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hi guys my name is Christine and I'm a
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dating relationship and personal
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development coach and today I'm talking
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about romance and being romantic will
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not make her like you more okay so
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romance is nice but it rarely raises a
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woman's attraction in you now the key
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word there is raises a woman's
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attraction in you if a woman is
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attracted to you and you do something
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romantic for her
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that's usually quite a nice gesture and
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she'll usually quite like it but it will
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not raise her attraction in you it will
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not make her like you more more often
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than not she'll just see it as a very
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nice gesture okay so this is why it's
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not a good idea to try and use romance
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as a way to get a woman to like you more
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okay it's a nice thing to do it's a nice
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gesture but if you're doing it to get it
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to like you more then you're not going
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to okay because first of all if you are
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doing it right to make her like you more
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more than likely she's going to know
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that she's going to know that this is
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some kind
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of trick or bribe to get her to like you
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more and she's going to see that a mile
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mile away where whereas if it was just
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like a kind gesture from your heart and
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it's something that you authentically
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wanted to do and you had no alterior
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motive and you let's say for example
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that you bought her flowers and you just
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wanted to do that because that's just
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what you felt compelled to do and it
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wasn't because you was trying to get her
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to like you more then she's going to see
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it as a nice gesture and she's going to
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be able to tell the authenticity of it
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okay but more than likely a woman will
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know if you're doing something because
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you're trying to get her to like you
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more she's going to see it as a bribe
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she's going to see it as a bribe for a
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relationship or a bribe for sex she's
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going to see it as a bribe that's what
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she's going to see it and it's going to
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make you look creepy it's going to make
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you not look attractive so if you are
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going to do something romantic make sure
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that you check yourself right check your
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intentions am I doing this to get her to
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like me more or am I doing this because
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I really want her to um cuz I just
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really wanted to because I just felt
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compelled to do
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it so being romantic is not going to
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make a woman like you more okay so what
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it what does make a woman like you more
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then okay
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usually in in just in a nutshell a woman
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will will naturally like you more if
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you're a lot more laidback back so
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you're not doing overly romantic
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gestures all the time um and you just
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instead just focus on making her laugh
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and having a good time when you're out
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together if you just focus on that and
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just getting her to laugh uh creating a
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fun experience for you both because of
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course you've got to have a good time as
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well hopefully you know you start dating
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woman who can make you laugh as well and
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just enjoying each other and just
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enjoying the the getting to know each
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other if you just focus on that and not
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focusing on buying flowers expensive
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gifts and trinkets then you're going to
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have a way easier time of dating women
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and it's it's going to be it's kind of
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like a bit of a paradox and or a um sort
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of like an opposite kind of thing where
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it's so like the the less you
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try as in like especially in terms of
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romantic gestures the less romantic you
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are and the more you focus actually on
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fun and laughter um the more likely it
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is that you're actually going to get the
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romance that you want the more likely
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that she's going to fall in love with
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you a lot quicker right cuz if you are
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giving out romantic gestures Like Love
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Letters
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flowers um telling her how you feel
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about her too soon these things are
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going to put blocks in your way whereas
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if you only just focus on having a laugh
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having a good time having fun getting
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her to laugh um getting her to talk
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about things she likes to talk about
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then you're going to have a way better
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time of it it's going to be so much more
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easier for you okay and dating would you
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just be so much more easier for you
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so just just keep it simple for yourself
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and just focus on making her laugh and
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having a good time that just that that's
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it that's all you need to do that's all
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you really need to do to get a woman's
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attraction to raise um you don't have to
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do anything else cuz women are more
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focused on how you make them
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feel
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um they don't think logically when it
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comes to romance um they think of okay
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he made me laugh I feel good when I'm
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around him CU he makes me laugh laugh
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and that usually raises her attraction
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in you because it makes her feel good
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she likes to hang around with you
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because you make her laugh it's simple
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right it's a very simple formula right
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the more positive feeling she Associates
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to you like laughter for example that's
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a huge one the best one the the more
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likely she's going to want to stay
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around you and hang around
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you but things like
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romance those things can feel quite
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serious to a woman right those things
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can feel quite like a very serious
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emotion um and can elicit serious
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emotions right cuz romance is quite like
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I'm doing this gesture for you and it's
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a very Grand gesture it's not very fun
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it's not very light-hearted it's a very
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romantic intense emotion when you do a
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romantic gesture and she might not be
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just she might not be ready for those
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kind of gestures yet so it's better to
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just keep things simple and just focus
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on fun focus on laughter focus on having
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a good
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time now I don't want you to be fooled
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into thinking that being romantic is a
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part of your personality CU you might be
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thinking right now well being romantic
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is just who I am it's just it's just the
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kind of guy that I am more likely it's
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not because romance and those romantic
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gestures are things that you've learned
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and observed over
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time okay they're things that you've
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learned and observed they're not part of
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your personality and they are not part
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of who you
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are okay now it may be the case that you
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have grandparents and you thought and
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and you perhaps you observed your
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grandfather bringing your grandmother
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flowers and she loved them right again
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it probably didn't raise her attraction
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in your grandfather she saw it as a nice
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gesture and because she was already in
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love with him cuz more than likely than
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not they were already married you know
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it she saw it as a nice gesture and she
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probably loved it cuz it was it was
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something thoughtful that he had done
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but again they were already married they
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were already in something committed it's
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not going to it's so it's not a good
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idea to do these things these romantic
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gestures like bringing flowers gifts
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with a woman you're just dating because
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you're only just dating she's not in
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love with you yet right she's not your
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girlfriend she's not your
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wife so another you CU again with the
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big romantic gestures these are things
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that you've probably also observed in
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movies in those big romantic comedies
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right and romantic comedies are a really
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bad way to learn about love and learn
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how to about learn about attracting
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women um because it's usually a false
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reality because and you've probably
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experienced this yourself as well if
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you've if you've done things like right
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along long love letter to a crush how
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did that work out did she fall in love
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with you did she become your
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girlfriend are you are you still
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together are you in a romantic
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relationship with them still are you
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married
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now
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yeah it's just not the way that women
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respond to attraction it's not going to
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make like I said it's not going to make
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her like you more so it's always the
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best to just remove the romantic
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gestures when you're just dating wait
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for her to become your girlfriend or
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your wife CU it matters more to women
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then cuz it show it doesn't raise her
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attraction but it shows that you care it
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shows to her that you're thoughtful and
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that's why she likes it she doesn't
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think oh right great he brought me
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flowers oh my God he looks so hot with
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those bunch of flowers I want to jump
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his bones right that's not what's going
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to make her attracted to you and raise
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her attraction level she's just going to
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see it as a knce
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gesture okay so leave those things aside
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of course you can do those things those
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things aren't bad to do they like I said
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it's a nice gesture and it shows that
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you're thoughtful but it's better to do
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that with a woman who is already your
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girlfriend or already your wife so just
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hold off until she is just hold off
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until you guys are exclusive and then
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you can buy her something nice for a
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birthday or Valentine's Day or on an
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anniversary do a nice romantic gesture
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then right and but with the women you're
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just dating who are who who are not your
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girlfriend you're not in committed with
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them yet you're still getting to know
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them and you're still in the getting to
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know each other process just hold off
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just wait just wait okay because it
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might not work out anyway and then maybe
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you would have wasted a lot of money on
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a girl that it just didn't work out with
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so that if you've bought like a you know
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like a bunch of flowers for like £50 you
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know that's a waste of money cuz that
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with that girl it didn't go very far
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with her so just hold off keep you keep
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your change keep your money money to
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yourself right just pay out you know
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things like maybe when you go out on
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dates you know but a lot of the time
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these days women are okay to pay as well
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um it just depends on what you want and
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of course you know when you go on a
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first date you don't even have to do
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anything where you spend money when I
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first met my wife we didn't spend any
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money at all I didn't spend any money
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she didn't spend any money we just met
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out and went for a walk that's what we
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did we didn't do anything big we just
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went out for for a walk and just got to
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got we just did laps around the park and
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got to know each other that way and
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that's a really great way as well and
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also if but if you let's say you live in
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a city you don't live near any nice
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Parks then just meet for a drink so you
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know and arrive early P pay for your
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drink and you know if you want to you
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can pay for hers but more than likely
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she can pay for her own or maybe she you
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wait for her to get there early so she's
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already bought her drink or I don't know
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whatever you want to do but again you're
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not going to be paying loads of money to
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when if you just meet out for a drink
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and also if you just meet out for a walk
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or a drink if you don't like the woman
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you could easily leave after half an
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hour if you can tell
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that you guys aren't um vibing right but
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if you are then you can extend the date
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and do something else and do something
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different and get to know each other
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more um but it's always a good idea to
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just do something simple that where you
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could easily leave cuz you know it you
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may not like her or you can tell maybe
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that she doesn't like you and she's not
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that into you so that may be your reason
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to leave as well so don't focus on being
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romantic wait for her to be your
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girlfriend or your wife then do things
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that are more romantic and um yeah just
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focus focus on laughter just focus on
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making her laugh give her the gift of
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laughter instead and that can actually
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be the most romantic thing you can ever
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give a woman to uplift her and make her
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smile okay so thank you so much for
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