Q&A with Vanessa Van Edwards: How to Communicate with Charisma

In the second part, Vanessa mentions that influence does not require constant positivity or extroversion. She shares that being present and aware can be powerful in itself, and leaders should aim to bring a relief emotion like togetherness or resetting when addressing team challenges.

Vanessa Van Edwards recounts her realization of the contagious nature of emotions in college. She describes an incident where one person's negative mood affected an entire study group, sparking her interest in the study of charisma and emotional contagion.

Craig and Vanessa discuss the misconception that leaders need to maintain positivity at all times. Vanessa introduces the concept of 'relief emotions' which are more sustainable and authentic ways for leaders to support their teams through challenging times.

Craig reflects on the challenges leaders face in addressing negativity and stress, particularly post-pandemic. Vanessa suggests leaders focus on creating unity during challenging times rather than portraying forced positivity.

Vanessa elaborates on the difference between being naturally charismatic versus forcing positivity or extroversion. She encourages leaders to identify and share 'relief emotions' that align with the team's current state to foster an environment of togetherness.

The conversation shifts to recognizing awkwardness as a part of growth. Vanessa suggests leaders should understand and address their own social fears, which often manifest as either withdrawal or excessive assertiveness.

Craig shares his own experiences with creating awkwardness unintentionally. Vanessa recommends strategies such as leading with openness and understanding the communication preferences of introverts to improve communication dynamics.

Vanessa offers insight into good question-asking, explaining the importance of timing and phrasing. She encourages using questions that help unlock personal motivations and values for deeper relationship building.