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this is you and this is the girl you
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like and this is her heart if this heart
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has a lock then in today's video I will
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give you the key if you zoom out and
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look at all the girls in this world and
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how their lives are you will notice one
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common thing that repeats a lot most of
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the ads they receive on their phones are
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for things like weight loss skin care or
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makeup you'll see that a girl from the
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moment she wakes up in the morning and
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looks in the mirror can spend hours and
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hours in front of it putting on makeup
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and taking care of her appearance they
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spend tons of money on their looks and
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on appearing be beautiful why do you
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think they do that because all girls
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share one common trait they want to gain
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the approval of others this trait is an
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instinct deeply rooted in the genes of
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all women living on this planet so as a
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man if you can feed this Instinct it
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means the woman becomes yours and if
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you've been following this series on how
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to attract women for a while you've
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probably heard me say this many times if
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you make a woman strive to gain your
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approval it means she's yours this rule
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is the key to every girl's heart and
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this rule is the subject of today's
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video today I will explain to you how to
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do it in short what you need to do when
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you're talking to a girl is to put her
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in a state where she is the one who
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wants to gain your approval now many
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people will hear this sentence and feel
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intimidated thinking it's very difficult
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well I have good news and bad news for
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you the good news is that this is one of
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the easiest things you can do to make a
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girl want to gain your approval because
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this instinct is already within her just
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like ads can easily trick girls into
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spending their entire salaries on makeup
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and beauty products you can easily make
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girls want to gain your approval because
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it's naturally grained in them all you
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have to do is go with the flow not
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against it the bad news is that to do
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this you have to watch this video to the
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end and give me 10 minutes of your life
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so how do you put a girl in this state
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where she wants to gain your approval
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there's a fundamental rule we need to
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start with something related to your
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mindset that is essential to understand
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before discussing the method we'll use
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to put her in this state let me explain
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by giving you an example imagine I go up
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to someone and start saying I'm awesome
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I'm rich I'm famous I'm smart and then
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they respond by saying I'm awesome I'm
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rich I'm famous I'm smart how would I
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feel in this situation I wouldn't like
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it I'm giving you the ball and you're
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just throwing it back at me in this case
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neither I would admire you nor would you
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admire me as humans in our emotional
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relationships there's always one party
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striving to gain the others approval and
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I know as a man you might say now no if
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I like her and she likes me we can both
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try to impress each other but here
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you're talking to me logically women
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don't operate on logic in relationships
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dating in general is something illogical
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it's governed by emotion this is a rule
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I want you to keep in mind for the rest
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of your life relationships are a field
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governed by emotion therefore the first
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thing is that you should not try to
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impress the Girl by the way if you've
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been following the how to attract women
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series you'll find that this is one of
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the first things I've told you because
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one of the most attractive traits in a
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man to a woman is that he isn't overly
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concerned with gaining her approval the
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problem you might face now when you hear
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this advice is that if you're not
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someone used to talking to girls often
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the moment you start talking to a girl
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you'll forget every everything I told
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you today and start trying to impress
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her this happens because the modern
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world has placed such a high value on
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women making you feel like she's better
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than you and that you need to earn her
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approval consequently your subconscious
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mind is programmed to carry out this
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Behavior now to counteract this
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subconscious programming and apply what
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I've just told you you need to
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understand something that exists within
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you this is an internal pressure this
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pressure drives you to want to gain the
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girl's approval the next time you talk
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to a beautiful girl I want you to try
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what I'm about to tell you when you're
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talking try to think about this feeling
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that arises within you the feeling of
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wanting to impress her you'll feel an
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internal pressure and this pressure
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pushes you toward trying to gain her
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approval you'll feel it and the first
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step to overcoming it is to acknowledge
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it you need to be aware of it because
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once you're aware of it you can control
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how to direct it listen to me carefully
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now I'm going to dive into your mind and
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explain how it works that pressure you
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feel drives you to act in a certain way
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this action might be telling her I'm
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awesome or showing her in one way or
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another that you're special now if you
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try to change this action your fail the
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moment you start talking to the girl
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you'll forget everything what you need
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to do is redirect this pressure in other
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words you need to shift the arrow of
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this Behavior so that you don't try to
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impress her how imagine you approach a
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girl and start talking to her you'll
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feel that pressure urging you to try to
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impress her at that moment what I want
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you to do is think and tell yourself if
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I want to impress her I must not try to
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impress her I know this might sound a
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bit confusing but if you can make this
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shift in your mindset you'll overcome
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this pressure and please trust me you
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won't realize the value of this exercise
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until you try it yourself so when you
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feel that internal pressure urging you
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to impress the girl think and say to
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yourself to impress her I must not try
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to impress her and of course with time
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this process will become automatic and
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you won't even have to think about it
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when you stop trying to gain her
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approval you give her the space to want
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to gain your approval what you need to
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do now is push her into that state so
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how do you do this listen to me
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carefully now our recipe consists of two
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ingredients not giving her validation
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while at the same time telling her what
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you like in a girl don't worry I'll
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explain everything in detail and it will
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all become clear to you the first point
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is to not give her validation
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immediately do you remember what I told
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you at the beginning of the video a
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woman is a being who craves admiration
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and validation this is something
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ingrained in her jeans now for her to
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want to earn your validation you must
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first not give it to her easily why
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because from the start she will try to
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earn your approval and if you give it to
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her immediately it ends the game meaning
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don't like every post she shares on
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Instagram don't comment on everything
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she posts and don't appear obsessed with
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her but before we dive deeper into this
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point let me explain the entire recipe
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so you have a clear understanding and
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then we'll move on to the application
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you must not give her validation and at
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the same time you need to tell her what
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you like in a girl's personality and
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appearance when you do this what happens
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to her first when she sees that you're
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not giving her validation her internal
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instincts kick in she starts thinking
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why isn't he giving me validation I need
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to make him admire me how do I make him
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admire me I have to do what he said he
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likes and girls in other words she tells
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us herself to get his approval I have to
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do what he likes then she starts doing
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the things you like when she does this
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she automatically enters a state where
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she's trying to gain your admiration
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these two points must be combined
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together so to make this recipe work you
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need to know how to cook it there are
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certain rules you must follow the first
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condition is that when you tell her what
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you like in a girl for example that you
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like girls who wear dresses instead of
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pants or introverted girls or social
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ones or those who don't wear too much
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makeup a small portion of what you like
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should already exist in her but not
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everything meaning 40% of the things you
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like should be present in her and 60%
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should not in other words don't make it
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seem like you don't like anything about
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her because that would make you appear
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intolerable and insincere look you need
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to understand something important about
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girls when a girl is attractive almost
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anything she does gets validation from
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men let's say a girl wears a shirt any
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guy who talks to her will tell her the
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shirt looks good on her so when you
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don't give her validation and tell her
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instead that you like girls who wear
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dresses she'll start thinking why isn't
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he giving me validation I need to make
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him admire me how can I do that I need
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to do what he said he likes and girls in
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other words she tells herself to get his
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approval I need to do what he likes
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let's say you and three other guys are
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standing with an attractive girl this
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girl wants to earn everyone's admiration
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because that's her nature if she wears a
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shirt all those guys will give her
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validation but you won't however if she
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wears a dress you will give her
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validation while the others will still
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give her validation regardless because
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they don't understand what I'm
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explaining to you now so the the way to
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make her nurture that instinct within
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her the desire to gain everyone's
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admiration is by wearing a dress and
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since you're the one who influenced her
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to wear the dress you become the person
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out of all the others who put her in the
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state of wanting to win your admiration
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and just like that the girl becomes
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yours anyway this is the first condition
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40% of the things you like should
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already be present in her and 60% should
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not the second condition is that when
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you talk and express what you like you
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must speak in a general way and your
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words should only reflect your opinion
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nothing more for example if you're
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talking and you say I like girls with
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short hair don't follow that up with you
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should cut your hair or say I like the
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collar green don't say wear green you
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should simply express your opinion and
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nothing more at the same time don't
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convey it in a way that implies your
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asking her to do this thing for you to
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accept her this is a mistake I used to
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make and I urge you not to make it as
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well in other words don't give her the
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impression that you're telling her what
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you like so she can do it and earn your
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approval becoming your girlfriend when
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you talk you should only convey that
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you're expressing your opinion Nothing
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More by the way the ability to express
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yourself is an essential skill for
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attracting women and people in general
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it's one of the keys to Charisma I plan
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to make a dedicated video about how to
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express yourself as part of a social
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skills Series in summary when you say
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what you like talk casually and don't
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direct your words at her specifically
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when she hears this she will
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automatically start applying it to
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herself for example if you say I don't
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like girls who smoke or I like organized
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people and she hears this this she'll
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start thinking to herself he doesn't
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like my posts he doesn't comment on them
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and he doesn't show interest in me
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because I don't have the qualities he
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likes then she'll start doing the things
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you like to gain your approval the third
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condition is to not react to anything
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she does simply because she did it let
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me explain this with an example that
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happened to me some time ago one day I
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was out with a friend in a group that
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included other guys and girls my friend
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and I were talking and a beautiful girl
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joined us and started talking at one
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point my friend and I were in the middle
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of a conversation
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and this girl said something I don't
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remember exactly what it was but it was
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a dull and boring joke yet as soon as my
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friend heard it he stopped talking to me
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looked at her and started laughing by
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himself what did he do in this situation
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he reacted to the girl even though she
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didn't say anything worth reacting to
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simply because she was beautiful this is
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a mistake I see many men making don't
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react to a girl just because she says or
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does something in the example I
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mentioned the correct Behavior would
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have been for my friend to ignore what
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the girl said glance at her Bria briefly
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and then return to talking to me as if
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nothing happened in other words don't
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laugh at anything a girl says if you're
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on a date or talking and she says
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something dull or silly don't laugh I
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know you as a man think logically and
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worry that if you don't laugh she'll
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feel embarrassed or uncomfortable but
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the truth is yes she should feel
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embarrassed and a little uncomfortable
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to be attracted to you if she says
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something and it doesn't make you laugh
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don't laugh remember me and understand
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this clearly don't laugh not everything
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a girl does is worth reacting to of
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course if she says something genuinely
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good or remarkable there's no problem in
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reacting to it by doing this the girl
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will understand that you're not
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impressed by just anything she says or
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does for her to earn your admiration
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there must be genuinely good things in
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her personality or behavior never let a
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girl feel that anything she does will
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impress you this is golden advice I want
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you to remember for the rest of your
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life always convey to her that your
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admiration requires her to have unique
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and exceptional qualities the fourth
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condition is curiosity what does that
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mean this is something related to your
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mindset and you need to understand it
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imagine you meet a girl and start asking
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her questions to get to know her the way
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you ask should come from a place of
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curiosity not admiration for example
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when talking to a girl and asking her
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about her job you should not ask because
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you admire her or want to get to know
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her better no you should ask out of
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curiosity as if you haven't yet decided
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whether or not you admire her this
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should be reflected in your body
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language and tone don't approach her
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with an overly eager smile and say
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enthusiastically what's your job speak
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with body language that shows your
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asking purely out of curiosity it's hard
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to explain this in detail but what I
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want you to do is this whenever you ask
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a girl something or try to get to know
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her or talk to her remember me and feel
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internally that you're asking only out
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of curiosity try to change your internal
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intention this feeling will
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automatically reflect in your behavior
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by the way since we're talking about
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this topic I want to share something
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very important that I've wanted to say
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for a while never put yourself in a
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position where a girl interrogates you
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this happens a lot especially early in
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conversations with a girl you'll find
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her asking you a question and you start
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answering and explaining yourself then
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she asks another question and you keep
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talking this is a mistake please don't
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fall into it don't let the girl take the
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lead by questioning you doing so gives
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her control of the conversation and
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makes her judge you which goes against
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Natural Dynamics you're the man and
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you're the one who chooses so if you
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find yourself in this situation avoid it
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by saying something like it's a long
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story or take a guess or giving a short
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answer and then Shifting the question
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back to her in short don't let the girl
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inter at you where you keep talking and
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she takes control remember you're the
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man and you're the Chooser the fifth
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condition is tied to the internal
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pressure you feel when trying to gain
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her approval listen carefully I'm going
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to give you a golden piece of advice if
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you follow everything I've mentioned in
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the video the girl will start trying to
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win your approval she might say things
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like I practice Taekwondo I love kids
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and know how to deal with them I read
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books and so on this means she's trying
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to put herself in a superior position in
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such cases the internal pressure you
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feel to gain her approval might be
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triggered if you hear something you both
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have in common imagine she says I have a
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black belt in Taekwondo and let's say
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you train in boxing when she says this
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your internal pressure might
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instinctively push you to say I also
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train in martial arts I do boxing be
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assured this feeling will emerge but the
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problem is if you say that you don't
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give her the opportunity to try to win
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your approval what you should do here is
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either comment casually on what she said
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or and this is the best approach make it
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seem like you're bad at the thing she's
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trying to Excel app for example if she
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says I practice Taekwondo you could say
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I tried it once and I almost broke my
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leg in any case try to come up with a
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response that makes you appear not so
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great at the subject she's talking about
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another example if she says in high
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school I always got excellent grades in
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math you could say well I was terrible
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at math this way you give her the space
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to try to impress you showing how smart
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and capable she is and so on all of this
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when combined and applied creates a
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strong desire in the goal to win your
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approval it puts her in a state where
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she's actively trying to make you admire
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her as a result she becomes yours and
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you gain the key to her heart by the way
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