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in this video we will enter a woman's
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mind and understand how she thinks and I
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will give you a formula that will make
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you know exactly how to get what you
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want from women 99% of the time let me
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first explain to you an important
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concept that I want you to remember for
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the rest of your life this is you and
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this is a girl you like the first thing
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you need to know is the way through
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which you can get what you want from her
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it's by putting her in an emotional
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state where she wants to do what you
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want her to do she must be the one who
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wants to do what you want meaning not
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because she's afraid of you or because
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she's doing what you want just because
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you have money and she wants that money
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and so on so Focus well on this sentence
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because this is what the entire video
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will revolve around how to make a woman
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want to do what you want her to do the
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second thing I want you to understand in
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this concept is that for a girl to do
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what you want meaning the behavior you
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want this Behavior must come from
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emotions not from logic how is that this
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unfortunately is the biggest problem men
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have and I'm sure you're one of them you
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project your mind onto hers for example
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if you and I went out today and in a
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restaurant and had lunch and you paid
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for lunch the next time we go out to eat
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I would be the one paying because this
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is something clear you don't need to
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tell me and I don't need to tell you and
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we'll continue like that and life goes
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on everything is clear women don't
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understand this women are stupid a
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woman's Behavior comes from her emotions
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not from her logic but the problem we
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have now is how do you make that happen
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don't worry I'll give you a strategy you
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can start applying very easily but
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before you start applying this strategy
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and even before you talk to that girl
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there are two things you need to
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understand especially in the beginning
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when you're just starting to get to know
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the girl the first thing is intention
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please listen to me carefully what I've
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found is that most men when they start
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talking to a woman don't really know
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what outcome they want from the
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interaction they don't know where
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they're going or what final result they
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want they see a woman they want to talk
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to and think oh I should talk to her but
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they don't really know where it's going
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to go or what they're trying to get out
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of it when you start a conversation with
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a woman you need to Define what you want
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from the very beginning do you want to
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get a phone number to try to bring her
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back to your place to set up a date to
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plant the seeds for a future meeting
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when you don't know what your intention
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is and you don't know what the final
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result you want is it's like you're lost
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at sea with no real idea of how to move
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forward how do you expect a girl to give
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you what you want when you yourself
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don't know what you want at the same
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time and this is something many guys
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face they say to themselves okay I
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talked to her and she was willing to
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talk to me now what the problem many
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guys have isn't that they're afraid of
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rejection but rather the fear is often
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that she'll actually be open to talking
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to them and then they will be forced to
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keep the conversation going it becomes
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is like now what okay she's ready to
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talk to me what now if you don't have a
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clear intention or goal for the
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conversation you won't know what your
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next step is I also found that a lot of
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guys talk to women just to validate
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themselves what I mean is they approach
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women and just want to talk to them so
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they feel better about themselves just
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for having talked to a woman but they
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don't really have a clear goal why did I
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tell you all this and why did I focus so
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much on the issue of intention because
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it's what will allow you to lead the
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conversation what most guys do is expect
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a girl to raise a sign and say hey now
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now it's okay to move to the next level
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now you can start flirting now you can
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tell me a story now you can do this
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women will not give you those signals
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she won't tell you it's okay to start
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teasing her she won't say you can begin
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asking personal questions she won't say
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hey now you can get more sexual all of
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these things as a man are your
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responsibility when you have a goal or
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Direction in the conversation you're
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always moving toward it yes there will
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be obstacles along the way sometimes
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you'll take a wrong turn and get off
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track but you'll always be able to get
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back because you've mapped out a clear
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path to where you want to take things
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but if you don't have a road map the
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first obstacle you face or the first
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time a woman gives you a reaction you
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don't know how to handle or tests you or
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seems offended or gives you a sign that
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you messed up you'll Retreat because you
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didn't know where you were going in the
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first place when you know your
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destination you adjust your approach
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accordingly you take a step back then
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move forward again and keep going
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forward this doesn't mean you keep going
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until you get there no matter what it
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doesn't mean every woman will give you
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her number just because you intended to
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get it and it doesn't mean every woman
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will go home with you just because you
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intended that but there's a big
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difference and I want you to really
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think about it think back to some of
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your recent conversations did you not
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get her number because she said no and
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you kept trying but couldn't get it you
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got lost and didn't think of asking for
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it you weren't sure so you didn't go for
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it chances are you didn't get the number
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because it wasn't your goal and during
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the conversation you never really tried
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to get it you didn't move toward it and
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you didn't give her a chance to say no
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the same thing with taking a girl home
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have you ever talked to a girl and
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thought you know what I think she'd
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actually agree to come home with me I
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feel attraction between us but you
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didn't try because that wasn't your
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intention you didn't intend to do that
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so you didn't try and instead you made
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the decision for her and said ah she
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probably wouldn't want to and this is a
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very important Point I've always wanted
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to tell you girls die for the guy who
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isn't shy who doesn't have those social
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restraints who speaks directly and shows
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his intentions from the beginning this
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is something that truly attracts women
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now I'm not saying every girl will want
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to go home with you or that every girl
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will give you her number what I'm saying
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is that when you start talking to a girl
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and you have an idea of what you want
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from the interaction you keep moving
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toward it until you get a clear no if
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she's not feeling you she'll give you a
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clear no that no could be something like
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hey I have to get up early for work
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tomorrow I really can't go home with you
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tonight at least you'll know you tried
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if you see a girl in Starbucks and say
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Hey I want to talk to her what is it
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that you actually want from the
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interaction yes you want to find out
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first if you're compatible but after
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that what do you want do you want to try
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to take her out on an instant date do
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you want her number do you want her
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Instagram so you can follow up later you
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need to know these things going in the
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second and more important part of
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intention is that once you have a clear
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goal in your mind you must make a firm
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decision to go for it and you pursue it
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100% you don't go for it with one foot
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in the door and the other ready to run
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away you go for it with the decision
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that you're going to do everything you
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can to achieve the result you want now
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you've understood with me what intention
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is how to have it and why it's important
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and now let me explain to you the second
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thing and I'll go over it quickly
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because I've explained it many times and
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I'll explain it again in the next part
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of the video and that is your attention
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your attention is a form of currency
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most men spend it recklessly giving it
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away without standards they think that
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being constantly available highly
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responsive and always engaged will make
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the girl like them more but the opposite
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is true when your attention is too easy
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to get it loses all its value she
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doesn't respect it and she doesn't put
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in any effort to earn it and now after
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understanding these two principles
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you'll be able to understand the
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strategy I want you to start applying to
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get what you want from women 99% of the
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time do you remember earlier when I told
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you that a woman behaves based on her
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emotions so the strategy I'm going to
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share with you now is built on something
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that exists in the brain of all people
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and especially in a woman's brain and
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that is what's known as the emotional
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feedback loop this is what controls 90%
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of a woman's behavior when she is with a
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man you need to know how to control her
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emotional feedback loop and the way to
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do that is through one thing reward and
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Punishment when you reward a certain
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Behavior it strengthens and grows and
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when you ignore or withdraw from a
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certain Behavior it weakens and dies
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that's it this applies to dogs children
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employees friends and yes women and
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while most women do this automatically
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with men rewarding confidence and
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punishing neediness most men have no
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idea that they should be doing the same
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thing in return the basic principle of
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reward and punishment is that you
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encourage and reinforce the behaviors
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that you like and that support your
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interaction with the woman and you
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discourage or stop the behaviors that
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you don't like and that harm your
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interaction with her it's a very simple
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concept if a woman does something good
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reward her if she does something bad
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stop it or show disapproval but in
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reality men don't always execute this
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correctly but before I explain more you
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need to understand something important
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which is that a woman doesn't know what
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you like and what you don't like as I
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told you earlier at the beginning of the
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video maybe you and I if I bought you a
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drink today and paid for it next time
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you would pay for me we men understand
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this between us a woman doesn't you have
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to tell her what you like and what you
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don't like don't expect her to know this
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on her own you are a man you need to be
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clear and direct sometimes a woman might
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do something you don't like for the
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first time here you have to be clear
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with her and tell her that you don't
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like it but if she repeats it again
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that's when you need to punish her and
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don't worry I'll explain how punishment
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works because many guys get angry and
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start yelling no that's not how you do
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this but before I explain it to you
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please listen to me carefully as if your
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life depends on it what do most men do
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when women start to pout and complain
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most men rush to do whatever the woman
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is complaining about what does a woman
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learn when she sees a man respond that
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way to her pouting and complaining she
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learns that anytime she wants something
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from her man or she has to do is pout
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and complain do you think that man will
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see less complaining from his woman
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after he gives her what she wants or
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more the answer is obvious people figure
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out what works and they use it in this
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case the woman acted negatively and the
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man gave her what she wanted instead of
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punishing her for bad behavior he
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rewarded and reinforced it you should
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never react based on the woman's
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Behavior if you want to give your
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girlfriend something she wants you
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should give it to her because you want
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to not because she started complaining
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in an Ideal World men would reward women
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who do nice things for them but do most
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men do this consistently not really
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think of a man whose girlfriend does
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something really sweet for him she
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dresses up nicely one day or Cooks him
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an extravagant meal what does he do
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maybe he makes a small comment you look
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beautiful today baby or this meal is
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really good some men don't even say that
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do you think she feels truly appreciated
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or feels a wave of good emotions that
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would make her want to do it again but
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what if when his girl dressed up the man
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told her she looked absolutely stunning
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and elegant and told her exactly what he
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liked about her outfit the style of the
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dress or the way she did her hair then
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took her passionately to bed do you
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think she'd want to dress up for him
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again that's the kind of relationship
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you want to build with women a
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relationship built on rewarding good
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behavior spreading positive emotions and
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bringing happiness to both sides that's
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what makes a woman invest emotionally
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build loyalty and feel that she plays an
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important role in the relationship so
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the question is how do you do this let's
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start first with rewarding there are
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several ways to reward a woman for
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Behavior you like and the top three are
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one giving her more attention focusing
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your eyes on her more intently leaning
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to listen to her opening your body
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language or facing her fully this is
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especially used if she says something
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interesting or very positive during the
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conversation two complimenting her or
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pointing out the traits you like it's
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good to highlight the qualities and
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traits you like in women even if those
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traits appear occasionally make sure to
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compliment her when you notice them to
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encourage her to show them more often
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for example if the woman seems
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distracted at the beginning of the
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meeting then later becomes more
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attentive you can say after a few
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minutes I really like how focused you
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are now it's refreshing the reason you
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don't say this right away is because you
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don't want to appear like you're
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reacting immediately to her behavior fre
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giving her physical touch or stimulation
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if she says something fun or funny or
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does something nice like buying you a
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drink or offering you some of her food
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take the opportunity to touch her as you
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thank her touch does many good things
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including showing her that you genuinely
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appreciate her and communicating that
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your touch is a good thing something she
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earns through her good behavior and now
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let's talk about punishment and how it
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should be but a very important note
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punishment should never make you appear
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upset and it should never be over the
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top you should not seem emotionally
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affected by the woman's negative
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behavior unless the behavior is truly
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bad use your judgment instead you want
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to send her the message that you don't
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have time for unproductive Behavior the
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word punishment itself might sound a bit
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harsh what we're really doing is
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weakening negative behavior here are the
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basic ways to do that with drawing
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attention when a woman starts behaving
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negatively for example she starts making
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rude jokes about you or implies that
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you're not good enough for her or starts
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talking about other men chasing her show
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boredom reduce your attention towards of
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her let your gaze drift away slowly lean
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back in your seat let your interest fade
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and pull away it's important for this to
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seem subtle and not exaggerated because
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big reactions like turning your back can
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come off as dramatic and childish and
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women will react to them as a form of
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entertainment rather than a real threat
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of losing you this becomes especially
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important as you grow more socially
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experienced the more socially skilled
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you become the more you must aim for
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increased subtlety and refinement in
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your responses displaying indifference
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when a woman says something you don't
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like it's okay to be indifferent and
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change the topic for example if she's
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telling you about her ex-boyfriend and
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then suddenly says she thinks all men
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are pigs you could respond with
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something like only the ones who live in
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Barnes anyway what happened after you
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found out your ex had another girlfriend
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I also call this technique steamrolling
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as in she started saying things that
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were pulling us in the wrong direction
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so I rolled over them and brought us
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back to something more productive and by
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the way if you want to learn more about
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how a conversation should go and you're
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interested in mastering the art of
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talking to women I spent the past few
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weeks writing a book specifically on
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this topic and it's completely free
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you'll find the book in the first
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comment and this was the dark needle I
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love you and I'll see you in the next
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video
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