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I have a confession to make.
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But first, I want you to make
a little confession to me.
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In the past year,
I want you to just raise your hand
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if you've experienced
relatively little stress.
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Anyone?
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How about a moderate amount of stress?
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Who has experienced a lot of stress?
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Yeah. Me too.
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But that is not my confession.
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My confession is this:
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I am a health psychologist,
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and my mission is to help people
be happier and healthier.
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But I fear that something
I've been teaching
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for the last 10 years
is doing more harm than good,
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and it has to do with stress.
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For years I've been telling people,
stress makes you sick.
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It increases the risk of everything
from the common cold
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to cardiovascular disease.
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Basically, I've turned stress
into the enemy.
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But I have changed my mind about stress,
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and today, I want to change yours.
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Let me start with the study
that made me rethink
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my whole approach to stress.
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This study tracked 30,000 adults
in the United States for eight years,
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and they started by asking people,
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"How much stress have you
experienced in the last year?"
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They also asked,
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"Do you believe that stress
is harmful for your health?"
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And then they used public death records
to find out who died.
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(Laughter)
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Okay.
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Some bad news first.
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People who experienced a lot of stress
in the previous year
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had a 43 percent increased risk of dying.
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But that was only true for the people
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who also believed that stress
is harmful for your health.
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(Laughter)
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People who experienced a lot of stress
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but did not view stress as harmful
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were no more likely to die.
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In fact, they had the lowest risk of dying
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of anyone in the study,
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including people
who had relatively little stress.
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Now the researchers estimated
that over the eight years
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they were tracking deaths,
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182,000 Americans died prematurely,
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not from stress,
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but from the belief
that stress is bad for you.
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(Laughter)
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That is over 20,000 deaths a year.
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Now, if that estimate is correct,
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that would make
believing stress is bad for you
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the 15th largest cause of death
in the United States last year,
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killing more people than skin cancer,
HIV/AIDS and homicide.
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(Laughter)
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You can see why this study freaked me out.
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Here I've been spending
so much energy telling people
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stress is bad for your health.
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So this study got me wondering:
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Can changing how you think
about stress make you healthier?
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And here the science says yes.
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When you change your mind about stress,
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you can change
your body's response to stress.
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Now to explain how this works,
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I want you all to pretend
that you are participants
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in a study designed to stress you out.
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It's called the social stress test.
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You come into the laboratory,
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and you're told you have to give
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a five-minute impromptu speech
on your personal weaknesses
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to a panel of expert evaluators
sitting right in front of you,
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and to make sure you feel the pressure,
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there are bright lights
and a camera in your face,
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kind of like this.
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(Laughter)
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And the evaluators have been trained
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to give you discouraging,
non-verbal feedback,
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like this.
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(Exhales)
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(Laughter)
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Now that you're sufficiently demoralized,
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time for part two: a math test.
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And unbeknownst to you,
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the experimenter has been trained
to harass you during it.
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Now we're going to all do this together.
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It's going to be fun.
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For me.
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Okay.
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(Laughter)
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I want you all to count backwards from 996
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in increments of seven.
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You're going to do this out loud,
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as fast as you can,
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starting with 996.
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Go!
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(Audience counting)
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Go faster. Faster please.
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You're going too slow.
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(Audience counting)
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Stop. Stop, stop, stop.
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That guy made a mistake.
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We are going to have to start
all over again.
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(Laughter)
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You're not very good at this, are you?
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Okay, so you get the idea.
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If you were actually in this study,
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you'd probably be a little stressed out.
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Your heart might be pounding,
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you might be breathing faster,
maybe breaking out into a sweat.
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And normally, we interpret
these physical changes as anxiety
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or signs that we aren't coping
very well with the pressure.
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But what if you viewed them instead
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as signs that your body was energized,
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was preparing you to meet this challenge?
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Now that is exactly
what participants were told
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in a study conducted
at Harvard University.
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Before they went
through the social stress test,
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they were taught to rethink
their stress response as helpful.
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That pounding heart
is preparing you for action.
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If you're breathing faster,
it's no problem.
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It's getting more oxygen to your brain.
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And participants who learned to view
the stress response
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as helpful for their performance,
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well, they were less stressed out,
less anxious, more confident,
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but the most fascinating finding to me
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was how their physical
stress response changed.
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Now, in a typical stress response,
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your heart rate goes up,
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and your blood vessels
constrict like this.
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And this is one of the reasons
that chronic stress
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is sometimes associated
with cardiovascular disease.
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It's not really healthy to be
in this state all the time.
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But in the study,
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when participants viewed
their stress response as helpful,
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their blood vessels
stayed relaxed like this.
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Their heart was still pounding,
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but this is a much healthier
cardiovascular profile.
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It actually looks a lot like what happens
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in moments of joy and courage.
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Over a lifetime of stressful experiences,
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this one biological change
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could be the difference
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between a stress-induced
heart attack at age 50
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and living well into your 90s.
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And this is really what the new
science of stress reveals,
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that how you think about stress matters.
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So my goal as a health
psychologist has changed.
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I no longer want
to get rid of your stress.
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I want to make you better at stress.
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And we just did a little intervention.
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If you raised your hand and said
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you'd had a lot of stress
in the last year,
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we could have saved your life,
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because hopefully the next time
your heart is pounding from stress,
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you're going to remember this talk
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and you're going to think to yourself,
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this is my body helping me
rise to this challenge.
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And when you view stress in that way,
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your body believes you,
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and your stress response
becomes healthier.
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Now I said I have over a decade
of demonizing stress
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to redeem myself from,
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so we are going to do
one more intervention.
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I want to tell you
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about one of the most under-appreciated
aspects of the stress response,
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and the idea is this:
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Stress makes you social.
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To understand this side of stress,
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we need to talk about a hormone, oxytocin,
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and I know oxytocin has already gotten
as much hype as a hormone can get.
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It even has its own cute nickname,
the cuddle hormone,
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because it's released
when you hug someone.
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But this is a very small part
of what oxytocin is involved in.
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Oxytocin is a neuro-hormone.
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It fine-tunes
your brain's social instincts.
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It primes you to do things
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that strengthen close relationships.
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Oxytocin makes you crave physical contact
with your friends and family.
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It enhances your empathy.
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It even makes you more willing
to help and support
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the people you care about.
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Some people have even suggested
we should snort oxytocin...
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to become more compassionate and caring.
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But here's what most people
don't understand about oxytocin.
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It's a stress hormone.
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Your pituitary gland pumps this stuff out
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as part of the stress response.
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It's as much a part
of your stress response
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as the adrenaline that makes
your heart pound.
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And when oxytocin is released
in the stress response,
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it is motivating you to seek support.
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Your biological stress response
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is nudging you to tell
someone how you feel,
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instead of bottling it up.
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Your stress response wants
to make sure you notice
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when someone else
in your life is struggling
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so that you can support each other.
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When life is difficult,
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your stress response wants you
to be surrounded
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by people who care about you.
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Okay, so how is knowing this side
of stress going to make you healthier?
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Well, oxytocin doesn't only act
on your brain.
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It also acts on your body,
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and one of its main roles in your body
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is to protect your cardiovascular system
from the effects of stress.
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It's a natural anti-inflammatory.
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It also helps your blood vessels
stay relaxed during stress.
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But my favorite effect on the body
is actually on the heart.
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Your heart has receptors for this hormone,
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and oxytocin helps heart cells regenerate
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and heal from any stress-induced damage.
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This stress hormone
strengthens your heart.
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And the cool thing
is that all of these physical benefits
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of oxytocin are enhanced
by social contact and social support.
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So when you reach out
to others under stress,
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either to seek support
or to help someone else,
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you release more of this hormone,
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your stress response becomes healthier,
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and you actually recover
faster from stress.
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I find this amazing,
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that your stress response
has a built-in mechanism
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for stress resilience,
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and that mechanism is human connection.
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I want to finish by telling you
about one more study.
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And listen up, because this study
could also save a life.
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This study tracked about 1,000 adults
in the United States,
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and they ranged in age from 34 to 93,
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and they started the study by asking,
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"How much stress have you
experienced in the last year?"
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They also asked,
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"How much time have you spent
helping out friends, neighbors,
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people in your community?"
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And then they used public records
for the next five years
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to find out who died.
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Okay, so the bad news first:
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For every major stressful life experience,
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like financial difficulties
or family crisis,
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that increased the risk
of dying by 30 percent.
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But -- and I hope you
are expecting a "but" by now --
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but that wasn't true for everyone.
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People who spent time caring for others
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showed absolutely no stress-related
increase in dying.
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Zero.
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Caring created resilience.
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And so we see once again
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that the harmful effects
of stress on your health
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are not inevitable.
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How you think and how you act
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can transform your experience of stress.
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When you choose to view
your stress response as helpful,
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you create the biology of courage.
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And when you choose to connect
with others under stress,
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you can create resilience.
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Now I wouldn't necessarily ask
for more stressful experiences in my life,
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but this science has given me
a whole new appreciation for stress.
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Stress gives us access to our hearts.
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The compassionate heart
that finds joy and meaning
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in connecting with others,
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and yes, your pounding physical heart,
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working so hard to give you
strength and energy.
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And when you choose to view
stress in this way,
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you're not just getting better at stress,
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you're actually making
a pretty profound statement.
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You're saying that you can trust yourself
to handle life's challenges.
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And you're remembering
that you don't have to face them alone.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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Chris Anderson: This is kind
of amazing, what you're telling us.
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It seems amazing to me
that a belief about stress
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can make so much difference
to someone's life expectancy.
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How would that extend to advice,
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like, if someone is making
a lifestyle choice
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between, say, a stressful job
and a non-stressful job,
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does it matter which way they go?
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It's equally wise to go
for the stressful job
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so long as you believe
that you can handle it, in some sense?
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KM: Yeah, and one thing
we know for certain
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is that chasing meaning
is better for your health
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than trying to avoid discomfort.
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And so I would say that's really
the best way to make decisions,
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is go after what it is
that creates meaning in your life
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and then trust yourself to handle
the stress that follows.
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CA: Thank you so much, Kelly.
It's pretty cool.
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(Applause)