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for most people they won't learn this
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lesson until they actually get
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everything that they want until they get
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the promotion and they realize that
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career is not for them until they get
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that dream guy or dream girl and they
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realize that this is not the
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relationship that they want to be in
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until they buy that big ass house and
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they realize how empty they are if you
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are in your 20s this is my advice to you
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number one build up your assets in a
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very specific order I became a
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millionaire when I was 26 I'm 30 now I
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just turned 30 this week my net worth is
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in the multiple million and technically
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I am financially free there's two
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reasons for this number one I started a
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business that ended up grossing over 10
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million Canadian dollars in its lifetime
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but more importantly number two I
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learned about the different types of
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assets that exist in life and I was able
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to prioritize them in the right order a
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mistake that a lot of young people make
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is they are in such a rush to build up
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their financial Capital they think that
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just by investing and just by saving
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money in their 20s is going to be enough
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to be rich the truth is is unless you
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are a trust fund baby and you already
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come from money if you are someone who
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comes from lower income class family or
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middle-income class family like I did
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you need to be playing a whole different
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game and that game is understanding the
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different types of leverages that you
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have and building those up first before
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you build up your financial Capital the
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first type of capital that you should be
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building up is your intellectual Capital
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this means with all the money that
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you're making and the time that you have
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you should be investing in yourself and
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in your learning skill yourself deep in
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your knowledge for example when I was 16
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I think I paid $12 to read my first
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personal development book it was called
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How to Win Friends and Influence People
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it completely changed my life it changed
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the way that I navigated relationships
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and it brought me a lot of opportunities
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even just learning how to communicate
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nowadays there's even better books out
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there and way more resources but what
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you want to be doing is if you don't
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have the money right now you should be
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reading books you should be listening to
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podcasts to YouTube videos to expand
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your the knowledge and learn as many
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skills as possible learn more about the
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world once you start making some money
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you want to try to invest that into
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courses or mentors that can FASTT track
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your learning fast track your skill
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development the goal of building up your
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intellectual capital is for you to be
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perceived as someone who is valuable to
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the marketplace because once you have a
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sense of value then you're going to be
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able to build up the second type of
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capital which is your Social Capital
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it's very hard to build up a really
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strong and Rich Network without having a
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sense of intellectual capital and so in
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the process of you building up your
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intellectual Capital you want to find as
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many ways as possible to help people
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with your intellect to help people with
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the skills that you've acquired for me
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in my career I helped a lot of people
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through mentoring others through
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offering my services and my resources to
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others through eventually digitizing my
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int ual capital I started a YouTube
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channel and through my videos I just
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taught people everything that I was
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learning and from there when you build
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your intellectual Capital eventually
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people will notice you you want to build
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yourself up to be a person that people
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can clearly see you were working on
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yourself and you are becoming a better
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person and So eventually I built up my
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social capital which is building my
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brand on YouTube now you don't have to
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be a YouTuber to do this if you are
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working a 9o5 and you're in a job right
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now even you just helping your
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co-workers going above and beyond will
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get you noticed by upper management who
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will then connect you to whoever you
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want to build a strong Network and the
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reason why you want to do this is
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because the stronger Network that you
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have the stronger and richer Social
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Capital that you have opportunities will
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come way faster and way easier for you
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once you've built up your Social Capital
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the next type of capital that's going to
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be really easy for you to build is your
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human capital now this is very specific
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to those of you who want to build a
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business who have AIC specific project
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that you want to go deep on but human
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capital is being able to recruit others
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into your cause so that you can scale up
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your time and so in my case when I built
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up my YouTube channel and I built up a
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brand for myself through helping so many
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people it was a lot easier for me to
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find Talent there were people that
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wanted to work for me rather than me
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reaching out to other people now of
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course you don't need all of that if you
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already have money it'll be easy to hire
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out and Outsource your time but if you
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don't have money having a strong Social
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Capital will help you get human capital
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a lot faster and a lot cheaper once
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you've built up your intellectual your
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social and your human capital you'll
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naturally be at a place where you have
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more financial Capital than other people
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in your age range and this is where you
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can make life-changing money whereas if
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you don't have any of those other
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capitals and let's say you only have
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10,000 20,000 in your bank account yes
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you can save it but it's going to take a
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while for you to make life-changing
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money and so instead instead if you
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actually invested that in yourself and
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you built up the other capitals first
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you're actually fast-tracking your
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ability to potentially make your first
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100,000 and then your next 100,000 and
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then eventually you may even get to a
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place where you're making half a million
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or a million and that's life-changing
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money because you now have a way bigger
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principle to play with and now with that
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money you can invest in real estate you
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can invest in the market and it's going
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to have a way bigger impact on your
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wealth strategy
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than if you tried to nickel and dime in
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your 20s second piece of advice and that
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is work hard for everything that you've
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ever wanted acquire all the things make
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all the money do it sooner rather than
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later because the sooner that you can
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get everything that you've wanted the
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sooner you will realize that none of
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that actually matters to you
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there's a quote that I heard from nval
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rava Kant and it goes we have two lives
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the second life begins when we realize
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that we only have one even though I made
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multiple millions in my 20s I checked
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off all the boxes I acquired all of the
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things it wasn't until I did all of that
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where I had this Epiphany that none of
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that stuff actually mattered to me and
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it allowed me to live a more meaningful
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life or start living a more meaningful
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life I am so grateful that I learned
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that in my 20s and I'm so grateful that
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I built up all those capitals that I
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mentioned because it got me to a place
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where I became very successful on paper
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and it got me to a place place where I
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realized what truly mattered to me it
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wasn't the house it wasn't the Chanel
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bags it wasn't the Porsche it wasn't the
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multiple millions of dollars and to get
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to that realization requires a lot of
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privilege and the sooner that you can
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become a person of privilege the sooner
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that you can create peace in your life
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and you can actually live the life that
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you want thanks to me hustling and
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grinding and accumulating all of that in
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my 20s now I feel so grateful because
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I'm entering my 30s
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and I can make YouTube videos as a hobby
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I don't have to make videos in order to
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make money technically I do it because I
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love it I can spend more time with my
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family and my friends while I'm still
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young and while they're still young and
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that requires a lot of privilege and so
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if you want to be a privileged person
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sooner then you may want to just work
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hard to get what you want and learn that
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life lesson sooner for yourself and this
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is a very controversial op opinion I
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already know there's going to be people
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saying no you should be peaceful right
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now and you should be mindful right now
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and you should live your life
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meaningfully right now and I hope that
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you can do that but I believe for most
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people they won't learn this lesson
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until they actually get everything that
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they want until they get the promotion
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and they realize that career is not for
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them until they get that dream guy or
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dream girl and they realize that this is
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not the relationship that they want to
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be in until they buy that big ass house
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and they realize how empty they are
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until they have all the money in the
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bank and they realize that what they
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actually want is to spend more time with
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their mom and dad the sooner that you
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can know this the better next everything
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is a projection this video is a
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projection I am projecting onto you I am
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projecting my beliefs I'm projecting
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what I feel is important I'm projecting
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my life experience onto you but what I
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believe is true for me does not have to
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be true for you and I wish that I knew
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this lesson sooner in my 20s than I
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did I had to become someone who post my
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life on the internet to learn this the
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hard way because I am someone who gets
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multiple projections thrown at her every
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single day and before I used to take
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things very personally I used to
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question myself a lot because of other
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people's opinions I used to question if
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I was a good person I used to question
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my skills I used to question my
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experience I used to question who I was
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because I couldn't discern other
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people's Fe feedback I couldn't discern
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and I couldn't understand that what
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other people were throwing at me was
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their life experience was their
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knowledge was their point of view was
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their trauma was their experience but it
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didn't have to be mine if someone
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doesn't like you it doesn't have to mean
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anything about you if someone has a
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limitation it doesn't have to be your
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limitation if someone has criticism you
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can choose to take it on if you feel
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like it's actually going to help you or
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you can just let it go lovingly you
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don't have to take everything on as
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truth the sooner that you can understand
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what projections are and where they come
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from the more mental peace that you will
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create for yourself stop idolizing when
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I was in my 20s I had a lot of fan girl
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energy if you were older than me I would
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fan girl if you were more successful
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than me I would fan girl if I was given
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a once- in a-lifetime opportunity I
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would fan girl I would even fan girl
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over material
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possessions and I learned that you can
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be excited for something and you can
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have respect for something without
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lowering your status without devaluing
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yourself and without giving away your
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power and when I was in my 20s which was
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not too long ago I used to give my power
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away to a lot of people and I used to
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put a lot of things on a pedestal I used
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to put people on a pedestal
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opportunities on a pedestal material
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items on a pedestal I would slave for
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them I would lower my value for for them
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I would do things that I'm not proud of
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for them and I learned that the moment
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that you just stop idolizing things is
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also the moment that you create a lot
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more Peace and Freedom for yourself you
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can doubt your work but you shouldn't
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doubt yourself I think it's completely
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normal to question the quality of your
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work whether that's you submitting an
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assignment whether that's you delivering
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a project to your boss or your client or
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the business that you're trying to build
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I think Without You criticizing your
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work you wouldn't have room for
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improvement but even if you are
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questioning your work you shouldn't
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question yourself
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ever you shouldn't question the value
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that you bring to the table you
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shouldn't question the value of who you
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are as a human being outside of your
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business outside of your work you
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shouldn't question the potential that
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you have in this life a mistake I often
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made was I made my work mean something
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about me as a human being and this often
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led me to a dangerous path of
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self-sabotage it would lead me to
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depressive moments unnecessary
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anxiety and I think it's important for
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you to be able to separate your
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selfworth from the work that you're
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producing especially if you're an
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entrepreneur or especially if you're an
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online personality and you're trying to
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be an influencer and you're doing all
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those things that are so tied to you
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personally you need to find a way to
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really separate that because you are
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robbing yourself of so much peace and
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happiness
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if you tie your selfworth to your work
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next I want you to do things while
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you're still excited about them I think
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that there is a beautiful naite in your
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20s because you are experiencing life as
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an adult for the first time it's your
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first decade of being an adult and an
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analogy that I learned from a friend of
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mine is if you sit on something for too
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long it's like leaving fresh food out
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for too long and it becomes stale and
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when it becomes stale you no longer want
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it and so you toss it
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away and the reason why we often let
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things sit for too long whether it's our
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desires whether it's ideas that we have
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is because we tend to overthink we doubt
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we think of all the things that could
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possibly go wrong or all the reasons why
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we shouldn't do something and because of
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that a lot of lifechanging ideas a lot
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of lifechanging decisions go to waste
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because we've ruminated for way too long
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and the timing has passed and so what I
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would hope for you and what I would hope
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for myself even as I enter my 30s is
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when you are most excited about
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something whether it's an idea that you
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have whether it's a decision that you're
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thinking of making just do it
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just do it because it could lead to so
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much adventure and at worst it could
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lead to a lot of lessons that you're
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going to learn in your life a lot of
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wisdom and so do things while you're
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still excited about them don't overthink
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it for too long because the timing will
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pass and you'll no longer be excited and
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it won't be that same experience as if
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you did it while you were still excited
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about it take risks in your 20s
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especially in your 20s you have so much
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more time to recover from your mistakes
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you have so much time to make more money
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you have like decades and Decades of
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time the biggest risk that I ever took
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in my 20s was leaving my well-paying
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corporate job at 23 or 24 I became a
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coffee Rea making minimum wage so that I
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had more time to start my YouTube
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channel and because of that one decision
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I was able to make a lot of money for
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myself in my 20s which was amazing and I
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was able to live my dream life on paper
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it could have absolutely gone to I
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could have started the YouTube channel
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it could have flopped it could have
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taken me a lot of time to make back the
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money but I could have always found
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another job I could have always rebuilt
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my skills and so I'm so glad I made that
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decision in my 20s and the second
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biggest risk that I ever took in my life
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was recently but right before I turned
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29 I burned down my business and so just
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take advantage of the risk tolerance
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that you have in your 20s and even in
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your 30s and stop feeling like you can't
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afford to make the wrong choice because
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you can afford to make the wrong choice
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so do the damn thing and around
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with life and see what happens cuz it
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could lead to really amazing things and
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the worst thing that can happen is you
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make a mistake but luckily you are
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someone that doesn't have a family yet
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you're someone that doesn't have a lot
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on the line you can still be selfish you
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have a lot of time and you can easily
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rebuild go deep instead of wide and
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we're talking about skill sets here so
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if you are feeling lost you don't know
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who you are yet you're trying to figure
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out what works and what doesn't work for
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you then it's completely normal to go
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wide to dabble to explore different
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subjects to see what works and what
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doesn't work but once you've identified
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something that you like and that good at
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I want you to go deep on that thing and
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the reason why is because yes with some
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time some training and some Investments
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you can absolutely turn a b player into
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an a player but if you are already an a
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player in a specific topic subject or
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skill and with some time some money some
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investment we can bring a players to
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being A++ plus players and it's the A++
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plus players that become world class at
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what they do and they really stand out
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in life they really stand out in society
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and the best part of that is life
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becomes so much easier when you just
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double down on what feels easy and what
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you're passionate about and even if you
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don't think that thing that you're good
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at or the thing that you're interested
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in is going to make you money even if
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you believe that it's not going to make
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you a dime if you're good at it and you
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really develop that skill the money will
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absolutely come because that is the one
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competitive advantage that you're going
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to have among anyone else who's trying
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to do the same thing thing in my case I
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knew from a young age in high school
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that I loved making videos I made videos
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even when I was in high school with my
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friends I would spend hours and stay up
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late just making these Dance videos and
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I learned that this was something that I
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really loved doing that I was passionate
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about and at the time no one thought
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that making videos like that would make
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you money but because I'm good at it
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because I don't give up on it because I
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actually enjoy it I've been able to make
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multiple millions of dollars from it but
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if you don't even like YouTube or if you
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don't even like making videos and you're
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forcing yourself to do it because you
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think it's going to make you money like
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it made me money it's never going to
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work and so you want to go deep on the
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things that you love you want to go deep
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on the things that you're good at
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because that is your competitive
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advantage that other people will not
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have and the money will come when you
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chase those things if you are someone
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who is feeling lost I want you to
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embrace being lost I created so much
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unnecessary fear and anxiety for myself
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when I was feeling lost in my career at
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23 and also when I was feeling lost
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about my business at 28 but I learned
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that being lost is such a beautiful
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thing because it's an uncomfortable
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stage in your life where your old self
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is gone and you haven't met your new
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self yet I think that's incredibly
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exciting and I wish that I knew that
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sooner so that I could reframe that for
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myself and rather than seeing being lost
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as being a shameful and negative thing
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that but I just fully embraced it as a
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process of Life as a process of meeting
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my new self and realized that it's not a
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crisis it's an Awakening it's an
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exploratory phase and I think the moment
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that you can reframe that in your life
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the more peace you will give yourself
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and the more grace you will give
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yourself as well one thing that I wish I
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did sooner in my 20s is understanding
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the importance of politics I was raised
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Without Really knowing anything about
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politics my parents never talked about
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it I never really voted I never thought
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it was that important I didn't think it
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mattered and it wasn't until recently
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where I realized how important
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understanding your rights are and
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understanding politics are in general
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and oftentimes you won't realize how
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important politics plays in your life
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until it actually affects you until the
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service that you relied on gets taken
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away until you work your ass off to make
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all that money and then the government
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takes it and you don't agree with where
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your money is going or the amount that
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was taken until your rights get violated
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and I wish I didn't have to turn 30 for
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it to actually affect me now to realize
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how important politics will play in my
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life or in anyone's life and so if
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you're in your 20s just start reading up
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on it don't let it affect your mental
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health too much but have a b basic
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understanding because knowing your
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rights is so important and when you
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actually understand politics and how
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things are you'll also make better
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decisions on where you might want to
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live how you might want to set up your
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business how you might want to set
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yourself up financially it all links
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together and so I wish I learned more
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about politics a lot sooner I wish it
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was talked more about amongst my family
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sooner and I wish that it it was just
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something that I became more interested
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in when I was younger your values will
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change over time in the course of your
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20s and that is completely normal what
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you experience in your early 20s and
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what you want in your early 20s may
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change as you enter your late 20s and it
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can be a very confusing time period when
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you experience a values change
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especially if your external environment
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does not match the new values that
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you're coming into and I wish I knew
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this sooner so that I would feel less
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shame and less
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confusion and that I would make the
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right decisions a lot faster than I did
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and I would have less anxiety and
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emotion wrapped around it and so for
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example when I was younger in my early
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20s I really valued a lot of the things
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that I mentioned early in this video
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which was I value getting Chanel bags I
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Valu getting Birkin bags driving a nice
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car having a nice house making multiple
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millions of dollars and then once I
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achieved all those things my values
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started to shift and I got very confused
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and I got very disconnected and I got
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very unhappy and very depressed and very
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anxious and it wasn't until I realized
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the reason why I was feeling all those
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things was because I was still doing the
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things that I no longer enjoy
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because I wanted to please my younger
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self was when I had that aha moment and
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my aha moment was burning down my
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multiple seven figure business now you
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may not have such a radical change like
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I did but you need to be brave enough to
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change your external environment to
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match the internal because the longer
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that you let that misalignment and you
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let that Gap happen the more confusion
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and shame and the more disconnected you
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will feel and you will eventually burn
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out one way or the other when you when
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there is that disconnection between your
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values and your day-to-day actions and
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so I wish someone told me about that
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sooner so that I could make the proper
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decision sooner and I didn't sit in it
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for too long don't ditch your friends
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just because you're on your own personal
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development journey I think it's normal
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for some people in their 20s to pick up
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those personal development books to
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build up their intellectual Capital but
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as a result you may start thinking that
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your friends aren't good enough or the
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people around you aren't good enough and
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you will start developing an ego and you
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will start thinking that you are above
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others but I learned that if you really
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want to grow instead of putting other
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people down and thinking less of them
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because they're not on the same Journey
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that you are or they're not running at
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the same Pace that you are you should
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Instead try your best to lift others up
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with you so that they can be at the
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level that they can be at and so in
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instead of ditching your friends because
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they're not making as much money as you
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teach them how to make money instead of
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ditching your friend because they're not
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as fit as you share resources with them
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on how to get fit instead of ditching
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your friend because they are not getting
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the same opportunities as you and
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they're not moving up in their career
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open some doors for them now of course
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it's up to the other person to receive
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the invitation and a lot of people they
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don't want to grow they don't want to be
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on the same time line as you and you
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have to respect that you have to respect
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that people will be on their own
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timelines and not force it but you also
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have to make it not mean anything about
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you or anything about them and I think
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that the best type of people or the ones
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that just accept people for who they are
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they hold them to a certain potential
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that they know that they can be but they
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don't rush the other person they they
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let them find their own way and I think
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it was really sad when I was in my early
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20s or mid 20s when I started going into
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this personal development Journey that I
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just wasn't a good friend to other
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people I didn't invest in my friendships
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as much as I could have because I
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developed an ego and I thought that
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building a business was more important
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than anything else and that I was more
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important than anything else but now
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realizing that friendships are really
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important and you should be someone that
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lifts other people up instead of putting
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them down or developing that type of ego
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because your ego will bite you in the
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ass in the future and so yeah don't
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ditch your friends just because you are
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on your own personal development Journey
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let everyone fall into it on their own
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timeline get to know your family ask
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questions collect the stories my grandma
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passed away a couple months ago it was
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just a few weeks after I visited her in
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Hong Kong and I genuinely thought that I
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would visit her again and again but she
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passed away suddenly a few months after
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I left or not even a few weeks after I
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left and my biggest regret was not
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asking her about her story how did she
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grow up how did did she meet my grandpa
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what did she value in her life what are
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her hopes and dreams for me uh what are
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the lessons that she's learned in her
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course of her life there was just so
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much wisdom that I could have taken and
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so much more understanding of my own
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family that I could have gotten and she
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passed away right before I turned 30 she
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passed away in January and I really do
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wish that I asked her more questions and
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I think that when while you still can
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you should ask your parents questions
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you should ask your grandparents
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questions just anyone that you care
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about time is fleeting and you never
00:25:04
know
00:25:05
when life will end and that's a really
00:25:08
sad thing to say but that's the matter
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of life right like tomorrow is not
00:25:13
guaranteed and I really do wish that I
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spent my 20s asking more questions
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specifically to my own family and to the
00:25:21
people that I loved and so if you're
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watching this video I encourage you to
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ask the people that you care about more
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questions about their life and how
00:25:30
they've come to be and your origin and
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understanding that because I think
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through that process you're going to
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learn a lot about yourself too
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especially if you're asking your family
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members and if you don't have family ask
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the people that you care about a
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professor that you're with your boss
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anyone that you love and so anyways I
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hope you like this video these are just
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the different lessons that I've learned
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throughout my 20s that I would share to
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someone who is in their 20s whether it's
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your early 20s mid 20s or late 20s uh
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I'm so excited to be 30 and to enter
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this new decade and um I also want to
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thank all of you who commented your
00:26:08
wisdom in my birthday post I actually
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asked a lot of people that were older
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than me to give me their wisdom and I
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learned a lot and that's what inspired
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this video so thank you so much for
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watching I do something Fearless today
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and I'll see you in my next video bye
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guys and take care
