This is why men have become soft (and how to be stronger)

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ohH77f6JdM

摘要

TLDRThe speaker questions why modern men are perceived as weak, suggesting that it's due to an overemphasis on fixing perceived problems rather than dealing with tension naturally as it arises. In comparing generations, the speaker claims the older generation was more adept at handling life's challenges without over-analysis. He suggests that modern society might amplify mental health issues by over-identifying problems. The speaker advises embracing and handling challenges without dramatizing them as catastrophic, drawing parallels between life, art, and resilience, emphasizing growth through dealing with tensions. His message is motivational, encouraging viewers to manage life's hurdles with a balanced approach.

心得

  • 🧘 Tension is to be dealt with, not fixed.
  • 🧠 Over-identifying issues leads to perceived weakness.
  • 👥 Older generations handled issues differently.
  • 🏋️‍♂️ Resilience comes from dealing with challenges.
  • 💬 Communication is about listening, not fixing.
  • 🦸‍♂️ Life is about presence, not perfection.
  • 🔎 Awareness shouldn't magnify problems.
  • 🌱 Growth comes from handling tension.
  • 💪 Men are not as weak as perceived.
  • 🎨 Life, like art, is never finished, only abandoned.

时间轴

  • 00:00:00 - 00:07:21

    The video discusses why modern men might seem weak or soft, emphasizing that life’s tensions are not always problems to be fixed but rather challenges to be dealt with. The speaker contrasts generational attitudes towards problems, noting that older generations like his father's simply dealt with issues without overanalyzing them. He encourages viewers to adopt a mindset of dealing with rather than fixing tensions to cultivate strength. Problems are acknowledged, but not everything should be seen as insurmountable. The key takeaway is to remain present, manage challenges as they come, and not perceive every tension as a catastrophe. The speaker also highlights society's over-identification with issues today, advocating for resilience and dealing with life's ongoing pressures. He suggests viewers to stop overthinking and simply enjoy life’s process.

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视频问答

  • What is the main topic of the video?

    The video discusses why men today are often perceived as weaker and the approach to dealing with life's challenges.

  • What does the speaker believe is the cause of perceived weakness in men?

    The speaker believes that viewing every tension or challenge as a problem needing fixing leads to a perception of weakness.

  • What does the speaker suggest about dealing with tension?

    The speaker suggests dealing with tension rather than trying to fix it, as tension is a natural part of life.

  • How does the speaker view the difference between older and younger generations?

    The speaker notes that older generations tended to 'deal' with issues rather than over-analyzing or labeling them as problems.

  • What metaphor does the speaker use to illustrate life challenges?

    The speaker compares life and art, suggesting that life is about being present and dealing with issues rather than finishing or perfecting them.

  • What is the speaker's advice for those who see everything as a problem?

    The speaker advises to breathe, stay present, and handle things without dramatizing them as catastrophic problems.

  • Does the speaker think men are weak?

    No, the speaker believes that men are not as weak as they are sometimes perceived to be, emphasizing resilience.

  • What does the speaker think about modern sensitivity and mental health awareness?

    The speaker suggests that increased identification and focus on issues can lead to an exaggerated perception of fragility.

  • What analogy does the speaker use for growth and strength?

    The speaker mentions that like muscles and bones heal stronger after injury, handling problems makes one stronger.

  • What is the company's motivational message?

    The motivational message is to stay positive and keep dealing with life’s challenges without overwhelming oneself.

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    oh all righty what's going on guys
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    welcome back welcome back and if you're
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    new howdy howdy howdy if you're here
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    you're wondering what uh what I am why
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    have why have men become so weak why are
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    men soft why are men's Wills the size of
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    this golf ball right um I think it's
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    it's short and sweet and I'll cut right
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    to it um wherever you are in your life
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    right now
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    I know for me you're trying to probably
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    do more or less of
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    something you're trying to do more or
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    less of something you're trying to be
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    maybe more present you're trying to
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    maybe work harder you're trying to maybe
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    work less hard enjoy life more you're
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    trying to find balance in things right
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    like there's just this NeverEnding state
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    right and uh there's just this
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    NeverEnding state of tension never
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    ending state of tension like me trying
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    to hide from the sun right now there's
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    this never ending state of
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    tension but here's where I think
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    men either become weak or strong is
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    understanding
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    this
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    that
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    most most tension that we see in our
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    lives right most tension maybe all
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    tension is meant to be dealt with not
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    fixed
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    fixed think about that what if the
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    tension in your life was meant to be
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    dealt with not fixed because here's the
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    thing if we think that most tension is a
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    problem we think we can fix it think
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    about your relationships even for a
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    second and I'm I'm not just saying
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    romantic like think about your
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    friendships too how many times do you or
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    does a guy come up to you or a girl and
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    just like they just want you to listen
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    they don't want you to fix it they don't
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    want you to fix it men are such fixers
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    right maybe that's what's hurting us
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    these days I was talking with my dad a
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    little bit ago about our Generations
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    versus his and you can talk about the
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    like socioeconomic difference
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    between uh Boomers and Gen X versus gen
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    Z Millennials Etc but you know he really
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    he really said something that hit home
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    he was like you know
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    what we just dealt with it and I was
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    asking him like what' you do when you
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    had these problems he's like kind of
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    just dealt with it like we didn't really
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    view it as like oh something's
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    something's wrong with me like whoa whoa
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    right like we just we just dealt with it
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    we just dealt with it and it's like how
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    many times do I hear a guy these days do
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    you hear a guy do you hear yourself say
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    that you got all these problems that
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    you're uh that you're yeah you know you
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    got 88 HD that you got you know all
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    these all these things like you're that
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    you're like I don't know sensitive to
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    grass or something like and I'm not
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    trying to make a joke out of people that
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    have ADHD or people that are sensitive
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    to Grass I happen to have both I happen
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    to have both um but I guess my point is
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    it's like if you view everything as a
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    prom in your life the tension in your
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    relationships got to fix that oh I work
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    too hard gotta fix that something's
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    wrong with me why do I do that like
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    you're instantly instantly as a
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    man not putting yourself in a position
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    that you can win in that you can be
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    strong in right think about think about
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    people that are champions and I don't
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    mean in sense that they win a lot of
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    things I mean champions in life just
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    people that are they just make people
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    feel good especially themselves right
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    they just they just know how to deal
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    they just know how to be present right
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    like for them like
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    the art is never finished it's only
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    abandoned like it's it's really about
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    just being in it right if if you're
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    running a race it's not about finishing
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    it it's not about your lack thereof
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    ability to finish it or not it's rather
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    just about running and men just used to
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    deal with it they used to just go they
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    used to just send it right and I don't
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    want to act like this is the past like
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    this can still happen like serious
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    seriously like you can you can still
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    like as a guy as a man even if you're a
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    woman watching this like you can just
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    deal with things and I'm not saying deal
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    with things and push them under the rug
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    that's two different things and if you
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    can't see that you're not thinking hard
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    enough to be honest with you
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    but we can't trip ourselves out and and
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    think that because we can identify
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    everything today because we can identify
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    all the little mental health things all
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    the little physical things in our
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    environment there's too many
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    microplastics right oh shoot they're
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    using sewer water to clean our golf
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    balls so we shouldn't you know put them
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    near our faces like we just we open
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    ourselves up to to all this mental
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    health issues I think right we're anti
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    fragile human beings I'm not a doctor
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    you don't need a doctor to tell you that
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    to know it's true right if you squat a
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    lot of weight if you break a bone it
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    grows back it comes back stronger your
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    muscle comes back stronger right so keep
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    that in mind keep that in mind I don't
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    think men are as weak as we think I
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    certainly don't think you are I really
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    don't especially if you're watching this
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    right but if you're watching this you
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    probably do think that you got a few
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    things that might be problems but again
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    look and look some things are problems I
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    I I will say that I don't say that
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    because I don't want to act like it's a
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    perfect world and we're perfect people
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    but most things aren't meant to be this
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    catastrophic ending oh I got a problem
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    all my relationship is a problem this is
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    a problem this is a problem this is a
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    problem I can't make enough money like
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    no no just just
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    breathe just breathe it's a gift just be
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    in it just deal with it just have a nice
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    time with it again like I said like Da
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    Vinci said right art is never finished
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    it's only
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    abandon things in our life they're never
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    finished they're only they're only left
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    aside are giving up on so don't freak
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    out stay in it keep dealing with it
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    whatever you guys are going through if
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    you're new like I said welcome if you
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    get any if you like anything I just said
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    hit the like button so we can find other
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    people that might like what I just said
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    or might like what we're talking about
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    here so I appreciate you guys seriously
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    I appreciate you guys so much the
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    comments have been unreal heing hearing
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    all of your guys' stories and uh yeah
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    again next time you got to deal with
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    something or you think you have a
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    problem before you either go quit your
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    job entirely and just throw your life
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    upside down or try to find some siloc
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    ibin by a
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    river maybe just deal with it might take
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    you a far away might take you a far away
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    all right guys peace and love till the
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    next time I uh I got to get to the beach
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    peace and love bye-bye
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  • men
  • weakness
  • strength
  • generations
  • tension
  • mental health
  • resilience
  • challenges
  • problem-solving
  • motivation