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LinkedIn can be one of the most
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unhealthy places for your sense of Peace
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if you start comparing yourself to all
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the other people on
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there spend any time on LinkedIn lately
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and afterwards find yourself really
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stressed out well you're not alone I
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coach a lot of professionals Tech and
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many of them struggle with exactly this
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well in this episode I'd like to share
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some things with you that I've learned
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can really reduce your stress and help
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you have much better mental health if
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you choose to use LinkedIn and you need
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it to find a job or just a network with
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people and hey if you are trying to use
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LinkedIn and you're struggling a little
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bit you're not sure how to use it you
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need to build a strong Network and land
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your next job I actually have a career
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coaching package that helps with exactly
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this I've used it with quite a few
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clients over the years and they get
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pretty good results if that's
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interesting to you check it out there's
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a link in the description on YouTube or
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if you're listening as a podcast there's
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a link in the show notes so here's five
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ways that you can stay calm on LinkedIn
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use it effectively but not have it
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create a lot of anxiety for you and hey
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by the way if you're short on time I've
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got chapter markers in the video if
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you're on YouTube but if you're
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listening to this as a podcast just
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stick with me I'll explain all this to
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the end the first thing that can really
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help you stay more calm if you're using
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LinkedIn and you're finding yourself
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stressed out is to avoid accomplishment
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signals many people use LinkedIn to
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basically just brag about their
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accomplishments I just sold my first
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company at 22 or I just got a huge
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promotion in a giant pay raise or look
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at this certification that I just
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achieved and while I get it you know if
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if you just achieved something you might
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be excited to share it with people you
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can actually get a feeling and I've
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experienced this and many of my clients
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have the moment that you start scrolling
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that news feed or that homepage on
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LinkedIn a sinking feeling that your
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career sucks or you're not doing as well
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as you wish you were and this is one of
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the things that I really recommend a lot
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of people people do is bookmark on their
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desktop on LinkedIn you know whether
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you're using a Mac or a PC go to
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LinkedIn and bookmark your profile page
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not the homepage of LinkedIn so every
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time you go to LinkedIn instead of going
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directly to linkedin.com and you see you
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know again all these accomplishments
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that people have you can just go to your
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profile page then use it you know from
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there use the search to find the things
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you're looking for if you got the app
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installed I often just tell people
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uninstall the app now if you are a
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recruiter or somebody who really has to
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use LinkedIn for some reason you know in
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real time answering messages all the
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time as part of your job sure keep the
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app installed but for most of us even if
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you're trying to get a job right now
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you're trying to network with people
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people don't expect these days
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instantaneous responses on LinkedIn if
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you want to keep your mental health in a
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good spot you want to stay calm you want
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to chill and not have LinkedIn create a
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bunch of Stress and Anxiety for you get
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rid of the app bookmark your profile
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page go there intentionally and don't
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get sucked into viewing all this other
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stuff people are doing you may have
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heard the saying it's much better to
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compare yourself to where you were
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yesterday and you know how you've grown
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than to compare yourself to other people
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this is a popular saying with a lot of
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online influencers I don't know where it
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originally came from but it's true
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LinkedIn can be one of the most
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unhealthy places for your sense of Peace
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if you start comparing yourself to all
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the other people on there the second
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thing you can do that'll really help you
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stay calm while you're using LinkedIn is
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to use LinkedIn and produce content on
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LinkedIn but not consume content on
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LinkedIn Gary vaynerchuck you may or may
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not have heard of him really big
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YouTuber and kind of social media
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influencer I don't always agree with him
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uh he's kind of associated with hustle
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culture which obviously my brand is
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somewhat against on some levels but he's
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got a lot of really good things to say
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he has taught a lot of really good
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things over the years and one of them is
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this concept of produce versus consume I
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he's at least the first person I heard
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of who came up with this concept so I
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attribute it pretty much to him and
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really the idea is that when you're
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going online most people are there just
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consuming they're watching videos
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they're reading people's blog posts you
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know they're consuming people's
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Instagram posts or
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photos but it's the people that produce
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content they're creating original posts
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they're creating videos they're writing
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articles and you know blog posts those
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are the people who actually get a
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benefit from going online they grow an
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audience they get influenced they can
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hopefully get better jobs they may be
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able to build their business if they're
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starting one like I am so when you're on
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LinkedIn
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keep this principle in mind rather than
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using LinkedIn it's a social network
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remember how LinkedIn probably wants you
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to which is just to be browsing around
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and reading articles and looking at what
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other people are doing in their career
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and getting sucked into news headlines
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which you know I think there's also some
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very unsettling news on LinkedIn that
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takes away your contentment your
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personal peace you want to stay chill
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don't be reading the news on LinkedIn
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but rather you know tied to the previous
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point I just gave you about bookmark
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marking your profile page and having
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that be somewhat of the homepage you go
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to in your browser when you visit
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LinkedIn there's a search bar right at
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the top and so if you're there and you
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want to find jobs just go to the profile
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page your profile page you won't then
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see anybody else's activity and search
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for jobs or search for people that you
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want to connect with search with search
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for specific topics that you want to
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find information on a LinkedIn let's say
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you're you're you know independent
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consultant and you offer devop services
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or something like that and you want to
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find out what are some of the latest
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posts on LinkedIn about devops just
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search for it so you know one of the
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biggest things you can do to more
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responsibly use LinkedIn is to produce
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and write your own posts and be there
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intentionally and write your own
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articles don't consume and hey I'll I've
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talked about in another episode on the
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show you can go back and watch it uh if
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you're on YouTube I'll put a card up
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there if you're listening as a podcast
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I'll put a link you know in the show
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notes but I did an episode earlier about
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if you're a developer if you're in
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technology how to use social media to
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actually drive you know let's say sales
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of your product or consulting or get a
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job versus how a lot of people do it and
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this point I'm just talking about about
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you know using LinkedIn and not
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consuming if you watch that episode or
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listen to it uh it'll expand on this
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point a lot more and give you some some
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even more practical things that you can
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do so that you don't waste your time
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online just consuming content and
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wasting you know what you could be using
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towards growing your career getting
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ahead and finding peace and living your
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life the third thing you can do that
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will really help you stay calm when
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you're using LinkedIn is don't get
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sucked into engaging in Rage bait you
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may have heard this term it's kind of a
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more uh incendi version of clickbait but
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rage bait is when people basically
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create content to piss you off to get
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you worked up to get you to have a
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strong angry usually emotional reaction
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with the hopes that you'll engage with
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it you'll leave a comment you'll get
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angry you'll share it with someone else
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and this kind of content is also really
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popular on YouTube um I find myself
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struggling because I have to create
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titles and thumb nails that still you
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know people will click amidst the all
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this noise without hopefully rage
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baiting you I try not to do that but you
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know if you see articles that are like
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bitching about let's say the tech
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industry or the way managers are
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treating programmers I know I've done
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content on that um be careful on
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LinkedIn because if you leave comments
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if you like those things you know anyone
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who's thinking of hiring you for a job
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an employer a recruiter a hiring manager
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um if you're a consultant clients that
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might want to work with you if you're a
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business you're selling you know a small
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software product you've gone on your
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you're going on your own I've done
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episodes on that on the past on the show
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you know people can look at your
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activity on LinkedIn unless you've
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turned it off publicly you may or may
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not know this if you go to your profile
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page scroll down a little bit there's a
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section there that says activity and if
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your profile's public typically people
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can go there by default and they can
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view your activity so they can see the
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incendiary posts that you have commented
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on that you've liked and if you don't
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feel like you want you know your you
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look we're all frustrated with aspects
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of the tech industry but let's be honest
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we need to keep those opinions private
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for the most part um letting someone who
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you're about to do business with or an
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employer is considering hiring you see
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how frustrated you are with the industry
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it's not a good look so I would just you
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know suggest and and it's going to be
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easier to do this if you're not again
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scrolling the news feed and reading news
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but if you're just going to your profile
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page and being intentional don't get
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sucked into rage bait don't comment and
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like on things that you really resonate
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with but that really are not good uh
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breadcrumb Trails so to speak to leave
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for your next employer or client and hey
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if you've struggled a lot to use
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LinkedIn and you're thinking I am I
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alone here am I the only one who gets
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depressed even sometimes I've got a
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patreon and a YouTube membership you can
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join and for a very very low per month
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price you can get into my private
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Discord server I've got a lot of other
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really great people other developers
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managers product managers people in QA
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um people starting their own companies
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who are fans of this Channel and that
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are also trying to have you know healthy
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careers help each other Thrive if you'd
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like to be part of that Community you'd
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like to have some other people who kind
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of share similar values of the channel
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check it out you can join there's a link
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in the description the fourth thing you
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can do that'll really help you stay calm
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on LinkedIn and not experience a ton of
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anxiety is to not attend unjustified
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meetings what I mean by this is you know
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depending on where you're at in your
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career you may not get as much of this
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as I do but you know even before I
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started doing YouTube When I was a
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consultant I would regularly on a daily
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basis get DMS you know direct messages
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from people on LinkedIn and they'd be
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like hey Jamie uh love what you're doing
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in Consulting I think there's some real
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Synergy between us let's hop on a quick
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Zoom call I'd like to share with you you
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know how we could work together and I
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find this is a pattern I'm seeing over
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and over again where people who are
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looking for someone to do business with
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them they just they don't know how to
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start the conversation in a calm way
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they just jump for the G jugular you
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know let me get this person on a call
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and you know my time's very valuable
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your time's very valuable uh as a
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developer you know if if you're a
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manager just whatever your job is right
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our time is valuable we and if you want
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to keep your mental health chill you
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don't want to be just hopping on random
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calls with people that promise that
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there might be some real big Synergy I
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get this all the time hey Jamie love
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your podcast uh let's hop on a call I
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think there's some real Synergy where I
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could help your hey Jamie I can grow
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your coaching business to $80,000 a
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month yeah sure you can bud sure there's
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so many people claiming that but what I
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typically do is either I ignore them or
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I might just say hey um can you explain
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to me a little bit more about why you
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see their Synergy there before we hop on
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a call I can't really just jump on a
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zoom with anybody I don't know and I'd
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say 50% of the time they don't even
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respond because they're like oh I
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don't want to explain myself to this guy
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but the other 50% of the time then
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they'll go into more detail yeah well
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work for this company we offer XYZ and I
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thought maybe if we talk together maybe
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there's a way to partner and if I know
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that that's not going to help me I
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probably can't help them then I can just
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tell them hey sorry I don't really see
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Synergy there thanks anyways and I don't
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have to waste my time on a 15minute call
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or 20-minute call so you know this is
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something you're going to run into as an
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employee when recruiters contact you too
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they're going to be like hey you know
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John I I I saw your profile and you'd be
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the perfect fit for this company let's
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hop on a quick Zoom call and discuss it
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um I really think you should pre-qualify
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any kind of recruiter or hiring manager
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or anyone and just ask them hey um I'm
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really busy really thankful that you're
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reaching out to me I appreciate that
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could you explain a little bit more what
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you see as the match here what specific
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skills or about my you know past career
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do you see aligned with this opportunity
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you know before we hop on a call um
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that'll avoid you again getting on a
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call with a recruiter or a hiring
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manager or somebody who's going to try
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to you know convince you that this is
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the perfect job for you when you can
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often figure that out before you waste
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your time so again you want to keep
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yourself low stress and chill on
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LinkedIn don't attend meetings that
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people haven't Justified to you are
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worth your time first and the fifth and
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final thing I'd really recommend you
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consider if you want to have a calm time
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when you're on LinkedIn is to keep your
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network relevant it's very tempting to
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just accept any friend request that you
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get or connection request I guess they
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call them on LinkedIn you know hey
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they'll give you you know comment really
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love your work let's connect hey uh
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don't really need to talk with you about
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anything but i' would love to have you
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in my network if something comes up you
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know you may or may not know people who
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do stuff in your network they post a new
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article they switch their job by default
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unless you turn it off l LinkedIn will
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notify you when that happens and you
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know again I suggested you get the app
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off your phone if you want to have more
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peace around LinkedIn but if you do have
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the app installed the bigger your
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network the more spam you're going to
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get now I would probably say if if if
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you have to have the app turn
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notifications off or there's actually a
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setting you can go in there and you can
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turn notifications off specifically for
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your other connections
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activity but regardless you know I see a
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lot of people who have you know 500,000
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people or 200,000 people following them
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that are really kind of a noname in the
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industry they've just used LinkedIn to
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amass a giant following and they don't
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really do anything with that following
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it's just a vanity metric you've heard
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this term you know it's a a number that
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that makes them look important but is
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not actually a true indication of their
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reach uh I would just encourage you to
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avoid the temptation to feel pressured
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to have to grow your you know
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connections to this huge amount um there
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was a time earlier on LinkedIn when you
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created a post that it was pretty much
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guaranteed to go to everyone in your
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connection so if you're looking for a
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job you're trying to spread you know
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cool blog posts you wrote about
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technology or management or whatever you
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were guaranteed everybody was going to
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some point see that post if they
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scrolled their Newsfeed today LinkedIn
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is pretty much the same as Facebook and
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YouTube and Instagram and Twitter and
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that you know when you post something
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it's only shown to like 3% maybe 15% of
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your followers your connections and only
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if it gets a ton of Engagement which is
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why people tend to you know do the rage
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baiting and stuff like that will it
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actually spread it out to everyone else
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because they want you to pay for
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advertising to reach the people who are
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already following you anyway won't rant
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about that too much I get frustrated
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about that um but I would just encourage
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you you know if you want to stay calm on
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LinkedIn keep your network small don't
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connect with people that you don't have
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an existing real work relationship with
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either currently or in the past or
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someone you really have intentional
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plans to do business with in the future
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or you see them as being coming a client
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or something like that you know the less
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people that you're connected to the more
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peace you can have the less spam you're
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going to get and then you can use
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LinkedIn and actually get results from
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it and not have LinkedIn used
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you so hey if you're struggling to get
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your next job and Linkedin has been an
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issue for you maybe your profile needs a
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makeover maybe you don't really know how
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to build a strong network of people that
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could hire you that are at Great
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companies I have a career coaching
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package that helps with exactly that if
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you're on YouTube you can click a link
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in the description and check it out
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otherwise if you're listening as a
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podcast you can check out the link in
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the show notes I've got a page on my
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website that talks about in a lot more
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detail but what are you struggling with
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with LinkedIn has this even been a
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problem for you or are you like Jamie
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what are you talking about LinkedIn
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doesn't bother me at all if you don't
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use it at all well I get it but you know
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are you struggling with it at all do you
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have any stories of times you've been on
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LinkedIn and you've started to feel that
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feeling of oh my gosh I'm not as good as
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I thought I was my career's behind what
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do I do what have you done to combat
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that I hope some of these tips have
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helped today and till next time thanks
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