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ADHD can feel like living with a curse that's
been spelled on you why because compared to
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the norm your brain can make your life totally
chaotic and depressing and if you don't manage
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to avoid falling into this curse that's the prison
population that's the addicted population that's
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the unemployed population the marginalized
the people who can't stay in a relationship
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the people whose dreams never come true and to
Die Young yeah it can literally take years off
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your life it's almost like 95% of people are
starting at level 1 whilst you are starting
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at level min-1 however if you manage ADHD properly
if you learn to master this curse you can actually
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become super successful and despite what you
might believe it can actually become a blessing
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and I'm going to show you how you can easily do
that in just a minute but first let's start out
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by analyzing why it's always so black and white
why is it that you will either fail completely or
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become massively successful well it's the same
reason why you either exercise really hard or
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not at all why you either eat really healthy or
really unhealthy why you're either hyperfocused
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or not focused at all and why you either feel
like you're having really good days or absolutely
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terrible ones because if you have ADHD you can't
do the ordinary you don't do the okay or meh it's
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always all or nothing because your brain has a
a disregulation of dopamine meaning your levels
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of mood motivation and focus either Spike up or
down there's literally no middle ground and if you
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don't know how to hack this dopamine regulation
you will end up in a downward spiral that is
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difficult to get out of because these negative
days then comfortably compound over your life
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which is when you may find yourself so deep down
the pit that you're completely lost isolated and
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feel hopeless on a path that often feels like
it's predetermined by Fate because you feel
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like you've lost all control but what if we could
compound the great days instead what would happen
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then well I can tell you what would happen our
brain would level up faster than any neurotypical
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person ever could and there's a way to do that
fellow adhders like Michael Phelps Simone biles
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Jim Carrey or Bill Gates have figured it out
or do you think Bill Gates has trouble staying
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consistent no it's easy for him you simply need
to choose the path path you want your life with
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ADHD to take either you remain where you are
right now accepting that you'll be stuck there
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indefinitely if you don't take action and make
the few simple changes I'm about to share with
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you or you go down the path of beating the ADHD
curse and watch your life transform you have the
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power to do that and it's never too late to go
down that route no matter how hard things are
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feeling right now you don't have to be a slave
to your brain equipped with the right knowledge
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systems and tools you can learn to trust yourself
again you can learn to have hope again and you
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can beat the ADHD curse in just three easy steps
this is what I'm going to share with you right now
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make sure to watch until the end because all the
steps built on top of each other and steps one and
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two would be nothing without step three step one
if you're watching this chances are you're stuck
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chasing fast dopamine and feel out of control you
may not believe that change is possible and I get
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it I've been there after my diagnosis 7 years
ago I discovered that all the problems that ADHD
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attracts into my life are driven by my brain's
inability to say no to insant gratification
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AKA fast dopamine and it all starts a new every
single day think about it when you wake up what's
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the first thing you do do you check your phone or
do you make your bed do you watch a YouTube video
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or get dressed immediately then then what does
that lead to the reason I'm asking is because
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even though it may seem minor these small actions
in the morning are often the predetermining factor
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for the rest of your day you either get stuck
in a negative dopamine cycle after checking
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your phone and losing yourself on Instagram or
you get stuck in a positive feedback loop of
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accomplishment that gives you momentum to tackle
more because while things like checking social
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media make you feel really good right away we
know that they are also a lot more shortlived the
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pleas pleasure is artificial and therefore Fades
quickly leaving a desire for more and opening up
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the potential for addiction especially when you
have a disregulation of dopamine and so if you
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chase dopamine in the morning you will end up in a
dopamine seeking Loop for the rest of your day for
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example if you check your phone in the morning
you will much more likely get distracted by it
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again later because when your brain is looking to
scratch that itch it almost instinctively reaches
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for that phone before you even realize it you're
distracted again Doom scrolling not doing what you
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actually wanted to do and when you put your phone
down and try to concentrate it gets more difficult
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every single time if this was a game this would
almost be like if you kept choosing the same
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passage where a spider keeps attacking you until
you're dead you keep leveling down and have less
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and less power after the 50th time it's almost
like you're in a trance just clicking on that
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passage not knowing why it's it's like you're a
puppet with no control but we all know those ADHD
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mornings right those mornings where your restless
brain didn't let you sleep where you literally lie
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in bed and tell yourself that today is lost you
start thinking about all the things you should
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be doing and the day just becomes bigger and
bigger and more overwhelming and how are you
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going to be able to follow through with this for
the next couple of weeks what are people going to
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think let's just check your phone for some quick
relief and stop breathe what's the first thing
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you can do right now is it just getting out of bed
okay let's do that wow that was actually all right
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okay now let's get under the shower and see what
happens okay time to make the bed wow I'm feeling
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better already okay now let's just sit down and
try to focus do you see what we did there one
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little exception for us adhders can Cascade like
a domino effect and so instead of getting stuck
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in a negative dopamine cycle it's almost like we
charge ourselves up instead of stressing about
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the day and thinking about everything we needed to
get done we built an on-ramp for our ADHD brains I
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know those negative thoughts when you're lying
in bed are so stimulating I'm not this person
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today I can't do it this is too much but for us
very often it's just about showing up and seeing
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what happens we get overwhelmed by thinking about
everything that needs to get done and everything
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changes once we focus on just the first couple
of steps just making your bed and seeing what
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happens just sitting down in front of your PC
and working on something for 5 minutes starting
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with the easy fills up your dopamine so you can
tackle more later it allows you to decrease the
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level of difficulty you start working at and is
absolutely essential for your ADHD brain this is
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the first step to leveling [Music] up step two the
truth is it's not just about your morning because
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even if you start your morning right most of the
time you are still chasing the wrong activities
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which multiplies your chances of slipping into
Oblivion because you're more impulsive and driven
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to fast rewards if you don't see a fun and easy
Way Forward by the way what did that word easy
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just do to you did it feel bad that we needed to
be easy here's something I want you to internalize
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forever something Society doesn't knowled is for
is the fact that we're interest driven and that
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we therefore need to chase the easy think back to
your childhood you either did great at subjects
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you loved or terrible in the ones you hated
right the same principle still applies to your
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adult life you can't force yourself to do things
because your brain is allergic to shs needing to
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do something not because you want to but because
that's the way it's done however the sad truth is
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that everyone tells us to do exactly that friends
family even loved ones may mean well when telling
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us that we should be nicer to ourselves we should
see the positive more but what they don't know
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is that for every should our brain depletes
its almost empty dopamine reserves even more
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because all of a sudden it's a task it's no longer
something that we want to inherently do and so the
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most important question you need to ask yourself
is this what are things that I look forward to
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and how can I find interest in the things I'm
currently doing this question then applies to
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two areas of your life your activities and your
main mission in both of these areas you're always
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presented with your opportunity to char yourself
up level up or suck yourself dry level down
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activities are things that live next to your main
mission think of activities as small side quests
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that either level you up or Lead You astray the
types of people you meet up with the things you
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do with them the things you do alone when you're
bored I want you to ask yourself do these things
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usually charge you up do you have more energy
after are you doing things that you actually
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enjoy or are you living someone else's life are
you finding that you need to constantly force
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yourself to do something are you finding that
you're constantly masking your true self with the
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people you're with can you actually connect with
your people and have safy your social needs here's
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a good test if you find yourself chasing fast
dopamine after the activity like through fast food
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or alcohol chances are these people or things are
poisoning your mind to chase instant gratification
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and aren't truly satisfying you if that's you
don't worry because it's never too late to change
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these activities what we want to start doing
is getting dopamine from them instead of them
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getting dopamine from us I want you to imagine for
a second what it would be like if it was easy to
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get dopamine from exercise connection or work
sounds weird right for some reason it's never
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something we associate with being easy it always
sounds like a chore you should exercise more you
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should call your friends more you should work more
so deflating I immediately don't want to do it but
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what about wanting instead of weightlifting which
may feel like a chore to you playing a sport you
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actually like instead of needing to reach out to
people that you don't really care about devoting
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your time to the people that truly matter to you
whose lives you're genuinely interested in where
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you laugh unconditionally that's good dopamine
right there you see chasing good dopamine instead
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of fast dopamine is not just about needing to
make the right decision for us you got to make
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good dopamine easy to Chase and bad dopamine
hard to chase it's about creating a new normal
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where you don't even have to make decisions
anymore changing your environment to be true
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to you knowing your differences not abandoning
yourself and understanding that you have these
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basic needs like connection that you are allowed
to get met your way now here's the crazy part
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research shows that you built the best dopamine
through things that you enjoy in other words once
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you stop people pleasing and learn to listen to
yourself you're life will change its trajectory
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your reward is a free life a happy life and if
you have ADHD you now know that you literally
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need to live an authentic life to not go under
there is no other option which leads me to my
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last and most important step step three when we
land in jobs or careers that promise safety but
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aren't something we genuinely want to do as
adhders we often end up chasing fast dopamine
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in our free time time through partying or playing
video games because we're not getting it elsewhere
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we are not charging ourselves up we're sucking
ourselves dry every single day even though it
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may feel like you're leveling up in reality you're
leveling down because you're sacrificing yourself
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for the external money status it doesn't mean much
if you don't like what you're doing and so instead
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of having an occupation or following a career
you need a mission truly something bigger than
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you where it's easy to make the right decision of
starting that positive feedback loop every morning
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because you have something to look forward to I
strongly believe that if you have ADHD you can
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only truly Thrive once you live life on your own
terms we lose the game once days become effortful
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and win once they become effortless we need to
think about what comes easy to you and then make
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the decision to actively engage in these these
domains more erasing the belief that easy is bad
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now here's the Twist and why the game of ADHD
can make you hyper successful exponentially
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once you follow the easy and you have a mission
you actually have an unfair Advantage because
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of your dopamine deficiency because while our
brain can trap us in negativity it can also be
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the reason why we're able to hyperfocus on things
that we love you may have noticed time passing at
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incredible speeds when you're playing a game you
like the same can happen with your mission all of
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a sudden you need that mission instead of those
destructive things we talked about earlier to
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fuel you which makes all the difference and
all of this is possible once you get hyper
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fixated on building your dream life for me it's
been becoming a full-time content creator which
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shows that even with ADHD you can stay consistent
for over 3 years I've never missed an upload for
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longer than a week during this time but where
can you start yes you watching this video I
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didn't forget about you the first step to getting
hyper fixated on building a life you love is by
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finding out what your personality type is so you
can see where your areas of Interest lie and then
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pursue those areas relentlessly actually taking an
mbti 16 personality test and checking what areas
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of jobs or careers are recommended maybe it's
writing or video editing maybe it's networking
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or or art maybe it's standup comedy there is no
wrong answer here and nobody absolutely nobody
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can tell you what that answer is except for you
this may well be a huge aha moment for you after
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you figure that out you need to craft your why
in order to get interested in building a life
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you love you need to find interest in it and so
you need a mission statement that resonates with
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you deeply and authentically ask yourself
these questions what is your contribution
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who do you impact and why does it matter
reflecting on these questions can provide
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valuable insights into your why guiding you
towards more purposeful and meaningful life
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there's a reason why Simon cynic one of the
most well-known motivational speakers has
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ADHD and literally wrote a book on finding your
why if finding your why sounds too overwhelming
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ask yourself what you're curious about we can't
fake that and simply following your curiosity
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will lead to the authentic life that we're
referencing here now at this point you may
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be asking yourself this is all great and I'll
leave a like because I'm inspired thanks for
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that by the way but chances are I'll forget this
tomorrow and won't turn my life around this video
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was just a quick dopamine hit from my brain and
I'll never be able to achieve my dreams well if
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that's what you're thinking I don't blame you
a lot of us adhders have stopped believing and
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have lost hope because of of the amount of times
we told ourselves that we'll change it all and
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didn't that's why I want to help you kickart this
and actually turn your life around this time by
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far the most crucial step to fully integrating
the lessons from this video into your life is
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to consistently and intentionally work on them
with Focus however as we all know this can be
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very challenging for those of us with ADHD but
most people have no idea that there's actually
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an extremely simple way to cons consistently
Focus execute and stay on track without falling
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into this Loop of procrastination and executive
dysfunction we all know too well it works by using
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something called curated external triggers and
countless adhders are already taking advantage
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of it if you're interested in understanding
how it works and how you can apply the strategy
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into your own life click the link in the video
description in it there's another free video that
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explains everything in detail so click the link
below and we'll see each other in the next one
