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all right you're really depressed let's
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chat you've probably been hurting for a
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long time and you just want the pain to
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stop and you haven't found a way to
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escape that pain that follows you around
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yet and I want to emphasize the yet part
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there because there is something we can
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do about this maybe you've gone through
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some really difficult things and if so
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that would make sense that you're
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suffering like you don't have to pretend
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to be okay but you also don't have to
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stay in this place forever so let me
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tell you about what might be keeping you
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stuck
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[Music]
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here depression is a liar because it
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warps your perception of reality it
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twists your thoughts making you believe
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things that aren't true even though they
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feel real here are five of the biggest
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lies depression tells and the truth
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behind them the first one is you're
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never going to be happy again nothing
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will ever get better depression makes it
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seem like the pain is going to last
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forever like you're stuck in a tunnel
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with no exit and you start to believe
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that there's no point in trying the
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truth is feelings change life shifts
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even if you've felt this way for a long
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time it doesn't mean that you always
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will the fact that you're here means
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there's a possibility for things to
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change research shows that when your
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brain is depressed it has a very hard
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time imagining options and Alternatives
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and positive outcomes it's it's like you
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get tunnel vision and you can't think
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your way out of it so because your brain
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isn't working properly right now
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depression is literally blinding you to
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some really good options that you have
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so let's take one tiny step there are
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probably a lot of treatment options that
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you don't even know about but if you're
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desperate reach out to a hospital right
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now otherwise treatments like ECT TMS
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and ketamine can help rapidly improve
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depression within hours or weeks they
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have a 40 to 70% remission rate light
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therapy is another treatment option that
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a lot of people don't know about it's
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really inexpensive and it's really
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effective 60 to 70% of people who do
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light therapy for 15 minutes a day in
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the morning get feeling better it
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doesn't take that much effort and those
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changes that can come from ECT or
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ketamine or light therapy can be a
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gateway to doing the work in therapy
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that actually creates these lasting
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positive changes you really can learn
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tiny skills to process your emotions and
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stop carrying around attra trash can
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full of repressed memories and feelings
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that seem to be crawling with raccoons
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that pop out every time you try to rest
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okay you don't have to believe that
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things are going to get better yet I'm
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going to hold on to that hope for you
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until you can see it for yourself but I
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just want to say please trust me that it
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can get better take some action before
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you feel like it don't wait to get
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motivated first I have seen people come
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back from immense depth of pain even
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when they were sure they never would
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you're not alone in this and there is
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hope there's a part of you that brought
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you here today to my channel to watch
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this video even in your darkest moment
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and that part of you is worth listening
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to now healing can take time but you are
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capable of experiencing light again it
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gets better second lie that you're a
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burden depression makes you feel like
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you're too much for others to handle
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that you're exhausting or inconvenient
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the truth is your loved ones want you
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here you matter to them even if your
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mind tells you otherwise people don't
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love you for what you do they love you
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for who you are you have no idea about
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the number of people who would be
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affected if you were to end your life my
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my daughter's Elementary School teacher
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son recently ended his own life and I
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don't know him I barely know her but it
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impacted her immensely she is completely
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crushed and distraught and it also
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impacted all of the kids in the
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classroom and it also impacted me the
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world would feel your loss you do matter
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and you don't have to keep suffering I
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don't know him and I miss him I care
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about you too and I think about my
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viewers every day your brain is lying to
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you when it says you're a burden you are
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not a burden the world is better with
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you in it even if your mind is telling
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you otherwise right now okay line number
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three it's that you don't deserve help
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depression distorts reality when it
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tells you that your problems aren't bad
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enough or that you should handle them
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alone that you should be ashamed for
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having feelings and that you have to
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hide them the truth is you deserve
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support simply because you're human you
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don't have to wait until you hit rock
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bottom to ask for help people want to
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support you they want to help you
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through this a good therapist can help
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you free yourself from shame you are not
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a bad person you're going through a hard
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time line number four you're weak for
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feeling this way depression makes you
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believe that if you're struggling it
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means that you're failing or that you
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should just snap out of it and that if
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you can't there must be something wrong
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with you it lies to you and tells you
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that you're broken or defective the
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truth is you are not broken you're
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hurting let's figure this out Str is not
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pretending you're okay it's being honest
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about your struggles and choosing to
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keep going some of the strongest people
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in history have battled depression and
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they've made a super positive impact in
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the world you're not weak it's just
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probably that no one taught you how to
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handle these feelings no one taught you
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how to process your emotions true
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strength is not pretending to be fine
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it's taking something hard like this and
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facing it honestly and trying to learn
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how to get better instead of blaming
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yourself line number five no one cares
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about you depression convinces you that
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you are worthless but depression is a
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liar it Whispers that no one loves you
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or wants you or that people wouldn't
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notice if you were gone truth is
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depression blinds you to the love around
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you people are sending you love and you
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can't feel it because depression is like
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beating them away the fact that you feel
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alone does not mean that you are alone
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or that no one cares about you or pain
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just makes it hard to see how much
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people care depression lies but you
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don't have to believe it even when you
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feel lost in the dark there's still a
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path forward and you don't have to walk
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it alone would you please reach out to
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someone you trust you do not have to
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carry this all by yourself talk with
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someone depression is a liar everything
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it says feels so real it's almost
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impossible to get yourself out of a deep
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dark hole on your own so allow someone
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to throw you a ladder or a rope or at
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least a flashlight talk with someone you
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could call or text the crisis hotline or
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you could reach out to a therapist on
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better help or psycholog today caring
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people can help you see through
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depression's lies and you really can get
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feeling better let's just think for a
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minute what has helped you even like a
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little bit in the past you do not have
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to do it all at once that's another one
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of depression's lies that if you can't
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fix all of this right now it's not even
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worth trying it's a lie Tiny Steps are
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much better than trying to fix
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everything at once so let's find
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something small that we can try so
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here's some tiny things that might help
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reach out to an online support group
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take one of my free courses thousands of
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people have told me that it helped them
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you can get the change your brain course
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for free if you can't afford it I teach
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10 tiny changes that can drastically
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improve depression and I'll make sure
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and put a link in the description move
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your body in some way like dance or go
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for a short walk or even just go sit
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outside for a few minutes on your porch
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take a shower or wash your face send a
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funny video to a friend Journal about
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your thoughts or just write them all
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down without judging them listen to some
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music you can start with something that
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kind of lines up with how you're feeling
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like sad or angry but then listen to a
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song that helps your energy get some
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sleep without alcohol alcohol is a
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depressant and it interferes with
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healing sleep hug someone or pet an
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animal take calming gentle
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breaths listen to a self-compassion
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meditation clean or organize one very
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small area be creative in any way
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expression is the opposite of depression
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it doesn't have to be good make some
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paint splatters play the drums sing some
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karaoke and just a reminder a lot of
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people think that they need to feel
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motivated first before they take action
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but that is not how the brain works
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after you take action the brain releases
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dopamine the motivation chemical I know
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you might not have much energy but
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please try to do one helpful thing I
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know that taking these tiny steps can
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help you get feeling better I know there
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are are dozens of people who want to
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help you depression is a liar please
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don't believe what it's telling you I
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put links in the description to make it
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easy for you to start feeling better
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today thank you for watching and take
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care hey real quick if you found any
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part of this video helpful I would
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really appreciate it if you give it a
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thumbs up or share it with someone who
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could benefit from it today really
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appreciate it thank you so much and take
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care
