Do Not Feel Guilty About Power

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摘要

TLDRThe speaker highlights the deeply ingrained human nature of desiring power, arguing that large parts of society are in denial about this truth. Discussing power is often seen as a taboo topic, unlike money or sexual matters. The speaker argues against feeling guilty or bad about wanting control and influence, as it is a natural human instinct. They caution that some individuals pretend not to seek power yet may be the most manipulative. Recognizing one's own ambition and being wary of those who deny theirs is recommended. The talk also explores passive-aggressive behaviors and warns against being tricked by seemingly perfect individuals who don masks of innocence.

心得

  • 🧬 Power is an inherent part of human nature.
  • 🚫 Many deny their desire for power, considering it taboo.
  • 🙎 Not admitting one's ambition can lead to manipulative behaviors.
  • 🏠 Power isn't just political; it affects family and work life too.
  • 🤔 Be suspicious of those who seem too saintly or perfect.
  • 😕 Those who claim disinterest in power may play the worst games.
  • 🔍 Recognize your own ambition and don't feel guilty about it.
  • 📚 Passive aggression is a common tactic of influence.
  • 🚩 Warning signs include someone who is too universally charming.
  • 👥 Everyone seeks influence in some form or another.

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    The speaker introduces the central theme of their discourse: the human desire for power is inherent and should not be seen as something negative. They reflect on their own experience of guilt when writing about power in 'The 48 Laws of Power,' acknowledging the societal taboo surrounding open discussions about ambition and power. The speaker highlights the denial people often display regarding their own ambitions while pointing out that power is more ubiquitous and everyday than often assumed, citing personal and professional scenarios where power dynamics play out.

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视频问答

  • Why do some people feel guilty about wanting power?

    Many people feel guilty about wanting power because it's often seen as a taboo topic, unlike money or sexual desires.

  • What does the 48 Laws of Power discuss?

    The 48 Laws of Power discusses human nature's inherent desire for power and the societal taboo around openly acknowledging it.

  • How does power manifest in everyday life?

    Power manifests in daily life through one's interactions with family, colleagues, and superiors, where people desire control and influence over others.

  • Why should one be suspicious of those who deny wanting power?

    People who deny wanting power might actually play manipulative games as they unconsciously harbor desires for control.

  • What are the dangers of hiring someone who seems too good to be true?

    Someone who appears too perfect or saintly might be using that facade to hide manipulative or passive-aggressive behaviors.

  • What theme does the author discuss regarding passive aggression?

    The author emphasizes that many people are not aggressive but demonstrate passive-aggressive behavior, often manipulating situations under the guise of innocence.

  • Is it wrong to desire power?

    No, the desire for power is natural and part of being human.

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    built into our DNA built into human
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    nature is the desire for power I want
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    you to not feel guilty I want you to not
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    feel bad about it I want you to Simply
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    sit down and accept this simple fact
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    so one thing I had to come to terms with
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    when I wrote the 48 Laws of Power
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    was this own sense of guilt that I felt
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    about discussing these things because
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    there's kind of a taboo
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    Aura around it like
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    we might discuss very innocent House of
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    our sexual proclivities Etc or about
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    money but when it comes to power and our
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    desires for power and our ambition
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    nobody likes to talk about it we're all
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    kind of in denial and so there are
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    people who look at the 48 Laws of Power
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    and they go ew that's not me I'm not
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    interested in that at all what an ugly
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    book is get rid of it
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    Etc and there are of course people who
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    love the 48 Laws of Power go yeah that's
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    exactly my game I'm gonna maybe learn
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    some more from it but the thing is I try
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    to make the point which I talk about in
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    the introduction and in the month of May
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    that you'll be diving into is that built
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    into our DNA built into human nature is
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    the desire for power I want you to not
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    feel guilty I want you to not feel bad
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    about it I want you to Simply sit down
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    and accept this simple fact and you're
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    thinking of power you're thinking of
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    Henry Kissinger and Barack Obama and
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    Donald Trump and world leaders it has
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    nothing to do with that power is an
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    everyday thing
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    sense that you have no control or power
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    over your children no matter what you
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    say they won't listen to you they just
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    Rebel the feeling that you can't
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    influence your spouse that they have
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    some irritating behavior that you can't
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    try and make them aware of and change
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    the feeling that your colleagues and
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    your boss you can't get them interested
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    in your ideas you have no power you have
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    no influence in them you're just the
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    sort of helpless Pawn in the universe is
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    miserable it's deeply miserable for the
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    human animal we are the animal that
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    likes to have a degree of control look
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    at the world that we've created and it
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    reveals this tremendous need for a
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    degree of control over our environment
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    over other people Etc
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    so I want you to admit this fact that
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    with your children your spouse your
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    colleagues your boss
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    Etc you want some of that power you want
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    some of that control you want the
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    ability to influence them so stop the
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    denial stop playing these silly games
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    but the other thing is to understand
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    that there are people in the world who
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    pretend that they're not interested in
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    power there are so many of them you
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    can't believe they're everywhere they're
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    in all different cultures all different
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    parts of an organization they're
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    everywhere they pretend that the power
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    is the last thing they want they're so
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    Pious they're so good they're so saintly
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    that that's you know there's nothing to
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    do with them right and they are the
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    worst players in power they are often
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    among the most manipulative people you
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    will ever meet in your life so the
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    people who are the most adamant that
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    they are not interested in power are
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    often the ones who play the most passive
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    aggressive games in power because as I
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    said as we return to this point is
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    deeply ingrained in our nature to want
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    this to want to have it and so if we
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    deny it consciously to ourselves if we
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    say I don't want it
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    unconsciously we will do all of these
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    games
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    a lot of them passive aggressive and if
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    you've read my books you know that I am
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    obsessed with passive aggression I wrote
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    a chapter about it in 33 strategies of
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    war and they devoted an entire chapter
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    of it in the laws of human nature
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    because so many people nowadays they're
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    not aggressive but they're very passive
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    aggressive they know how to whine and
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    complain and make other people feel
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    guilty all the while they're the ones
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    that are in control of the situation
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    so I want you to accept this idea that
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    you yourself have ambition you have
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    desires for power there is nothing wrong
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    with it it's actually good to it's
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    actually being human to admit that you
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    have this desire and the second thing is
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    to be deeply deeply suspicious and aware
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    of those people who pretend they have no
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    desire for it it's the last thing
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    they're interested in you will find
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    often that they're the ones that are
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    riddled with all kinds of feelings of
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    envy and they will play these poisonous
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    games that I outline in all of my books
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    so if someone comes upon you let's say
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    in your office or you're hiring them and
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    you go to yourself
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    you know it's almost too good to be true
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    this person almost seems too saintly too
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    good too too perfect too Charming too
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    pleasing it's wonderful I guess I'll
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    hire them I want you a little click to
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    go on in your brain and go uh-uh step
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    back step back little warning side
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    should go up they might be one of these
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    non-players that they have learned to
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    wear the front a big not being so
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    pleasing so Charming so political so
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    much you know a team player Etc that
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    that's the disguise they wear you bring
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    them into your life you make them a
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    partner associate you hire them and six
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    months down the road you see them
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    playing all of these weird little curvy
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    devious games so don't be taken in by
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    the front and be aware that people who
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    are the most in denial of it are often
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    the worst players in the game of power
标签
  • Human Nature
  • Desire for Power
  • Denial
  • Influence
  • Manipulation
  • Guilt
  • Passive Aggression
  • Ambition
  • Power Dynamics