Emotional Intelligence: Using the Laws of Attraction | D. Ivan Young | TEDxLSCTomball

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摘要

TLDRThe speaker emphasizes the connection between emotional intelligence and the laws of attraction. Emotional intelligence goes beyond understanding emotions to recognizing how they influence what we attract through our thoughts and feelings. The key lies in aligning our subconscious with what we consciously want, as subconscious beliefs often drive our outcomes. To improve our life manifestations, we must be mindful of our thoughts and emotions. The speaker suggests practicing proactive thinking, self-awareness, and meditation to better align with our desires, as our beliefs, feelings, and thoughts ultimately shape our reality. By understanding and mastering our mind, we can successfully manifest our true purposes and desires.

心得

  • 🤝 Emotional intelligence is crucial for understanding emotions and situations.
  • 🔄 Laws of attraction rely on what we project with our thoughts and feelings.
  • 🧠 Our subconscious mind influences what we manifest in life.
  • 💭 Monitoring thoughts can help in attracting positive outcomes.
  • 🕵️‍♀️ Being proactive helps in achieving desired results more effectively.
  • 📚 Learn to understand life's challenges for personal development.
  • 🎯 Align your purpose with your emotional and subconscious goals.
  • 🧘‍♂️ Meditation is a tool for aligning thoughts, emotions, and desires.
  • 😌 Embrace self-awareness to manage emotional intelligence better.
  • 🙏 Believing and feeling aligned with goals attracts them to you.

时间轴

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    The speaker engages in a discussion about emotional intelligence and the laws of attraction, emphasizing how they intertwine. Emotional intelligence is described as being aware of one's own feelings and those of others, but it also involves understanding situations and why they occur. The speaker links this to the laws of attraction, explaining that like attracts like, and what individuals focus on emotionally tends to manifest in their lives. The misuse of the laws of attraction is highlighted, where people may not fully embrace what they feel they deserve, leading to misalignment between their actions and desires.

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    The speaker elaborates on the role of the subconscious mind in shaping life's outcomes. Instead of conscious reactions to situations, one should train their subconscious by living in the moment, focusing on the present rather than past regrets or future anxieties. By questioning 'why' in every situation, individuals can uncover deeper meanings and lessons. The importance of being proactive over reactive, truly perceiving rather than just seeing, and understanding one's motivations is stressed. This introspection leads to alignment between emotional intelligence and the laws of attraction, driving purposeful action and realizing one's desires.

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常见问题

  • What is emotional intelligence?

    Emotional intelligence is understanding and being clear about your feelings and others' feelings in different situations.

  • How does the law of attraction relate to emotional intelligence?

    Both are linked through focusing on what emotions and thoughts you project, which influence what you attract in life.

  • Can negative thinking impact what you attract?

    Yes, dwelling on negative thoughts can lead to attracting more negativity in your life.

  • How can one improve their emotional intelligence?

    By being mindful of thoughts and emotions, and understanding their role in manifesting life circumstances.

  • What is a subconscious mind’s role in manifestation?

    The subconscious mind drives life outcomes by holding ingrained thoughts and beliefs that influence attraction.

  • Why do people fail to manifest positive outcomes?

    Often due to not genuinely aligning their feelings and beliefs with their desires.

  • How can meditation help in understanding emotions and situations?

    Meditation allows quiet reflection and helps in aligning your internal focus, leading to clarity in emotions and life purposes.

  • What does being proactive and reactive mean in this context?

    Being proactive involves intentionally directing your thoughts and actions, while being reactive means responding to circumstances.

  • How does one ensure their purpose aligns with their actions?

    By regularly questioning the motivations, emotions, and the "why" behind actions to ensure alignment with true desires.

  • What is the 'greater truth' the speaker refers to?

    It's the fundamental understanding of your true desires and purpose that align your actions and emotional insights.

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    [Applause]
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    uh it's really good to be here and I
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    want to First acknowledge these students
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    because this is not easy when you're a
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    student it's not even easy when you're a
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    professional so can we give these guys a
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    hand thank you I'm here to talk to you
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    about two things that you would think
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    just do not together those two things
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    are emotional intelligence and the laws
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    of
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    attraction uh I was talking to Dr Thomas
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    the other day when I came for the
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    rehearsal and he said well doc emotional
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    intelligence isn't that uh being aware
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    and having clarity about your feelings
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    and the feelings of other people when
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    you're in the midst of a set of
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    circumstances or a situation with them
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    and I say yeah that is definitely a
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    definition for that and a very accurate
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    definition for that but the truth about
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    emotional intelligence goes far beyond
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    having just clarity about
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    people it's clarity about
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    situations circumstances why are you
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    there when you stop and think about I'm
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    in this
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    situation I'm in the midst of something
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    now what is that something and more than
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    likely that something is a set of
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    circumstances or a a dilemma you may
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    even encountered that you attracted into
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    your life and that's where the laws of
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    attraction come to meet emotional
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    intelligence like attracts like these
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    things that you expect come to you what
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    we believe is that if we say some
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    affirmations if we take a moment and
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    visualize something do a vision board or
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    something of that nature that's what's
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    going to happen but not true as a matter
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    of fact if I say right now do not think
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    of a chimpanzee wearing a red tie and a
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    blue and white penstripe suit whatever
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    you do do not picture this chimpanzee
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    wearing this red bow tie and this blue
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    pinstriped suit what do you keep
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    thinking of the very thing that I told
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    you don't think about because that is
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    where you are putting your
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    emotion that energy plus motion and the
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    more emotion you pour into anything the
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    more of that thing you receive in other
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    words you can say one thing and do
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    another and as we well know many of us
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    typically say all the right things but
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    do we do them if you don't believe me go
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    to somebody's house and look at all the
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    dusty workout equipment look at all the
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    diets that they tried go to a gym and
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    look at the people that signed up that
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    are no longer coming because what we
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    have done is we've taken the laws of
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    attraction and misapplied them we don't
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    take Serious the things that we feel we
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    deserve enough in order for them to
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    manifest into our lives and how do you
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    stop that real
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    simple monitor what you feel what you
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    constantly think about that is exactly
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    what you get if you keep
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    thinking I'm I'm my luck is never I
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    everybody gets it but me I'll never have
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    that I'll never live in that house you
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    know that's for them whoever them or
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    those people are when you constantly
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    think
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    about how much bills are what do you end
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    up with more pink slips more bills when
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    you constantly think about I don't want
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    to gain any more weight or I don't I
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    need to lose uh you know lose some of
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    these bad habits that I have I want to
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    stop smoking I'm not going to smoke what
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    do you do the minute the pressure hits
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    you go get a cigarette and you smoke
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    again you get frustrated and you eat
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    again and as you continue to do these
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    things your thoughts and your feelings
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    equal the manifestations that you get in
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    your
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    life here's the million dooll solution
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    to
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    that first monitor what you think
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    about your mind and and you know there's
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    a lot of uh theories around this concept
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    but I'm going to tell you this
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    everything that is seen comes from that
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    which was not seen that chair you're
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    sitting in the clothes you have on right
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    now with somebody's I did one time
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    somebody figured I don't know a long
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    time ago guys should wear a tie you know
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    we figured somehow that you know going
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    on horses wasn't enough maybe if I can
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    build this contraption I could fly like
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    a bird everything that we do started out
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    in the Unseen and someone call those
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    things that are not as though they are
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    and brought them into manifestation but
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    here's the catch for you and the
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    solution you must understand that
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    conscious thinking is not your solution
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    conscious thinking is typically reacting
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    to some set of
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    circumstances it's typically paying
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    attention to that which is before you
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    that subconscious thinking you will
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    associate that with stuff like have you
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    ever driven home from work and you don't
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    even remember driving home because
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    something was just on your mind or you
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    automatically get in the car and you
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    just check for something without even
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    paying attention to what you're doing
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    your subconscious mind is the part of
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    you that drives the outcomes in your
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    life as you learn to master being uh
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    sensitive to circumstances paying
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    particular attention to the nucal things
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    as we call it the little things if you
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    stop worrying about what happened in the
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    past and feeling guilty or being anxious
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    about what may or may not happen in the
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    future and operate in right now you will
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    train your subconscious mind to begin
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    manifesting the things that you truly
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    desire and a short way of putting this
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    is everything in your life happens for a
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    reason your responsibility is to look at
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    these things in your life and ask this
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    question why
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    now why is this person getting on my
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    last nerve well they're probably getting
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    on your nerves because there's some part
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    of your character that is being
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    reflected back to you through them that
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    you need to work on we get frustrated
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    and angered and almost just
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    discombobulated by that which we do not
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    understand you have to be willing to
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    take the time
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    in every moment every situation in your
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    life and examine it for its meaning you
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    have to examine it for its purpose you
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    have to examine it to see what is this
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    supposed to teach me right now in my
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    practice something that I constantly
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    tell people that I'm either speaking to
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    in lectures like this or even in my
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    office is to stop being so reactive and
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    become proactive don't don't wait to
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    talk truly listen don't just see things
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    look at them you know when you hear
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    something you're perceiving it at the
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    expense of all the white noise of the
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    debris that surrounds it when you look
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    at something you are deliberately
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    ignoring things that otherwise could
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    distract you it takes effort to be
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    successful but the greatest effort is
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    mastering how do you use your mind as we
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    evolve
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    and I'm not getting into some religious
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    stuff so there will be no offering you
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    don't have to panic but we came from
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    somewhere we received of a greater
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    source and conceived when our parents
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    decided to confirm that but my belief is
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    before we get here we made a decision
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    why we were coming and we came to
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    experience the contrast and the
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    challenge that everyday life presents to
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    us see your
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    creator which you are a co-participant
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    in that
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    creation is smarter than you think as a
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    matter of fact you can figure out
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    exactly what everything means in your
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    life by asking one question one word why
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    and it's okay you know even in dating
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    ladies it's good to look at a guy and
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    say well why are you here what is it
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    that you are supposed to teach me and
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    not thinking he will probably tell you
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    the truth the same thing is true about
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    the things that you're trying to court
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    in your day-to-day life in your career
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    ask yourself why am I doing this what is
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    motivating me to do this why do I feel
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    the way that I feel about what I'm doing
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    and you know you do not have to wait for
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    an answer you can get an answer if you
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    shut everything down get in a quiet
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    space and simply meditate and I don't
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    mean Lotus position going um what I do
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    mean is taking the time to be quiet to
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    be still to allow your circumstances to
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    speak to you in such a way that it
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    resonates at the core you remember I
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    said emotion it's kind of like that guer
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    counter when you you're looking around
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    for a metal object and the further away
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    you get the further away the church get
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    but the closer you get the closer those
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    chirps get and the way that you can
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    parallel that to your spirit speaking to
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    you is the better you feel about it the
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    more you should do it and if it doesn't
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    make sense to anyone but you all the
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    better accept the facts but never ever
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    confuse the facts with the truth seek
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    the greater truth you know anything that
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    anyone has ever done that has required
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    more caused that individual to confront
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    themselves they confronted their fears
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    they confronted other people they
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    confronted culture and had to make a
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    decision that you know what you said I
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    can't the system says I can't but
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    something inside me says what I can and
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    when you seek the greater truth you get
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    into direct alignment for that very
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    moment that very reason that purpose
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    that causes your emotional intelligence
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    and the laws of attraction to become one
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    as they become one you will find this
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    sense of passion resonating causing and
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    stirring up something inside of you as
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    that passion is stirred up your purpose
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    then beg just comes forth you know
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    there's this thing if you ever watch a
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    football game you don't see the guy sit
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    there and wait on the ball to come and
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    you don't see the quarterback throw it
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    after the gu's downfield right when
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    snaps the ball and that receiver takes
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    off that ball is in the air sometimes
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    you have to run on faith you have to run
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    not seeing the outcome but just knowing
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    that there will be the result that you
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    desire and as you feel as you believe
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    you will receive because after all that
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    which you seek ladies and
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    gentlemen that which you desire that
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    which you long for is equally seeking
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    you have a great
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    [Applause]
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    day
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  • emotional intelligence
  • laws of attraction
  • subconscious mind
  • manifestation
  • positive thinking
  • self-awareness
  • mindfulness
  • purpose
  • alignment
  • meditation