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You may believe that your pain comes
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from your love, but I ask you to look
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deeper. uh the ache you feel, the
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longing to heal others, to bear their
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burdens, to mend what is broken in them.
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It does not emerge purely from
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compassion. It is not only light that
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drives this impulse, but also a shadow,
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a hid, a secret pact made between your
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soul and the ghosts of your past. And
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unless you awaken to this truth, you
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will drown in the very waters you
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attempt to rescue others from. Let us
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begin with a simple but terrifying idea.
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The rescuer is often the one who is most
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in need of rescue. The empath, the
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healer, uh the selfless giver, they are
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not saints in the making. But often
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children of emotional neglect,
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survivors of deep emotional trauma who
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learned to tether their value to the act
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of saving another. This is not love.
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This is addiction. Uh uh this is the
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psyche attempting to resolve its primal
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wound through others. And uh the more
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unconscious this drive remains, the more
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destructive it becomes. You see uh the
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empath archetype is not merely a noble
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role. It is a deeply dangerous one. It
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seduces you into forgetting yourself. It
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whispers the lie that your worth lies in
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how much suffering you can absorb. That
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love is synonymous with sacrifice.
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that to let someone go is to betray your
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purpose. And so you remain bound to
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them, drained by them, unraveling piece
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by piece, believing that you are strong
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enough to carry both your pain and
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theirs. But this is not strength. This
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is fragmentation. When you enter into a
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relationship where you constantly give
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and they constantly take, you are not
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loving them. you are reenacting a
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psychic drama that began long before
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they arrived. Somewhere in your early
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psychic development,
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uh, a blueprint was forged. You became
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the caretaker.
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Uh, the one who had to attune to the
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emotional climate of others for
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survival. You learned that your needs
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were too much, that your emotions were
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inconvenient,
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that the only way to be loved was to
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abandon yourself. And now uh you call
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this empathy. But let us not mistake
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trauma bonding for love. Let us not
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confuse emotional fusion with
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connection.
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Love in its truest form does not require
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you to disappear. Uh there is a dream I
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once interpreted from a patient who was
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tormented by this pattern. She found
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herself standing at the edge of a vast
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ocean watching as someone she loved was
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drowning. She leapt into the water to
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save them. But the closer she swam uh
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the more she realized they were made of
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shadows. And as she reached out, they
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dissolved into her body. She awoke
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choking, gasping,
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soaked in sweat. This is the fate of the
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empath who is unconscious of their
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shadow. They do not rescue. They are
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consumed. The archetype of the savior is
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a seductive one for it grants a sense of
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power to the powerless
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to heal another becomes a way to bypass
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healing oneself. But the psyche cannot
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be fooled. It demand balance. It demands
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individuation.
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And when we abandon our own path to walk
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in others, we violate the sacred law of
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psychic integrity. The unconscious is
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not kind when ignored. It will manifest
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in symptoms, in anxiety, in burnout, in
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inexplicable rage. It will scream
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through the body what the conscious mind
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refuses to hear. You are losing
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yourself.
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uh you are being eaten alive by a story
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that does not belong to you. But perhaps
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the most tragic illusion is this, the
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belief that you can save them. That your
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love will be enough to transform them.
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That if you stay long enough, uh bleed
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deep enough, cry hard enough, they will
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awaken.
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No, if they do not choose to awaken
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themselves, your sacrifice becomes
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martyrdom. not medicine. You are not
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their god. You are not their soul. You
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cannot override their karma. You cannot
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rewrite their myth. This is not to say
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we are not connected.
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We are but psychic responsibility is
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sacred. To carry another's destiny is to
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rob them of their soul's journey. To
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interfere too deeply in their suffering
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is to halt the very process that may one
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day save them. Not through your
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intervention but through their own
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descent. We cannot deprive others of
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their darkness without denying them
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their transformation. The empath must
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learn boundaries not as walls but as
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sacred geometry
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as the architecture of individuation.
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Boundaries do not block love. They
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refine it. They teach you to pour from
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the cup only when it overflows.
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Never from your lifeblood.
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They remind you that self-sacrifice is
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holy only when it is conscious, not
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compulsive. I have seen the empath as
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the modern mystic sensitive,
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porous, attuned to the invisible
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currents of emotion, often carrying more
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than they can articulate.
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But I have also seen them shattered,
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fragmented,
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lost in the emotional labyrinth of
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others. Their dreams littered with dying
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animals, burning houses,
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screaming children. These are symbols of
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the self being annihilated.
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These are not spiritual visions.
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These are uh psychic cries for help. You
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cannot serve the collective if your
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individual self is in ruins. You cannot
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be a vessel if your center is hollow.
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The soul does not require you to bleed
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endlessly. It requires you to become
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whole. And sometimes
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wholeness demands
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walking away. There is a moment in every
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empath's life when they must face the
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great betrayal, the decision to choose
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themselves.
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It feels like death, like abandonment,
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like sin. But it is sacred. It is the
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first step toward reclaiming the self
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from the altar of false sacrifice. And
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here in this crucible of uh decision,
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the shadow arises.
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It mocks. It accuses.
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It shows you all the faces you've left
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behind. uh all the people you believe
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you failed but it is a trick. The shadow
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is not your enemy. It is your teacher.
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It is showing you the guilt you carry,
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the fear that you are unlovable if not
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useful. It is urging you to integrate,
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not deny the part of you that longs to
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be chosen too. You must understand
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the desire to heal is not wrong. But
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when it is rooted in compulsion,
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it becomes contamination
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to offer your energy without consent,
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without limits, without consciousness.
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That is not divine. That is dangerous.
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You merge with the other and in doing so
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you lose your ego boundaries.
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You drown in their sea. Forgetting that
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your own island is worth inhabiting. Do
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not confuse this with selfishness. To
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honor the self is to respect the soul.
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The self is not the enemy of love. It is
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the vessel through which authentic love
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can flow. Without the self, there is
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only enshment.
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And enshment is not intimacy. It is a
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psychic suffocation. I ask you now to
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consider when did you first believe that
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saving others was your role? Trace it.
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Follow the thread. Was it a parent who
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could not regulate their emotion unless
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you became their therapist? Was it a
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partner who only offered love when you
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carried their weight? Was it a culture
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that praised martyrdom and punished
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individuality? These are not random
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patterns. They are psychic imprints and
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unless brought to consciousness.
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Uh they will govern your destiny like
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silent tyrants. You cannot save them.
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You were never meant to. You can love
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them, pray for them, offer truth, but
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you cannot descend into the underworld
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in their place. You cannot substitute
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your healing for theirs. That is not
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empathy. That is possession.
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That is the ego disguised as virtue. To
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truly love someone is to allow them the
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dignity of their own suffering. And to
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truly love yourself is to know when to
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walk away. Let this be your initiation.
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There is a secret pact made by many
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empaths. One they are rarely aware of.
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It is a vow whispered not in words but
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in the wound itself. If I can just love
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them enough, they won't leave me. If I
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make myself essential, they will stay.
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If I absorb their pain, they will not
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abandon me the way I was once abandoned.
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This is not compassion. This is trauma's
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echo. And like all echoes, it distorts
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the truth. The further it travels. What
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you must come to see is this. The
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compulsion to save others is often a
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defense mechanism to avoid facing the
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terrifying emptiness within. It is
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easier to obsess over their wounds than
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to sit quietly with your own. It is
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easier to drown in their storm than to
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brave the silence of your own inner
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world. But the self, the the the true
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self cannot be found in another's
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salvation. It can only be found by
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descending into your own depths. The
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unconscious demands confrontation.
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It does not heal through avoidance.
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And the empath who perpetually orbits
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around others hoping to extract a sense
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of purpose will ultimately become
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resentful,
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exhausted
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and uh fragmented. Their life becomes a
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string of one-sided relationships
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where they are always the giver, always
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the listener, always the one holding the
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pain. But underneath it all is a secret
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longing. When will someone finally save
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me? But you see, no one can. Not in the
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way you imagined.
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Because what you truly long for is not
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another person's affection. It is your
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own presence. The presence you abandoned
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long ago in the name of being needed.
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You gave yourself away so early,
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so instinctively
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that now in adulthood
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it feels unnatural to reclaim yourself.
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It feels wrong.
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It feels like betrayal, but it is not
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betrayal. It is rebirth. The archetype
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of the wounded healer emerges here.
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Chiron pierced by a wound that could
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never heal
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uh becomes the great teacher of
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medicine. But not because he escaped
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pain. He became a healer only by fully
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acknowledging that his wound would never
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leave him and learning how to transform
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that suffering into wisdom rather than a
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crutch. The empath must undergo this
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same alchemical transformation.
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You are not meant to be healed before
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you serve. You are meant to serve
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through your awareness of the wound. Not
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by pretending it doesn't exist, but by
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no longer using others as substitutes
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for healing it. There is a paradox at
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the heart of empathy. To truly
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understand another's suffering, you must
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be open. But to remain open without
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losing yourself, you must also be
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rooted. This is what many empaths never
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learn. They mistake openness for
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availability.
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But availability without discernment is
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self-destruction.
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You were never meant to be an open wound
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for the world to bleed into. There must
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be form, there must be sacred structure.
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Just as the psyche has its architecture,
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the ego, the shadow, uh the animos, so
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too must your heart have boundaries.
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Without these you become flooded and
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when you are flooded you are no longer
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helping. You are transmitting your chaos
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into the field that is not healing. That
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is contagion. You must reclaim your
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center. Uh when I speak of the center I
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do not mean selfishness.
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I mean the the axis around which your
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psychic life must revolve.
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Without this axis,
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you are thrown into the orbits of
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others, spinning endlessly in their
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chaos, uh mistaking their needs for your
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purpose. And uh the more you lose
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yourself in this uh the more alien your
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own soul becomes. Do you remember what
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your soul feels like without them? Uh
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that is a question most empaths cannot
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answer. Their sense of self has become
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so imshed in others that they mistake
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emotional fusion for connection.
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Uh they feel needed and call it love. Uh
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they feel useful and call it devotion.
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But love that demands you abandon your
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essence is not love. It is seduction by
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the shadow. Every time you say yes, when
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your body screams no, you fracture a
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little more. Every time you offer your
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energy without inner consent, you betray
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the self and the self does not remain
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silent. It begins to rebel. It
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sabotages.
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It weeps through the dreams. It screams
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through the body. It will haunt you
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until you remember your name in dreams.
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I have seen this betrayal symbolized
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again and again. A house with no doors.
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A mirror that reflects no image. A child
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locked in a cellar. These are not mere
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symbols. They are psychic truths. The
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house is the self unguarded,
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unprotected.
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The mirror is the ego shattered,
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invisible.
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The child is the core. You abandoned in
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the basement of your own being. And so I
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ask, who are you? Without their pain, if
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this question terrifies you, you have
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your answer. You have made yourself a
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vessel for their suffering because your
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identity depends on it. But your soul is
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not here to be an emotional landfill.
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Your soul is here to become radiant in
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its fullness. You cannot do this while
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carrying the weight of 10 other lives.
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You were not built for that. Even Christ
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fell under the cross. I once worked with
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a woman whose dream revealed the truth
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more clearly than any words could. She
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dreamt she was dragging a cart up a
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steep mountain. Inside the cart were the
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people she loved. Her partner, her
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children, her friends, all of them
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asleep. As she pulled, her feet began to
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bleed. Her back cracked, but she would
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not stop. Finally, she collapsed. When
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she turned back, the cart was empty.
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They had all disappeared.
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She had tracked an illusion. That is
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what happens when we take on the work of
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others. They may not ask it, but we
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offer it hoping it will buy us love,
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loyalty,
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permanence.
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But true connection cannot be earned
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through suffering. It must be mutual
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uh reciprocal
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energetically sovereign. If they are not
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awake enough to rise, then your descent
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will not save them. It will only bury
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you. So you must learn to say no. Not
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from bitterness, but from sovereignty.
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No to the conversations that train you.
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No to the entanglements
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that rob you of clarity.
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No to the roles you never consciously
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agreed to play. Each no is a yes to
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yourself. Uh and that yes when spoken
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with integrity
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has the power to realign your entire
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life. I do not say this lightly. I know
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the guilt that comes with choosing the
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self. It is ancient.
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It is archetypal.
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The empath
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believes they must choose between being
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loved and being whole. But this is a
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false dichotomy.
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Love that demands your fragmentation is
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not love. It is bondage and it must be
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cast into the fire. Individuation
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demands sacrifice. But not the kind you
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have been taught. Not the sacrifice of
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your essence. Not the slow leak of your
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soul into the hands of the unready. The
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sacrifice is your fantasy. The fantasy
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that you can fix them. The fantasy that
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if you are good enough, need it enough,
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selfless enough, they will finally wake
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up. Let it the self is born in the ashes
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of fantasy. You must become ruthless in
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your discernment.
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Not cruel but clear. Compassion without
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clarity is chaos. You are not here to
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carry their karma. You are here to walk
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your path. And if they join you, it must
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be by choice, not by manipulation.
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If they awaken,
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it must be from within, not from your
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constant resuscitation. And yes, some
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may leave you. Some will accuse you.
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Some will say you have changed. Let them
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let them project.
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Let them throw their pain into the wind.
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You no longer need to catch it. You are
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not their container. You are not their
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savior. You are not their scapegoat.
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You are your own soul. And that is
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sacred enough. Do not be afraid of
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solitude. In the void, the self is
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revealed. In the silence, the voice of
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your soul returns.
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And when it does, you will remember
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something astonishing. You never needed
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them to be whole. You only needed your
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own presence, your own love, your own
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light. And so you rise. The soul once
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neglected
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does not return with a whisper. It
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arrives with thunder. When you finally
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stop chasing others, when you stop
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leaking your essence into the open mouth
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of those who cannot feed themselves,
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something ancient begins to stir within
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you. It is not dramatic. It is not loud.
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It is quiet. but terrifying in its
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clarity. You begin to feel your own
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presence. And it is a presence unlike
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anything you have ever felt before. Not
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the anxious buzzing of caretaking. Not
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the exhausted glow of being helpful.
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This presence is dense, so fine,
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powerful. It asks nothing. It proves
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nothing. It simply is. This is the
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moment when the empath begins to awaken
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not to the suffering of others but to
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their own divinity.
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And uh in this awakening
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a new pain arises
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uh a beautiful pain. It is the pain of
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realizing how long you have abandoned
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yourself, how long you have lived
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outside of your own body, how many tears
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you have shed for others while your own
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wounds remained untouched.
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But do not resist this grief. It is
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holy. It is the gate through which
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wholeness enters. The ego conditioned by
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years of unconscious service to others
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will resist this transition. It will
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whisper you are being selfish. You are
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betraying them. You are leaving them
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behind. But these are not the words of
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truth. These are the echoes of a false
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identity. an identity that says your
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worth is measured by your ability to
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disappear for someone else's survival.
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But your soul was never meant to
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disappear. It was meant to shine. You
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must understand that healing others does
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not require you to be their mirror. It
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requires you to be your own flame. When
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you are lit from within, you become a
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light. They can walk by, not a crutch.
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They collapse into and there is a a
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world of difference between the two. The
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wounded empath becomes a sponge.
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The awakened empath becomes a beacon. In
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the old mythologies,
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the healer was never just one who
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removed pain. They were initiates.
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Those who had walked through the
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underworld and returned with sacred
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fire, they understood that healing was
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not rescue. It was remembrance.
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They did not interfere with the soul's
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journey. They illuminated it. You are
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being called now to become such a
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healer. Not the rescuer, but the mirror,
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not the martyr, but the mystic. To do
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this, you must confront the part of you
00:26:03
that needs to be needed. This is the
00:26:05
shadow of the empath. This is the
00:26:08
serpent coiled beneath the surface of
00:26:11
every yes you speak when you mean no. It
00:26:13
is seductive. This identity, it tells
00:26:17
you that you are kind, that you are
00:26:22
spiritual,
00:26:24
uh that you are selfless. But beneath it
00:26:27
is fear. Fear that without being needed
00:26:31
you will not be loved. Fear that your
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inherent being is not enough. And this
00:26:38
fear until integrated
00:26:41
will poison even your most generous
00:26:45
intentions. Let us turn inward now. What
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does your inner landscape reveal? Is it
00:26:52
quiet or does it echo with the noise of
00:26:55
others needs? Are your thoughts your
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own? Or are they filled with
00:27:00
calculations? How to help them? Fix
00:27:03
them. Sue them. Keep them close. Do you
00:27:07
even remember what you desire
00:27:10
apart from their desires? Most impats do
00:27:14
not know. They have been so attuned to
00:27:17
the outer field that their inner world
00:27:20
has become a mystery. But this mystery
00:27:23
must now be explored. The path forward
00:27:27
requires a journey into the interior,
00:27:30
into the dark forest, into the hidden
00:27:33
temple where your soul has been waiting
00:27:35
not to be found, but to be reclaimed.
00:27:39
You will not like all that you find
00:27:41
there. You will find resentment,
00:27:45
uh, bitterness,
00:27:46
envy. You will discover that parts of
00:27:50
you hate the very people you love. Hate
00:27:53
them for how much they've taken, for how
00:27:55
little they've seen you. And this will
00:28:00
feel like sacrilege.
00:28:02
But it is not. It is truth. And truth is
00:28:07
the first step to liberation. When you
00:28:10
acknowledge these shadow emotions,
00:28:14
uh something miraculous happens. They
00:28:17
begin to transform.
00:28:19
Rage becomes clarity.
00:28:22
Grief becomes power. Disgust becomes
00:28:25
discernment.
00:28:27
Uh and you realize your capacity for
00:28:29
love has not diminished.
00:28:32
It has become refined.
00:28:35
You no longer need to love through
00:28:37
suffering. You can love through
00:28:39
presence, through truth, through clean
00:28:44
energy. And those who truly love you
00:28:47
will feel the shift. They will rise to
00:28:50
meet you or they will fall away. But
00:28:54
either way, you will remain whole
00:28:57
because now you have roots. The journey
00:29:01
of individuation,
00:29:02
the great task of becoming who you truly
00:29:06
are requires you to step out of all
00:29:10
inherited roles. The role of the good
00:29:12
daughter, the obedient partner, the
00:29:16
spiritual helper, the selfless friend.
00:29:20
These masks must be burned. They are not
00:29:24
your face.
00:29:26
They are fragments, personas,
00:29:29
constructs built to protect the child
00:29:33
who once had no voice, but now you have
00:29:36
a voice, speak with it. uh say the
00:29:40
unspeakable
00:29:42
I do not want to carry this. Say I
00:29:46
deserve to rest. Say I will no longer
00:29:51
dim my light for your comfort. And then
00:29:54
watch what happens. Some will rage. Some
00:29:59
will retreat. But others others will
00:30:03
awaken.
00:30:04
Your authenticity will ignite their own.
00:30:10
Your self-possession will ripple into
00:30:12
their field. This is the true healing.
00:30:16
Do not fear the loneliness that comes
00:30:19
with this path. It is not punishment. It
00:30:23
is initiation. It is the soul clearing
00:30:26
the space for true connection, for
00:30:29
resonance,
00:30:31
for relationships not built on guilt,
00:30:34
need or projection, but on mutuality,
00:30:39
intimacy and sacred sovereignty. You are
00:30:43
not here to merge. You are here to meet.
00:30:47
And meeting requires two whole beings,
00:30:51
not one devouring the other. In dream
00:30:54
symbolism,
00:30:56
the flood often represents emotional
00:30:59
overwhelm. The empath is often plagued
00:31:02
by such dreams, tidal waves, drowning
00:31:05
cities,
00:31:07
uh broken dumps. These are not random.
00:31:11
Uh they are messages from the
00:31:14
unconscious.
00:31:16
They are saying contain your energy,
00:31:19
build the dam, structure your flow.
00:31:22
Without containment, your energy leaks
00:31:26
and where it leaks, it attracts the
00:31:30
unhealed
00:31:32
the needy. The vampire archetype. Yes,
00:31:36
vampires
00:31:38
are real, not with thanks, but with
00:31:42
need. They sense your openness. They
00:31:45
seek your light, but not to bask in it,
00:31:49
to consume it. And if you do not protect
00:31:52
yourself, you will mistake this feeling
00:31:55
for love. You will feel important,
00:31:59
special, irreplaceable.
00:32:02
But you will also feel tired,
00:32:05
confused,
00:32:07
empty. That is not intimacy.
00:32:10
That is emotional parasitism. Your aura
00:32:14
is not a buffet. You must learn to
00:32:17
shield to say this is mine that is
00:32:22
yours. To feel their pain without
00:32:25
absorbing it to listen without losing
00:32:29
yourself. Uh this is not cold. It is
00:32:33
sacred skill. It is psychic hygiene. It
00:32:37
is the very boundary that allows you to
00:32:40
remain compassionate without becoming
00:32:42
contaminated.
00:32:44
And here is the deepest truth. You
00:32:46
cannot save them because they are not
00:32:48
yours to save. Each soul comes with its
00:32:52
own curriculum, its own dark nights, its
00:32:56
own awakenings.
00:32:58
When you interfere too deeply, you
00:33:01
interrupt this sacred design. You become
00:33:05
a thief, not of their pain, but of their
00:33:09
path. Let them fall. Let them rise. Love
00:33:13
them in the falling, in the rising,
00:33:17
in the silence in between, but stay on
00:33:22
your path. If they join you, uh,
00:33:25
beautiful. If not, walk on because the
00:33:30
greatest act of love is not sacrifice.
00:33:33
It is self-realization.
00:33:36
Uh and a fully realized self rooted in
00:33:41
wholeness is the greatest gift you can
00:33:44
ever offer the world. Not your fixing,
00:33:48
not your energy, not your time. You
00:33:52
fully alive, fully present, fully you.
00:33:57
And that my friend is more than enough.
00:34:01
The self is not static. It is a living
00:34:05
mystery, emergent,
00:34:08
luminous,
00:34:09
born again and again each time you shed
00:34:12
an old mask. And perhaps this is why the
00:34:16
empath's journey is so fraught with
00:34:18
sorrow because it demands so many
00:34:20
deaths. The death of the savior, the
00:34:23
death of the martr, the death of the
00:34:27
invisible one who smiles through the
00:34:29
ache. Each roll you release leaves
00:34:33
behind a hollow silence.
00:34:35
But in that silence
00:34:37
something sacred stirs.
00:34:40
It is not performance. It is not
00:34:43
usefulness.
00:34:45
It is not selflessness.
00:34:47
It is you untouched
00:34:50
divine
00:34:52
eternal. There will come a day when you
00:34:55
no longer explain your no longer soften
00:34:59
your truth, no longer twist your spirit
00:35:03
to fit the container of another's
00:35:05
wounding. You will look in the mirror
00:35:08
not to see if you are lovable, but
00:35:11
simply to witness
00:35:14
your whole present breathing. And in
00:35:20
that moment, something old within you
00:35:23
will exhale. You were never too much.
00:35:26
You were never too sensitive. You were
00:35:28
never wrong for feeling everything. You
00:35:31
simply needed to learn how to feel
00:35:33
yourself first. So many of you confuse
00:35:36
proximity with connection. But uh real
00:35:39
connection does not require you to
00:35:42
bleed. It does not require you to
00:35:45
shrink. It does not demand that you
00:35:48
become therapist,
00:35:50
priest,
00:35:51
savior or sponge. Real connection is
00:35:56
born in the space between the sacred
00:35:58
distance where two sovereign souls meet
00:36:01
without collapsing into one another. And
00:36:03
this meeting is not always peaceful.
00:36:06
Sometimes it is fire. Sometimes it is
00:36:09
mirror. Sometimes it is the eruption of
00:36:14
shadow, confronting shadow. But when you
00:36:17
are rooted in your own self, uh you do
00:36:20
not fear this encounter.
00:36:23
You do not run. You stand because you no
00:36:27
longer fear being seen. Uh and you no
00:36:30
longer fear being left. To love without
00:36:33
losing yourself is the greatest alchemy.
00:36:37
It requires the strength to hold your
00:36:39
shape in the face of their chaos. It
00:36:43
requires the courage to say I will not
00:36:47
abandon me even if you choose to abandon
00:36:51
you. And uh this is where the false
00:36:54
identity of the empath begins to crumble
00:36:57
because now your love is no longer
00:37:00
contaminated by need. Now it is clear,
00:37:06
clean, fierce. You no longer offer your
00:37:09
energy in exchange for safety. You offer
00:37:12
it as a blessing, a radiance,
00:37:17
a frequency.
00:37:18
And those who are ready will feel it not
00:37:22
as a life raft but as a mirror, a sacred
00:37:26
reflection of what they to uh can
00:37:30
become. Uh this is the moment you shift
00:37:33
from being the empath to being the
00:37:35
mystic. The mystic does not rescue. The
00:37:40
mystic remains. The mystic does not
00:37:43
absorb. The mystic transmutes. The
00:37:47
mystic does not collapse. The mystic
00:37:49
beholds. Uh you are no longer at the
00:37:53
mercy of the emotional field. You are
00:37:56
the calm in the storm, the flame in the
00:37:59
dark, the quiet in the noise. And
00:38:04
because of this, your presence itself
00:38:08
becomes the medicine. But make no
00:38:10
mistake, this path is not for the faint
00:38:12
of heart. To awaken to your sovereignty
00:38:16
is to lose the very identity that once
00:38:19
kept you safe. It is to disappoint,
00:38:22
to trigger, to be called selfish,
00:38:26
arrogant,
00:38:28
cold, and at times you will doubt.
00:38:33
You will want to return to the comfort
00:38:36
of being needed. You will ache for the
00:38:39
illusion of safety, but you will not go
00:38:42
back. Because once you taste the nectar
00:38:46
of your own wholeness,
00:38:48
dependence becomes bitter. There is a
00:38:51
loneliness that accompanies awakening, a
00:38:54
sacred loneliness
00:38:56
because now you no longer vibrate with
00:38:59
the same frequency of the wounded. You
00:39:03
are no longer magnetized to chaos. Your
00:39:07
nervous system is no longer addicted to
00:39:09
the highs and crashes of emotional
00:39:11
codependency.
00:39:12
You seek something quieter now, truer,
00:39:16
something that does not require you to
00:39:19
earn your place. And yes, this means
00:39:22
some will fall away. Let them bless
00:39:26
them. Their journey continues
00:39:29
and so does yours. You have not failed
00:39:31
them by choosing yourself. You have not
00:39:34
failed them by refusing to be consumed.
00:39:37
You have not failed them by walking away
00:39:41
when your soul said enough. That moment,
00:39:45
that sacred moment when you walk away
00:39:48
from what drains you, that is the moment
00:39:51
the divine uh claps in reverence. That
00:39:56
is the moment the old chains fall. That
00:39:59
is the moment the self begins to sing
00:40:02
because you finally remembered you were
00:40:04
never here to be the sacrifice. You were
00:40:08
here to be the revelation and now you
00:40:12
become the one you needed all along. You
00:40:15
sit with your own grief instead of
00:40:18
fleeing into theirs. You hold your own
00:40:20
heart instead of begging others to
00:40:24
cradle it. You forgive yourself not for
00:40:26
being broken but for ever believing you
00:40:30
had to be you become your own sanctuary.
00:40:33
And in doing so you no longer attract
00:40:36
the ones who want to feed. Uh you begin
00:40:39
to call in the ones who can see the ones
00:40:42
who meet you soul to soul. Not out of
00:40:46
desperation
00:40:48
but uh out of devotion. You are no
00:40:51
longer seduced by chaos because peace no
00:40:55
longer feels foreign. You are no longer
00:40:57
addicted to suffering because joy no
00:41:00
longer feels unsafe. And when they come
00:41:03
the new ones, the aligned ones. You do
00:41:07
not contort. You do not explain. You do
00:41:11
not chase. You simply exist. And that is
00:41:15
enough because now you belong to
00:41:18
yourself. Let this be your truth. Uh uh
00:41:22
written not in books but in the blood of
00:41:25
your becoming. Let this be your mantra.
00:41:30
I choose me. Not because you are
00:41:33
selfish, not because you are cold, but
00:41:36
because you are holy, because your life
00:41:40
is a temple and your energy is sacred
00:41:44
fire. Because your heart is not a
00:41:46
battlefield and your soul is not
00:41:49
collateral. Because your gift is not
00:41:51
your suffering. It is your light. Let
00:41:54
them rise or let them fall. But you you
00:41:58
will rise. You will rise in silence. You
00:42:02
will rise in truth. You will rise in
00:42:05
power. You will rise in the memory of
00:42:09
who you were before the world told you
00:42:12
to forget. And in your rising, you will
00:42:17
teach others.
00:42:19
Not by saving them, not by bleeding for
00:42:23
them, but by being being the one who
00:42:26
walked through fire and did not burn.
00:42:29
Being the one who said no and meant it.
00:42:32
Being the one who remembered their name
00:42:34
and never forgot again. This is the end
00:42:37
of the performance. This is the
00:42:39
beginning of embodiment. This is the
00:42:42
great turning, the great return, the
00:42:46
great liberation. You are not here to
00:42:49
carry them. You are here to carry you.
00:42:52
And that my dear one is the only
00:42:57
salvation this world has ever needed.
