wrong with that however
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most people never find the right words
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to express what they think they simply
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choose the words most accessible to them
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which is usually the last thing that
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they heard and this is one of my
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internal beefs that I have with social
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media culture is that it often results
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in people being made up mostly of
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quotations and this speaks to one of the
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fundamental biases that we have as
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humans is our mind has a bias for
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recency and repetition we repeat what we
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hear the most or what we heard most
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recently and this often causes us to
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ignore our deep truths it causes us to
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ignore the perspectives that are unique
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to us the things that would satisfy us
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if we were able to excavate those and
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articulate them in conversation so this
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invites the question the question
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becomes how can we know what we know in
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other words is it possible to accelerate
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our understanding on something so that
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we can figure
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out the Bedrock of our thought or our
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opinion and if we use that word Bedrock
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that concept it implies that there is
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something above it there is something
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preventing access to what we can assume
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is the that rich content of our opinion
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which is true I mean the gold we are
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after is not within easy reach for a
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good reason most people do not engage in
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thinking and attempting to articulate
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that thinking with speaking because it
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is a hard process there are layers of
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questioning and thinking and really
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understanding that needs to happen for
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us to be able to engage those deeper
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parts of what we really
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think and really engage those deeper
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parts of these circles because these
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circles really are more in the shape of
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cones when viewed from the side most of
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us simply comment off the top we skim
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the most recent information that has
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been added to this pile and what we
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really want to do is excavate That Base
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that Bedrock that incorporates
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everything that has been set upon it
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that's what would give us a satisfying
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answer right it's a rhetorical question
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because I want to suggest why that is
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not the right way to think about it in
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just a moment however there is something
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to be said about if we have not spent
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time articulating our thoughts or
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writing about them or speaking about
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them in conversation this cone is going
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to be a complete mystery to us in fact
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we don't even know what its shape is
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however the funny thing is about
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articulating our opinion is that even
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though we don't know what's beneath
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those those superficial layers those
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cheap anecdotes and sta statistics that
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we just like to list off like it's some
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kind of verbal script we do
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know what our opinion is if we were
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given options if options were presented
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to us for
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example if I ask you you to describe
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your best
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friend you might
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start with some obvious description by
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saying oh he or she is nice and you
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might then start combing through
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different
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qualities General adjectives describing
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other people you know they're nice
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they're friendly they're outgoing now
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you also know that if I were to put all
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those options out on the table in front
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of you different qualities of people you
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would be able to clearly confirm or
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deny if those apply to your friend oh my
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friend he's definitely nice he's kind
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but he's not loyal and the same is true
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with our opinions or beliefs what do you
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believe about politics well if I were to
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ask you that question you probably would
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struggle to give me a straight answer
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though if I were to present all of these
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options to you on the table in front of
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you you would be able to figure out what
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your political opinion is or isn't and
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you can come to those conclusions by
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seeing everything on the table in front
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of you the quantity of information and
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slowly by saying yes no yes no things
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are beginning to take shape so it's
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almost as if when we think about this
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the problem of finding our opinion feels
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like it's one of not knowing what all of
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our options are and that's kind of
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frustrating because we feel convinced
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that only by seeing everything before us
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can we fully develop and articulate our
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opinion now the inherent limitation in
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this thinking of course is that we only
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have access to what our mind allows us
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to remember in the moment which is
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usually whatever comes to mind within
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about 10 seconds if even we have that
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long
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to think about one thought so this
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process it can feel like pulling teeth
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because we understand that we don't have
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this ability to see everything before us
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on what we want to articulate on a topic
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but this is a good process it's good
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because we're we're getting closer to
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figuring out what we think because we're
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interpreting these yes and no
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conclusions through some kind of a
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filter because remember everything that
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we say yes or no to is because it is
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being held against some standard what is
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that standard what do I mean by that
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well that standard is what is called
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your value prism and this is the first
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major concept that I want to introduce
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you to because whether you realize it or
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not every single one of us is refracting
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the world through a set of internal
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values what are those values well they
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can be things like gratitude Compassion
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or respect here's the full list if
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you're interested where do those values
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come from well they come from your
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upbringing your parents your culture
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your religion it's what makes those
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options on the table feel right to you
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now it doesn't mean that your values are
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right but that's a conversation for
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another time what is important to
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understand is that when something does
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not align with your values when your
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opinion does not align with your
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values it feels insincere it feels
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unsatisfying and it often feels
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artificial it can sound right the words
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can be beautifully arranged into an
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eloquent sentence but it doesn't feel
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right and the problem is the vast
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majority of people in society
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particularly the younger generations and
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those that I've had in my network and
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have the honor of speaking to they don't
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lead with any values most people don't
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even know what their values are and I've
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realize that this has led to a lot
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of neurotic thinking in Society where
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I've noticed people going from one
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well-worded opinion to another from one
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inspirational quote that they're pulling
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from an Instagram motivational page to
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another because it sounds appealing it's
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once again deliciously worded but it's
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not them when they say it it's not them
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and they can feel it and other people
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can feel it and here lies one of the
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biggest misconceptions about approaching
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your
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opinion on on a topic is we think that
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satisfaction often comes
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from quantity and when I say Quantity I
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mean that idea we discussed earlier of
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oh if only I could see everything before
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us I'd be able to share everything that
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I believe on this topic and only then
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would I be satisfied or the second thing
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we think would satisfy us is a false
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quality and what I mean by a false
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quality is this idea of articulating
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someone else's beautiful words that seem
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to capture what we think and only if we
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can say it in the best way will it
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satisfy us it's a false quality what we
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want is a true quality and what a true
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quality is is something that stems from
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our
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values that is filtered through our
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value prism it's not an answer of
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quantity it's an answer of quality and
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so the action item here the action item
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you need to pick some values you need to
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find out what you stand for and here's a
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list that I'll link below this video in
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case you're interested here's what my
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value prism looks like now I'm not here
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to assign you any particular bouquet of
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values however I would offer up to you a
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few that I think Society is rapidly
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losing that would be excellent starting
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points the first one is honesty I'm
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convinced that most people say what they
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think others want to hear not what they
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themselves belief the challenge with
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this is when you withhold information
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when you withhold something in your mind
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what you've done is you've created a a
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second thread here's what you want to
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say or here's what you're saying and
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then here's what you believe and the
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problem with that is that it takes you
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out of the present moment and it brings
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you unhappiness and and unsatisfaction
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in your speech so valuing honesty and
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using that as a filter in your value
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prism is a strong suggestion and one
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that will bring you a lot of
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satisfaction the second value is
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Simplicity I think there's a lot of
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people today in society who just like to
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have a degree in in yapping they like to
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talk a lot I'm guilty of this as well
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and they make things sound unnecessarily
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long in complex I'm always reminded by
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that famous quote an idiot admires
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complexity a genius admires Simplicity
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we'll talk about how you can be more
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simple in your speaking later in this
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video the third quality
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where value is experience I think we
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have a lot of people in society once
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again among the generations gen Z My
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Generation where there are many people
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who are simply adopting conclusions from
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this brain pack of society from social
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media only because they are worded well
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and we regurgitate these sound bites not
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because
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they are meaningful to us but because
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they sound right now of course they
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don't mean much because that person
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didn't step through any of the
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experience that led to that sound bite
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that led to that conclusion and so
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saying those sound bites in conversation
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are largely going to feel empty and void
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of meaning because they fundamentally
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didn't stem from your experience and I
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think speaking from experience is so
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undervalued in society today
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and none of this is helped by the fact
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that I think people are getting less and
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less experience they are doing less and
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less things because they have more more
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and more reasons to keep them tethered
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and entertained where they
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are
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so I'll put a book end to that thought
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and take a step back and say that these
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three values or these values from these
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lists are things that we should be
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verbally working into the way that we
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speak how do we do this well we can
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simply say things like I value
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Simplicity and that is a reminder to us
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that we are going to try to speak simply
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you can be a little bit more delicate
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with how you word it you could say well
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speaking from experience on this and
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that introduces you to that value of
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experience what do I honestly think
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about this that introduces honesty and
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it encourages you to begin activating
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that value in the way that you
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speak there are some other ways that you
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can word this that I'll link below these
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actually stem from interviews of 1%
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communicators that I've studied and
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written down the way that they
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articulate these values this isn't some
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crackhead idea that I'm coming up with
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spontaneously this is something that
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I've noticed undergirds the most
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powerful and persuasive forms of
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communication what this does is it gives
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us an angle for our speaking that
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immediately begins aligning with what we
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value and that produces a satisfying
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answer I've noticed that there is a
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direct relationship with how satisfied
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you feel with your words and how you are
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with yourself and that begins by
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defining your value prism the value
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prism is that Launchpad that gives you
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the initial momentum that you need to
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find and articulate your
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opinion well if you thought that was
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hard now comes the most challenging part
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this is also a fun part because I like
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language and Linguistics and this is
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this was a large Epiphany moment for me
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understanding this that is the challenge
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of capturing our mind's contents with
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words here's the problem with that
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thinking there are no right
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words what we often mean by the right
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words are words that uniquely qualify
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our opinion as our own or describe it at
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a
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precise granular level now people often
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think this is where big words come into
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play expanding our vocabulary expanding
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our vocabulary does help in fact it was
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lewood Van wienstein who has a quote he
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says the limits of our language are are
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the limits of our world there is
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something to be said about more words
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giving you a better ability to perceive
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and articulate the world around you in a
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greater capacity however we have to
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remember that we are never going to be
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able to capture with language everything
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that exists in our mind or every
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experience that we have on a particular
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thought why well because speech actually
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is an incredibly low bandwidth mechanism
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for communicating
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the rich colorful
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multi-dimensional language of the Mind
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what Steven Pinker called mental Le
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which is a combination of emotions
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experience
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and many other nuances that words just
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won't capture it's like trying to
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describe a multicolor painting with just
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black and white you end up saying a lot
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of things like well it's a really light
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shade of white or that's
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very deep gray like there's a disconnect
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of course it's not going to accurately
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depict what is the
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real pallet of colors and that makes
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sense because most of us feel at some
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point that we are unsatisfied by what we
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say and here's how one person on Reddit
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brilliantly described it the brain moves
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at the speed of thought mouth moves at
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floppy meat speed floppy meat can't keep
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up with zapping brain
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Flappy meat sounds like dummy to sapping
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brain when a thought stays in our mind
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before we attempt to put it into words
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our mind can very quickly create the
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illusion of deep understanding we become
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diluted into thinking that we have the
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thought completely wrinkle-free it's
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ironed out it's fully formed and then
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when we attempt to put it into words or
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when we attempt to speak from the base
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of the cone most most of us realize that
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gosh we have a huge whopping nothing
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Burger this is why most people 75% of
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people think they have an above average
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intelligence and this often leads us to
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overestimate our level of understanding
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of things when we're forced to
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articulate
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it we realize that there is very little
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substance to most of our thoughts and
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this is because the mechanism of speech
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just isn't fast enough to capture those
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complex thoughts that we have on a topic
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and to expect that we want to put a
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brand new
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thought that contains emotions
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experiences associations memories all of
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that arrange that into a brilliantly
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articulated sentence on the first try is
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absolutely absurb now we can capture
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more of the mind's contents the more
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that we output the more that we engage
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in conversation in writing in recording
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videos we'll talk about this later in
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the this video however we need to
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recognize that this process of
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translating our 4D thoughts into what
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really we can think of as 1D words is
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going to require some compromise and
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accepting that accepting that there is
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going to be some
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loss is one a burden that we just have
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to bear but two is remarkably refreshing
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because it's necessary for us to embrace
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imperfection are
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speaking and thinking that we have to
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say everything in the right
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words perfectly often leads to a lot of
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intellectual paralysis where we say
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nothing at all and many people don't say
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anything not because they don't have
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anything to say but because they think
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it's only worth saying if they can say
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it well and this leads us to the third
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major
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concept and that is understanding that
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you will be more satisfied with what you
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say the more you say it
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in other words
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output speaking writing engaging in
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conversation forces Clarity and output
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can be once again conversation it can be
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talking to yourself aloud better yet
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some form of writing Clarity is achieved
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in the output the creation side of
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things and this is one of these negative
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trend lines that I've seen developing in
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society where it is not through
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consumption rarely is it achieved
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through
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input let me let me put this another way
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it is highly unlikely that you will
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achieve clear thinking and by virtue
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clear speaking by watching social media
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excessively including this video which
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by the way none of this information is
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going to preserve itself in your mind in
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perfect Crystal Clarity unless you've
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made an effort to talk about it to write
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about it or to create your life or
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conversations around it in some small
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way and that's why one of these Rising
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trend lines in in social media or
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Internet culture is this aggressive
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level of consumption of others opinions
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we look to the comments to gain a
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perspective before we even formulate our
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own we let our phones run like a tap all
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day long when we eat now you might say
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but Joseph doesn't everyone do this yes
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they do and I would poee to you the
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counter question do you want the
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thinking patterns of everyone else my
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objective in creating this video is to
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suggest what I think can lead to crisper
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sharper thinking which by the way most
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people don't have and in order to have
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that well there's something to be said
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about going against the habits of the
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masses so one of the most obvious things
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that I think most people can practice
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more is getting their mind's inner
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contents outside things are going to
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remain loose foggy and
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undefined in your mind until you are
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forced to output and any of you who are
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thinking that the ideas that I'm sharing
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in this video have any amount of clarity
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is only because I I've done thinking on
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this in advance I'm not piecing all of
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these ideas together in real time as if
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I've got the perfect map to some newly
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charted
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territory and what I've realized in
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training clients around the world and
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teaching people to speak like they think
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is that the most elite communicators
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have learned that
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output volume of output is what closes
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the gap between foggy thinking and clear
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speech you ever wonder why the speakers
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the podcasters the leaders that you
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listen to are able to achieve such
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surgical Precision is because they have
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engaged in output on those topics a
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hundred times before
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Clarity clear opinions is the outcome of
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consistent thought I had to remember
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what how I phrased that before one of
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the easiest and most efficient ways that
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you can do this and something that I
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practice is Essence writing oh writing
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I'm not a writer well listen tolken
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neither am I but here's an exercise that
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I've been able to develop for myself
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that can allow you to achieve Clarity on
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a topic without having to write a
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fantasy novel every night so the idea is
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you open up a document and every single
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night you write for five minutes you
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write your topics out usually one topic
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you write your thoughts out and you do
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this in sections you're going to do this
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in fact in three stages the first is
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you're going to write it out in 200
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words you're going to write it out in
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100 Words and and then you're going to
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write it out in 50 words you can use a
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word counter to track the word count
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there's a Google template that I've
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created for myself that you're welcome
00:24:05
to use below this video and here's a
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sample of what I was writing yesterday
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so you can see this in its three
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different stages why is writing
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important
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because there are all kinds of gaps in
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your
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thinking and in your speaking where
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you're making leaps where you don't
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realize and when you're forced to write
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it down and connect the sentences you
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have to complete those gaps and make a
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structure structured logical Chain of
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Thought the benefit of all of this is
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that the more you output the more you
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begin making connections and finding
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links between these different circles
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these different cones the more
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connections you make the stronger your
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model of the world becomes and that's
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what this is is a model of how you have
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come to understand things now it doesn't
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mean that you have it all correct that
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you've populated these circles in some
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objectively right way what it does mean
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is that you understand the information
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that you know and that you can
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articulate it clearly and simply and
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this is what most people don't
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understand that the most valuable
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currency in society today is
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Clarity and a Clarity is is a Clarity
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Clarity is often achieved with simple
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words and simple sentences it's one of
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the reasons why our culture has become
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so obsessed with quotations over the
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last decade because quotations do what
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they capture a complex intricate
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often chaotic idea into a simple
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powerful sentence and it's like what
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Reddit often does with the tldr everyone
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wants the tldr at the end of the day and
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my challenge to you actually is next
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time that you hear someone say something
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remarkably clear I want you to think to
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yourself about how that person has spent
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hundreds of hours thinking through that
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idea in fact the clearer something is
00:26:03
the more valuable they often consider it
00:26:05
to be to share with us and this is why
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Clarity is often a currency why I like
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to say that because it is a measure of
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how someone it is a measure of someone
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else's thought time the the final
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component that I think Society is
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desperately
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lacking is intellectual humility
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humility is the most important component
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in all of this because it says even
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though I have all this together even
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though I've got a model of the world and
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I can access the different layers of
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what's inside my information cones I
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don't know at all there's still more
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outside the
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circles
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and I think few very few people can say
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that even though it's true with all of
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us I think the most powerful person in
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the room is the one who gives themselves
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the freedom to say I don't know
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and I think most people would rather
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squeeze water from Stone than say those
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words why is that
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well I think the modern moral dictates
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to us that we should have all of these
00:27:12
complex and complete answers partly
00:27:15
because we see those coming from a lot
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of people that we consume people who are
00:27:20
full-time speakers and thinkers and have
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teams writers behind them giving them
00:27:24
the best answers for everything and we
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live in this Society where
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unfortunately people are rewarded for
00:27:30
what they know and penalized for what
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they don't this is kind of the Habit
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that is ingrained in Us in school and
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it's incredibly hard to unlearn you
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memorize and repeat when you don't know
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there's consequence and in order for us
00:27:43
to be comfortable discussing a topic and
00:27:46
sharing our opinion we need to have the
00:27:49
option to say I don't
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know and I tell you speaking from
00:27:55
experience that brings a tremendous
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amount of comfort knowing that after all
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this attempt to figure it out if there's
00:28:03
something there if there's something
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there if there's not sometimes saying
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that is the most articulate answer and
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to help you with this here's a document
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that I've created that lists how every
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Elite Communicator has displayed this
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intellectual humility in their
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interviews press junkets and
00:28:20
conversation I suggest picking one of
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these lines reworking it to yourself and
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using it knowing that you have this
00:28:26
option to say I don't know and that you
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can word it
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well brings a tremendous amount of
00:28:33
comfort and confidence in your pursuit
00:28:35
of articulating your
00:28:38
opinion hope that helps
