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I swore I would never make this video
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but finally I've decided to because it's
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almost big 2025 it's literally just
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around the corner and for some reason
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the conversation around situationships
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still exists people still want advice on
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how I I just can't I can't and so I've
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decided to make this video to once and
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for all finish the conversation around
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situationships before we enter a whole
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new year so listen up and disc cler if
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you are here because you think I'm going
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to give you advice on how to make a
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situationship work or give you
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reassurance in the situation you are
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very very wrong why am I so opposed to
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situationships you ask well they are
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extremely emotionally draining they
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aren't even the bare minimum standard
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they are several steps below that they
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leave you unfulfilled keep you from your
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true potential and the true love and
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relationship that you could have had at
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the core of a situationship you
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essentially have to sell yourself short
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and I'm so sick of seeing so many
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gorgeous girls doing themselves this
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disservice and the thing is so many of
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you know that situationships are wrong
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that's the whole reason why you were
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probably searching this on social media
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or why you even clicked on this video
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because you want a solution you want a
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better reality but you can't find it
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within you to be able to find the
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solution and the answer and the strength
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to move on and well that's what I'm here
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for and before I get right into the
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video of giving you the ick around
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situationships beating them for good and
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basically giving you all the mindset
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ships you need to level up and never be
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in that situation again be sure to check
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is in session let's get right into it
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with giving you the I so that you will
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finally put off situationships for good
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okay so firstly I need you to realize
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that a situationship brings all of the
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benefits of a relationship without any
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of the labels essentially you letting
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somebody else gain complete access to
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you to your feelings to your emotion to
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your life without any of the commitment
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or loyalty and let me tell you in case
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you have forgotten you did not work on
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yourself overcome all of your struggles
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and adversities set yourself goals to
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become better and aim to make your inner
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Child Proud every single day just to let
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somebody else who hasn't even earned you
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gain complete access to you and
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therefore gain the power to be able to
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break you down ew my second point is
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that the situation within a
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situationship doesn't even exist so make
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it make sense in a situationship you
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basically feel like you're in a
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relationship right you have all of the
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same feelings you have all of the same
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like thoughts in your head but the thing
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is those are just feelings they're not
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reality your feelings in this situation
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are clowning your judgment to the point
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that it is giving you false hope of a
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reality that doesn't even exist not only
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doesn't exist but isn't possible because
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if it was possible you would already be
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a girlfriend they would have displ
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played romantic interest commitment and
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loyalty and would have treated you as
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such most importantly I think one of the
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most common mistakes people make in a
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situationship which makes them stay
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there for so long is that you're not
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actually observing what's happening in
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the moment because you're too busy
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daydreaming of a future that hasn't even
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arrived yet to be brutally honest you
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are more in love with the idea of the
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person not the person themselves and the
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idea of what you can have because in
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actuality nothing has happened yet
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meaning all of these things getting
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feelings from it's not actually that
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person it's you you're the one who's
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putting the feelings to it you're the
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one who's putting the mindset and the
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emotions to it and that's not a bad
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thing that just goes to show your energy
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your intent your romance everything that
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you can bring to a relationship which
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guess what is going to follow you no
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matter where you go especially when you
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end up going to the right partner that's
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going to treat you right this person
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hasn't put anything on the table you're
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doing all of it right in here and I get
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what makes you stay sometimes they'll
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act super interested they'll be super
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romantic they'll tell you how much they
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like you they'll even spend a lot of
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time with you but their actions do not
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match the so-called feelings that they
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are attempting to show you they have not
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proven themselves or treated you in
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accordance to how much they say they
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like you and this leads me into my third
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Point that's going to help you get the
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ick for good from situationships which
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is that people can only meet you as far
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as they have met themselves if somebody
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else is choosing not to make an effort
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not to make it official not to give you
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commitment and loyalty and time and
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effort that does not determine or
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measure your value or your
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attractiveness or your worthiness as a
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person it is actually a reflection of
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the level of depth that they have in the
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relationship they have with themselves
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and it goes back to what I said
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previously all of these ideas of a
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future you have with them all of this
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romance everything that could be right
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all of these good scenarios you've built
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up in your head is a reflection of what
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you bring to the table a reflection of
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how positive your mindset is around
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everything that you would bring to a
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romantic relationship and with the way
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they are showing up it just goes to show
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they lack all of that you cannot expect
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somebody who does not accept their own
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emotions let alone be in tuned with it
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enough to be able to show up for another
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person that they claim they like so much
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to be in tune with your emotions you
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guys are never going to be a match on
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any level my fourth ick point is that a
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situationship only benefits one person
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and that person is never going to be you
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you are pouring so much into them and
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they're not even giving you the bare
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minimum of commitment and loyalty to you
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that's like the first standard on the
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bare minimum list so does that really
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sound like a fair deal and this leads me
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on to my fifth point which is that if I
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had to make a metaphor out of what a
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situationship is it would be the fact
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that you are essentially letting this
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other person just shop around they're
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just shopping around wandering around
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the store for hours on end just window
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shopping just looking at things for the
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sake of it instead of fully committing
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and you are so much more valuable than
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that and you should never ever be
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anybody's second option you should be
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the item in a Shop's window display that
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is so effing good that it makes somebody
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change their whole plan day because now
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they have to go into that store and buy
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the top immediately because they know
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it's so effing good and will fit into
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their life so eff and well also
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situationships are just full of
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confusion that's all they are and
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anything that ever makes you feel
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uncertain or uneasy in your life does
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not deserve to stay there our main
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mission in this life is just to be happy
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is just to live a Content life that's
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easy that gets us through every single
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day that makes us happy with our
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existence and the reality that we
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experience every single day why are you
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choosing to keep some in it which takes
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you away from that mission which lowers
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your energetic vibration your mood your
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mental health and most importantly your
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happiness doesn't make sense the right
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things that align to you that you're
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supposed to have in your life always
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feel clear that's why you have got
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instincts about things that's why you
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have positive feelings about people and
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then things work out but constantly
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having to question somebody's feelings
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about you is exhausting and such an
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unfair daily ritual that you are taking
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on for yourself that is draining your
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energy and taking away your time and
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effort which could so easily be spent on
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other things that are going to benefit
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you your happiness the people around you
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and your future next I think it's really
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important to say that yes this person
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you're in a situationship with doesn't
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have to be an evil bad person with
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really negative intentions they're not
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out here trying to take advantage of you
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right maybe they just struggle in
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relationships maybe they can't find the
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right time maybe they're trying to work
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on themselves but guess what it is not
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healthy nor self-loving to put your own
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needs and your own desires to the side
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just to keep someone else in your life
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because is what about what you want and
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what about what you deserve and what
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about what your standards are you are
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pushing all of that aside just to make
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room for somebody because they are in a
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tougher place in their life but you are
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suffering as a result of it and why
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aren't they considering that in the way
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that you consider them and their
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struggles my eighth situationship ick
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point is actually something that has
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helped me get through so many breakups
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and this is a little activity that I
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want you to do real quick I want you to
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imagine spending years like multiple
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years of your life stuck in a
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situationship with the same person never
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getting out never eventually getting
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into a relationship never moving on and
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then after 2 or 3 years have passed I
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want you to imagine that somebody sends
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you a video that shows you what your
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life would have been like if you didn't
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spend those 2 to three years with that
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person and what that video shows you is
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you meeting the right person that ticked
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off every single one of your standards
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someone who is intentional who chooses
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you who whn and D you who is such a
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romantic who makes you laugh who helps
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and encourages you to grow who adds
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value to your life and most importantly
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is working on themselves so much that
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guess what they know what they want and
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it makes you realize that instead of
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wasting time on uncertainties and ifs
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and buts and maybe you could have been
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building a meaningful connection with
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somebody who was committed to you from
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the start now hopefully I think you do
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have a complete ick around
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situationships and you are so done even
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entertaining the conversation around
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them anymore or watching advice videos
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on how to make them work ew now we can
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move on to chapter number two which is
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beating situations ship for good and
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these are actions that you can Implement
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literally right now like today to make
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sure that you are never in this
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situationship again you can ultimately
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protect your mood your energy your
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standards your life and step number one
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is to let go of the wh ifs moving on
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from a situationship is only hard
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because you get attached to the
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potential of what this relationship or
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person could be but since we've already
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gone through chapter number one of all
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of the EGS now you're no longer
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accepting or romanticizing the
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situationship which means now it's
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easier to move on from but just in case
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that you do slip into Old patterns which
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is completely fine okay healing is not a
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linear Journey it happens to everybody
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and you find yourself questioning but
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what if this could happen or what if
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they change or what if mm- we are going
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to be super intentional and from now on
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whenever we're thinking about anything
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we can feel all of the emotions okay
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that is completely okay you cannot
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filter out which emotions and thoughts
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come into your mind okay nobody can
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control that but what you can do is
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understand that when you are starting to
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think something that begins with what if
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about this situationship or this person
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you are instead going to turn it into a
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sentence that you are going to write
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into a list on the notesap of your phone
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or in your Journal as one of the many
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reasons as to why this is never going to
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work so that the next time you decide to
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romanticize or fall into Nostalgia when
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it comes to this person's situationship
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you are not going to go back there for
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example if you're what if thought is but
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what if they get over their commitment
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issues and heartbreak from all of their
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previous relationships instead of then
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falling in love with the idea of what
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that situation would be because it
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doesn't exist you were instead going to
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write into to your list of why I should
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never be with ex person and write down X
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has commitment issues action number two
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is please don't internalize it because
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although situationships suck and
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although I'm so sorry that you were in
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this situationship let me tell you this
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is going to be a great resource and
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building block if you will to building
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up your self- love depending on how you
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choose to perceive it it can either
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break down your confidence and your
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self-esteem by making you think oh my
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God nobody's ever going to love me and
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nobody wants to be in a relationship
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with me that is not good for anybody
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anybody that is not facts nobody has
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told you that you are choosing to think
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and so instead that means we also hold
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the power to shift that thought to
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something that benefits us lifts us up
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improves our confidence and make sure
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that we can improve our reality because
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whatever you think about yourself and
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life is what you are going to
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continuously attract and therefore
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experience in your reality so instead I
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wasn't good enough and I will never be
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good enough for anybody because of the
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way they treated me turns into to their
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behavior is simply a reflection of what
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they have gone through their own traumas
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their mindset and their inability to
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work on themselves I am so grateful that
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I understood that separated myself I'm
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no longer dealing with that which now
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gives me all of the time and all of the
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opportunity to find somebody who is
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actually going to benefit me and bring
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value into my life wow I have so much
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strength and so much confidence that I
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realized somebody wasn't good for me and
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then I walked away go me action number
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three is to give it time and feel
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everything I am never going to endorse
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that you go through a breakup or end a
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situationship and then it's like move on
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forget about them don't think about them
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whatever they irrelevant no just because
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somebody was bad for you or because they
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didn't treat you in the way that you
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deserve does not rob you of your
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entitlement to be able to feel your
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feelings it doesn't matter how somebody
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else treated you if you are sad about
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something you get to be sad about it
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regardless and you need to let yourself
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feel that you know why because one is
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actually going to be able to help you
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process okay we already know that but
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two if you are sad about this 2 3 months
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and this is actual like real heartbreak
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pain and you feel it and you go through
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it and you heal one not only do you glow
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up and level up because now you've
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learned even more information on how to
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process your feelings and move on but
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two you have actually healthily moved on
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because you've gone through all of the
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steps rather than just covering it up
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with superficial things and just trying
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to forget about them but three because
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you felt every single painful emotion
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that comes from a situationship you are
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never going to get in it again let me
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tell you girl because if you end one
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suppress it just try to go about your
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day and ignore it you are so much more
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likely to fall into another one because
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you never understood the signs and the
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red flags as to what got you there you
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never understood the actual pain and the
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turmoil and the aftermath of what it
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means to end one and have to deal with
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the aftermath of that and the Last
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Action is to go no contact a lot of
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people don't like this I hated it I
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never wanted to do it I thought you know
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people can do our last for a reason and
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all of this and a season so true so true
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okay but here's the thing if something
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is causing you so much pain and so much
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heartbreak and you can't stop
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romanticizing it and you can't stop the
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Nostalgia at that point you need to cut
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the cord and that does mean blocking the
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number and the social media deleting all
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of the text messages throwing away all
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of the belongings and even deleting
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every single picture of them in your
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camera roll that was the one I really
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struggled with and I remember telling
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some of my friends that I did that to my
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ex of 2 years re like relationship 2
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years deleted every single picture and
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they looked at me like I can't believe
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you did that that was 2 years of your
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life but I had to cut the cord at some
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point because I tried every other
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breakup method out there and nothing was
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working cuz I would find myself looking
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back on these pictures reading through
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old text romanticizing it which negates
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all of the bad logical facts and
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replaces them with all of the emotions
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that overrides the truth of what that
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relationship was which is that it was
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bad and toxic for me to be in I had to
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do the favor for my future self that I'm
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no longer going to think about this in
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fact this person is now going to be
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completely erased from my memory because
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the longer time passes where I cannot
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remember what their face looks like cuz
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I can't see a picture of them the easier
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it's going to be to move on and guess
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what as much as it sucked and hurt in
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the moment I healed there was nothing to
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romanticize or go back to anymore every
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single memory I was clinging on to and
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my head slowly slowly slowly faded away
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and that brings us onto the last chapter
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of the video which is not only mindset
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shifts to help you on this journey but
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also actions and things to believe in
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and things to do from now on to now only
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guarantee happiness and actual
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relationships in your life AKA
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situationships are done you don't even
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know what they are you literally don't
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know what that word means because you
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were never going to experience that
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again let's get into it step number one
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I'm going to need you to be a little bit
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obsessed with yourself scratch that a
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lot obsessed with yourself because let
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me tell you something when you fully
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understand your worth when you fully
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know what you bring to the table no
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one's messing you around like literally
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no no one's messing you around when you
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like your life when you love who you are
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the mistakes you make how you make them
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how you work what your life looks like
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it doesn't have to be perfect you know
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you don't have to have achieved all of
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your goals but you like where it's going
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you like how you deal with things you
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like the person that you're growing into
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because of the work you're doing on
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yourself let somebody try let somebody
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try and take advantage of you or like
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make you settle for less than you
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deserve no because now you are fully
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aware of what you deserve and because
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you are working on yourself and because
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you are being more intentional and
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self-aware about all of the things that
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are to love about you you're you're
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never going to set off a less and if you
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want advice on this then I highly
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recommend you guys listen to my podcast
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self-obsessed because every single
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episode we don't talk about dating on
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there we literally talk about how to be
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more obsessed with yourself all of the
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actions and the mindset shifts you need
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to be able to achieve that the second
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action SL mindset shift you need to take
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is to embrace being alone and I say this
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because this completely transformed my
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life and I've spoken about it so many
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times my self- Lov journey and deciding
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to quit dating quit talking to boys for
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an entire year changed everything
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because I was that girl that was was
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dating constantly constantly always
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talking to a boy always needed male
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validation was always spiling for guys
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that were never treating me in the way
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that I deserved was always like giving
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me barely bare minimum it was when I
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fell in love with my own company and
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realized that I could experience life on
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my own that life was really really good
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on my own I fell in love with that so
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much and gave myself so much happiness
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from that why would I be in a
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situationship because if I can give
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myself all of this I'm taking myself on
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dates I'm bringing myself flowers I'm
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spoiling myself I'm giving myself self
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love selfcare compliments all of this
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you have to like go above that otherwise
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there's literally no point now that I've
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accomplished that mindset do you really
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think I would ever be in a situationship
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absolutely not and honestly that's
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literally the secret key and there are
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so many ways you can do this I have free
00:18:40
videos on my YouTube channel on working
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on your mindset leveling up self-love
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videos but if you're a reader and you
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would like to then you can also purchase
00:18:47
my book biosoft the dam flowers on
00:18:49
Amazon because that is the complete
00:18:50
detailed guide of how to do it how to
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achieve it understand it heal from it
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actionable steps so definitely check
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that out if you want to and the final
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step I'm going to share for this video
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is probably what I think is the most
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powerful one and that is to recognize
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your own patterns and old behaviors as
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to why you brought certain situations
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situationships into your life that is
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where all of the answers all of the
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trauma all of the questions you need to
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know to embark on your healing Journey
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lies why did you get into the situation
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sh why did you allow that person into
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your life what did you feel like they
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were going to give you what did you feel
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like you were lacking what did you want
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want to gain from it why did you stay
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for so long what was your mindset during
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that those answers are going to be
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different for everybody but once you get
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them that's how you start to work
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backwards from it and heal those things
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that were missing in you that allowed
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you to accept somebody who who wasn't
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there for you and who wasn't meeting
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your standards and who was hurting you
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in the process of being in your life and
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and ignoring your desires and your
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fulfillment but most importantly there
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was a little bit where you were hurting
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yourself too by consistently staying in
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a situation that you knew was bad for
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you that you knew wasn't what you wanted
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there is no little girl within all of us
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that grows up and thinks I want to be in
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a situationship one day nobody grows up
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wanting a situationship and yet so many
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of us accept it why once you realize the
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why that is when you can finally nip
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those behaviors and those thoughts in
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the buds so that you never find yourself
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in that situation again and that you can
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finally turn yourself into a
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relationship only girl and never ever
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just get in into situationships with
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people just for the sake of having
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attention and Company and temporary
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kindness why because you were already
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giving that to yourself and that brings
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us to the end of this video Woo you know
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what the reason I said at the beginning
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of this video I'm never going to film
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this video is because I literally just
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thought the entire conversation around
00:20:46
situationships was so stupid like it
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irritated me I was like I'm not even
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going to like validate this word by
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creating a piece of content on it like
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no now that I've done it I feel very
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passionate like my my heart is racing a
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little bit because I really got into
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that and if it gave you some clarity if
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it most importantly gave you the I
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please comment down below and let me
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know if it did because I would love that
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situationships that word staying in 2024
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it shouldn't have even come into 2024
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but I don't want to see it anymore okay
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we deserve so much more than this we are
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capable of so much more than this I want
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us all to grow and heal and level up and
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be self-loving together we can create
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such a beautiful life we got this you
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got this I appreciate you thank you so
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much for watching I know it's same time
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next week on Friday for a brand new
00:21:30
video love you
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