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in these emails obviously I'm not going
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to expose anyone by name or anything so
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no one will feel hurt but in all honesty
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you will be amazed as at what I
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read amazed almost in a state of
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disbelief that I'm reading this that
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this is happening to Muslims some
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calamities and disasters and all of them
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revolve around the issue of addiction
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addiction in the Muslim
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household so I
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decided to speak about them
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straightforward in your face kind of
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thing so that we will be aware of them
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and you all know that this is a manh
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from the manh of the sahab who knows the
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name of the sahabi who used to always
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ask about the fan and the evil that will
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come so he could be aware of
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it he said the people used to ask the
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messenger of Allah sallahu alaihi
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wasallam about good and I would ask him
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about the the evil and the bad so that I
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may be aware of it it's away from the
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ways of the sahab now it's not the the
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normal standard procedure but it is
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there and we have to address these
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issues for the Muslims to be aware so if
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I say something that you consider to be
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uh x-rated or
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extreme understand that there's a reason
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behind it okay and I apologize
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beforehand if you find it to be uh
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repulsive or offensive or whatever but
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honestly I have to speak about these
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things don't worry I'm not going to show
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you anything nor am I going to say
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anything too much just so you will not
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your mind will not go far away when I
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say x-rated it doesn't mean what what
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comes to
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mind
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so the first among the addictions which
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are prevalent are things pertaining
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to sexual
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addictions and on top of the list of
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sexual addictions is
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masturbation and this is an issue which
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is common among men and
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women and allaham if I were to search on
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the Gmail how many emails I've received
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with the keyword masturbation they will
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probably be above 3 to 400 from Young uh
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even not young but mainly young men and
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women who are in this predicament
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disastrous predicament something that
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they have become so addicted to there's
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there's no way they can help themselves
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even though there are many ways they can
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help themselves the first thing we need
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to discuss is this Behavior or this act
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is
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Haram and don't listen to the fatawa
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which tell you that it is halal or that
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it is merely Mak the reason why it is
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Haram because of textual evidence from
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the Quran and the Sunnah Allah when
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praising the believer
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said and this occurs in more than one
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Surah in the
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Quran and those who protect and guard
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their private parts
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except when it comes to their spouses or
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their right-hand possession in regards
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to that they are not blameworthy however
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whosoever seeks anything beyond that and
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it is those who are the
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transgressors and Allah says in the
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Quran and let those who cannot
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find who are unable to get married let
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them remain chased until Allah provides
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them from his provision those who cannot
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get married let them remain chased until
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Allah provides for them so that they can
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get
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married in the Hadith of the Prophet
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sallallah alaihi wasallam
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said the prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam said young men he was speaking
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to young men he said whoever is able
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among you to get married get
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married and who because it is means for
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you to lower your gaze and it is means
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for you to protect your private parts
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from anything which is harmful and
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sinful and then he said if you're unable
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to get married upon you is fasting
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because fasting will be a form of
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protection now look at the amazing
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scholarly analysis
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when you combine the understanding of
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the Ayah with the Hadith you will find
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that Allah said that anything besides
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the husband besides the wife spouse huh
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and the right-and possession is no good
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then the
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prophet when the shabab are unable to
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get married we know that the messenger
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of Allah he was never given a choice
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between two things except that he chose
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the easiest provided it
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was Halal huh
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had masturbation been a valid option
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which is easier masturbation or fasting
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masturbation
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masturbation however that was not
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offered as an option for anyone rather
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fasting was offered as an option
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therefore dismissing the idea of
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masturbation
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altogether so there's no room for anyone
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to bring anything other than
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that thank you and this
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issue is an epidemic it's it's something
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that we have to follow certain steps to
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rid ourselves from it so we have to
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follow a bunch of steps to acquire the
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Cure the first of which is what fasting
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good but let's go back be why do you
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fast that's it that is the answer so you
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actually still gave us an answer
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indirectly it's the
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tawa if we fear Allah it will be tough
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to do it if we do it it doesn't mean
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that we don't fear Allah completely but
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it means we have a serious deficiency in
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the fear of Allah why because the idea
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of fearing Allah entails identifying and
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recognizing and internalizing the
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greatness and the Majesty of Allah his
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comprehensive knowledge of everything
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his observance of everything his
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knowledge of everything his control of
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everything and we are being watched all
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the
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time do you not know did you not know
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that Allah
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sees Allah regarding everything you do
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is allseeing so once you bring this to
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mind you will be
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shy that's the end
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result if we allow the shatan to cover
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that up and not think in this manner
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then anything
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goes Subhan Allah the Islam our religion
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the Quran and the Sunnah there there
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such a perfect harmony in the teaching
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it's an amazing thing this is why the
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messenger of Allah Alam said if you
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don't have any shamefulness any
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bashfulness you will wind up doing
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whatever you want he's not telling you
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to do it but you will wind up doing
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anything that you want once you have
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shamefulness specifically from Allah
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then you will have a heart time doing it
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so if we learn every time we're about to
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engage in a sin any sin specifically
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this one that Allah is watching then we
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will be able to leave it alone if we
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don't have the fear of Allah then it's
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easy to do anything number one number
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two
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marriage and this is a call to all the
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parents and I feel with the youngsters
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who send these emails and it's it's
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agony izing to read the emails brother I
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am 23 years old and my parents do not
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allow me to get married until I become a
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professor and however there's this
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sister that I want it's the same story
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over and over again and because of that
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they are resorting to masturbation and
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then later on Zena and then later on
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homosexuality you will be shocked at the
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things that happen when you become an
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obstacle in your children's marriage let
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them get married married who told you
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that for you to get married you have to
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be a graduate from some University where
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did that come from from where in our
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Dean does it entail that you have to do
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this nowhere we all agree as parents
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that you don't want to marry you don't
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want your CH your your son to marry
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anyone unless they're able to provide
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agreed however the scholars say if you
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got money you are obliged to help your
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son get married and you spend on him
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until he can stand on his feet or you
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stacking up all this money in the
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bank for who and for what while you
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could you can get him married in no
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time and he will learn to take care of
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himself he can get a part-time job while
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he's learning there are ways we have to
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make an effort when it fails
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alhamdulillah the parent can also say w
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I tried I was willing to give you my
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money and I was willing to help you out
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but it doesn't seem that you'll be able
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to afford it so you have to be patient
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even your son will say Baba I
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agree but when you just don't understand
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you're just blocking your mind that he
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has to finish until he gets married you
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don't know what your son is doing behind
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your back or your daughter behind your
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back they're not going to come and tell
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you they will not tell you never but
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what happens behind your back is
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disastrous if you were to know you would
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go crazy I'm telling you
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now I'm I'm putting that that card out
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I'm telling you from what I've read what
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winds up happening when you don't
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know much worse than having letting
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having them get married so marriage is
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an ultimate solution ultimate solution
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for this problem and IT addresses
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masturbation and Zena at the same time
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so parents be
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flexible try to work it out if it
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doesn't at least you could say that you
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did something for your children thirdly
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busy yourself with that which is
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good if you don't busy yourself with
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that which is good then you will easily
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fall into the sin over and over again
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because you have plenty of time on your
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hand fourthly lower the
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Gaze when you see so many naked women
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this will lead you at some point your
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your body will react a certain way and
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then you you have to relieve
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yourself but what led to that point is
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what you were looking at before whether
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it is on TV or it is on on the Internet
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or it is the in in the actual streets
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which you see all of the
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above if we lower the gays and it's not
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Mission Impossible it's not easy it is
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not easy 100% agreed but it is doable
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the first look alhamdulillah you're
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excused and the first look is one second
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just in case someone you know gave you
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that other fatwa you know they say it's
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a it's a it became a joke actually that
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he kept looking at her for 2 minutes and
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said it's the first look
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how was that the first look yeah Captain
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the first look is The Accidental look
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and the prophet called it accidental
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look yeah you're driving and a woman is
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is you know walking and the thing you
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have no choices she walked in front of
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you you have to see otherwise you run
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her
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over and that look is accidental after
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which kalas you're no longer looking if
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you keep checking her out you didn't do
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the job and this is among the means
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which lead to this uh you know secret
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habit they call it the secret habit
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fooling on self that it is lesser than
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Zena that is this satanic
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fatwa it is available in some cases it
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is in some cases when the scholars say
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if you go to this country and d d and
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you're about to fall into Zena then do
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this as opposed to falling into zen but
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how often that happens rarely what
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usually happens is look I'm in I'm in a
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foreign country or I'm in a place where
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I'm surrounded with FNA so for me to
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stay in a good condition I just
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masturbate all the time so that I will
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not fall into Zena so I'm so I'm saving
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myself from Zena by doing this regularly
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where did he get this fatwa from the
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scholars gave this fatwa to someone
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who's on the verge he's in a situation
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where he's has a woman there or and or
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the lady with the man and then kalas
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this is the last resort but you can't
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give this feta to
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yourself even in that predicament you
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cannot let alone to make it a regular
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habit based on I might fall into Zena
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later on drop this
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drop this idea all together you cannot
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do this you have to leave it
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alone and be mindful of the health
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effects and no this is not criticizing
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people with glasses but it gives you a
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bad
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Vision huh everybody with glass
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like not me
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brother same here don't worry I'm just
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saying according to doctors it gives you
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bad Vision it makes you weak and it may
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affect your marital relationship in the
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future this is where I cannot
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elaborate but it will eventually ruin
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your marital relationship very possibly
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that it will because you get used to
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certain things which are
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abnormal no strings
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attached what happens is it's among the
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and this is very common it's among the
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main reasons why people abandon
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Salah and it happens to students who go
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to America or the UK or Canada or one of
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these countries and you know there's
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they in the beginning they're excited
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about Islam and and they tell you from
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here no inshallah brother I will be
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straightforward and I'm a good
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practicing Muslim and I will never go
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astray which is amazing for someone to
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say this about himself the messenger of
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Allah sallallah alaihi wasallam says oh
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Allah the one who turns the hearts over
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keep my heart firm on your religion and
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Mr Ahmed nowadays tells you when I go
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there I'm Islam don't worry where did
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you get this fatwa where did you get
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this guarantee that Allah will protect
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you and preserve you that you will be a
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they will remain on a straight path when
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you travel to countries of fan whether
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it is for education or otherwise you're
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one of three people either you are uh
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guided and you remain guided it happens
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to many people that noise stop it please
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or you are guide you are misguided Allah
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guides you over there alhamdulillah or
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you are guided and you will go astray
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can anyone stand and say I will be the
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third I will be the first I'm sorry or
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the second can anyone say no way that I
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will be the one who's guided and Allah
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will misguide me if you say so then
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Allah
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says don't don't praise
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yourselves No Escape so I'm saying this
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as a disclaimer be careful of this
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fascination with you know the degrees
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from the west and so on and so forth
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only expense that you lose your religion
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because you go to this University and I
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don't know how the situation is here and
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I don't want to know actually you go and
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then you have ladies all over the place
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or for the Sisters you have you know men
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all over the place and it's a mixed
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environment and everybody's half naked
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and then this will now you're either
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Zena or masturbation so you choose
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masturbation Salah time comes you could
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couldn't
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shower and so you missed the Salah and
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then you couldn't shower later and you
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missed the Salah and then lack of shower
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and it's too cold in that country you
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the Shan will keep dragging you until
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you abandon
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Salah because you can't pray in the
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state of janaba
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and you can't make W either you have to
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make so thean will use this as means to
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make one lazy and they eventually reach
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a point where they're not they cannot
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shower in in on
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campus and so they say I will wait till
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I go home to shower he goes home tired
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that day goes without Salah then the
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next day and then the one after then
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they abandon Salah once they abandon
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Salah kiss them goodbye kiss their Islam
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goodbye it will eventually disappear and
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vanish and as me and the brothers were
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discussing the only thing he will keep
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is I will not eat pig and I will not
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drink alcohol as if this is Islam he
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doesn't pray and he does riba and he
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falls into all kinds of sins but brother
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alhamdulillah I I never eat
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bacon is this going to take you to Jenna
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not eating bacon in fact it's allowed
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for you to eat bacon if you were about
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to die in the desert and the only thing
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you found is a pig it's Halal for you to
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eat it then this is not our Dean so it's
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one of the tricks of the Shan and what
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leads to This Disaster is masturbation
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what we should do is make a lot of Dua
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and this is an element which we
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miss you speak to any one of us who's
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falling into a sin and he will tell you
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you know you know this is wrong he says
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I know W brother I've been trying and D
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he tell you a long story and sometimes
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you'll find that in the whole story of
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his effort making Dua was not part of
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the process even though the first thing
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one should do is what make Dua because
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if Allah will it will be done
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instantly but where's the sincerity in
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making Dua so when we connect with Allah
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we have a solution for all the
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problems so you just make Dua with the
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Sunnah of raising the hands what we said
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before is you don't raise your hands
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after Salah raising the hands is a sunah
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of the prophet in making Dua but don't
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make it a habit to do it after every
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Salah you raise your hands make Dua
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because the messenger of Allah
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sallallahu alaihi wasallam never did
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that never raised his hand after any
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Salah whether voluntary or obligatory so
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that's why we say it's not from the
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Sunnah some people Mis misunderstood
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that so raise your hands and make Dua oh
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Allah I'm I'm Afflicted with This
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calamity oh Allah save me and be sincere
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be sincere one Dua you make from the
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from your heart Allah will accept and
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it's done it's done or Allah may want to
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test you further or he want to see how
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patient you are or how persistent you
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are Dua it doesn't have to be with
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you it's according to Allah's time not
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your
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time not when we want when Allah wants
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and Allah knows when but our job is to
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make this particular Dua so make Dua and
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repent to Allah from that so this is a
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reminder for all of the brothers and
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sisters in Islam masturbation is a
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prohibited act in Islam that leads to
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the corruption of the physical being and
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the spiritual being and there's no room
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for it and don't let the Shan continue
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to trick you for another three four
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years until you find a wife or until the
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sister finds a husband because people
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before us survived without doing that
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and you can survive and we can survive
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without doing that as well
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