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hi everyone my name is jude abordan i'm
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a fresh graduate from the faculty of
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medicine and surgery at istanbul medical
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university
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that makes me a general practitioner or
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a physician and
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today i want to share with you a
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personal story on how i got to where i
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am today
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back in high school
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i was always seeking to be the best at
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everything like literally starting from
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a young age i taught myself how to paint
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play guitar and i even successfully
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stole my sister's professional camera to
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learn photography
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additionally i excelled at being a nerd
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in all subjects except for arabic
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language my average dropped from 100 to
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99
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and
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god that drove me crazy
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told you excelled at being a nerd
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i participated in almost every school
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competition and was so popular and known
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for all of my achievements
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all of that combined with the support
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and ovation i got from those around me
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made me feel
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confident and powerful beyond belief
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like
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wow i'm actually good
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so what happened next
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i got to university
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accepted into the major of my dreams
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medicine
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do any of you want to become a doctor in
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the future
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do i see hands
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yes
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well
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i got into the measure of my dreams and
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i failed
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my first exam
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it was the very first exam in the first
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year of medical school it included basic
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knowledge regarding what we learned
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throughout the first semester
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it wasn't a matter of failing the entire
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year but it was the first hit of reality
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to experience failure first time in my
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life
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well for those who are a type a
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personality you'll know exactly how i
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felt by that time
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for your information type a personality
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individuals are
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ambitious highly self-conscious
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proactive and always concerned with time
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management
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in contrast to type b personality who
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are more patient less anxious and
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relaxed
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i am a type a personality
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never satisfied
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and always seeking to be more than good
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enough
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so experiencing failure for the first
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time in my life was tough
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especially that i experienced it away
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from my family and
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friends who could have played an
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important role in supporting me
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failing that exam absolutely shattered
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me into pieces i lost my confidence
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i started doubting myself
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and i even started to question whether
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or not i was good enough for medicine
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from a nerd in high school
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to a failing grade
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in the measure of my dreams
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that got me into severe depression
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at that time i did not realize the
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importance of failure i wasn't aware of
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the potential that it would add to my
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life and to my growth
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everything i had ever wanted i felt it
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was crumbled
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i hated feeling that way
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i had to change something
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deep down i knew that i could get back
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up try again since there would be other
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chances of scoring high on other exams
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all i needed was
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a method
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a certain recipe
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to have the power to try again
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well fast forward to after that exam and
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until i graduated from medicine i
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managed to become one of the top
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students in my faculty
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how i did it
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i
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obtained new habits
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so here's what i did
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i
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developed
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new study techniques
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i used colorful sticky notes to write
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high yield information and would stick
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them everywhere around my room
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i started drawing anatomical structures
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over my body to improve my photographic
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memory
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helped my colleagues by teaching them
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the subjects that they didn't understand
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i depended mainly on active recall
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technique which i highly recommend guys
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you do it by reading your lesson or
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watching a video about it and then you
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put it away and start taking notes on
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what you can recall or what you
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understood from it
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second
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i fixed my diet
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i started eating healthy
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made time to cook at home
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and
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prepare meal boxes on weekly basis
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third i learned yoga which is the
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exercise that
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heals the body mind and soul it's the
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type of exercise i needed
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to be able to manage the stress and
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pressure i was going through
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fourth
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i focused on my circle of friends
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by keeping those who motivated me to be
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and do better
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and by staying away from those who
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discouraged me and distracted me and
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made me feel bad
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fifth focus on disguise
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i paid more attention to the words i
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tell myself
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every day
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the thoughts i get before i go to sleep
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and the thoughts i get in the morning
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they all depended on what i tell myself
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every day your words matter
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so the next question is
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how did i maintain all of this
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i used the habit loop method
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which i learned from a book called the
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power of habit by charles duhigg
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the habit loop is a neurological loop
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that governs any habit it has the
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ability to override old habits
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by creating new impulses that are
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stimulated by new urges or behaviors
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it consists of three elements
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a cue
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a routine
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and a reward
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the cue for a habit is anything that
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triggers a habit
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cues most generally fall under the
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following categories a location
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a time of day or other people my queue
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was my desk after i finish my classes in
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university i go back home see my desk
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and start my routine
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the routine is the most obvious element
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of the habit loop since it's the
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behavior you wish to change or
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reinforce
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in my case the queue is my desk
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i start studying which is my routine
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and then i get to the reward which is my
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favorite part
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the reward is the reason our brains
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decide that the previous steps are worth
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remembering for the future
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it provides a positive reinforcement for
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the desired behavior making it more
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likely that you will produce this
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behavior again in the future
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it can be for example for me it was
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doing yoga with my coach eating
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something that i like
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or watching an episode of my favorite
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series friends you guys like it right
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so by the steps we just covered we
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create a behavioral pattern to activate
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certain centers in the brain
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whenever we perceive something
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and by that we develop the discipline to
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achieve anything
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well you can also overcome your bad
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habits
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such as smoking
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procrastination
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and even psychological disorders anger
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issues for example
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well
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give me a show of hands
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how many of you experience
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procrastination whenever attempting to
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study or work
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all of you almost
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well you can set an end to that by
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creating a habit loop
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make an alarm for yourself a signal
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whenever you find yourself
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procrastinating
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you automatically
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move to your routine
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and maybe have a guilt-free
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procrastination afterwards
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as a reward
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so
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let's practice this together
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what is the thing that you want to do
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every single day and excel at
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identify it
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think with me
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choose your queue
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whether it's
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a location specific time of day
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an object or a person
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pick your favorite reward whether it's a
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hangout with a friend
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or having chocolate on your break
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you want to make running easy
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create triggers to make it a habit
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right onto that loop of habits and see
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how everything becomes possible in an
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easier effortless way
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now
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i'm a physician
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a certified advanced life support
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provider
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i work in a clinic and i teach medical
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students while helping others with the
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english language
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soon i'll be launching my own medical
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uniform brand
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and of course my journey in medicine
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does not end here
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actually it has only just begun
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my next goal is to specialize in the
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united states and become a
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board-certified surgeon
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as charles duhigg says change might not
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be fast
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and it isn't always easy
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but with time and effort
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almost any habit can be reshaped
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what i want you to leave home with is
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motivation gets you started
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but habits are what keep you going
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this experience taught me that if we
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believe
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in our potential for change
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we have the power to overcome
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any obstacle that this life may throw
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our way
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thank you for listening
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