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who knows if this is even going to work
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the battery on the camera is
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dying I am outside my kids are upstairs
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with someone who's looking after them
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beautiful beautiful human and I am here
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to talk about master
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Detachment and everything will chase you
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as opposed to you chasing it so I have
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the cup of coffee I have the
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conversation ready we don't care care
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about the sound we don't care about the
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quality we care about the message the
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message is the important thing today
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ladies and gentlemen because I know I
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know that this is something that is
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keeping you stuck I know that this is
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something you need to work on that is my
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cup of coffee okay listen to that we're
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going to get into it there's going to be
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10 to 13 points okay there's going to be
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10 to 13 points for you to master
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Detachment Detachment is the key my
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friend to life and to your progress I
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changed from an anxiously attached
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person to one who is secure and fabulous
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I'm joking it's not all about being
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secure and fabulous I sometimes have
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moments but they are very rare and far
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between sometimes I want to even know if
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I'm human like why don't I care why
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don't I care about the results of things
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because I have tapped in to what it
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means what life is about I am Buddha in
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this no I'm joking I'm not I I I
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have moments of complete Stress and
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Anxiety and everything I'm a human being
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but as a girly who was previously
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anxious I can walk you through it
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handholding the and help you okay number
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one the illusion of control is the
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problem the illusion of control while
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clinging actually pushes things away
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understand when you feel you've got
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control over something you've got the
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illusion of control the feeling of
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control does not actually mean you've
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got control of something the feeling of
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you checking his phone does not mean
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that he is faithful to you the feeling
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that you are check with him every time
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what are you up to what are you doing
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how are you are you coming home soon
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does not mean that he is not with
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somebody else or thinking of someone
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else you cannot control someone's mind
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when you ask me should I let him watch
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pornography and I say you know what what
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do you mean let he's his own person the
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feeling of control the feeling of I let
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him and therefore I have control hence
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the viral book by m Robbins let them let
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them it is the essence and the feeling
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of the fact that you're letting someone
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do something where you are in the
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position of power that makes that
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message so powerful but in this Essence
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we are understanding that it's just an
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illusion that's why her theme and her
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whole idea is so clever because it gives
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people like you and me the feeling of
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control when in reality you don't have
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any you don't have any control over
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anybody but who who Jessica in the back
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your damn self that's right people chase
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what they think they need but
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desperation
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repels okay so to understand the
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illusion of control and clinging to
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things pushes people away is the number
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one rule of Detachment if you try and
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understand that if you're somebody who's
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anxiously attached you will have had a
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few methodologies that you use Constant
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Contact constant asking if somebody's
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okay constantly gazing into their eyes
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evalua waiting like Terminator to their
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emotions and how they must feel if you
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have that feeling around people then
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understand you're probably repelling
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them and not attracting them because
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nobody needs that in their life if
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somebody did that to you you would not
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enjoy it no you
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wouldn't no you wouldn't
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Samantha the energy shift is attraction
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happens when you surrender and don't
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force it's a very beautiful thing to
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watch someone who is surrendered to
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their
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experience you want to cheat on me go
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ahead you don't want to contact me go
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ahead you don't like to talk to me go
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ahead the only thing you will face is
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not my control but the circumstances of
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your actions that's right the
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circumstances of your actions what does
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that mean if you go about not contacting
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me cheating never coming home these are
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the things that people worry about right
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when they're actually attached
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abandonment essentially then in turn you
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will face the consequences of losing me
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she said as she pushed her car chair
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backwards okay example
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why the moment you stop caring about a
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text they suddenly text people are
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energetic beings babe people are
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energetic beings put your name down in
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the comments so I can choose a different
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name other than Jessica because Jessica
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she's just coming up okay she just comes
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up at the Forefront of my mind number
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two feminine energy and receiving versus
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chasing Detachment isn't indifference
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that's what you don't understand that's
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what you don't understand that's what
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you always confus right it's not
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indifference it's not caring it's not
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caring about life it is detaching from
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the end result it's trusting that
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whatever is meant for you will Flow To
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You hence if you are in tune with your
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feminine energy with the Earth with what
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it means to be a woman you will
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understand that what is meant for you
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will find you and you will live in a
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place of self- betterment
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self-development and the procurement of
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the betterment of yourself perfect place
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to put the paid partner of this podcast
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past address them look at them practice
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the art of receiving and feminine energy
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in flow and what is meant for you will
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be for you and you want someone to talk
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to about that therapy is a great place
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better help is an amazing place to go if
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someone who you resonate with and you
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can usually change that person within 48
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Hours also a licensed therapist you can
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talk to them you can text them you can
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do it in the convenience of your own
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home I've talked about them before but
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talk therapy is a very very amazing
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thing to hone in on if you want to
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practice the arm Detachment why because
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instead of texting him text your
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therapist okay you pay them it's a
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reciprocal relationship you have not
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paid this guy to listen to your crap
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partner of this piece of content this
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podcast anyway masculine energy chases
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and feminine energy magnetizes you see
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you think it's passive to be in feminine
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energy it is not you are magnetic by the
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essence of self-creation you are
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building yourself like I am building my
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booty at the moment and I'm not building
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it for Aesthetics okay Rhonda I'm not
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building it for Aesthetics I'm building
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it for function this is going to be one
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functioning but okay because I am
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creating the life that I am creating I
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know that I am a Creator I've created
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two children you have the feminine
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energy the power to create please do not
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confuse yourself okay the par is when
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you chase you step into your masculine
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energy making people pull away because
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masculine energy it pushes forward and
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if you want a masculine man and you're
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masculine and he's masculine you're like
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ra masculine in the middle chasing each
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other women often talk about oh men just
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aren't men anymore they don't chase us
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anymore how can he chase you if you're
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in his face you're in his George Foreman
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you're in his face how can he even you
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know chase you there's nothing to chase
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there's nothing to AC Quire you are no
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longer a prize okay number three
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Detachment in love
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don't just stop over investing in people
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who don't show up for you okay number
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three stop over investing in people who
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don't show up for you and in fact
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investing in people in general overall
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until they're a family member of yours
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that's the rule we're not investing in
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random randoms anymore no we're not
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doing it this is not a charity you're
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not a pooper scooper you don't scoop up
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random litter no
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the person who cares less holds the
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power okay not in a manipulative way
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just is the case the person who holds
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less has the bigger leverage that's why
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I say date people who really are
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invested in you and I know you're like
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oh I want to Fancy the guy I'm with you
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can fancy him okay okay latia you can
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fancy him but you need to understand
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that if you want someone to invest in
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you and chase you you need to be a
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little bit detached from the process you
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need to have a cool head and look at
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them for their merits not because
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they're six foot okay that's silly if
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someone isn't meeting your energy stop
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filling in the gaps the best and most
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powerful thing I can tell you about
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Detachment
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is don't fill in the gaps silence
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vacuums vacuums like to be filled so
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when you universal law stop talking and
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stop filling in all the gaps when you
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ask him a question stop and listen you
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want to get to know him as opposed to
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filling in all the gaps of time energy
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and space if you're always making plans
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you'll never make plans oh but I'm
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afraid he'll never make plans if I don't
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make plans well tough live in fear
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okay emotionally unavailable people
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sense when you let go and they step in
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and it's not as toxic as it sounds okay
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emotionally unavailable people are not
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available because they didn't have
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people who showed up for them in their
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life they're used to people being very
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demanding and needy of their energy they
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expect you to be very demanding and
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needy of the energy which you are okay
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okay you're very needing and demanding
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of their energy because you require a
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lot of cajoling effort time energy and
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you set up traps you set up traps by not
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exactly expressing what you want waiting
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for them to to see if they do the thing
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that you want will he plan something for
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my birthday is he going to do something
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for Valentine's Day and you say nothing
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you say nothing you try and be the good
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girl as opposed to a happy girl a happy
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girl would do what tell him I want this
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this this for Valentine's Day this is my
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expectation I would love that thank you
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kisses Princess treatment but you you
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set up traps because no no I don't want
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anything no no no no no no not for not
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for me I'm very very low needs person
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person okay Lydia okay
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okay but actually you're setting up
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traps because you're creating a toxic
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environment where that person can't
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fulfill your needs number four the
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psychological trigger why scarcity
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increases value the of Det Detachment
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people value what is scarce when you
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detach you become the prize when you are
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less desperate like any shop out there
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right uh it's hard to get a burin it's
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hard to get into Herz scarcity that is
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basic human psychology but I don't want
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you to fake scarcity I want you to fill
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your life with so much abundance and so
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much stuff my husband can't get a date
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with me babe do you understand my
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husband cannot get a date with me book
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it okay I'm joking but L book it like
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he's trying to call me right now can you
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not call me please you screwing up my
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notes the luxury mindset is you don't
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beg for attention you magnetize
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attention notice how Bentley and Ferrari
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don't advertise on TV have you noticed
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they don't advertise yeah because they
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don't need your attention the difference
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between a pickme girl who's like I can
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do this I can do that I can do
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everything and someone who knows her
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worth is somebody who's not alloud about
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it they don't advertise about it they
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don't talk about it they have a scarcity
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attitude they don't try and
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sell okay don't try and sell yourself
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number five the energy signature of an
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effortless effortlessly effortlessly
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speak English speak English Okay
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magnetic woman she's emotionally
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independent her mood isn't dictated by
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others no no no why are you dying
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battery why are you dying her mood is
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not affected by others she is
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emotionally independent she is
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self-focused not in a selfish way and
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she she has self-respect she has
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Mystique because she doesn't have to
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regurgitate and say everything
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everything all the time she's not always
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available to everybody okay she's got a
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signature of Independence around her
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she's not reliant on the opinions of
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people if you find yourself asking
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people what they think all the time what
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you should do all the time what you
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should post all the time what you should
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wear all the time you are not practicing
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the art of Detachment stop asking
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people's opinions stop it okay stop
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asking people's opinions and just do
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what you know start to connect to your
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feminine energy and your solar plexus
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start to connect if this dies and you
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hear a shift in sound that's because I'm
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I don't know I'll probably just charge
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the camera
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anyway number six the reverse effort law
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the more you try the more you
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repel obsession over him and anything in
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life jobs everything even how I built my
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career I was so obsessed on becoming an
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actor being the best actor going to
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auditions appearing the best I don't
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care how I appear I'm sitting here
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without makeup now and I don't care and
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it's the most successful I have been in
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my life Obsession and total like
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maddening Obsession kills the attraction
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letting go is a mindset shift that you
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are not the hunter you are the
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prize be that prey animal be that little
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deer stop trying to hunt for everything
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doing less and pulling back is the key
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Essence to feminine energy and
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Detachment okay number
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seven leave more
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silence hear that silence is powerful it
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makes people wonder don't feeling gaps
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you don't always have to explain
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yourself don't complain don't explain
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I've told you that before you don't
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always have to oh I did that or thank
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you so much for doing that for me oh no
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no no it's okay you don't always have to
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explain yourself huh just laugh things
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off oh are you are you is dating me or
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what are we huh that's funny the
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attachment is letting people draw their
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own conclusions about what you did the
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woman who lets a man think they're
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winning her over rather than proving
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herself all the time I've said this time
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and time again do you want to be right
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or do you want to win because if you can
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make him if you can detach from your
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need because we grow up in a certain
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Society where we're like I can do it too
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as good as a man I don't want to do as
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good as a man I want him to do it for me
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and I want to do my own thing better
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than him anyway right we have different
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superpowers are are more powerful we
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create life they just kind of mildly you
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know do a few things but the point is
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you don't have to prove yourself to no
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man specifically okay don't
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always try and explain yourself it's the
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most low energy
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low move that you can do no I was just
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this no cuz I was thinking no stop stop
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explaining yourself number eight The
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Secret of a high value woman who knows
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attachment is being being okay with
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losing people and I mean that in a
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walking away from people I don't mean
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that in a grieving sense Detachment
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means I will not shrink myself to keep
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anyone
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around the way to keep a a man
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interested in you forever and ever and
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ever amen is to for him to know for him
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to know because women change for
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relationships my amazing friend in my
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head he's my friend he's actually my
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friend Adam Lane Smith Detachment expert
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and psychologist psychiatrist what is he
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anyway he check him out he's amazing he
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said that a woman changes for
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relationships which is so true because
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we're so relationship oriented and a man
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changes because of circumstances if if
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you're still around he's not going to
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change but you can't always leave him in
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order to make him change okay that
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doesn't work but if he can see that your
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ass is detached that you're not there
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for any result and you're not leeching
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onto anything from
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him he will worship the ground you walk
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on if someone leaving your life will
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destroy you tionally financially in any
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kind of way you're too
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attached and we often talk about
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finances in in in today's society we
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often talk about oh I've got my own
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finances I don't care he knows I can
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leave at any point but you're completely
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emotionally completely completely
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entangled in him how about you use his
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finances because you've had two of his
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children so use those that's fine have
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your own job as well that's cool but
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you're emotionally detached now that
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makes you a power player on a level that
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men have not seen or heard of in a very
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very long time write down who you are
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without the attachment of anybody write
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the merits you have and your identity
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and your Independence in a journal use
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my journal down there use
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anything um but write it down number
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nine the energy audit where are you
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holding on to tightly what needs to be
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let go of like the dove whose rib cage
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you are crushing in dating are you
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hoping for attention and being
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the focus and constant messages from
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somebody in friendships are You The
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overg Giver the person who's always
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proving loyalty always the one texting
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back always doing doing doing in the
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career are you chasing for a result
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instead of focusing on the Mastery of
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your
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skill oh my God Jenny the mastering of
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your skill I think I had a breakthrough
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with my career when I I I stopped trying
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to please people and audition like like
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audition like an actor and when I went
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and I said what am I passionate about
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that's self-development and women and I
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did a diploma in life coaching and I
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started just saying what I want to
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because I started wanting to master NLP
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and branding and conversations with
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women that's when it happened for me
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number 10 whatever happens happens
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mentality people who succeed
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effortlessly don't grip hard onto
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outcomes the truth if you don't let go
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you stay stuck in an entire attachment
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based suffering because you don't
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understand that maybe there's something
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that's better out there for you you
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fixated on this thing but you need to
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understand that something out there
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could be better for you let
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go this is the challenge one week of
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total Detachment okay no initiating text
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for one
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week no checking if they've watched your
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stories
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detox no asking anybody if they're okay
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don't ask ask him what he's thinking
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women in relationships okay do not ask
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if they're okay what they're thinking
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what they doing what should you do when
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are you seeing them next no no internal
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spirals over things as soon as you start
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to internally spiral and think about
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what they're doing what are they
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thinking your punishment is self-
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betterment you better be doing a face
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mask while you're doing it you better be
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brushing your teeth you better be
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putting some oil in your hair you better
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be working out your ass like me
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okay number three no fa ing if something
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feels difficult Let It Go and like say
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planning a date with him is difficult
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Let It Go and I don't mean Let It Go
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like yeah sorry planning is a bit
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difficult with you so next time you're
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going to want to plan it you're going to
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have to no none of that none of that
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none of that just stop journaling prompt
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who am I when I don't need external
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validation who am I the entirety of me
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the universe that is me We Are All Made
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of Stars who am I when I don't need
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external
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validation who cares car what they think
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of you who
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cares are they paying your bills even if
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they are let them you
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know guys I'm going to go upstairs Fe my
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children dinner put them to
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bed love you lot s jelly tots and I'll
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see you on the next one bye
