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back to my channel okay let's get into
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it first things first need you to
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realize is that there is no self so what
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you are right now is just made of
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beliefs by your parents by the people
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around you by your friends Society
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whatever right I think a lot of times if
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for example beauty standards if they
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weren't there a lot of people wouldn't
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look how they look right now because
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there there's nothing to look up to or
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to follow a lot of people wouldn't do
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certain jobs because it's it's not like
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oh that's accepted in society and that
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other job is shamed in society like made
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up in a societal structure that we
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follow unconsciously and consciously
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what I love about that is that when
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there is no self we can also change it
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and we can become who we feel is most
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authentic and makes us the most happy
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and how we do that is by first of all
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changing the way you talk to yourself
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see your whole life your parents have
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told you things about yourself your
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friends have told you things about
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yourself and in childhood you adapted
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those traits as who you are so for
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example when I was very young I was told
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that I wasn't smart okay by one of my
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Abus parents like you're not smart
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whatever shut up blah blah a woman
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should never talk and then I started to
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now even in adulthood I doubt my
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intelligence because of what I was told
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in childhood but now I reaffirm to
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myself no you are smart you know so much
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you have so much knowledge and I
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reaffirmed that to myself to change
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those beliefs because I want to control
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what I believe and I want to shape who I
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am to myself the same way when you were
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younger and someone told you you're not
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beautiful you're not good-looking later
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in life you will always remember that
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unconsciously and you be like insecure
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about your looks or think like oh this
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is not good enough and all these things
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you can tell yourself right now that you
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are you can look at yourself right now
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and be like you are the most gorgeous
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hottest thing on earth like wow when I
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look at you I am mesmerized you can tell
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yourself these things and even when you
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say like oh no I don't believe it I
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don't want to say it why don't you
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believe it beauty is a madeup societal
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structure right for a lot of people
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people that are even considered
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beautiful let's say to you are not
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beautiful to other people you know you
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know how many times I heard that I'm not
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good-looking and all these things and I
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see why they think that because it's
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their perception and I'm probably not
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their type and I don't care to be their
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type but does that mean that I when I
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look in the mirror I have to say that to
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myself or I have to say their
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affirmation of their perception of me to
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myself no I can create my own perception
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my own world my own character of who I
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am another thing you should ask yourself
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is are you acting or are you reacting to
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life so I actually had this conversation
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with my therapist and she was like Liz
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you are very sensitive so whenever
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someone comes up to you and asks you
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like let's say let's go for a coffee
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let's go on a date whatever she's like
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because you're so sensitive you might
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think in your head like H you know what
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yeah let's go let's see what where it
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takes me and maybe this is the person
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but she's like you should start acting
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and you should like connect to your
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heart and think to yourself is this what
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I want H that moment you should really
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ask yourself am I saying yes to this
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thing or to this invitation because I
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really want to go or am I scared to
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disappoint people do I feel bad for them
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and that's why I'm saying yes when you
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know that when you're saying yes it's
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authentic to what you want to do you'll
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become more confident when you know that
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when you're saying no it's authentic to
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what you want to do you'll become
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confident because you are living in
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accordance to your own voice another
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thing is think about what are your
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non-negotiables so let's say for example
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for me in a relationship if my partner
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is not loyal that's it my partner knows
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and I know I will not stay there and I
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will not take this relationship
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seriously anymore that's my
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non-negotiable I do not budge on that I
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stand on it I do not care why let's say
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there is a couple right and they both
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decide okay we're going to be loyal
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we're going to be in a trusting
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relationship when one of that person
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breaks that trust it's traumatizing for
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that other person because now they're
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going to take that on to their next
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relationship and start to distrust other
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people because it's like a sudden shock
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and I don't think people realize how
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cheating is a big trauma for a person
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for example in work you can think about
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okay if the boss is making rude comments
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whatever is that you're non-negotiable
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are you thinking no I will not accept
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that we cannot compromise on this I will
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leave the more you have your
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non-negotiables clear for you and you
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know that this I will accept this I
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won't accept and you stand on those
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boundaries that is the more you will
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feel confident about yourself and the
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people around you will also start to
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respect you more a person that says if
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you cheat on me and and I discover that
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and they leave that is a
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person that is forever will be respected
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okay even by the other person because no
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matter what they do they can cry they
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can they can they can beg they can do
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anything for them but this person has so
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much selfworth has so much much boundary
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know there's one thing about women that
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I've
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noticed doesn't matter how long she
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stayed with you doesn't matter how many
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years she put up with things once a
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woman in her head makes that switch of
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this is not what I want anymore she can
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even have stayed there for 25 years in
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this relationship okay once she knows in
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her head this is not what I want anymore
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I will not accept any further than this
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you can go take a hike this woman will
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not come back to you once a woman knows
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in her head you're not that person
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anymore she will not even be able to
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look at you the same it will never ever
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come back I respect that so much I
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respect it like no no matter how many
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years it took no matter whatever it took
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for you to leave once a woman leaves she
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will boss up you will never recognize
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her anymore all the pain you put her
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through doesn't matter this woman will
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always come out on top we live in a
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society where our dopamine receptors in
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the brain are very worn out and that's
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dangerous when that happens because when
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your dopamine receptors are worn out
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nothing becomes exciting anymore so
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people go to the extreme to feel a
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certain sense of excitement you can see
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this for example with people that from a
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very young age started drinking because
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alcoholism is so normal in this world
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and it's almost pushed upon everyone you
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know and I feel like because they
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normalize this later on because they've
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been drinking for so long they start to
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use like heavier substances and then
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later on these substances also don't do
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anything anymore so now you have a lot
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of people that are addicted since they
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were teenager and somehow we're all
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normalizing this their dopamine
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receptors are completely worn out and
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they're depressed and don't feel any
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excitement anymore for anything in the
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world also look at what is triggering
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you and where is that coming from when I
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was younger in school I used to hate
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when teachers would tell me what to do
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and I would never even take it seriously
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why because at home I was constantly
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controlled I wasn't allowed to have a
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voice so the only thing I've ever wanted
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was freedom to speak my mind and to say
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what I want and just to be free okay so
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when at school I was also controlled
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that would trigger me but but that was
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triggering the wound that I had back
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home
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and I needed to realize these things so
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I could stop acting in a way and hurting
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other people that had nothing to do with
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it I had to go back to the base of where
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is this coming from so I could work on
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that and that I could live in a way
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where I can respect others and honestly
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therapy has helped me a lot with that
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because when I was when I talked to my
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therapists it was always about okay Liz
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where are you going wrong what are you
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doing that these situations keep
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happening again so that we can fix it
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and actually change your life instead of
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because people often think that
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therapists sit there and will just
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listen to you and act like you're good
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and that's it no they will make you take
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accountability and change your life I
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think what is also so important about
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understanding your triggers is that it
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makes you understand that you're not
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crazy it makes you understand that
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you're not a bad person but you're just
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acting out of past wounds and I think
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that's beautiful I think that's putting
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sanity inside of your mind and being
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like you know what I'm not an aggressive
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person I'm just hurt and I've been hurt
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so many times that the only way my body
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is reacting right now is out of
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aggression because the moments that I
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was hurt I couldn't speak up for myself
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or I didn't say it so this is all P pent
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up anger and resentment that's coming
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out as an aggressive person but that
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doesn't have to be me that doesn't have
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to Define me and you can change that
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when you understand where it's coming
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from it's good to acknowledge your
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feelings I think the way people can heal
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is when they are in touch with their
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feelings and emotions and when they
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don't demonize it the reason why you're
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sad is because you're hurt it's not
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because you're weak it's not because oh
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you're not strong enough to handle it no
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something hurt you and it's okay to cry
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it out because that's how you release
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whatever has hurt you but if you hold it
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in people get physically ill from this
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people even die from illnesses by
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holding on to this pent up anger
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resentment and stress release it if it's
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crying for months release it that's the
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way you release okay whatever you have
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to do in whatever way release it if it's
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talking about it constantly over and
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over again until you're done talking
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about then do that do that I've told the
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same stories maybe 100 times but now I'm
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done telling those stories because it's
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out of my system thing is look at the
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patterns in your life that are repeating
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itself over and over again because that
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is teaching you where your healing lies
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okay I've had multiple patterns repeat
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I've had my uh father in my life that
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was abusive and then I attracted my ex
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partner that was exactly a replica of my
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father in the beginning it was great and
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then it turned out to be he's just like
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my dad okay now why was this pattern
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coming up because I still had not come
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to terms with what happened with my
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father so it came back to me in a
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relationship form so I can see it in
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front of myself and I almost felt like I
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was recreating my mother's and father's
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relationship with my ex partner and when
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I understood that and I was like wow but
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this is not what I want cuz if I have a
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child she will just be a little Liz
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again with the same traumas I don't want
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that for my child so that's when I said
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you know what no I don't want to
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continue this I want to stop the cycle
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of the same patterns happening again
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even in friendships even in
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relationships look at these people and
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ask yourself are they repeating
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themselves over and over again am I
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experiencing the same thing over and
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over again then start thinking okay what
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is my lesson
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here why am I attracting the constant
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same person over and over again and you
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should instead of blaming take
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responsibility for your life okay I in
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my my life it's very easy to say you
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know what my life is because I had
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an abusive father no I took
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responsibility for my life I could have
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blamed him all day but it doesn't matter
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now does it cuz it's in the past what I
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did with my life afterwards was all up
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to me and because I took the
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responsibility and I was like Liz you
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know what you're going to work on
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yourself you're going to become the best
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version of yourself you're going to
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become one of the strongest adults
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you've ever seen that's going to protect
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your inner child when I did that that's
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when I became
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successful that's when I had everything
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because I refused I refused to just
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succumb to the abuse to just be like
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it's your fault and I'm going to be the
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victim here I was never the victim I was
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never the victim I was always going to
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be the person that was going to come out
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on top no matter what in any situation
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in any situation you put me in I will
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come out on top no matter what
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responsibility gives you the power over
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your life life and blame takes it away
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blame gives that abuser or that person
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that was bad to you or whatever they did
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to that gives them power but you have
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that power when you take responsibility
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and I like you know what whatever you
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did to me how many times you lied to me
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how many times you cheated I am still
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going to come out on top when you do
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that you
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win you win and don't become addicted to
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your suffering a lot of you guys are so
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addicted to feeling that sensation ation
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of that stress again a lot of people
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around me even that also come from
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abusive childhood they act constant new
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drama they create for themselves
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constantly because that's the only thing
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they knew and that's what they're kind
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of addicted to that feeling of that Rush
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again that drama again but don't don't
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become addicted to it have some you know
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what start to realize I'm not that
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person anymore I'm not that abused child
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I'm not that that that that person that
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was cheated on I'm not that person
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anymore I'm a different person now I
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don't need to create those situations
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again for myself I don't need to fight
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like I used to my life is calm now my
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life is peaceful and start to make that
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your reality say like you know what now
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I have a good life I'm I have a great
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life actually you know start to say that
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to yourself and start to acknowledge
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that that's the past what has happened
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has happened that doesn't Define me
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today that's not who I am today and you
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guys are not going to treat me like
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that's who who I am today also start to
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realize that who feeds you and who takes
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from you okay so when I was a lot around
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my previous partner I started to think
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I'm depressed I'm depressed I'm sad like
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I'm always sad I'm isolated this is who
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I am that's what I constantly thought
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but why did I think that because I
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didn't have any friends or family around
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me so I was alone with this person
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constantly so they could just make my
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mind in whoever they wanted to be and I
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started to believe that this is just who
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I I am but the minute I came and I
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visited my family I reconnected with old
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friends I realized I feel alive around
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these people I feel like I want to live
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and that's something that I haven't felt
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in a very very long time because my
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previous partner was just taking from me
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taking taking taking and leaving me
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empty but when I'm here now I'm starting
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to realize it's an equal give and
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exchange I don't feel sleepy around
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these people I don't feel drained I
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don't feel like I want to take my life I
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feel like I want to live so when I
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understood the difference and after that
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I even think about like oh my previous
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partner I'm like no I don't want to ever
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do that again because I never want to
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feel how I felt how bad I felt I want to
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continue being around people who I can
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give to and that give me the same way
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back in an energetical sense always feel
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it you will feel it when you feel
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fulfilled when you come home from
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someone let's say a friend and you feel
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like oh my God I need to sleep for 10
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days now that person has drained you
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that's not your person you should feel
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like oh my God I have so much energy you
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know I I reconnected with this old
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friend of mine and whenever I'm around
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her I don't even need sleep we can go on
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for days and days and days and we just
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have fun so Choose Wisely who you
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surround yourself with because that will
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also shape who you
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become I recently have been meeting a
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lot of people and I came from isolation
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to meeting a lot of people and I'm
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starting to realize okay I want to hang
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out with you but I wouldn't hang out
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with you not because they're a bad
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person but because their lifestyle
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doesn't align with what I would want in
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my life for example I've noticed that a
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lot of people have alcohol addiction a
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lot of people have substance addiction
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especially now in this world and in the
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age that we live in and I was looking at
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that and they they party constantly and
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all these things and I was thinking like
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M you know if I become friends with you
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like really close friends and we go out
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and stuff I don't want that to become my
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life because I can see how it would
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distract me from my work and my purpose
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in this world and I feel like I would
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just get lost you know so I then choose
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my friends like for example that old
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friend I that I reconnected with she has
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the same morals as me that's the same
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kind of vibration I'm on if you choose
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people that constantly like that aren't
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really connected to them elves and want
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to escape from reality because that's
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what I truly think that alcohol subtance
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all these things are you just don't want
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to face reality you don't want to face
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yourself so if you surround yourself
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with people that constantly party do
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that and I want to escape reality you'll
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become the other person as well and
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eventually you'll feel like you're
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losing
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yourself nothing in excess is good too
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much of anything is bad for you think in
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the long run if you hang out with people
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you just become them you can even see
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that physically
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best friends and stuff they start to
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look alike their Aura your aura gets
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mixed and your energy get mixed if you
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look at this person you think hm I would
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not want to be like them I would not
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want to live the way they live then
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that's not your person and then you
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choose people that do align to your
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lifestyle and who you want to be also
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start looking at what are people what
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are books what are TV shows songs
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teaching
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you everywhere we look we have m
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messages we have signs and it's almost
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like God and the universe is constantly
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talking to us but it's for us to really
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open our eyes and look at the signs okay
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so for example if you read a book right
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now and if I read a book I will see that
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book in my perspective and I will take
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from that book what was important for me
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and in my world you had a whole
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different lesson from that book what was
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important for you and your life and your
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perspect perspective right that's how we
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get those signs also like people that
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come up to you like I recently met this
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guy in the weirdest way possible such a
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Divine thing okay he taught me a lot
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about myself he was he taught me about
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my attachment style in relationships and
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he was like Liz you have avoidant
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attachment style and I was like whoa
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what is that and explain to me and it's
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basically that when a person feels more
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safe
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alone they will like be in relationships
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but they will never want to fully commit
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and that's what I have so I will if
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someone brings up marriage to me I get
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scared okay I'm like no no I don't want
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to do that but it's because in my head I
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feel most safe when I'm alone because I
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didn't have people around me when I was
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younger that I could trust so when I
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felt safe was when Liz was alone in her
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room that's when I felt safe so I
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constantly go back to that I never even
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thought about my attachment style
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because what I constantly ract are
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anxious attachment people so these are
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people that are have abandonment issues
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they afraid of getting rejected they're
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afraid of getting abandoned and because
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of that trauma they get obsessed with me
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because I kind of reject them I kind of
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always hold this distance you know but
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both of us are acting out of a trauma
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response that was so interesting when
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that person told all of this to me
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because I was starting to realize when I
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was meeting more people like I don't
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like how they become so almost obsessed
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or controlling over me immediately and
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then I started to realize but I'm
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attracting anxious people that all have
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rejection wounds that have abandonment
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wounds and because of the way I act with
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with which is in a rejecting way they
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become obsessed not because I'm a great
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person but because I'm their trauma and
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when I realize this I'm like oh my God
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I'm I'm going to have to start to work
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on my own issues so I won't attract
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these people anymore because it's scary
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but look how this person came into my
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life to teach me that and for me to
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change that you can also do is take a
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paper and write down okay who am I what
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do I love what don't I love what do I do
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for fun what are my hobbies what were my
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hobbies when I was younger how do I want
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people to treat me how do I think that I
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treat people these are all questions you
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can write down and ask yourself and
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you'll have all the answers you'll have
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like this little example of who you are
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as a person another thing is living in
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the now and this is something my sister
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has told me so many times lately because
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I was like oh Sabina but I I want to
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achieve this oh Saina in a month I'm
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going to do this and she constantly
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reminds me Liz live in the now just
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think about now live your life right now
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look at around you live now and
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constantly because I'm reminded of that
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I feel like I appreciate life more and
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I'm not running from it I feel like my
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my whole life I've just been running and
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going to the next thing and that's why
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I've never felt fulfilled by anything
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because I'm not acknowledging it you
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know I'm not acknowledging it yeah okay
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I went viral I went viral on YouTube
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amazing people would have thrown a party
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because of it I was just like no what's
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next what's next what's next that's why
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I never realized what was happening
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because I was never living in the now I
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was always living in the future that's
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how anxiety comes up that's how you have
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more stress because you're constantly
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thinking about the future but if if you
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think right now what can I do now what
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what I have what tools can I use and
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what can I create now that's when you
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create the future cuz the future doesn't
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exist right past also doesn't exist what
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we have is now when you don't appreciate
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now nothing else will flourish good to
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have goals but don't live for it don't
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live for the future don't become a slave
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of the future what people think about
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you is none of your business people can
00:24:24
think whatever they want okay when you
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put something out there when you create
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something you will always attract people
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on your vibration or that are meant to
00:24:35
see whatever you put out whether it's
00:24:38
positive or whether it's negative they
00:24:40
were meant to see what you put out there
00:24:43
you just have to create that's it all of
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the rest doesn't matter because it's not
00:24:48
your business you will never control
00:24:50
their mind you will never control how
00:24:52
they think and that's just why would you
00:24:53
want to be in someone El's head be in
00:24:55
your own head think about your own stuff
00:24:58
why are you there be here be present
00:25:01
again once you start to realize that
00:25:02
what others think about you is none of
00:25:04
your business and whether you are the
00:25:05
best person on Earth they will not like
00:25:07
you still you can be the most PG nice
00:25:11
person ever and people will still have
00:25:12
something bad to say about you when you
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accept that when you accept that you
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know what criticism I love it it's a
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part of life you have the good you have
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the bad and it's beautiful both ways
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when you accept that you live like
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yourself authentically you're you don't
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have any fear because you don't have
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anything to to worry about I don't have
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to why would I worry about millions of
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people's brains why I don't have time
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for that so I just put myself stff out
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there and what what you think of it it's
00:25:38
up to you but somewhere you saw that
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video of me because you needed that
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whether it hurt you or whether it helped
00:25:46
you you needed that last but not least I
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think believing in yourself is one of
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the highest
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ways of connecting with yourself you
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know when everyone tells you like oh no
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you don't deserve to have that you don't
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deserve to have this and you tell
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yourself but I do I want whatever I want
00:26:04
in life if I want to have the best life
00:26:07
and if I want to say let's live like a
00:26:09
queen and I want to be treated like a
00:26:11
queen I can have that and who is anyone
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to say that I don't deserve that lots of
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people have it it exists in this world
00:26:20
whatever exists I can have as well start
00:26:23
to say that to yourself when you're like
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you know I want to be the most confident
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beautiful amazing smart person that I am
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that's it that's how fast life will
00:26:34
change for you because you decided that
00:26:35
for yourself that's who you want to be
00:26:37
and that's who you already are so you
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start unlocking that version of you if
00:26:41
you listen to no you shouldn't be living
00:26:43
like that no you shouldn't have this no
00:26:44
you shouldn't when you listen to that it
00:26:46
will Cloud your mind it will start to be
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like oh my God no they told me I was not
00:26:52
deserving of a good life so now I won't
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have a good life but what are you a
00:26:56
slave what are you a SL slave to these
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people no really start thinking to
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yourself am I a slave or am I a free
00:27:03
spirit am I a free soul that came to
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this earth to live my best life possible
00:27:08
and to help and create in this earth the
00:27:11
best way possible really one thing in
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life that I've always valued because I
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didn't have it was freedom and I'll be
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damned if someone ever takes that away
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from me again anyways guys I hope you
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enjoyed this video I hope you learned
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something from the this video and yeah I
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see you in the next video bye-bye love
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you
