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what if I told you that thing you're
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chasing isn't really what you're looking
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for whether it's that promotion a raise
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the perfect
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body that's just a drop in the bucket to
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what you really
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need I spent the last 40 years of my
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life as an adult going through life
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figuring things
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out and I like to share those
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perspectives with you and I'd like to
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spend a few minutes with you
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letting you know what I've learned in
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the last 40
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years Jim where did this come from well
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I'll tell
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you I was asked to give the midyear
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graduation
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speech 40 years after I graduated high
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school where did the time go and it
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really got me thinking about
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life what I've
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accomplished what I've learned
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and let me start with this if I could go
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back and tell my 18-year-old self this I
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would tell
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him time is the most precious commodity
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you've
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got you can't get one single second back
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to play
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again live every single
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second like it
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matters because you're going to blink
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your eyes
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Jim and you're going to be 40 years
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removed from high school and that time's
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going to have flown by like it was
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yesterday and one thing about time is
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you get to choose how you spend it how
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you live it who you spend it
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with and if you're spending it with
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people who don't value your
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time reconsider
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that because maybe they're not worth
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your
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time time is the most precious commodity
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it's the only one we can't make more of
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and it's going to continue to pass
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on whether you like it or
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not so
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Jim and folks out there choose your time
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wisely spend your time wisely make every
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second
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count in my adult life I've had about
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eight or 10 different
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careers and I throw up the air quotes
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because none of them for more than a few
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years you see I spent 20 years bouncing
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around from stock broker to house
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painter to self-employed painting
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contractor to chemical salesman to cell
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phone salesman to project manager to
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remodeling contractor and now a teacher
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and in each and every one of those they
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were a vehicle to help me pay my bills
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to support my family and most most
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importantly teach me about life teach me
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that it doesn't matter what you do who
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you are matters
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more your work ethic the kind of
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impression that you
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leave that's going to make a lasting
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impression on folks and it's going to
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help you succeed or in some cases
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fail and in those eight or 10 different
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jobs I had what I was really seeking was
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this thing called purpose
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purpose what am I alive for what am I
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here for what am I trying to do because
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deep down we all want a sense of
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purpose we all want
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to be fulfilled we want to belong we
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want to make a difference I genuinely
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feel that most folks out there want to
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make a difference and if you've got a
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purpose and a reason to get up and do
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your thing life is a whole lot easier
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another thing I've learned is the
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process of achieving cannot be
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discounted I've trying to find purpose
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in so many
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things in so many different
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areas
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volunteering giving of my
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time helping people offering
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advice and I think deep down deep down
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what I was trying to do
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was fill something in here
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I was trying to help others because I
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heard a long time ago that if you've got
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problems help other folks solve theirs
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and yours will seem rather
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small so I think what I did
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inadvertently was when I had challenges
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I would try to find other folks with
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challenges and help them solve theirs if
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nothing else had took my mind off my
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challenges for a short
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time put them a little bit further away
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if you
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will but ultimately what I was looking
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for
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was
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self-respect I wanted to be proud of
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myself I wanted to love myself I wanted
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to be happy with who I am so for 40
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years I've bounced from job to
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job I've given my time I've given my
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energy I've given my
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resources when in reality what I was
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looking for was always right
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here it was inside me
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I just had to discover it I had to tap
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into
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it and I had to be happy with who I
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was see I think we were all
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built to be part of the greater good see
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I genuinely believe that when you love
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yourself you can give that love to other
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people and you're not trying to look for
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something in return you're not not
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trying to get a benefit from helping
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them solve their
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problems what you're trying to do is
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show them
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love and
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kindness and help
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them find their own self-respect and
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self
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love because as crazy as this world is
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out there right now as divided as it is
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I really believe that most of us love
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one another we care for one another and
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we believe in one another
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I don't like the divisive nature of
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everything
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and I can't solve
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it but I think if we all loved ourselves
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a little bit more and turn and in turn
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loved each
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other this world would be a much better
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place that's just my two cents anyway
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so how do you sum up 40 years in a few
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minutes
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watch how you spend your
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time watch how you give of
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yourself most importantly love
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yourself because if you love yourself it
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makes it easier to love other people so
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I'd love it if you're still around to
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hit that subscribe
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button maybe drop me a comment about how
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you
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feel that would do me a solid and I
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greatly appreciate it if you're still
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here I greatly appreciate you I
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appreciate every single one of you
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that's watching
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this so thanks for sticking
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around 40 years in a few
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minutes I cannot believe it