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the more I develop the more I learn
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about myself the more I realize how much
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we're burdened by the things we carry
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from our past and in saying that I mean
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that if you keep carrying old bricks
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you'll build the same
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house if you keep carrying the past with
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you if you keep taking who you used to
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be that anxiety of the past that anxiety
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of your your previous self you'll
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continue to keep being that person and I
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don't say that just to say that you
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should just let go of your past self
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it's not about letting go it's not about
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disregarding it's not about getting rid
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I think we need to get that out of our
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mentality cuz in all aspects of
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ourselves I don't think we get rid of
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anything I think we change
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it it's about
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renovation not disregarding you know
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when we're building something new and
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we're taking pieces and parts of
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ourselves that we may dislike that don't
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serve us it's not about treating them as
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if they're nothing throwing them behind
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us cuz what we throw behind us is what
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we carry on our back we tend to think
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we're disregarding it when really we're
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just disregarding ourselves the things
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we want to get rid of the things we want
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to change are there for a reason we want
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to change them for a reason it's not
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because of something that's just a part
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of us that we need to get rid of it's a
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part of us that needs our attention it's
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a part of us that needs our stimulation
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in order to become something new become
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something worthwhile
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and I think the main thing we need to do
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is change that perspective that we have
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on you know all negative parts of
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ourselves
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aren't you know to be shunned like that
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just to be focused
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on when I say uh you keep carrying this
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old bricks you're going to build the
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same
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house I definitely heard that uh from
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somewhere I definitely saw it on Tik Tok
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not going to lie to
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y'all but I just thought it was a great
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topic
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you know it's a it's a great analogy
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for how we think about changing the self
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how we think about growing as
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people and I feel like a lot of us think
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that
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it's you know a total rebirth which in
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some ways it is a lot of people
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experience what they call like ego death
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and they feel like they come out a new
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person but I feel like ego death is sort
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of an unattainable thing sometimes so
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when regards so when you can't just
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readily do that it's
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about realizing the aspects of yourself
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that seek out
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change and focusing on you know instead
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of running from the aspects of ourselves
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that seek out change feel like we run
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from ourselves a lot we run from our
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expression We R from our cultivation We
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R from our actualization in more ways
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than I could probably put my finger
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on and not being present and not being
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with ourselves and not being able to
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truly address our problems without you
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know taking personal which shouldn't be
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taken
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personal and in some ways you know your
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own negative aspect should be taken
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personally but I don't think they should
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NE necessarily be
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taken you
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know as seriously as we do I feel like
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we attri attribute more of the negative
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aspects of ourselves to our identity
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than our positive
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ones it's more important to focus on the
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positive of course and I wouldn't say
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it's less important to focus on the
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negative I just think the negative
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shouldn't be used as a foundation for
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who we
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are not to say don't address the
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negative not to say don't cultivate past
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it not to say don't look at
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it but to
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say when you're trying to get better
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when we're be trying to become something
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new we can't carry that negativity we
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have to focus on changing it and moving
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forward and we have to be care careful
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and mindful of our the patterns of our
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mind cuz that's how I feel like most of
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us get loop back in like even in my own
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experience I find that sometimes I still
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feel like the person I was three years
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ago I have my days I have my moments and
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it's about realizing that you're no
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longer there you no longer have to be in
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that space and you no longer have to be
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that person I me you're still that
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person you no longer have to be in that
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head space it's about realizing that you
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know if you keep
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repeating those same cycles and don't
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stop yourself and don't allow yourself
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to think something different or or try
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to think something different or at least
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make efforts to change something that's
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putting you in that Loop you're going to
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repeat the same cycle and get the same
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results I said this in my past two
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videos you know a lot of us try to tear
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our house down tear ourselves down and
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rebuild ourselves in a different place
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only to realize that if we rebuild the
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same structure we're going to have the
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same structural problems it's about
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renovation it's about changing the
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structure You're Building or more so
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changing the pieces and parts to make it
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holistically
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you I feel like some of the negativity
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some of the negative aspects of
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ourselves are implanted it's not
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necessarily stuff that's inherent to our
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character it's stuff that's inherent to
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our environment in the way at which we
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were brought up or the way at which we
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perceiv our upbringing and that's why I
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feel like perception is so important and
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perception I feel like goes hand in hand
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with being present being present in this
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sense is
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being able to choose your perspective
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being able to look at the world and and
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say to it you know this is how I want to
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view it this is how I will VI rather
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than this is how it is and this is how I
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have to accept it not to say be super
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delusional but be a little delusional it
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it really doesn't it really doesn't do
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that that much damage you know be
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reasonable but in all things that are
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subject perspective all things that are
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subject to your own minds bias why not
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bias it in your
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favor why not be that person for
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yourself to give you that little oomph
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cuz I feel like a lot of us look to our
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friends look to our family for that that
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sort of validation on subjects they
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might not know a lot about and I feel
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like it's a lot more genuine a lot more
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not to say you can't appreciate I
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appreciate whenever people tell me stuff
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like that but to say that it's it's a
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little different when it comes from you
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it's like looking at all your ups and
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downs in life and still saying you're on
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the way up like
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it's affirming to yourself that no
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matter what has happened in your
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experience that you're still pioneering
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onward that you're still trying to move
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forward you know you're patting yourself
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on the back for falling you're getting
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up each
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time I feel like that's where your true
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appreciation comes in cuz if you're
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watching this video no matter what
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hardships you've endured no matter what
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things you've been through you've gotten
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to this point you made it through
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that you know your mind might be messed
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up at this moment
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I don't know what what people have going
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on but regardless you made it to this
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moment and you can do it over and over
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again to know what humanly possible
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means you two can do
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it I feel like a lot of us spend our
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life in reference to something that we
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probably shouldn't live in reference to
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a lot of our past sometimes are negative
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we have a lot of negativity we carry
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from the past but we made it through
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that this is a new time and you are a
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new person due to that circumstance so
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we have to realize that
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in attempting to carry those pieces and
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parts with you know remember the lesson
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forget the
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teacher remember the lesson forget the
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teach it we have to keep moving forward
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not necessarily disregarding the past
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but regarding who we are now regarding
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who we want to
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be you know living in a in a new
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definition of
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yourself you know you're in some
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ways you know is no past self to
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overcome who you are now is is just as
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much suited for anything as you will
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ever
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be it's about getting out of that that
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same mentality that you had when you
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were that person getting out of those
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same thought loads getting out of those
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same
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habits and one thing I said you can't
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replace anything in your life with just
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a
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vacancy you is going to be filled by
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something that's going to want to be
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stimulated by
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something and you can either make the
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choice to intentionally put positive
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stuff in there or allow something random
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to get in there and chances are if you
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allow something random get in it'll be
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negative it might be the same thing that
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you're trying to get away from that's
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why I feel like renovation is important
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intentional
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renovation focusing on the parts of
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yourself like if you if you're feeling
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insecure if you're feeling lack of
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confidence it's not
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about uh just faking it till you make it
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it's about cultivating it it's a it's a
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cultivated thing it's a trial and er
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thing like even in my own experience I
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don't feel like I truly got a grasp on
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myself or I truly got a grasp
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on how to move in my own confidence my
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own
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air until like maybe like a year
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ago and that's just
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cuz it's a cultivated thing it's about
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putting yourself in scenarios and
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situations to help you realize but also
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you know one thing I realized recently
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is
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that you know easy shortcut to this is
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one telling
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yourself and two feeling
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it feeling it reprogramming your mind in
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a sense reprogramming the way you think
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about yourself in turn your reactions
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change your perceptions change and
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overall your life changes as well so if
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not anything this is a sign for you to
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be intentional with your perception and
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intentional with how you choose to
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rebuild yourself and break yourself down
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you know don't just tear yourself down
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for no reason but make sure if you do
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you're building yourself back up with
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intention and not to just get something
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built not to just get something built
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it's okay to be loose structured it's
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okay to be loose with your identity in a
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sense as long as you know you're
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cultivating something you're trying to
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intentionally build something and it's
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okay to not know all the answers let's
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see people talking about they don't know
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what their passions are they don't know
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what their dreams are just yet and
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that's
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okay I don't necessarily know everything
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I want to do in my life yet and I don't
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think anybody ever gets to that point
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once we achieve something we as humans I
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feel like are constantly going to be in
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the search for something
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new something greater just as our mind
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always seeks out problems it always
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seeks out stuff for us to do it's always
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going to seek out the next thing you
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know the next passion the next motive
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the next
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motivation and make sure when you find
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those motivations when you have those
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things hold it firmly in your heart and
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in your mind's eye and what I mean by
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that is you know realize it's
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plausibility and walk each day walk each
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life as if it's already occurring as if
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what you wish to achieve what you uh are
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hoping is already embraced
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now it's the same principle of
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um
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feeling you know the law of attraction
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sort of states that you have to uh in
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some ways feel or in some ways embody
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what you wish to attract in order to get
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it
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which is sort of counterintuitive
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sometimes but um I wrote something the
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other day it's because we dare not
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Venture what is it it's not because we
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uh it's not because things are difficult
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that we dare not Venture it's because we
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dare not Venture that things are
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difficult I feel like a lot of us don't
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s our own scenes in who we are and what
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we are to the same extent that we just
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allow things to sort of unfold in front
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of us and it's a it's about sewing your
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seeds in yourself and realizing that you
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know you're you're going to grow you're
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a person who's who's going to be
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cultivated a person who's going to be
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uplifted by your own self in a way and
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you have to have that sort of faith in s
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that faith in yourself to constantly and
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readily improve and become something new
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you know there is no such thing as
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stagnation in this sense as long as
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you're being genuine to
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yourself so it's about just having faith
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just as you were planning seat in the
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ground and know it's going to grow some
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type of fruit vegetable or
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whatnot just know if you invest in
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yourself the same's going to happen it
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may not look exactly how you want it
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to but you have to have no expectation
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and and that's s the sense and I'm going
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to talk about the law of of Detachment
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in some video it was requested but it's
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sort of the same principle just not
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being being impartial to that but doing
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it because it's a good thing to do it's
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a good thing to try to help yourself
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grow that doesn't necessarily mean you
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have to uh do it in a specific
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way so if you made it this far in the
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video thank you so much much much much
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appreciate um I really appreciate the
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support I'm getting I love reaching out
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to you I love seeing your creative work
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so if you uh if you like make music do
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art anything of that sort um my
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Instagram is the same as my channel so
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feel free to uh message me on there I
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try to respond to every single one of my
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m
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messages and yeah the Discord I don't
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know I'm trying to get this I might get
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I might get Discord Nitro just so I can
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have the live
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link but that cost money I'm a little
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bit cheap so I'm sorry about that all in
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all I hope everybody's having a great
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day I hope everyone's uh trying to be
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intentional with the way they're caring
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about themselves and the way they are um
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you know just keep being y keep being
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great Life's too short to short to get
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caught up in make sure you know what
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you're carrying behind you and make sure
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you know you know which direction you
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want to go and if you don't go somewhere
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and see if you like it
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