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just don't believe everything that
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Society tells you because when I was
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younger everybody Wasing oh to be a boss
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means you have made
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it long and you know do you remember
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when we first okay this one is very
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interesting because when we first met
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right actually an told me that um uh if
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I want to be a successful business woman
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um it is difficult
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because I have Wai I married yes and
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then at that time honestly at the time I
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didn't believe it yeah okay now I'm not
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a successful business woman anyway but
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the thing is that I'm starting to
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understand why because sometimes I will
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want to do things for him like I want to
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co a nice me for him exactly and that
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one requires time and effort exactly so
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what I'm trying to say here is it's very
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simple you only have 24 hours a day yeah
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no matter how you squeeze it's still 24
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hours not extra second more okay and
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then what happens if you use your
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attention in your time or something else
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it's going to be taken away from
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whatever it is so you're going to get
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like 20% you 20% effort you're 30%
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results and and and I add on to that
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because you see if you compare with
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another Gman who are book her whole day
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into business and you book 20% I'm sorry
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you cannot yeah you you cannot people
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would say no but I want both I want a
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happy family and I want a happy
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successful business everybody want that
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who the heck on Earth don't want
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everything to to have on their pocket
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but the but until we upseted the reality
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is not work that way you will be
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competitive with another government who
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at your age who at the same priority
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like you who interested the same thing
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like you in the market just assume we
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both sell the same thing the mic okay I
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work from five :3 to 1100 p.m. every day
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with one kid for example just assume
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that like real life situation one kid in
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the house and only me and my kid and I
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have a bunch of team I have to run so my
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priority that's to only theise do the
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same thing also sell the mic okay just
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assume now she need to take care of the
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whole team plus you need to go date with
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her husband because married need to
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maintain right then she need to good
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good look good for the date okay and
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then now and I have no meat I have no so
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I need and then now she need to go to
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visit parent both sides I think some
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something happened you already see the
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answer and that's why I'm talking about
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the scale the the weight how much you
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want to book heavy here you have to be
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ready to take this weight here as well
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yeah you must remove it's like this one
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yeah so you you cannot like you cannot
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choose and when I I tell you the fact
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because yeah at that moment I like wait
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I know I don't want to marry anymore why
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every time the guy I go dig I feel oh my
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God I want to have family again that's
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univ will test you again you sure you
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want to be entrepreneur look at you you
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happy now you should get another guy you
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Freedom you make money you can manage
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your life but it's not it's it's all
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it's just a test because to confirm
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again do you want your dream bad enough
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and and and I I of course it take
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training years of training for the last
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four years I do this with my mentor
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until now he meet me I'm very proud last
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year he meet me I like hm you're getting
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wiser very good you're getting more
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jaded yeah I said now you eat guy like a
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breakfast right I said don't say that I
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say no I'm just kidding it sounds like
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you're having bread wor or sausages for
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what he tried to say is I can just meet
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a guy and I can move on very fast now
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that means you have kind of mastered
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your own emotional needs do not fall
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into guy and
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decide to oh should I start investing
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him have family with him you know to
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have kid because you know I'm a family
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woman too you know uh everybody felt
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that to be successful you have to run
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your own business and you took me I
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think close to 30 years I don't agree
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with that to realize that it's not for
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me and I used to be so harsh myself and
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and I will tell you as a person who run
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business I will say why it's not because
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the last thing I want to do is go down
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and buy business for people buy back the
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business from people who don't know how
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to run business and I have to buy over
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from them because I'm basically a go and
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clear for other people who are
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completely don't know what they're doing
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who completely destroy their life now
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they heavy living death they need to get
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out of that business because they
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thought that's will make them money now
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make them death for life and when you go
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through all this paperwork with your
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accountant and you look at this guy and
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you're like you know they are not b now
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you have to work your ass off for the
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rest of your life to pay this death you
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better born a golden son man like it's
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it's so so painful to watch that and
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that's why I tell I'm say it's not for
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everyone just don't believe everything
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that Society tells you because when I
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was younger everybody was say oh to be a
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boss means you have made it you know
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what I mean that that was like the the
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thing about that then it took me and
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because I fed into that I believe that
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right
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um so I felt like why I do why I try you
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know when you you you around person you
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try to put yourself in the square hole
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it's never going to work so everybody
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everybody says that to be successful you
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need to go inside a square hole which is
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to be a boss so I try many ways to stuff
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myself in the square hole but obviously
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it doesn't work yeah because I'm one day
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you will ready one day I'll will be
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ready to watch be square no be a
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boss I will I will train her until then
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because I know that's what she I need to
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be a boss I know that's her last pick of
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her life that's what she need to do I
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know 50 P or something late 40 it's a
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disaster the next M show y only making
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making it like she she she made it like
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very very late on in life right yeah but
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good job for the for the well you start
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later than me as well so it's okay
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because I start much because I had a
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good life as a kid yeah so that's when
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it's a good thing and a bad thing to
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have a struggle when you're young girl
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yeah she has a lot struggle so she grew
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up that fast I had close to zero
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struggle so I grew up very
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slowly oh I have one more banana leave
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inside the room as well that's one also
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that one also has he having a good life
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I think generally we are born good with
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the team work with Team I don't worry
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she good at that she right now is like
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because the the the primary school I
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think one of the thing you guys have
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that you guys very charm mean the making
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friends yeah you can make other people
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do for you so what was my struggle my
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struggle was I would have to do do it
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and other people what the biggest
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struggle is when you have teammates they
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are not doing things ah yeah that's what
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she that's what she crying all the down
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yeah that that that was a my biggest
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struggle I was because you want to
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control people no I don't want to
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control but I just want every really
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just do your own part you sit you will
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do it but it's not
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done and then after that I get it and
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then after that and one so I will
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volunteer to put it together at the end
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because you do part A you part B have to
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put it together make sure it join
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properly together like a proposal right
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yeah and then it's not sent to me in
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time and then I have to rush to submit
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on time and then it become my
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problem time to learn leadership yeah
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that's why that's why that's why I
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realized that ah no I rather that's just
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that's just not just do by myself it's
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easier that way but anyway yes she will
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start to have a good projects oh please
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I can't wait then it's outside school
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hours but this is a lucky girl that I I
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think she will have a lot of luck she
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Lucky by so I also a lucky girl yeah
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it's not a Sy I don't have that lucky
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all my luck is com I will drop my okay I
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will drop my wallet and you come to a
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point where when I was much younger I
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can drop my entire wallet and then then
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then people like you drop your entire
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wallet then you know last time handphone
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right your wallet is everything course
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your phone card your IC your money
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everything your B card is all inside cut
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all
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inside I said just go and take why take
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I said no nobody will take my wallet how
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you know your wallet you put somewhere
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secret I said no just dra on the floor
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then I go the Mt the somebody will pick
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up and put at the counter for
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me or or I will go back to where I drop
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it and he will stand on the floor even
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if that make people it's just still
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there the nothing is
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missing see that's why that's the real
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you're lucky yeah but but but it runs
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out it does run out so the universe will
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give you a few chances so if you don't
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learn to take care of things then then
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yeah he runs a lot share and subscribe
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and we will see you guys at the next
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episode of I am and the den ni bye
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