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my brother if you can just give me 10 15
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20 minutes of your time I can guarantee
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you this addiction by the end of this
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video will be gone it it will be
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vanished from your life or you'll be
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doing it 10 times less than you normally
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do and I can make that promise to you if
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you just lock in do yourself a favor and
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just implement the things I'm going to
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tell you this applies to everybody it
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doesn't matter if you do this once every
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30 days once a day three or four times a
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day it doesn't matter okay this applies
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to everybody and as you can see we're
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going to be using a house to represent
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this when your house collapses that is
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an equivalent of relapse so our goal
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today is to ensure that this house does
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not collapse due to wind hurricanes
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floods natural disasters I'm going to
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explain to you how you can quit this
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stuff like you're a 5-year-old okay
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let's get sh into it I'm not here to
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waste your time my camera is on like 10%
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we need to do this quick now
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most of you have just built this house
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there's nothing to hold it up the first
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thing that you need when you're building
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a strong house that's not going to get
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affected by external things such as wind
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you need to build a
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foundation some of you already have this
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Foundation I will get to you in a minute
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let's start with the boys who are new to
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this you need to build this Foundation
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now what is a foundation in real life a
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Foundation is your reason for quitting
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the reason why you want to quit watching
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porn I want you to ask yourself right
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now why did I click on this video yeah
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why do I want to quit watching porn how
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is this affecting my life you need this
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okay you need this reason if you don't
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have it click off this video and go and
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do some journaling yeah once you have
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this reason let's say that this is
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affecting your confidence with women
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right you need to ask yourself how will
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no confidence with women affect my life
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negatively if you have no confidence to
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go out there and talk to girls you may
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never find your dream wife if you never
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find your dream wife you'll never be
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able to start your own family you never
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be able to have a kid yeah imagine the
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pain of that that pain is so much
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scarier than being absent from porn you
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need to find this pain and need to you
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know replace the pleasure of 2 or 3
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seconds of busting a nut with a lifelong
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pleasure of starting a family that might
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be a reason for you quitting another
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reason might be making money it doesn't
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matter find your reason now once you
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have your reason most of you I would say
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most of you watching this video have
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your foundation you have your goal you
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have your reason for quitting but it's
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not strong
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enough what you need to do is build a
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foundation under the foundation or build
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a foundation on the
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foundation let's say you want to be you
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have to set an ambitious goal the more
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ambitious your goal the more porn's
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probably going to affect actually
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achieving that so the bigger your
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foundation probably
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is let's say you want to be a
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millionaire in uh in 3 years time
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millionaire 3 years time okay you have
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your reason you want to retire your
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parents you want to retire your family
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you want to have location Freedom time
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Freedom you want to do what you love
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every single day these are all your
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reasons okay and and porn is holding you
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back from doing that because you keep
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waking up late you have no social skills
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you can't network with people you can't
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put quality time into your business so
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many reasons cuz you're distracted by
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[ __ ] booty and ass I meant to say
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boobs and ass but that's fine let's say
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you want to be a millionaire in 3 years
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time I'm not a big fan of this but what
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you can do is just go and tell your
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parents I'm going to retire you in 3
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years go and tell your friends I'm going
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to be a millionaire in 3 years time hear
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them doubt you tell social media I'm
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going to be a millionaire in 3 years
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time you tell your parents boom you tell
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your friends boom there is so much
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pressure on you to not watch this [ __ ]
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because it's holding you back from being
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that person right you make this stronger
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these are like your individual goals
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yeah like to retire your family you've
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told your parents you told your friends
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you told social media you have to do
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this now that is just an example okay
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you might add to your foundation in a
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different way does doesn't necessarily
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mean telling people it doesn't mean
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that find a way to make this stronger
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put pressure on yourself you need a
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little bit if you have been struggling
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with this [ __ ] for years upon Years bro
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it's not nothing changes if nothing
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changes simple nothing changes if
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nothing changes you need to add
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something to this just experiment if it
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doesn't work it doesn't work tell your
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parents know you're going to be a
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millionaire in 3 years and if you don't
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like the idea tell them it's a joke
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tomorrow just see okay these are just
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examples though so you've got your
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foundation that's all good you got that
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now what's this these are the actions
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you put in place every single day which
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is stemmed from this so you need to
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create this in before you create this so
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many of you create this which is your
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actions your habits
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before you create this it doesn't work
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if you don't have this you might stay
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consistent for a day you might have a
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really good day you might have a
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productive day you wake up at 5:30 you
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hit a workout you go on cold approaching
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women you work in your business for a
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couple of hours you study for a couple
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of hours but you can't keep this up for
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a couple of days you go 2 three days of
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consistency and then you give up so the
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best advice I can give you once you have
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built your foundation build a house that
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is directly related to to the foundation
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it's not you know your foundation isn't
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really small but then your house is
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really big your foundation isn't very
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big but then your house is really small
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you want it to match okay if you want to
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be a millionaire in 3 years time spend
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more time trying to make money and your
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second goal is to get a girlfriend spend
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less time trying to get a girlfriend and
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more time trying to make money that's
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how you do it it needs to reflect what's
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on the bottom yeah simple that's really
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it that's really all you need here now
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what most of you do when this wind comes
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along tries to tries to you know [ __ ]
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you up put you put you in a slump yeah
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what you what most of you
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do what I've done so many times it's
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it's really normal you will have one
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relapse you will relapse once and this
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wind will take out one
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window one window represents one relapse
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okay and let's say like six or seven
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relapses represents your whole
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house uh collapsing okay just because a
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window breaks doesn't mean you ruin your
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whole progress just because you relapse
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at 300 p.m. doesn't mean you relapse
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three or four times a day that three or
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four times that day and then you do it
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tomorrow and you do it the next day and
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you go the whole week being lazy no just
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because one window cracks doesn't mean
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you collapse your your whole house all
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right you
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learn why this
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broke why did it break why did the wind
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hit this instead of this why did the
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wind hit this window instead of this
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door you might have had an unproductive
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day because of external circumstances
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maybe your foundation was strong but
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something else cause you to relapse
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that's fine all you can do is learn from
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it now you kind of have to you know
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ignore the house concept for this one
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let me stand in the middle you kind of
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have to ignore the house concept for
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this but when you do encounter an urge
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yeah you have a gust of wind you have a
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hurricane what however strong the urge
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is a hurricane is a really strong urge
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look if your house is built strong
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enough you're fine but once you
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encounter this I want you to observe the
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wind I want you to observe the disaster
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that's about to collapse your house okay
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can you control this this is where the
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house example doesn't really matter it
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doesn't really you know a line can you
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control the root cause of the urge okay
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you might get an urge because your
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family are having problems and you're
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stuck in your room all day you don't
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even want to go out yeah because your
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family is constantly fighting you can't
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necessarily control that something you
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can control is you waking up at 7:00
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a.m. instead of 5:00 a.m. like you said
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that's something you can can control so
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I want you to separate your urges what's
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causing the urges can you control them
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can I not control them something you
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cannot control is just urges out of
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nowhere they just pop pop up in your
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mind you know that your favorite videos
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that just pop up in your mind and you
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want to go and do it you want to go and
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watch them if you can control it change
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it
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simple change it do something about a b
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it's the best advice I can give you if
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you can't control it I know it sounds
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really selfish and just really like you
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know just [ __ ] but it's true you need to
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learn to live with it you need to learn
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to cope with it I know it's really bad
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especially if you're on a in a dark
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space I know bro I've been through it
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all right I've been through it not
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probably what some of you guys have been
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through but I've definitely had urges
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that have come from just a dark place in
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my life I know what it's like bro
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but you need to have this house built
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and you need to transmute this energy
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that you're getting this you know this
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dark feeling this depression this
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sadness whatever it is and you need to
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try your best to creating a better house
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bro that's what you need that's what you
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need to do all right you've got your
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foundation you've got your goals I hope
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this makes sense I'm trying to explain
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this as simple as I can for you okay now
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my camera is on 3% so we have to hurry
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up last thing I want to tell you that is
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very very important and it applies to
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this
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and
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this your urges one of the reason your
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urges is so strong is because you is
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because you put so much pedestal on porn
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you put it up here even though it's not
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even that good it's not even enjoyable
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are you smiling while you're jacking off
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are you smiling while you're busting a
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nut are you smiling while you're
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watching two people do it no you're not
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okay you know you don't actually enjoy
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it it is just a perfect way to escape
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how your feel
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feeling that's it it's a perfect way for
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90% of people it is a perfect way to
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escape what you're feeling okay so I
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want you to change your perspective on
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this stuff it's not actually enjoyable
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when you go and do it you're not
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actually having a good time you're just
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escaping from whatever you're feeling
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and it's a perfect way to forget about
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everything you're not thinking about
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anything else while you're watching that
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stuff are you but if you go for a run
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which is which is another term of you
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know escaping from your thoughts your
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thoughts are still there okay so look at
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porn as just that a source of Escape how
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can we escape a different way exercise
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is a perfect example but a perfect
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example is
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habits that align with your foundation
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align with your goals these are perfect
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ways to escape these thoughts or what
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you can do is you can observe these
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thoughts you can dive into a meditation
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okay really observe them I can't go
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deeper than this cuz my camera is about
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to die but you get my point you can
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reduce the power of these urges by
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simply changing your perspective on corn
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BR it's a dark industry it's not good
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okay and you're just feeding that every
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time you watch it you're only making it
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more popular I know some of you are
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Christian and you're you know your main
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motivator to not watch that stuff is
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because of the sin perfect bro how does
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not sinning affect your life positively
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you probably already know you need to go
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deep into this as I said here this is
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95% of this video all this [ __ ] comes
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with it if this is strong so Focus 95%
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of your attention here that's how I quit
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that's how I went from watching it three
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or four times a day to going over a
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th000 days without the stuff okay of
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course there little psychological tricks
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you can do there's science behind
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certain things but this is 95% of what
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you need to know all right much love
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brother go there and crush it and I'll
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catch you in the next one peace
