INFPs: How To Be Productive Without Selling Your Soul

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TLDRIn this video, Heidi discusses her recent sunburn experience and introduces a tutorial on infp productivity. Unlike traditional methods, she emphasizes enjoying the process and aligning productivity with natural cognitive functions. For infps, who struggle with traditional productivity systems, she advises against hyper-structuring their time like an ESTJ might. Instead, she introduces a holistic approach focusing on emotional validation and syncing tasks with personal values and identity. She explains the importance of understanding one's emotional states for effective productivity, suggesting making appointments with oneself to manage emotions and incorporating enjoyable activities into tasks to foster productivity. Heidi also touches on using cognitive functions like introverted feeling and extroverted thinking mildly and beneficially. Moreover, she emphasizes constructing productive environments by identifying triggers and applying minor structural discipline. Her advice also includes how to break down larger objectives into small, manageable goals. The video invites viewers, particularly those with infp personalities, to rethink productivity through self-awareness and gradual, enjoyable steps.

Punti di forza

  • ☀️ Heidi shares her sunburn experience, surprising her with burnt lips.
  • 📚 'The Midnight Library' is recommended as engaging fiction for NF types.
  • 🧠 Infps should embrace their unique cognitive functions for productivity.
  • 💡 Emotional management is crucial for productive personal and professional life.
  • 🎯 Aligning tasks with personal values enhances infp's productivity.
  • 🛠️ Small environmental changes can significantly impact productivity.
  • 📅 Rather than rigid plans, small achievable goals can lead to success.
  • 🔄 Identity alignment with actions fosters long-term productive habits.
  • 🎨 Creativity thrives with slight structures, keeping stress away.
  • 🏆 Emphasizes on small victories to maintain infp's motivation.

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  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    Heidi discusses the challenges of sunburn and attempts to make a video on INFP productivity at the request of a viewer. She emphasizes the importance of enjoying productivity rather than forcing oneself to adhere to habits of other personality types, like ESTJs. The video will focus on using the cognitive functions of INFPs (Fi, Ne, Si, Te) to structure meaningful activities without overwhelming them.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    Heidi introduces the concept of emotional management over time management, suggesting that unacknowledged emotions can interfere with productivity. She emphasizes validating emotions by scheduling time to address them, ensuring accountability to oneself. This builds self-trust and allows one to focus better, using one's natural emotional responses as a guide rather than suppressing them.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    She suggests harnessing introverted feeling by pairing tasks with activities that naturally invoke positive emotions. This involves identifying negative emotional triggers related to tasks and countering them with confidence-boosting activities. This approach builds an emotional state conducive to productivity, leveraging confidence-enhancing habits alongside challenging tasks.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:20:00

    The focus shifts to structuring identity around the person one wishes to become, rather than the tasks themselves. This idea from 'Atomic Habits' involves accumulating small actions that align with one's desired identity. It empowers maintaining consistency by valuing progress over perfection and fostering long-term goal achievement through identity alignment rather than exhaustive action lists.

  • 00:20:00 - 00:25:00

    Heidi discusses embracing the natural INFP cognitive process, especially extroverted intuition, by allowing the exploration of multiple tasks or projects simultaneously. This approach leverages natural curiosity and cross-contextualization of ideas, encouraging productivity through a non-linear process. By embracing varied intellectual pursuits, INFPs can inherently boost creativity and focus.

  • 00:25:00 - 00:30:00

    She elaborates on using introverted sensing to optimize physical environments and routines to enhance productivity and reduce distractions. Tips include manipulating environmental triggers and developing habits that align with productive emotional states. The focus is on mitigating negative triggers and fostering structural consistency that fuels a sense of order and productivity.

  • 00:30:00 - 00:38:48

    The role of extroverted thinking as an auxiliary function is discussed, advising against over-structuring to avoid creativity stifling. Instead, small, achievable goals should be set, allowing flow and creativity to thrive within gentle structures. It's about creating a flexible framework that aligns with natural tendencies, ensuring productivity by harnessing feelings of accomplishment from manageable tasks.

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  • What book was Heidi reading when she got sunburned?

    She was reading "The Midnight Library."

  • Why is Heidi making this video?

    Someone requested her to make a video on infp productivity, similar to her previous one on ENFP productivity.

  • What is the key to productivity according to Heidi?

    The key to productivity is to enjoy being productive, especially for infps.

  • What should infps focus on to prevent burnout, according to the video?

    Infps should learn to enjoy being productive and structure their time in an enjoyable way to prevent burnout.

  • What does Heidi say about using emotions to enhance productivity?

    Heidi suggests writing down distracting emotions to revisit later, then focusing on pairing work with activities that feel good.

  • What is the importance of identity in productivity, according to Heidi?

    Heidi emphasizes defining oneself by the kind of person one wants to be, as aligning actions with identity helps sustain habits.

  • How does Heidi suggest infps handle their workspace environment?

    Heidi advises identifying environmental triggers for productivity and distraction, then optimizing surroundings accordingly.

  • What does Heidi mean by 'structure hunger'?

    'Structure hunger' refers to the need to organize one's time meaningfully to avoid feeling like they're wasting life.

  • What does Heidi suggest about achieving larger goals?

    Larger goals should be broken down into smaller, achievable tasks to build confidence and momentum.

  • Why does Heidi value extroverted thinking for infps in productivity?

    Extroverted thinking helps in providing structure and small, achievable goals, contributing to the balance of creativity and organization.

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    hey guys Heidi PRI here I tried to
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    record this video twice already this
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    week which is why it's coming out so
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    late I usually try to get something out
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    by like midweek but this past weekend I
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    went to my Cottage and I got sunburnt
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    which usually does not happen I very
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    rarely burn but I was on my dock reading
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    the book The Midnight Library which by
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    the way is like NFP crack if you're
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    looking for a fiction book and I
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    completely lost track of time and the
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    weirdest part was that my lips burnt
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    really badly which like I did not know
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    could happen I didn't know you could
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    sunburn your lips but yeah they burnt
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    and then got like super dried out and it
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    was so weird and painful and also it
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    looked super distracting on video so I'm
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    recording this for the third time cuz
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    it's like mostly gone I've got like
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    still a little tiny patch of it um but
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    hopefully third time's a charm and this
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    works out this time and you're not
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    distracted by my red skin so this video
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    is by I'm not going to say popular
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    demand like one person asked me and I
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    was like yeah sure I'll make that video
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    because the other week I released a
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    video on ENFP productivity and someone
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    had requested if I could do the same
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    thing for infps and I figured that even
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    though enfps and infps share the same
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    cognitive functions so they all use fi
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    NE T and Si it would be useful to look
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    at what those cognitive functions look
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    like when they're in a slightly
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    different order which is how it works in
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    the in fp's brain so I made this promise
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    at the beginning of the ENFP video and
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    I'm going to do the same here that this
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    video is not going to be about trying to
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    hyper structure your life it's not going
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    to be an attempt to turn you into an
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    ESTJ because I think that the more
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    you're trying to model the behaviors of
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    a type that doesn't come naturally to
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    you the quicker you're going to burn
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    yourself out and if we're talking
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    productivity we have to talk about how
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    to not burn out and in order to not burn
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    out as an infp you have to learn how to
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    enjoy being productive okay because I
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    don't care what anyone says that is the
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    key to productivity for everyone the
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    reason that estjs and entjs are
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    hyperproductive is because they
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    genuinely enjoy the feeling of getting
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    stuff done and Crossing things off a
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    to-do list and planning for the days and
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    weeks and months and years ahead okay if
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    you enjoy that of course you're going to
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    do it all the time right but your
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    creative process is something totally
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    different and in order to be productive
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    you have to learn how to lean into that
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    process and how to structure your time
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    in a way that you actually really enjoy
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    and feel energized by or else you're
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    never going to get anything done so this
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    video is going to be about holistic
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    productivity and how to harness your
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    natural skills and abilities and
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    cognitive functions as an infp in order
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    to help you put some structure around
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    the things that feel really meaningful
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    for you so that you can get them done
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    and just produce more of whatever it is
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    that you love in your life because I
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    think that that should always be the end
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    goal by the way if you don't know what
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    I'm talking about when I say cognitive
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    functions I'm talking about the cast of
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    characters that make up your brain as an
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    infp so I do run a 6- week infp Soul
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    boot camp program where I introduce you
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    to introverted feeling extroverted
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    intuition introverted sensing and
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    extroverted thinking as little cartoon
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    characters that govern the inside of
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    your mind and we talk about things like
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    emotional intelligence goal setting
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    creativity and career and a whole range
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    of other things that infps tend to
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    either struggle with or just find really
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    interesting and the focus is to make you
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    feel more like yourself not less as is
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    the focus of this video so in the
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    interest of being productive with this
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    time let's start talking about what that
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    looks like for infps so there's this
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    quote that I dropped somewhere in the
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    middle of the ENFP video that I'm just
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    going to open with here I don't remember
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    where this quote comes from or who said
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    it unfortunately but it's the idea that
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    people who think they have a time
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    management problem usually don't have a
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    time management problem they have an
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    emotional management problem okay and
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    that doesn't mean that you have too many
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    emotions it doesn't mean your emotions
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    are too much it just means that
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    sometimes when we feel like we're unable
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    to complete the goals that we want to
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    complete or to structure our time
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    effectively the problem is actually that
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    we're not dealing with our emotions
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    effectively and we're not acknowledging
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    them in the proper way and we're not
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    giving them the seriousness that we need
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    to give them in order for those emotions
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    to kind of clear the way for us to focus
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    on other things so I think that what a
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    lot of infps naturally do when they're
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    trying to get themselves to like zero in
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    and get a bunch of work done is tell
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    themselves okay it's time to ignore my
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    emotions and that's actually the
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    complete opposite of what I'm going to
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    recommend that we start with when we
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    start talking about infps and
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    productivity so we have to look at
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    everything through the lens of how your
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    mind is made up right you are a dominant
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    introverted Feeler and what that means
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    is that you're very naturally and deeply
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    in tune with your subjective
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    interpretations of the world so what you
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    perceive to be good or bad just or
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    unjust interesting or uninteresting you
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    cannot turn off the part of your brain
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    that is constantly making subjective
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    value judgments about the world around
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    you and that's a wonderful thing that's
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    your superpower but it also means
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    sometimes when you sit down to work your
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    brain is screaming at you to emotionally
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    process something that really isn't
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    conducive to the work that you're trying
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    to do if at any point you need me I will
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    be here here I will also be here when
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    you don't need me important work meeting
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    love it time to think about the futility
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    of The Human Experience having a
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    completely normal conversation with a
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    stranger at a bus stop Don't Mind If I
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    Do interject with a fantasy about the
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    two of you marrying off the coast of
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    France in an off-white gwn with a flute
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    quartet Serena you from afar anyway what
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    can I say it's just what I do best and
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    the first thing I'm going to encourage
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    you to do is not to try to shut down
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    that part of your brain but to actually
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    bring it to the surface and validate it
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    so I am an anfp but inverted feeling is
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    very high up in my cognitive stacking as
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    well and something I like to do when I'm
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    sitting down and trying to get down to
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    work and I'm distracted by a lot of
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    emotions or thoughts is just write them
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    down on a piece of paper and then make
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    an appointment with myself to visit
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    those emotions properly at a time in the
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    day that is better for me okay and this
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    seems ridiculous it seems absolutely
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    ludicrous to like make an appointment
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    with yourself to think about your own
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    feelings but the problem is that
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    Emotions Don't Go away until we deal
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    with them because emotions are very
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    important Messengers for our brain right
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    they're how we evaluate the world around
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    us and how we should act and behave and
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    what we should focus our attention on so
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    if we just tell our emotions don't
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    bother me what happens our emotions just
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    get louder and louder and louder because
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    they have something valuable to say so
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    what can be helpful is just writing down
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    whatever thoughts or feelings are
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    distracting you and then looking at that
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    list validating it going yeah this is
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    some stuff I could really stand to sit
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    down with pay some attention to find
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    some solutions for between 3:00 and 3:20
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    I come back to this emotional experience
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    and I will think about it for a while
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    and then this is very important you have
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    to actually do it I don't care if by
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    3:00 you're not feeling that emotion
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    anymore you made an appointment with
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    yourself in order to build
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    accountability with yourself you have to
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    show up to that appointment if you check
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    in with yourself at 3: and your emotions
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    are like oh hey cool no no worries I
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    resolved that in the meantime we don't
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    need to worry about it that's cool you
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    can move on to the next thing but if you
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    tell yourself I'm going to check in with
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    myself at 3 and then you don't do it the
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    next day if you try this exercise again
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    guess what it's not going to work
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    because your unconscious brain goes you
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    never returned to this yesterday so now
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    I don't trust you when you tell me that
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    we're going to return to it later today
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    okay when you are validating your
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    emotional experience by telling it this
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    is important it's just not the right
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    time and then you actually make a point
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    to show up for yourself and process and
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    work with those emotions when it is time
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    you're going to start to build a sense
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    of trust with yourself and it will take
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    a bit of time but that sense of self
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    trust will eventually help you to quiet
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    your mind a little bit during the times
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    when you do really need to put something
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    aside mentally because you're not
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    telling yourself what you're thinking or
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    feeling is unimportant you're telling
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    yourself it is important and I am going
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    to deal with it and here's when and that
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    allows that part of you that maybe feels
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    a bit frantic or like there's something
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    really imminent to calm down and go okay
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    I'm going to be seen I'm going to be
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    heard I'm going to be dealt with and I
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    know exactly when so for now I can leave
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    this be and you'll find that if you
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    practice this over and over and over
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    again the more you build that self trust
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    the better it will work so that's tip
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    number one if you really need to put
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    some sort of emotion or thought to the
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    side temporarily make an appointment for
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    when you'll come back to that emotion or
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    thought and then go to the appointment
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    and do this as many times as you need to
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    but ideally you actually don't have to
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    put your emotions aside to get good work
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    done so that leads us to point number
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    two instead of trying to put aside your
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    introverted feeling in order to do work
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    literally learn to harness your
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    introverted feeling in order to improve
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    your experience with working and the way
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    that I recommend you do this is by
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    pairing your work with something that
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    already makes you feel really good so
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    the first part of doing this is figuring
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    out which negative emotions you already
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    have paired with certain work projects
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    so for myself I tend to procrastinate
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    the most and be the least productive
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    when I feel incompetent at something so
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    if I sit down and look at my work and
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    I'm like H I don't know what to write
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    for this chapter I don't know what to
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    say on this video I will go into
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    overwhelm mode okay and when I'm in that
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    mode it's really hard to be productive
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    and so to counter this I think to myself
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    what makes me feel competent naturally
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    what am I already good at
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    which things do I already pretty well
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    have down and how can I pair one of
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    those things with this assignment so for
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    example there are a couple of meals that
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    I know how to cook really really well
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    I've had a lot of practice my SI is
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    internalized exactly how many spices go
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    into the recipe and when and how long to
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    cook it for and when to check it and so
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    if I need to write a chapter that I'm
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    feeling not so confident about but I
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    have a time crunch I will go okay I'm
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    going to make this meal that I know I'm
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    really good at making while I'm writing
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    this chapter so I will season the
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    chicken pop it in the oven and then give
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    myself 20 minutes to just sit down and
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    write as much as I can as quickly as I
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    can take it out of the oven put in the
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    carrots sit down again write another
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    part of the chapter as quickly as I can
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    and this plays on two different things
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    right it plays on my extroverted
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    thinking a little bit because I'm giving
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    myself time frames to work within but
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    it's also allowing me to step into my
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    work with an energy of confidence
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    present because I'm doing something that
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    I know I do well and that I know I can
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    do well on autopilot and so my body is
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    now in confidence mode I'm feeling good
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    and capable which is the exact energy
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    that I need to feel in order to do my
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    work and for you maybe it's not cooking
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    maybe it's journaling maybe it's doing
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    something creative maybe it's going for
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    a walk through nature it can be
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    literally anything as long as it gets
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    you in that mode of feeling confident
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    capable or whatever else the emotional
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    antidote might be to the emotional
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    problem that is getting in the way of
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    you doing your work if your work
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    triggers feelings of stupidity do
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    something that makes you feel really
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    smart if your work makes you feel
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    stressed find something that makes you
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    feel relaxed and schedule work blocks in
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    between practicing that thing the idea
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    here is just to get your physiology
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    rewired in a way that kind of hijacks
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    your nervous system and allows you to
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    approach the work task with a new energy
  • 00:10:39
    it's like a fun symbiotic relationship
  • 00:10:41
    forming a lot of the time the problem is
  • 00:10:43
    not that you can't do something it's
  • 00:10:46
    just that you have forgotten the part of
  • 00:10:48
    yourself that is capable of doing that
  • 00:10:50
    so you just need to give yourself a
  • 00:10:51
    little reminder to get that person back
  • 00:10:53
    in business which kind of leads us to
  • 00:10:55
    the third productivity tip for fi which
  • 00:10:58
    is defining Yourself by the kind of
  • 00:11:00
    person you want to be rather than the
  • 00:11:03
    actions you take and this is a tactic
  • 00:11:05
    that I directly lifted from Atomic habit
  • 00:11:07
    so this is not my idea it is James
  • 00:11:09
    clear's idea he is a habit formation
  • 00:11:12
    expert and he talks a lot in his book
  • 00:11:14
    about how we stick with things the
  • 00:11:15
    hardest when we believe that they are in
  • 00:11:17
    line with our identity and this is your
  • 00:11:20
    superpower already as an infp okay you
  • 00:11:22
    are very in tune with who you are what
  • 00:11:24
    you like what you don't like what you're
  • 00:11:26
    interested in what you believe is right
  • 00:11:27
    or wrong how you Define yourself and how
  • 00:11:30
    you show up in the world is already what
  • 00:11:32
    you like to think about so we can now
  • 00:11:34
    take that natural tendency and apply it
  • 00:11:36
    to your work life if you are
  • 00:11:38
    continuously making long lists for
  • 00:11:40
    yourself and then not getting any of
  • 00:11:41
    them done it's probably because that
  • 00:11:43
    list is not aligned with the way that
  • 00:11:45
    you think of yourself you're trying to
  • 00:11:47
    act as though you're someone you're not
  • 00:11:49
    however you can change the way that you
  • 00:11:52
    start to think of yourself and then
  • 00:11:53
    those actions become a lot easier so
  • 00:11:55
    there is a quote from Atomic habits that
  • 00:11:57
    I really like that I'm going to read to
  • 00:11:58
    you verbatim
  • 00:12:00
    every action you take is a vote for the
  • 00:12:02
    type of person you wish to become so the
  • 00:12:05
    way that James Clear explains this is
  • 00:12:06
    instead of thinking about what you have
  • 00:12:08
    to get done or what items are on your
  • 00:12:09
    to-do list think about what kind of
  • 00:12:12
    person do I want to be and then your
  • 00:12:14
    action is a vote for or against that
  • 00:12:17
    kind of person so do I want to be a kind
  • 00:12:19
    of person who wakes up early well if I
  • 00:12:21
    were the kind of person who wakes up
  • 00:12:23
    early what would I do around 10: p.m.
  • 00:12:25
    each night would I start surfing the
  • 00:12:27
    internet or would I start powering down
  • 00:12:28
    to go to sleep so that I could wake up
  • 00:12:30
    sometime around 600 and that going to
  • 00:12:32
    bed early is a vote for the kind of
  • 00:12:34
    person you want to be when you wake up
  • 00:12:36
    at 600 the next morning that's a vote
  • 00:12:38
    for the kind of person you want to be
  • 00:12:40
    when you don't drink a coffee at 5:00
  • 00:12:42
    p.m. which I am tremendously guilty of
  • 00:12:45
    that is a vote for the kind of person
  • 00:12:47
    you want to be so it's not just about
  • 00:12:49
    what you're doing it's about the
  • 00:12:50
    identity that you're constructing for
  • 00:12:52
    yourself and what's nice about this is
  • 00:12:54
    that it takes the pressure off each
  • 00:12:55
    individual circumstance right let's say
  • 00:12:57
    you want to be the kind of person who is
  • 00:12:59
    very active in their day-to-day life you
  • 00:13:02
    don't have to have a great workout every
  • 00:13:03
    time you don't have to eat perfectly you
  • 00:13:06
    don't have to run the fastest every time
  • 00:13:08
    you go for a jog all you have to do is
  • 00:13:10
    show up again and again and again and
  • 00:13:12
    keep making tiny votes for the kind of
  • 00:13:15
    person you want to be and those votes
  • 00:13:17
    eventually accumulate into an identity
  • 00:13:20
    and once you identify with the actions
  • 00:13:22
    that you take you are much much more
  • 00:13:24
    likely to continue to take them because
  • 00:13:26
    we get very attached to our identities
  • 00:13:28
    especially when you have fi as your
  • 00:13:30
    dominant function so this is more of a
  • 00:13:32
    long-term strategy but when you're
  • 00:13:34
    looking at setting longer term goals
  • 00:13:37
    worry less about am I doing the hardest
  • 00:13:39
    workout every day am I showing up at the
  • 00:13:41
    absolute top of my game every time at
  • 00:13:42
    work am I getting to bed earlier and
  • 00:13:44
    earlier every night we don't have to do
  • 00:13:47
    everything 100% in order to be moving in
  • 00:13:50
    the direction of being the kind of
  • 00:13:52
    person who does this kind of thing a
  • 00:13:54
    person who is usually active could
  • 00:13:57
    probably skip a week of activity and
  • 00:13:58
    then get right back into it the next
  • 00:14:00
    week a person who generally wakes up
  • 00:14:03
    early probably sleeps in every once in a
  • 00:14:05
    while but they don't let that deter them
  • 00:14:07
    from getting back into their normal wake
  • 00:14:08
    up early habit as soon as they feel well
  • 00:14:10
    rested again if we were the kind of
  • 00:14:12
    person who did these things we wouldn't
  • 00:14:15
    have to do them every single day all of
  • 00:14:17
    the time we would just have to do them
  • 00:14:18
    more often than not and that takes a lot
  • 00:14:21
    of pressure off of our long-term goals
  • 00:14:23
    it becomes progress not Perfection okay
  • 00:14:26
    extroverted intuition is your second
  • 00:14:28
    cognitive function and this is the part
  • 00:14:29
    of your brain that really likes to cross
  • 00:14:32
    contextualize information hey guys what
  • 00:14:34
    are we doing in
  • 00:14:39
    here Fi Fi said that it would be fun if
  • 00:14:43
    we stayed up all night researching poly
  • 00:14:45
    vagel Theory and I mean you know I don't
  • 00:14:48
    think of time in a linear sense so I was
  • 00:14:51
    in so any likes to cast a very wide net
  • 00:14:55
    intellectually it likes to research a
  • 00:14:57
    lot of different theories understand
  • 00:14:58
    things from multiple different angles
  • 00:15:00
    and then it likes to cross reference all
  • 00:15:01
    of those ideas figure out which one of
  • 00:15:03
    these things is not like the others and
  • 00:15:05
    in which way and what is this beautiful
  • 00:15:07
    kind of pearl of wisdom that pulls it
  • 00:15:09
    all together and in order to
  • 00:15:10
    self-actualize in any form as an infp
  • 00:15:13
    you have to accept that that is how your
  • 00:15:15
    brain works you do not have that same
  • 00:15:17
    laser focus that other types might have
  • 00:15:19
    because your intellectual mind is kind
  • 00:15:21
    of more like a playground for you and
  • 00:15:23
    that's a wonderful thing work with that
  • 00:15:25
    okay so I was thinking about this when I
  • 00:15:26
    was babysitting my nieces I have three
  • 00:15:28
    nieces who are all under 10 years old
  • 00:15:30
    and if you want anyone between the ages
  • 00:15:31
    of like 1 and 10 to do absolutely
  • 00:15:34
    anything you have to make them think
  • 00:15:36
    that it was their idea and because your
  • 00:15:38
    brain as an NP type is kind of like a
  • 00:15:40
    child on a playground you have to treat
  • 00:15:42
    it the same way so if you tell your
  • 00:15:44
    extroverted intuition focus on one thing
  • 00:15:46
    it absolutely will not focus on that one
  • 00:15:48
    thing it will focus on that one thing
  • 00:15:49
    and also 10 other things that that thing
  • 00:15:51
    reminds it of okay cool let's work with
  • 00:15:54
    that like a child you have to give your
  • 00:15:56
    extroverted intuition options okay let
  • 00:15:59
    it feel like it has chosen what to focus
  • 00:16:01
    on so for NP types I actually really
  • 00:16:04
    highly recommend always having multiple
  • 00:16:07
    projects on the go deliberately to an
  • 00:16:09
    extent your brain just needs to jump
  • 00:16:11
    around that's how it works best so if
  • 00:16:13
    you have an option of three different
  • 00:16:15
    things you could work on it makes your
  • 00:16:16
    brain feel like it has some breathing
  • 00:16:18
    room okay if you sit down at your desk
  • 00:16:20
    in the morning and you go I have to do
  • 00:16:22
    this one thing what happens if you tell
  • 00:16:24
    a four-year-old that no even if that's
  • 00:16:25
    what they wanted to do they don't want
  • 00:16:26
    to do it cuz now they have to you can
  • 00:16:28
    treat your brain the same way tell it
  • 00:16:30
    you get to pick what we do this morning
  • 00:16:31
    here are three things I need to get done
  • 00:16:33
    where do you want to start and I really
  • 00:16:35
    encourage you to listen to your natural
  • 00:16:36
    energy here if you start on one task and
  • 00:16:38
    it's really really draining your energy
  • 00:16:40
    and you're really not getting where you
  • 00:16:42
    want to get to with it allow yourself to
  • 00:16:44
    switch Focus try task B and I recommend
  • 00:16:47
    that you don't pick let's say three
  • 00:16:49
    tasks that you have to get done for work
  • 00:16:51
    let one of them be a personal project or
  • 00:16:53
    a passion project and let yourself take
  • 00:16:55
    breaks and focus on that for a little
  • 00:16:57
    bit if that's what you need to put
  • 00:16:58
    yourself back in the zone giving
  • 00:16:59
    yourself permission to work on the thing
  • 00:17:01
    that you're not supposed to be working
  • 00:17:03
    on makes your brain feel kind of like
  • 00:17:04
    rebellious and excited and that puts you
  • 00:17:06
    in Creative Energy a lot of the time
  • 00:17:08
    right so if you let yourself Rebel a
  • 00:17:10
    little bit do some of that work you're
  • 00:17:12
    not supposed to be doing and then come
  • 00:17:14
    back to the work that you are supposed
  • 00:17:15
    to be doing you're probably going to
  • 00:17:17
    come back into it with a lot more energy
  • 00:17:19
    than you originally had so treat your
  • 00:17:21
    extroverted intuition like a child in a
  • 00:17:23
    playground give it lots of room to
  • 00:17:25
    explore give it lots of different
  • 00:17:26
    options for what it could focus on and
  • 00:17:28
    then let it take the resins because when
  • 00:17:30
    you let it do that playing and exploring
  • 00:17:32
    and experimenting it comes up with
  • 00:17:34
    absolutely brilliant results you just
  • 00:17:37
    have to let it run its natural course
  • 00:17:39
    with a little bit of Parental structure
  • 00:17:41
    in place next metaphor for extroverted
  • 00:17:44
    intuition because this is also the part
  • 00:17:45
    of your brain that is a metaphor junkie
  • 00:17:47
    is going to be treating your extroverted
  • 00:17:49
    intuition like a cake that you are
  • 00:17:51
    baking okay I made banana bread this
  • 00:17:54
    morning and the way that you make banana
  • 00:17:56
    bread like the way that you make any
  • 00:17:57
    loaf of bread is you put a whole bunch
  • 00:17:59
    of different things together and then
  • 00:18:01
    you mix them all together and then you
  • 00:18:02
    put it in an oven and some scientific
  • 00:18:04
    stuff that I don't understand happens
  • 00:18:06
    and then you take it out and it is in a
  • 00:18:07
    different and more digestible form and
  • 00:18:10
    this is also the way that you are going
  • 00:18:12
    to produce your best ideas as someone
  • 00:18:14
    who uses extroverted intuition step one
  • 00:18:16
    get all the right ingredients so so so
  • 00:18:19
    so so often when NP types are feeling
  • 00:18:23
    burnt out it's not an output problem
  • 00:18:25
    it's an input problem they are not
  • 00:18:27
    feeding their brains a wide enough
  • 00:18:29
    variety of information it's like trying
  • 00:18:31
    to make banana bread with only bananas
  • 00:18:33
    and baking powder okay that's not going
  • 00:18:35
    to give you a loaf you need to add more
  • 00:18:36
    things in so if you are feeling
  • 00:18:38
    creatively uninspired maybe you are not
  • 00:18:41
    feeding your brain enough new ideas and
  • 00:18:43
    theories and Concepts give yourself time
  • 00:18:45
    and space to fill your mind up with new
  • 00:18:47
    experiences new theories new thoughts
  • 00:18:50
    new emotions talk to different people
  • 00:18:52
    walk through different parts of your
  • 00:18:54
    city pick up a book on a topic that you
  • 00:18:55
    would normally never pick up feed your
  • 00:18:58
    brain a wide variety of things and then
  • 00:19:01
    you're going to pick which of those
  • 00:19:03
    things are going to be the ingredients
  • 00:19:05
    for whatever it is that you're trying to
  • 00:19:06
    work on and you're going to put those
  • 00:19:08
    things in an oven so here's how this
  • 00:19:10
    works extroverted intuition does not go
  • 00:19:13
    from brain to paper or from brain to
  • 00:19:15
    computer or from brain to meeting okay
  • 00:19:18
    extroverted intuition needs to work with
  • 00:19:20
    inverted sensing in order to figure out
  • 00:19:23
    what the best synthesis of ideas is so
  • 00:19:25
    you need to give your brain lots of
  • 00:19:27
    stimulation lots of different things to
  • 00:19:28
    to think about and then you need to find
  • 00:19:31
    some sort of practice for how you're
  • 00:19:33
    going to bring those ideas together and
  • 00:19:35
    produce something as a result of them so
  • 00:19:37
    I can't remember if this one is from
  • 00:19:38
    Atomic habits or deep work but one of
  • 00:19:41
    those two books recommends figuring out
  • 00:19:42
    what problem it is you're trying to
  • 00:19:44
    solve so let's say there's something at
  • 00:19:45
    work that you need to come up with a
  • 00:19:46
    solution to ask yourself the question
  • 00:19:49
    very intentionally spend a bit of time
  • 00:19:51
    brainstorming which things are related
  • 00:19:53
    to that thing and what concepts you need
  • 00:19:56
    to keep at the Forefront of your brain
  • 00:19:57
    in order to solve it it and then go for
  • 00:20:00
    a really long walk and just let your
  • 00:20:02
    mind passively focus on it so try to
  • 00:20:05
    keep your attention in the arena of this
  • 00:20:07
    problem that you're trying to solve and
  • 00:20:09
    continuously guide your attention back
  • 00:20:11
    to how could all of these different
  • 00:20:13
    things come together to form the
  • 00:20:15
    solution but Ponder this while you're
  • 00:20:17
    doing something else something very
  • 00:20:19
    calming that you can do on autopilot go
  • 00:20:21
    for a walk go for a drive do some
  • 00:20:23
    meditation and then sit silently with
  • 00:20:25
    the problem this is your version of
  • 00:20:27
    putting those ingredients for problem
  • 00:20:29
    solving into the oven and giving them
  • 00:20:31
    time to bake and you might find that the
  • 00:20:33
    more you practice this the more you
  • 00:20:35
    learn about how to improve that recipe
  • 00:20:38
    right so maybe you're out on a walk
  • 00:20:39
    thinking about this and realizing hey
  • 00:20:41
    I'm actually missing a bit of
  • 00:20:42
    information I should have read this book
  • 00:20:44
    before I tried to solve this problem or
  • 00:20:46
    maybe you're driving through your city
  • 00:20:47
    thinking about how you're going to solve
  • 00:20:49
    this problem and realizing I actually
  • 00:20:50
    need to give these ideas a little bit
  • 00:20:52
    more time to marinade just like pulling
  • 00:20:54
    something out of the oven and checking
  • 00:20:55
    to see if it's done you're going to
  • 00:20:57
    learn as you practice it how to optimize
  • 00:20:59
    this process and how much time you need
  • 00:21:01
    for various parts of it but the
  • 00:21:02
    important part is giving yourself those
  • 00:21:05
    ingredients and then finding a practice
  • 00:21:06
    that puts a little bit of pressure on
  • 00:21:08
    those ideas so that they bake themselves
  • 00:21:10
    into something that looks more like a
  • 00:21:11
    finished product and a lot of the time
  • 00:21:13
    that pressure is just the pressure of an
  • 00:21:15
    impending deadline right so if
  • 00:21:16
    something's due at 4 p.m. and you put it
  • 00:21:18
    in the oven at 10:00 might not have time
  • 00:21:20
    to cool before the deadline right so you
  • 00:21:21
    learn okay the next time I need to put
  • 00:21:23
    it in the oven the day before I need to
  • 00:21:25
    go do that process of active problem
  • 00:21:27
    solving a little bit before this project
  • 00:21:29
    is due but it's all about having a
  • 00:21:30
    process because if we don't have one
  • 00:21:32
    we're just eating different parts of the
  • 00:21:33
    batter and that's delicious but not
  • 00:21:35
    always the most productive so inverted
  • 00:21:38
    sensing so we've been don't want to in
  • 00:21:41
    when it comes to our work for a couple
  • 00:21:43
    weeks now have you guys noticed that
  • 00:21:45
    yeah I spend like 2 hours a day looking
  • 00:21:47
    up different careers on the internet
  • 00:21:49
    which is the exact same thing as
  • 00:21:51
    applying for jobs okay we'll Circle back
  • 00:21:54
    to that when we're in a better head
  • 00:21:55
    space but for now how about this I'll go
  • 00:21:58
    put some some towels in the dryer so
  • 00:21:59
    that they're nice and fluffy for when
  • 00:22:01
    the infp comes out of the shower and
  • 00:22:03
    then I'll help her prepare a healthy
  • 00:22:04
    smoothie put on some clean clothes and
  • 00:22:07
    then we'll find an excuse to leave work
  • 00:22:08
    midday and nap but this is the last time
  • 00:22:11
    that is so nice of you thank you SI I'm
  • 00:22:15
    here to take care of you guys inverted
  • 00:22:17
    sensing is the part of your brain that
  • 00:22:19
    checks in with your body and your
  • 00:22:21
    environment that keeps you aware of how
  • 00:22:22
    you're physically responding to the
  • 00:22:24
    things in your environment and that
  • 00:22:25
    helps you form reliable routines to
  • 00:22:28
    navigate the sensory world so in 2018 I
  • 00:22:31
    started studying neurolinguistic
  • 00:22:32
    programming and neurolinguistic
  • 00:22:34
    programming puts a huge emphasis on
  • 00:22:36
    figuring out what is triggering us in
  • 00:22:38
    our environment and when I say the word
  • 00:22:39
    trigger here I don't mean it like in the
  • 00:22:41
    sense of trauma work where something
  • 00:22:43
    really dramatically disregulated your
  • 00:22:44
    system okay I'm talking about really
  • 00:22:47
    really small scale triggers for example
  • 00:22:50
    opening up your computer and seeing 16
  • 00:22:52
    tabs could instantly trigger some sort
  • 00:22:54
    of thought that happens so quickly and
  • 00:22:56
    so unconsciously that you have noide
  • 00:22:58
    idea ever passed through your mind but
  • 00:23:00
    that thought may have been a judgment
  • 00:23:01
    about your ability to keep yourself
  • 00:23:03
    organized and on task and as soon as
  • 00:23:05
    you've made that judgment your body is
  • 00:23:07
    already responding to it right maybe
  • 00:23:09
    you're feeling dejected and full of
  • 00:23:11
    Shame and that shame makes you want to
  • 00:23:13
    go seek comfort so now you're getting
  • 00:23:14
    distracted and you're thinking about
  • 00:23:16
    what you're going to do for comfort and
  • 00:23:17
    this little tiny thing this tiny visual
  • 00:23:20
    trigger in your environment completely
  • 00:23:22
    changed your physiological State and
  • 00:23:24
    pulled your focus somewhere where you
  • 00:23:25
    never intended it to go and I did not
  • 00:23:27
    believe that tiny environmental things
  • 00:23:30
    made that much of a difference until I
  • 00:23:31
    started using NLP practices to work with
  • 00:23:34
    my own mind and realized oh my God these
  • 00:23:37
    things make a really big difference so
  • 00:23:39
    this one might actually be kind of fun
  • 00:23:41
    for you because introverted sensing is
  • 00:23:42
    your tertiary function as an infp and
  • 00:23:44
    you kind of enjoy using it and flexing
  • 00:23:46
    it a little bit and this is your
  • 00:23:47
    opportunity for you to get really really
  • 00:23:49
    well acquainted with what your
  • 00:23:51
    environmental triggers are so your
  • 00:23:53
    triggers can be anything you see hear
  • 00:23:56
    feel touch or taste so any parts of the
  • 00:23:59
    world that you take in through your five
  • 00:24:00
    senses can trigger a physiological and
  • 00:24:03
    mental response in you and if you want
  • 00:24:04
    to be more productive you have to figure
  • 00:24:07
    out what triggers you into an
  • 00:24:08
    unproductive thought pattern and what
  • 00:24:10
    triggers you into a productive thought
  • 00:24:12
    pattern and then you can optimize your
  • 00:24:14
    literal physical environment so that
  • 00:24:17
    you're being triggered more in the
  • 00:24:18
    direction of productivity than you are
  • 00:24:20
    in the direction of distraction so the
  • 00:24:22
    way that you do this is you first figure
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    out the path to productivity so all the
  • 00:24:27
    things that happen between you waking up
  • 00:24:29
    in the morning and you beginning to do
  • 00:24:30
    whatever kind of work it is that you're
  • 00:24:32
    trying to do and you physically not in
  • 00:24:34
    your mind do this literally with your
  • 00:24:35
    body in reality move through that
  • 00:24:38
    process so if you're someone who gets up
  • 00:24:40
    and commutes to work literally start in
  • 00:24:42
    your bed I purposely filmed this in my
  • 00:24:43
    bedroom because this is where my
  • 00:24:45
    productivity starts right at the
  • 00:24:46
    beginning of the day and figure out when
  • 00:24:48
    I wake up in the morning what do I see
  • 00:24:51
    what do I hear what do I smell what do I
  • 00:24:53
    taste what do I feel notice all of these
  • 00:24:55
    things and also notice what response you
  • 00:24:57
    have to each of them so for example I
  • 00:24:59
    wake up in the mornings and if my room
  • 00:25:01
    is messy automatically I have a
  • 00:25:03
    physiological response to that and I
  • 00:25:05
    feel scattered disordered things are out
  • 00:25:07
    of place I'm thinking about okay I need
  • 00:25:09
    to put this here and this here and oh I
  • 00:25:11
    can't believe I left that out I'm
  • 00:25:12
    already within seconds of waking up
  • 00:25:15
    feeling distracted judgmental towards
  • 00:25:17
    myself there's a feeling of stress in my
  • 00:25:19
    body and all of these things are already
  • 00:25:21
    pulling my focus away from what I want
  • 00:25:23
    to do that day so if I want to eliminate
  • 00:25:26
    this trigger I have to make sure that
  • 00:25:27
    before I go to bed bed each night my
  • 00:25:29
    room is in relatively good order and if
  • 00:25:31
    it isn't I have to at the least make an
  • 00:25:33
    appointment with myself so I know
  • 00:25:35
    exactly when I'm going to clean my room
  • 00:25:37
    so that I don't get distracted by
  • 00:25:38
    thoughts of it first thing in the
  • 00:25:39
    morning and then again I actually have
  • 00:25:41
    to show up to that appointment or else
  • 00:25:42
    this whole thing doesn't work so maybe
  • 00:25:44
    every day you get out of your house you
  • 00:25:45
    get into your car and you commute to
  • 00:25:47
    work and maybe you usually listen to the
  • 00:25:49
    radio and sometimes a song comes on that
  • 00:25:51
    triggers some old memory that puts you
  • 00:25:53
    into an emotional flashback and gets
  • 00:25:55
    your entire body reacting to an
  • 00:25:57
    emotional experience you're having that
  • 00:25:59
    you didn't plan or expect to have and
  • 00:26:01
    maybe by the time you show up to work
  • 00:26:03
    your mood and your entire physiological
  • 00:26:05
    state is actually just a response to
  • 00:26:06
    whatever music you listen to on the way
  • 00:26:08
    over but what if you could mediate that
  • 00:26:10
    what if you could make a certain
  • 00:26:11
    playlist or plan to listen to an audio
  • 00:26:13
    book that you knew was going to keep you
  • 00:26:15
    fairly regulated and fairly focused you
  • 00:26:17
    would be eliminating an unpredictable
  • 00:26:20
    environmental trigger now as soon as you
  • 00:26:22
    sit down at your desk what are you
  • 00:26:23
    seeing hearing feeling tasting and
  • 00:26:25
    touching some of these things are going
  • 00:26:27
    to be within your control and some of
  • 00:26:28
    them are going to be out of your control
  • 00:26:30
    but step one is just developing a really
  • 00:26:32
    deep awareness of which things in your
  • 00:26:35
    environment make you feel which way so I
  • 00:26:37
    don't know if any of you have read Marie
  • 00:26:39
    condo's books I actually haven't but I
  • 00:26:41
    have heard rumor that she might be an
  • 00:26:43
    infp I have no idea if that's true but I
  • 00:26:45
    do think that her philosophy is actually
  • 00:26:48
    very very infp looking at what sparks
  • 00:26:50
    Joy right there's something very real to
  • 00:26:52
    that it is using introverted sensing to
  • 00:26:54
    tune into your body's Sensations in
  • 00:26:56
    response to your Environmental stimuli
  • 00:26:59
    and then checking in on how is this
  • 00:27:01
    being processed in my introverted
  • 00:27:02
    feeling and that's kind of what you need
  • 00:27:04
    to do in order to figure out which
  • 00:27:06
    environmental cues are sparking
  • 00:27:08
    productivity and which ones are sparking
  • 00:27:11
    distraction so I know for myself without
  • 00:27:13
    a shadow of a doubt that if I wake up in
  • 00:27:15
    the morning and check my phone right
  • 00:27:16
    away instantly my productivity is going
  • 00:27:19
    out the window do I still do it most
  • 00:27:20
    mornings yeah but if I want to be
  • 00:27:22
    hyperproductive one day I know that not
  • 00:27:25
    checking my phone when I wake up is a
  • 00:27:27
    really good way to get myself in the
  • 00:27:29
    zone because I can bypass a distraction
  • 00:27:31
    trigger so if I have a day where it's
  • 00:27:33
    super important that I don't get
  • 00:27:34
    distracted I have to make sure my house
  • 00:27:36
    is clean before I go to sleep I wake up
  • 00:27:38
    in an uncluttered space I don't check my
  • 00:27:41
    phone I don't even turn on my internet
  • 00:27:42
    in the best case scenario I just sit
  • 00:27:44
    down at my desk right away and begin
  • 00:27:46
    writing and a kind of fun experiment to
  • 00:27:48
    play is to try to reverse this process
  • 00:27:50
    and think to yourself if I wanted to be
  • 00:27:52
    as distracted as humanly possible what
  • 00:27:54
    would I do and figure out every single
  • 00:27:56
    thing in your environment that you could
  • 00:27:58
    do to take your focus away from your
  • 00:28:00
    work so I would wake up and I would have
  • 00:28:02
    a super messy room and I would not have
  • 00:28:04
    figured out what I was going to wear
  • 00:28:05
    that morning so I would try on 25
  • 00:28:07
    different outfits and then I would sit
  • 00:28:09
    down at my computer and open up a whole
  • 00:28:10
    bunch of different internet tabs and I
  • 00:28:12
    would look at airbnbs in foreign
  • 00:28:14
    countries for a while and then I would
  • 00:28:16
    find the book that i' left half open on
  • 00:28:17
    my desk from the night before and I
  • 00:28:19
    would start reading a new chapter of the
  • 00:28:20
    book and then I would answer some text
  • 00:28:22
    messages from people and then I would
  • 00:28:23
    probably turn on a playlist and get
  • 00:28:25
    distracted by some feelings i' left
  • 00:28:26
    unprocessed and then I would obsess over
  • 00:28:29
    what I was going to eat for lunch for a
  • 00:28:30
    little while and by this point I would
  • 00:28:32
    have successfully wasted most of the
  • 00:28:34
    morning and all of those things are tiny
  • 00:28:36
    environmental triggers that I could have
  • 00:28:38
    avoided I could have cleaned my room
  • 00:28:40
    picked out what I was going to wear the
  • 00:28:41
    night before not put on music not open
  • 00:28:44
    the tabs already decided what I was
  • 00:28:46
    going to have for lunch and that would
  • 00:28:47
    have given me my entire morning back so
  • 00:28:49
    taking some time to just be aware of
  • 00:28:52
    what as many as possible of those tiny
  • 00:28:54
    environmental triggers are for you
  • 00:28:57
    allows you to design a routine for
  • 00:28:59
    yourself where you are bypassing as many
  • 00:29:01
    of the distraction triggers as possible
  • 00:29:03
    and where you're optimizing the
  • 00:29:05
    productivity triggers so a morning where
  • 00:29:07
    you wake up don't check your phone
  • 00:29:08
    already have your clothes picked out
  • 00:29:10
    don't listen to music that derails you
  • 00:29:11
    open your computer and figure out that
  • 00:29:13
    you already cleared all your tabs the
  • 00:29:14
    night before and now the only thing
  • 00:29:16
    that's open on your computer is the
  • 00:29:18
    blank Word document that you need to
  • 00:29:19
    start writing in okay environmental
  • 00:29:21
    design goes really really far when it
  • 00:29:23
    comes to intered sensing so why not Flex
  • 00:29:26
    that muscle that you enjoy flexing and
  • 00:29:28
    work with rather than against yourself
  • 00:29:30
    when it comes to designing your
  • 00:29:31
    environment okay the one that we are all
  • 00:29:34
    excited for extroverted thinking or te I
  • 00:29:36
    just made a rule that the infp isn't
  • 00:29:38
    allowed to shower until she works out
  • 00:29:40
    and then I turned the neuroticism volume
  • 00:29:42
    up on that rule to like 200% works every
  • 00:29:45
    time look I'm not trying to cause any
  • 00:29:47
    trouble I know you guys are busy I just
  • 00:29:49
    I organized a few agenda items that I
  • 00:29:52
    thought maybe we could go over together
  • 00:29:54
    I'm open to hearing them out great okay
  • 00:29:57
    so first first of all uh last week the
  • 00:30:00
    constructive criticism that we got from
  • 00:30:01
    the infp's mom look fi I know that it
  • 00:30:04
    was hurtful yeah but she's not wrong we
  • 00:30:08
    probably should be showering more than
  • 00:30:10
    two to three times a week okay it's like
  • 00:30:13
    you didn't even hear what I said so
  • 00:30:15
    extroverted thinking is your inferior
  • 00:30:17
    cognitive function as an infp which
  • 00:30:19
    means it's the one that you prefer to
  • 00:30:20
    use the least out of the four functions
  • 00:30:22
    that you do prefer so extroverted
  • 00:30:24
    thinking is never going to look the same
  • 00:30:26
    in you as it does isn't an ESTJ or istj
  • 00:30:29
    or entj or inj or any of the other types
  • 00:30:32
    who prefer to use it as one of their top
  • 00:30:34
    couple of functions but this is the
  • 00:30:36
    cognitive function that really likes to
  • 00:30:38
    put things in order to make plans and
  • 00:30:40
    schedules to keep you on track with your
  • 00:30:41
    goals and to structure your time
  • 00:30:44
    effectively now as an infp you might
  • 00:30:46
    feel like having overly rigid plans or
  • 00:30:49
    structuring your time too much really
  • 00:30:51
    impedes upon your ability to feel
  • 00:30:52
    creative and free and happy in life and
  • 00:30:55
    so I do not encourage you to overly
  • 00:30:58
    structure your time in fact I think that
  • 00:31:01
    infps put too much pressure on
  • 00:31:04
    themselves to do this okay so something
  • 00:31:05
    that I've noticed as with any inferior
  • 00:31:07
    function is that infps tend to overdo
  • 00:31:11
    their extroverted thinking when they
  • 00:31:12
    decide to start working with it and it's
  • 00:31:14
    not just I'm going to think about what
  • 00:31:16
    I'm going to do today it's I'm going to
  • 00:31:17
    plan out the next six months of my life
  • 00:31:19
    and I'm going to have a rigid
  • 00:31:21
    week-by-week schedule and I'm going to
  • 00:31:23
    have absolutely every project lined out
  • 00:31:25
    and I am never going to miss a deadline
  • 00:31:27
    and I'm going to work really
  • 00:31:28
    consistently towards this stuff and then
  • 00:31:29
    the moment that that motivation wains
  • 00:31:32
    and introverted feeling is no longer on
  • 00:31:33
    board the entire plan goes out the
  • 00:31:35
    window because the plan feels super
  • 00:31:37
    overwhelming so the idea here is to
  • 00:31:40
    avoid productivity dysmorphia okay so
  • 00:31:43
    avoid that fantasy where you're turning
  • 00:31:45
    yourself into an entj and suddenly being
  • 00:31:47
    nothing but productive all of the time
  • 00:31:49
    that will not work for you okay it's
  • 00:31:51
    like telling an intern who just started
  • 00:31:53
    at the company that they're now the CEO
  • 00:31:55
    that is going to be a disaster and
  • 00:31:56
    they're going to quit and if you try to
  • 00:31:58
    make extroverted thinking the CEO of
  • 00:32:00
    your life that is going to be a disaster
  • 00:32:02
    and it is going to quit so you have to
  • 00:32:04
    train it to fulfill the duties of being
  • 00:32:06
    an intern first there is a certain high
  • 00:32:09
    that you get from using extroverted
  • 00:32:11
    thinking right so the reason that you
  • 00:32:12
    sometimes like to plan and structure
  • 00:32:14
    your life so intensely is because you
  • 00:32:16
    get this really good feeling from doing
  • 00:32:17
    it but you can get that same feeling
  • 00:32:20
    from doing very small extroverted
  • 00:32:22
    thinking tasks you just have to figure
  • 00:32:24
    out what those are you will be
  • 00:32:26
    productive if it feels good to be but
  • 00:32:28
    the reason that you're often not
  • 00:32:30
    productive is because you set too big of
  • 00:32:32
    goals and then you don't feel the payoff
  • 00:32:34
    of reaching them but if you're to start
  • 00:32:36
    setting very small very achievable goals
  • 00:32:39
    then you're going to start getting that
  • 00:32:40
    Rush of dopamine from completing them
  • 00:32:42
    and then you're going to want to do more
  • 00:32:44
    of that and this is the process of
  • 00:32:46
    beginning an upward spiral right so you
  • 00:32:48
    don't even need to be focusing on let's
  • 00:32:50
    say the work task that you want to get
  • 00:32:51
    done in order to get the ball rolling
  • 00:32:53
    here you can wake up in the morning walk
  • 00:32:55
    into your kitchen and go I'm going to
  • 00:32:56
    put 10 things in in the dishwasher put
  • 00:32:58
    10 things in and then notice how you
  • 00:33:00
    feel looking around the kitchen and
  • 00:33:02
    seeing it be slightly cleaner than it
  • 00:33:03
    was 30 seconds ago that's going to give
  • 00:33:05
    you a little hit of that extroverted
  • 00:33:07
    thinking dopamine rush if you want to
  • 00:33:09
    get started on exercise just do 30
  • 00:33:11
    Jumping Jacks and then check in and see
  • 00:33:13
    how you feel after the important part is
  • 00:33:16
    to have that moment after you complete
  • 00:33:19
    every small task where you check in with
  • 00:33:21
    yourself and really anchor yourself in
  • 00:33:24
    that feeling of Pride accomplishment and
  • 00:33:26
    excitement about but what you could do
  • 00:33:28
    next that is that dopamine Rush that
  • 00:33:31
    entjs and estjs live off of you just
  • 00:33:33
    have to make it appropriately sized for
  • 00:33:35
    where extroverted thinking is in your
  • 00:33:37
    stacking now this doesn't mean you can't
  • 00:33:39
    take on very big goals it just means
  • 00:33:42
    that for you those goals have to be
  • 00:33:43
    broken way way way way way way way down
  • 00:33:47
    into little tiny itty bitty tasks that
  • 00:33:49
    you complete in tiny increments getting
  • 00:33:51
    that little tiny hit that keeps you
  • 00:33:53
    going every step of the way you're
  • 00:33:55
    training an intern not a CEO so again
  • 00:33:57
    usually when I talk to ifp types so
  • 00:33:59
    infps or isfps they're down on
  • 00:34:01
    themselves for not having big enough
  • 00:34:03
    goals but a lot of the time I find it's
  • 00:34:05
    the complete opposite they have bigger
  • 00:34:06
    goals than anyone else they just haven't
  • 00:34:09
    trained themsel to get there in tiny
  • 00:34:12
    little increments and that's what you
  • 00:34:13
    have to do in order for your te to
  • 00:34:15
    finally reach those overarching goals
  • 00:34:17
    right none of them are too big for you
  • 00:34:19
    it's just that you need the process and
  • 00:34:21
    you need to use your te in the position
  • 00:34:23
    that it's in in order to eventually
  • 00:34:25
    arrive there and this requires you
  • 00:34:27
    making friends with your extroverted
  • 00:34:28
    thinking okay don't think of it as this
  • 00:34:30
    monster that is trying to suck all of
  • 00:34:32
    the fun and creativity and joy out of
  • 00:34:34
    your life think of it as the banks of a
  • 00:34:36
    river that gives the water somewhere to
  • 00:34:38
    flow your fi is always going to be that
  • 00:34:41
    creative energetic force in your life
  • 00:34:44
    but if you don't give it any boundaries
  • 00:34:46
    to function within it can't do what it
  • 00:34:48
    naturally wants to do which is get into
  • 00:34:50
    that flow State te is just about
  • 00:34:53
    structuring your environment just enough
  • 00:34:56
    to allow your fi to get into that flow
  • 00:34:58
    because if your fi is distracted by
  • 00:35:00
    thoughts about how disorganized your
  • 00:35:02
    life is it's really hard to get it into
  • 00:35:04
    that flow right te is the thing that
  • 00:35:06
    allows your fi to do more of its good
  • 00:35:10
    work not less okay you're not supposed
  • 00:35:12
    to be replacing your fi with te you're
  • 00:35:14
    supposed to be using your te to give a
  • 00:35:17
    little bit of structure to the things
  • 00:35:18
    that don't matter as much so that your
  • 00:35:20
    fi can focus really intensely on what
  • 00:35:23
    does matter and sometimes that's just a
  • 00:35:25
    matter of what you're noticing so Eric
  • 00:35:27
    burn who spearheaded the field of
  • 00:35:28
    transactional analysis which if you are
  • 00:35:30
    ever looking for some brain candy is a
  • 00:35:32
    really fun field to explore you have to
  • 00:35:34
    take his work with a grain of salt cuz
  • 00:35:35
    he wrote it back in like the 60s or 70s
  • 00:35:37
    so it's a little on the like sexist and
  • 00:35:40
    homophobic side of things but if you
  • 00:35:42
    cannot throw the baby out with a bath
  • 00:35:43
    water there a lot of his ideas are super
  • 00:35:45
    super interesting about how humans
  • 00:35:47
    interact with each other and all of the
  • 00:35:48
    kind of subtext that's going on beneath
  • 00:35:50
    the surface of normal day-to-day
  • 00:35:52
    conversations but anyway he talks about
  • 00:35:54
    different needs that we have as humans
  • 00:35:56
    as different types of hunger so so we
  • 00:35:57
    have things like recognition hunger
  • 00:35:59
    sexual hunger contact hunger but one of
  • 00:36:02
    the hungers he talks about that I think
  • 00:36:03
    is really cool is structure hunger so he
  • 00:36:06
    says that all of us want to feel like
  • 00:36:07
    we're living a meaningful life and in
  • 00:36:09
    order to feel like we're living a
  • 00:36:10
    meaningful life we have to feel like
  • 00:36:12
    we're using our time in the right ways
  • 00:36:14
    and when we don't feel like we're using
  • 00:36:15
    our time in the right ways we start to
  • 00:36:17
    feel like we're wasting our life we're
  • 00:36:19
    wasting our time we're wasting our
  • 00:36:21
    emotional energy and we get what he
  • 00:36:23
    calls structure hunger so just like
  • 00:36:25
    literal hunger in our body alerts us to
  • 00:36:27
    the fact that it's time to eat some food
  • 00:36:29
    structure hunger that feeling of I'm
  • 00:36:31
    wasting my time and my life and my
  • 00:36:33
    emotional energy wakes us up to that
  • 00:36:35
    need to put some boundaries around our
  • 00:36:37
    time so that we can let that beautiful
  • 00:36:40
    deep rich sense of meaning that comes
  • 00:36:42
    out of our inverted feeling to flourish
  • 00:36:45
    and I think that NPS are almost
  • 00:36:47
    perpetually in a state of structure
  • 00:36:49
    hunger when we don't learn to structure
  • 00:36:51
    our time effectively because we
  • 00:36:52
    automatically identify that feeling as a
  • 00:36:54
    negative thing we just use it to make
  • 00:36:56
    judgments about ourselves and think oo
  • 00:36:58
    I'm feeling lethargic and unaccomplished
  • 00:37:00
    time to beat myself up but what that is
  • 00:37:02
    is a hunger in you it is your mind
  • 00:37:05
    calling you to put some loving structure
  • 00:37:07
    around your behavior to give yourself
  • 00:37:10
    more choices more opportunities to do
  • 00:37:12
    creative work that feels really really
  • 00:37:14
    meaningful for you because you've put
  • 00:37:16
    all of the less important stuff on
  • 00:37:17
    autopilot if you can learn to tune in to
  • 00:37:20
    your hunger for structure recognize it
  • 00:37:23
    when it comes up and then feed yourself
  • 00:37:25
    that sense of structure the same way you
  • 00:37:27
    would feed yourself a healthy meal
  • 00:37:29
    you'll find that the hunger goes away
  • 00:37:31
    and what takes its place is this
  • 00:37:33
    beautiful feeling of creative fullness
  • 00:37:35
    creative satiation and if there is
  • 00:37:37
    anything on Earth that I wish for infps
  • 00:37:39
    and enfps it is not a hyper rigid hyper
  • 00:37:42
    structured lifestyle it is a feeling of
  • 00:37:44
    deep personal interpersonal and creative
  • 00:37:48
    fulfillment and everything you do to
  • 00:37:50
    structure your time should always serve
  • 00:37:52
    the eventual end goal of getting you
  • 00:37:54
    there okay I think that is all that I
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    have have for today also quick reminder
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    that I do run six week soulle boot camp
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    virtual courses for infp personality
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    types I will put the link in this
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    description if you want to talk more
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    about how to optimize your cognitive
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    functions it is a resource that's
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    designed to help you do exactly that so
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    if that interests you you can check it
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    out below but also make sure that you
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    are dropping in the comments any
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    productivity tips that you have as an
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    infp that have helped you work better
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    because I think the more that we can
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    share and learn from each other the
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    better so I know that on the ENFP video
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    we had some really helpful comments get
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    left I would love to see those here as
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    well and as always I hope you guys are
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    doing awesome I love you so much and
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    provided I do not get another sunburn I
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    will see you next week
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    [Music]
Tag
  • INFP
  • Productivity
  • Emotional Management
  • Holistic Productivity
  • Cognitive Functions
  • Extroverted Intuition
  • Self-identity
  • Environment Triggers
  • Introverted Feeling
  • Goal Setting