4 REASONS I STOP DATING FILIPINAS

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Resumen

TLDRVideon diskuterar fyra anledningar till varför man bör tänka efter innan man inleder ett seriöst förhållande eller äktenskap med en filippinsk kvinna. För det första kan en kvinna med barn orsaka komplikationer om hennes ex-make har åsikter om barnens framtid. För det andra bör man vara försiktig med att inleda relationer med barflickor, eftersom deras arbete handlar om att tillfredsställa andra män. Man bör också vara medveten om att många filippinska kvinnor kanske inte är formellt skilda, vilket kan skapa problem om man vill gifta sig. Slutligen ska man inte leda en kvinna att tro att man är redo för ett livslångt åtagande om man inte är det, eftersom det kan skada henne känslomässigt.

Para llevar

  • 👶 Undvik att inleda seriösa relationer med kvinnor som har barn utan att noggrant överväga konsekvenserna.
  • 🍸 Barflickor arbetar för att glädja män, vilket kan påverka ett seriöst förhållande negativt.
  • ✍️ Många filippinska kvinnor är inte skilda på pappret, vilket kan skapa komplikationer.
  • 👮 Att dejta en kvinna vars man är polis kan vara riskabelt.
  • 💔 Leda inte kvinnor till att tro att du är redo för äktenskap om du inte är det.
  • 💡 Filippinska kvinnor kan ha en annan syn på relationer och äktenskap jämfört med västerländska normer.
  • 📉 Undvik att investera känslor om du inte är redo att hantera kulturella och personliga skillnader.
  • 🚫 Att skaffa barn med en kvinna från en annan kultur kräver extra försiktighet och förståelse.
  • 🤝 Kommunikation och ärlighet är avgörande i relationer med kulturella skillnader.
  • 📜 Filippinernas syn på skilsmässa kan skilja sig från västerländska synsätt.

Cronología

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    Videon diskuterar fyra anledningar till varför man bör tänka efter innan man engagerar sig seriöst med en filippinsk kvinna och överväger äktenskap. För det första bör man undvika kvinnor som redan har barn, eftersom ex-partners kan påverka relationens dynamik, särskilt om barnen involveras, exempelvis vid planer på att flytta till USA. För det andra avråds man från att inleda en relation med barflickor eftersom deras arbete ofta innebär interaktioner med andra män, vilket kan komplicera lojaliteten i relationen. Ett personligt exempel nämns där relationen slutade abrupt när kvinnan fortsatte arbeta i baren trots löften om motsatsen.

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    Den tredje anledningen att överväga noggrant nämns som en kvinna som inte är lagligen skild trots att hon lever separerat från sin make. Det filippinska rättssystemet erkänner inte skilsmässa, vilket gör det juridiskt komplext och kostsamt att gå vidare. Författaren delar en erfarenhet där han upptäckte att en kvinna han dejtade länge fortfarande var gift, vilket hon försummade att nämna på flera månader. Den fjärde orsaken fokuserar på vikten av uppriktighet i syftena med relationen. Det är oärligt och skadligt att leda en filippinsk kvinna att tro att förhållandet är seriöst och leder till äktenskap om det inte är avsikten. Filippinska kvinnor ser ofta långsiktigt på sina relationer och en oärlig inställning kan orsaka betydande emotionell skada. Avslutningsvis betonar videon vikten av ärlighet och att undvika att leka med någons känslor.

Mapa mental

Vídeo de preguntas y respuestas

  • Varför bör man inte gifta sig med en filippinsk kvinna som har barn?

    Ex-maken kan ha åsikter om barnets flytt, vilket kan leda till komplikationer.

  • Vad är problemet med att dejta en barflicka?

    Hennes jobb innebär att glädja andra män, vilket kan skapa problem i ett seriöst förhållande.

  • Vad kan vara komplicerat med att träffa en filippinsk kvinna som inte är skild?

    Många filippinska kvinnor är inte formellt skilda även om de är separerade, vilket kan skapa juridiska och personliga komplikationer.

  • Vilken risk finns det med att träffa en kvinna vars ex-man är polis?

    Det kan skapas farliga situationer, särskilt om ex-maken inte är medveten om eller accepterar förhållandet.

  • Vad ska man undvika om man inte är redo för ett seriöst förhållande?

    Man ska undvika att leda en kvinna att tro att man är redo för äktenskap om man inte är det, för att inte såra henne.

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    topic for the day is four reasons you
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    should not be getting serious with a
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    Filipino
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    woman and what much
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    worse for a reason why you should not
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    even think about
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    marrying a Filipino
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    woman but if you're really thinking
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    about marrying this
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    girl make
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    sure she doesn't have
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    children if she have
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    children it's not a knock on her for
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    having children but it it's just
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    something that you have to look at one
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    of the things that my friend warned me
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    about a Filipino woman with a child is
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    that when you fall in love with her and
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    you want to marry her let's just say you
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    want to bring her to the US the
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    ex-husband have a lot to say with that
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    child uh he may not want that child to
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    go to the US and now she's all worried
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    about her child and you're married to
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    her and you know you just open up a
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    whole can of worms all right number two
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    the second reason why you should not be
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    getting serious with a Filipina if that
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    girl is a bar
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    girl a lot of you guys are coming over
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    here and if
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    you're looking for that special someone
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    somehow you end up meeting a bar girl
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    you and let's just say you do fall in
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    love with her the problem is when you
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    leave her job is to be a barir so that
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    means she's going to be with other men
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    and I don't know how you can get ious
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    with a bar girl when her job is to make
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    every man that she meets
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    happy if you know what I'm talking about
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    that's her job to make them happy but
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    they just say you fall in love with her
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    and yeah what are you going to do you
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    got to take her out of that business now
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    you have to support her right you're
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    serious about her and hopefully
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    uh she won't go back to the bar scene
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    while you're
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    out of town um I had a I had dated a bar
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    girl uh one time and I I
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    did gotten to like her a lot she also
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    worked at a regular job you're going to
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    find a lot of these girls that are
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    working in the bars they have multiple
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    jobs they're not just working at the
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    bars because they're working at the bars
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    to make extra money fast
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    money uh they're either going to
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    School working at another job or a
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    part-time job
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    but because they need to make a lot of
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    money so they work in these bars and you
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    know it's quick money right a lot of
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    foreigners and she was making about
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    10,000 a month working at department
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    store
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    and working at the bar I said
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    well when all said and done how much do
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    you make here at the bar she told me
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    that uh somewhere around 20,000 pesos a
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    month you know 30,000 pesos that's a lot
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    of money for a young
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    woman I I'll tell you what I'll take
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    care of you if you're serious
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    about our
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    relationship I'll give you
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    $20,000 20,000 pesos a month if you stop
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    working here and you work at your
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    regular job that went on for a couple of
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    months uh we had a very nice
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    relationship I had to go back to the US
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    for some reason and uh you know we talk
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    to each other almost every day and I
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    sent a message to her I said hey I'm
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    going to be there I don't remember the
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    day but basically like I I was going to
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    be there on
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    Thursday and I was able to get in a day
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    early on a Wednesday night I went to
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    this bar that I met her at she was
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    there
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    working oh man I was I was like oh my
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    gosh oh boy she saw me you know we're
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    like in the middle of the night two cats
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    looking at each other our our eyes are
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    like wide open I see her she sees me and
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    she didn't know what to say I didn't
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    know what to say she's probably saying
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    what are you doing in this bar you
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    know and I'm going what are you doing in
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    this bar we didn't say anything we
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    actually didn't say anything I was so
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    you know I don't know dud I have a right
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    to be mad I was so mad I was so pissed
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    off I didn't say anything to her she's
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    working I I didn't want to say anything
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    to her and then she came up to me and
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    said hey uh can I see you after work
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    tonight and I
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    said no I'm not going to see you
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    anymore that was it that was the end of
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    that relationship I might have been
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    wrong for doing
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    that I just cut my losses
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    and
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    uh that relationship was over the third
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    reason that you should not consider this
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    girl as your serious girlfriend a couple
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    months into the relationship she told me
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    uh she had two
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    kids so I dated her a couple more months
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    before I decided to tell her uh all
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    right let's meet your children um you
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    know we're we've been together for about
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    four or five months now you know I
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    remember uh one time uh when I was my
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    first
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    divorce uh my
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    uh my first child she was probably about
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    six or seven or maybe 8 years
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    old and I had been divorced for about 3
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    or 4
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    years and I brought my
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    little girl on a date with another
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    girl she had a great time I think we
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    went to Stone Mountain in Atlanta
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    Georgia dropped her off at her
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    mom's then I get a phone call from my
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    ex-wife and she goes what did you do to
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    your daughter I said what do you mean I
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    picked her up like I normally do on
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    weekends and we went to SN Mountain she
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    goes she's been crying ever since she
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    got home and she won't stop crying and
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    she won't tell me what
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    happened I said I don't know well I I
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    took her uh me and a friend uh we picked
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    her up and then we went to Stone
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    Mountain she mean what do you mean a
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    friend I said well a girl I met a girl
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    at at the fitness center and you know we
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    we're just friends she go Sam you can't
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    do that to her you know she may not be
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    ready you should have asked her before
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    you uh you know take her out uh with you
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    and your girlfri with that experience in
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    my
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    20s after four or five months I decided
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    it's time for me to meet the kids right
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    and this is where she dropped the bomb
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    on
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    me I said uh yeah that's that's that's
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    that's see the
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    kids they said well I have one more
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    thing I want to tell
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    you I said well what was that what's
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    that what do you need to tell me what's
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    going on uh she goes I'm still married
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    you're still
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    what uh I'm still
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    married
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    but there we have not been together for
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    about 6 or seven years we've been
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    separated uh for about six or seven
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    years I said why are you guys not
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    divorced this is where I found out that
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    a lot of
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    Filipinos they've been married but they
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    won't get a divorce
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    why and the Philippines they don't
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    believe in
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    divorce a lot these girls got married at
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    an early age they're not divorced but
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    yet in their mind they're divorced I but
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    on paper they're still not divorced
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    because they don't believe in
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    divorce then I said well why didn't you
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    you know and then she goes you know
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    we're Catholics and you know Catholics
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    have their own rules I said why don't
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    you get an
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    analment she goes yes but an nment cost
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    money all right you know that that makes
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    sense right it cost a lot of money a lot
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    of these Filipinos uh and Filipinos men
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    they don't have the money so they just
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    just decided to separate he you know she
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    told me that he's already with another
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    woman they have their own kids but you
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    know she's been alone all these years
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    and now she saw me on the internet you
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    know we got to know each other she fell
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    in love with me that was strike number
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    two 5 months earlier I thought I was you
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    know falling in love with a girl in my
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    life treated me very well 2 months later
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    she tell me she has children uh hey my
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    mother uh you know she had two children
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    and my
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    father uh overlooked that married her
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    brought us to America and adopted us so
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    I said yeah maybe I could do that too
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    I said is there any other
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    surprises you're
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    married uh cuz in my mind I'm going you
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    know I've already invested this amount
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    of time to be with her I'm in love with
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    her now I need to you know we we can
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    move in
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    together I'm I'm willing to take care of
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    the
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    kids now she tells me she's married and
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    I'm going oh my
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    gosh and then she gives me the story
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    right the anom thing they don't have
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    enough money to get a
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    Ann he's they've been separated for you
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    know five or six years he's got another
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    family have children with
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    her practically no contact with each
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    other and I said uh is there anything
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    else that I need to
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    know uh and she said he's a cop he's an
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    he's a he's a police officer
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    a in my mind I'm going okay Sam this
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    doesn't look good I mean I went from a
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    guy that wanted to make things work to a
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    guy that says I better get out of here
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    quick
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    uh don't even get near
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    her and she's got two kids with this guy
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    she's married she's not divorced plus
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    he's a cop and in the
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    Philippines you really don't have many
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    rights
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    where a guest in a foreign
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    country know what happens if if you get
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    drunk one
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    night not saying cops get drunk and he
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    goes oh you know what uh I still love my
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    wife because they're still
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    married and then he finds out that I'm
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    dating his wife or we're living together
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    and he decides to
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    pull a fast one or
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    something well we broke up very quickly
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    number four this is one thing that you
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    should not lead her to think it's a
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    serious
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    relationship lead her to think that
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    you're going to get
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    married and I had this for a long time
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    and it's me uh if you're not
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    serious if you're not
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    ready have a serious
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    relationship don't lead that girl to
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    think that you're ready for a serious
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    relationship the mindset of a Filipino
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    woman and Province girl when they decide
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    to date
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    someone and you call
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    her your serious girlfriend she's
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    thinking marriage she's thinking for
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    life she's thinking that you're the one
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    and you're not ready for that don't lead
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    her to think that you're ready for that
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    and most Filipinos are one men
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    women they're not going to date around
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    they're focused on you they're locked in
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    and if you're even thinking about dating
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    other girls or just having her as a
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    serious girlfriend but have other girls
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    on the side don't do it you're going to
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    hurt
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    her and it's going to scar
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    her just don't uh go breaking young
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    girls heart right guys all right
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    hopefully you guys enjoyed this video
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    and we will see
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    you in
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    Florida I'm going to get out of here
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    we'll talk to you guys later bye-bye
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