How to Become a Productive Muslim: Complete Self-Improvement Guide | Belal Assaad

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Resumen

TLDRA charla aborda métodos para o desenvolvemento persoal, subliñando a importancia da responsabilidade, autenticidade e produtividade. O orador anima aos xoves a adoptar responsabilidade polas súas accións, evitar excusas e cultivar a autenticidade. Propón que a forza de vontade e o control do comportamento son cruciais para o éxito persoal. Destaca a necesidade de aprender das fallas e de manter unha mentalidade positiva e proactiva para superar obstáculos e alcanzar metas.

Para llevar

  • 💪 Tomar responsabilidade por accións.
  • 📜 Evitar escusas e culpas.
  • 📝 Ser honesto contigo mesmo.
  • ⏳ Aprender das fallas como oportunidades.
  • 🌱 Manter a autenticidade ao desenvolverse.
  • 🏆 A produtividade é clave para o éxito.
  • 🚀 Cultivar a forza de vontade para lograr obxectivos.
  • 📚 Aprender continuamente das experiencias.
  • 🔥 Controlar o comportamento en vez de reaccionar emocionalmente.
  • 😊 Actuar de forma positiva e motivada cada día.

Cronología

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    A primeira parte da palestra destaca a responsabilidade pessoal como o caminho para o desenvolvimento pessoal. O orador enfatiza a importância de admitir erros, evitar desculpas e ser proativo nas escolhas de vida. A autenticidade e a honestidade consigo mesmo são fundamentais para identificar áreas de melhoria.

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    O segundo ponto discute a necessidade de ter vontade e autodisciplina. A motivação não deve ser uma reação emocional, mas uma decisão consciente. O orador incentiva os jovens a não se deixarem levar por influências externas e a buscarem aprendizado em ambientes inspiradores.

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    Na terceira parte, o foco recai sobre a importância do comportamento consciencioso na busca de objetivos. O orador adverte contra viver como um reativo e sugere práticas para controlar emoções e reações, baseando-se na ciência sobre o controle da raiva e da frustração.

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    Por fim, o palestrante destaca a importância de manter uma mentalidade positiva e determinada. Fazer promessas a si mesmo e manter uma atitude otimista pode influenciar positivamente a vida, assim como a decisão de sorrir e encorajar os outros ao seu redor.

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Vídeo de preguntas y respuestas

  • ¿Cal é o primeiro paso para o desenvolvemento persoal?

    Tomar responsabilidade pola túa vida e accións.

  • ¿Por que é importante ser auténtico?

    Para identificar e traballar nas túas fallas e mellorar como persoa.

  • ¿Que significa tomar control do teu comportamento?

    Non reaccionar emocionalmente ante as situacións, senón actuar de forma disciplinada.

  • ¿Como se relaciona a produtividade co éxito?

    A produtividade é fundamental para alcanzar o éxito e desenvolverse tanto a nivel persoal como profesional.

  • ¿Cal é a importancia de evitar excusas?

    Evitar excusas permite aceptar a responsabilidade e centrarte na solución de problemas.

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    number one I want the young people to
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    listen to this first one how do you make
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    yourself developed stronger better more
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    productive for yourself and for others
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    number one take responsibility man take
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    responsibility meaning you are able to
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    respond to your actions you take them
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    admit when you make a mistake if you if
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    you did it right alhamdulillah if you
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    did it wrong take
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    responsibility I'm going to talk about
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    the first part Pathway to being
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    successful and then a second pathway
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    that complements this one two Pathways
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    I'm going to talk to you about you can
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    choose one or the other or you can blend
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    between the two as I told you these are
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    Studies by thousands of experts and
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    Scholars both in the Islamic world and
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    non-muslim world so the first pathway I
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    want to talk about is called building
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    your
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    productivity a Muslim has to be
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    productive my dear brothers and sisters
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    a Muslim has to be what productive
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    remember the Hadith we mentioned a
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    couple of weeks ago we
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    said two Believers one is strong one is
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    weak the strong believer is better than
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    the weak believer and we talked about
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    strong Iman strong resilience strong
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    willpower we talked about what makes you
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    a strong character we talked about
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    resources we talked about finances we
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    talked about strength and health and so
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    on and we also said a
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    Asam also
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    said Allah loves a servant that when he
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    or she decides to do something a good
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    project Masters it you don't stop
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    halfway continue to the end even if you
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    fail along the way continue remember
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    when we mentioned in theith in the of
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    the Prophet s Al wasallam when they were
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    going to you remember that battle of and
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    and this is something Muslims do when
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    they study the don't focus on the
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    battles but rather focus on what how the
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    prophet Sall alhi wasallam was teaching
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    his companions during all these events
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    The Human Side the wisdom side the
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    leadership side the development side
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    what is he teaching them it's not about
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    the sword it's not about the Battle it's
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    about everything in between would you
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    imagine sometimes battles will be
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    happening is discussing and teaching his
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    companions how to make how to make what
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    breaks the W all these things it's
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    constant learning so he wore the armor
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    he wore the armor and the companions had
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    uh exerted energy and sort of put
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    pressure on the prophet sallallah alai
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    wasam in a innocent way that let's go
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    out we think we should go out and face
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    them said we should stay in Medina and
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    then when he saw the majority ruled he
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    went inside and wore his armor when he
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    came out the companions felt regret and
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    they felt sorry they felt that they may
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    have put pressure on the prophet
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    sallallahu alaihi wasallam and they they
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    regreted and they said y forgive us we
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    may have compromised and made you feel a
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    little bit uncomfortable so we'll go
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    with what you said and he said a Prophet
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    when he when he wears the armor does not
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    take it off meaning as Allah
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    says once you make a decision and you're
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    determined then keep going don't stop
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    and now the building and being
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    productive is four parts I'm going to
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    talk about four parts the first part is
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    to be successful in building
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    yourself to be successful in building
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    yourself to develop yourself to develop
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    yourself
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    there are four things number
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    one number one I want the young people
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    to listen to this first one how do you
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    make yourself developed stronger better
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    more productive for yourself and for
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    others number one take responsibility
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    man take
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    responsibility meaning you are able to
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    respond to your actions you take them
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    admit when you make a mistake if you if
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    you did it right alhamdulillah if you
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    did it wrong take responsibility there
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    are no excuses brothers and sisters
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    avoid excuses no blame don't put the
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    blame on anything or anyone or any event
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    or on any flimsy excuse or are you ready
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    to hear this one don't put the blame on
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    Supernatural occurrences you know what
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    Supernatural occurrences are making up a
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    belief or a myth of some Supernatural
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    nature and saying it's because of that
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    there is a book comedic book it's called
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    the 365 excuses for being late to work
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    you can put up for anything else 365
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    excuses for being late to school
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    3556 excuses to being late to home
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    anything else it's all comedy it's all
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    jokes and it makes fun of people who
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    make excuses and it gives you 365
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    different excuses to say to your boss
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    and to other people why you were late
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    um things like you were trying a new
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    juice blender and it wasn't charged very
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    well and you were trying to work out the
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    instructions it made you late to work uh
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    you blame it on you were having a nice
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    dream and you just thought I'll sleep
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    another 5 minutes 5 minutes became 10
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    minutes sorry or blame it on the wife or
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    the kids or on something like that take
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    responsibility all it requires is you to
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    better manage yourself that's all it is
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    I remember once I used to be late to
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    work for a little while and uh
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    my my um my colle said to me something
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    very simple and it worked said I'm sorry
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    I'm 10 minutes late and he said to me
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    just wake up 10 minutes
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    earlier scratched my head and I go yeah
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    he's
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    right wake up 10 minutes
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    earlier is that 10 minutes that precious
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    to get that much sleep in some of us if
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    we don't get that 10 minutes we're got
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    to work it out somehow in the day I've
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    got to make up that 10 minutes I've got
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    to sleep somewhere no no no no you make
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    the decision if you want to be energetic
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    and energized or not and laziness is a
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    decision too energy is a decision
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    laziness is a decision okay I know that
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    sometimes if you're very tired and
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    you're sick that's a different story
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    anyway brothers and sisters no excuses
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    for a Believer take
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    responsibility sometimes a student comes
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    up or the parent you have an interview
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    with them I'm a teacher as you know and
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    sometimes a student says why did you
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    fail me sir I didn't fail you a parent
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    says why did the school fail my son my
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    daughter this is the school's fault it's
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    teacher's
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    fault we don't fail anybody your child
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    failed they didn't put in what is
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    needed don't put blame on others and
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    don't think when no one's attacking just
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    take responsibility and see what you can
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    do better don't take because that's
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    going to drag on in the rest of your
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    life a Muslim should not be like that
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    another thing a Muslim does is uh they
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    start to blame family they start blame
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    the world for their problems
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    I'm oppressed I'm vulnerable it's my
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    parents my family's toxic uh my teacher
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    fault Etc brothers and sisters there's
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    no need to say that trust me turn it
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    around and look at yourself and say what
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    can I do and do it do something better
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    don't run away from it sometimes we get
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    upset with someone say I cut them off
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    block them block them cuz they're toxic
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    but everybody says that you can solve a
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    problem if you can't solve it you can
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    minimize a problem don't just cut it all
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    off we have a famous statement among the
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    scholars if you can't take it all don't
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    leave it all keep some string I'll give
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    you an
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    example uh someone asked me if my child
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    decides to leave Islam I've asked this
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    question a lot from many different
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    people should we cut them off and just
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    block them off and never see them ever
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    again I said at least one of you if all
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    of you block them off one of you keep a
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    little hair between you and him just
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    keep some communication you might think
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    what I said no some people are really
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    misguided they just don't know they're
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    confused and I've had many people who
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    left Islam and came back alhamdulillah
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    just about 3 weeks ago up in uh other
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    side of the town here we had a 17
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    18yearold came and says I want to renew
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    my shahada left Islam for 2 years
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    decided I made a mistake don't never
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    judge people and say they're out of the
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    picture did not leave his son to the
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    last breath until the wave came and took
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    him while his father is still trying so
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    there's a difference
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    what I'm saying brothers and sisters is
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    this that don't just cut off everything
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    because you're going to fall into bigger
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    problems now one important thing I want
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    to say remember how I said some people
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    they blame on Supernatural events their
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    life decisions are connected so heavily
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    on their dreams they make their dreams
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    like it's Quran sent down from heaven
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    like it's a rule or a command or they
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    connect it
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    to let's say gins
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    maybe I'm maybe I'm
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    possessed if that doesn't work maybe
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    someone's done Magic on
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    me if that doesn't work everyone resorts
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    to the classical one someone's giving me
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    the eye why doesn't my car work while my
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    cars hav't been working for a while I've
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    been going to the mechanic several times
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    never happened before maybe there's an
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    eye sheh can you please come and read on
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    my car get some water and splash it all
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    over the car and okay some people they
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    say well in my house I don't know I've
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    been uh feeling a bit down lately and
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    things are going wrong my light bulb
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    doesn't work and the other day flooded
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    it um um it um what's the word for it
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    flickered and all that stuff please read
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    on my house brothers and sisters let me
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    tell you something the eye on a person
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    does not show that way to have magic
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    done on you or to have a gin or to have
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    sorcery is a very very very small chance
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    I'm talking about
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    0.01% chance
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    so the likelihood of it is very very
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    very very small and I don't even say the
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    word possession there's no such thing as
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    called possession there's in the Quran
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    says M like a connection but there is no
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    definition for it among the scholars
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    there's different opinions the point
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    that I want to make out of this brother
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    and sisters whether it's you know there
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    or not the majority of us are not
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    possessed there's no magic done on us
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    there's no eye on you because why do I
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    only hear it from the Muslims all the
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    time it's like nobody else gets
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    possessed ex Muslims no eyes happens
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    except to Muslims
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    dreams I know I gave one talk about
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    dreams the other day and people took it
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    like it was Quran I had thousands of
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    people holding on to everything they saw
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    in their dream as if it was Quran we
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    have the Quran with us why did Allah
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    bring us the Quran and the prophet
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    sallallahu alaihi wasallam if it's all
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    based on dreams and that's it dreams are
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    just a little tiny feeling of something
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    but we don't have a measure to interpret
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    it for you brother and sisters nobody
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    only the prophets can really interpret
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    it instead am said talk to someone who
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    you trust and love and and loves you and
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    full of wisdom and if it's a dream that
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    makes you feel good because usually the
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    way you interpret the dream is the way
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    you're going to live it out it's a
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    psychological thing really there's a lot
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    of psychology in it brothers and sisters
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    and sometimes there are good dreams from
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    Allah but you know some people they say
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    oh I saw Allah in my dream I've had this
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    said to me SE several times a guy who's
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    wearing a turban and a beard and I don't
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    know when we said Subhan Allah this is
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    the Shan coming to you and making you to
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    appear that way to teach you the wrong
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    way some people manipulate others they
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    say I I saw Allah a thousand times and I
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    saw the Prophet this many times
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    everybody goes Allah is a saint and then
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    He makes himself a prophet himself
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    everybody and then takes the money from
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    them and starts manipulating people
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    brothers and sisters be careful this is
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    not how the scholars and the prophets
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    taught us so number one brothers and
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    sisters don't let these things deter you
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    from your success stop holding on to
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    Supernatural things sometimes it's out
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    of our mind sometimes people want to get
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    married and let's say the parent doesn't
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    want that spouse for them doesn't want
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    that person doesn't like that guy
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    doesn't like that girl so they come and
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    use religion they go and make the mother
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    and father and they come and they say
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    daughter son well we saw in our dreams
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    this person is killing people in the
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    neighborhood well we saw in our dreams
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    this person has got a farm of of
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    marijuana selling it to people in drugs
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    stay away from him it's because you
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    don't want him some people they use this
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    as as a
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    this so brothers and sisters this deter
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    stop thinking about this stuff keep
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    going forward
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    inshallah the eye for example
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    said I is true the evil eye but in all
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    of the 23 years of the of the Prophet
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    Sall alaihi wasallam and about 30 years
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    of the lives of the 53 years the
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    historian the the the scholars of s and
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    history the Muslim Scholars of s have
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    only mentioned two or three incidents of
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    the evil eye with us it's happening 100
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    times a day anyway brother and sisters
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    don't hold on to this keep going
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    brothers and sisters and move forward
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    for a Muslim doesn't let these things
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    hold them back if you fail try again but
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    when you try again try a different way
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    Einstein used to say if you try
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    something the same way do not expect a
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    different result you're always going to
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    get the same result so try things a
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    different way I think it was Edison who
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    invented the light bulb am I right take
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    away the controversies but I think the
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    one who invented the light bulb Edison
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    he said I learned 260 ways of how a
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    light bulb will not work do you know
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    what that means
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    it means before he succeeded he had 260
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    mistakes so he said I can teach you 260
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    ways the light bulb will not work until
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    he found the way so a Muslim will fail
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    and try again and try again the
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    Believers failed in the Battle of and
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    Allah
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    says don't assume of it as bad for you
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    it is good for you so goodness does come
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    out of it okay we move on to the second
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    one now I'll go a bit faster the second
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    thing of developing yourself is brother
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    and sisters be authentic to yourself be
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    honest with yourself be authentic to
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    yourself be honest with yourself don't
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    make flimsy excuses don't go around and
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    say oh because of this be honest and and
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    what do you do with that I mentioned it
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    last time sit
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    down get a piece of paper or a book some
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    people need a
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    book and write down all the faults and
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    shortcomings that you can identify in
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    yourself now these speakers they talked
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    about the same thing and I went and
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    tried it the other day and I counted
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    53 53 problems in
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    me do you think I looked at it as low
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    self-esteem or that I'm a failure or a
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    loser no I looked at it to see okay good
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    these are the areas I can improve on is
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    there anyone who is perfect no the
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    moment I accepted my imperfection Allah
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    my self-esteem shot through the roof I
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    don't care if you find the fault in me I
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    already found it before you and I own it
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    one kid you know sometimes students say
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    you're like this or you're like that say
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    yeah I am what my bald head yeah yeah
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    I've got a bald head
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    alhamdulillah uh someone says to you
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    I'll look at you you look like this
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    alhamd I do look like that Allah made me
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    like that yeah I know what do you what
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    do you know so what the point is brother
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    and sisters if you have failures
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    remember one time playing soccer with my
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    friends when I was back in in Primary
  • 00:15:22
    School in secondary SK I was really bad
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    at soccer they made me the goalkeeper
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    you guys know way if you P the goal
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    goalkeeper you're not you're going to
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    stuff up the game so they put you as
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    goalkeeper then they try to keep the
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    ball away from you I still failed even
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    with great players and we still lost the
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    game they made fun of me of everything I
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    did I was a little kid but I learned
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    from that that Subhan Allah I'm not
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    really good at soccer I'm going to go
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    and get someone to teach me a little bit
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    more and I did I wasn't good at
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    basketball and then I go man I got to I
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    got to share basketball games with with
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    some students and people and I went and
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    got my nephew to teach me who cares
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    brothers and sisters the thing is you
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    know your failures doesn't matter
  • 00:16:05
    they're not failures they're areas for
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    you to grow on number three be a person
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    of
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    willpower I find this in young people a
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    lot will nobody can decide for you to
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    study nobody can decide for you to read
  • 00:16:19
    nobody can decide for you to do a course
  • 00:16:20
    nobody can decide for you to do your bed
  • 00:16:22
    nobody can decide for you to look after
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    yourself and to um make something of
  • 00:16:25
    yourself you have to decide your mother
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    and father can put you in a room lock
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    you up and put you in there for 4 hours
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    with all the books and the textbooks and
  • 00:16:33
    everything you need until you study
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    you're not getting out of there until
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    blah blah blah until you do your studies
  • 00:16:39
    you might go ahead and and sit there for
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    4 hours and say well I studied sir I
  • 00:16:43
    studied parents I studied 4 hours every
  • 00:16:45
    day I remember one student I came up to
  • 00:16:47
    him and said did you study did did you
  • 00:16:49
    really study I mean guys honestly I was
  • 00:16:50
    just I was just reading that like that I
  • 00:16:53
    didn't even read That's not
  • 00:16:56
    studying the only person who can make
  • 00:16:58
    you study is you
  • 00:16:59
    the only person who can make the money
  • 00:17:00
    is by the will of Allah and and strive
  • 00:17:03
    towards it is you the only person who
  • 00:17:04
    can learn about management is you the
  • 00:17:05
    only person who can get up and get
  • 00:17:07
    dressed as you if you don't make that
  • 00:17:08
    decision you will not do it it's called
  • 00:17:11
    wishful thinking so you got to be
  • 00:17:13
    convinced of your goal and connect
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    yourself to some people who are
  • 00:17:18
    distinguished don't just keep having the
  • 00:17:20
    same surroundings and people that you
  • 00:17:23
    always talk to day and day out what are
  • 00:17:25
    you going to learn from them change your
  • 00:17:27
    connections find out who is
  • 00:17:29
    distinguished who who at the school who
  • 00:17:30
    in my work who in the environment who at
  • 00:17:32
    the Masjid who anywhere who it seems
  • 00:17:35
    like this person has got something that
  • 00:17:37
    normal people don't have or the ordinary
  • 00:17:38
    people don't have why don't I go and
  • 00:17:40
    have a connection with that person maybe
  • 00:17:41
    I can learn something now on social
  • 00:17:43
    media you have a lot of these people we
  • 00:17:45
    call gurus gurus in different areas
  • 00:17:47
    follow them follow them and learn from
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    them number four take control of your
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    behavior if you want to develop yourself
  • 00:17:54
    take control of your what Behavior don't
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    be don't live your life as a reactionary
  • 00:18:01
    you just react someone gets you upset
  • 00:18:03
    you
  • 00:18:04
    react somebody provoked you you react
  • 00:18:07
    some people they say to me I'm not
  • 00:18:10
    motivated I don't feel like doing it get
  • 00:18:14
    out of here stop
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    this stop this princess if you're going
  • 00:18:18
    to go by motivations and feelings you're
  • 00:18:20
    not going to achieve
  • 00:18:21
    anything can you imagine that every
  • 00:18:24
    morning you wake up I don't feel like
  • 00:18:26
    waking up Allah imagine everybody
  • 00:18:28
    thought that way I don't feel like
  • 00:18:30
    drinking water you still go and drink
  • 00:18:31
    water because your body needs it be
  • 00:18:33
    disciplined say I I'm going to do it and
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    tell yourself to be quiet shut yourself
  • 00:18:39
    up and say stop get up and do it you'll
  • 00:18:42
    feel proud about yourself inshallah
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    otherwise you won't achieve it so don't
  • 00:18:45
    be a reactionary person uh a student
  • 00:18:48
    said to came with a broken hand one day
  • 00:18:51
    and I said what happened said fire out
  • 00:18:53
    man it's my brother's fault go what
  • 00:18:55
    happened he got me angry and I punched
  • 00:18:56
    the wall when you it's not your brother
  • 00:18:59
    it's you he made me swear she made me
  • 00:19:02
    like this it's my mom she's like she
  • 00:19:05
    just gets on my NSE that's why I've
  • 00:19:07
    became like this no no you don't inherit
  • 00:19:10
    anger you don't inherit bad behavior bad
  • 00:19:13
    behavior is learned you can make a
  • 00:19:16
    decision you can make a decision I'll
  • 00:19:20
    give you something called the 92 rule
  • 00:19:22
    it's established science that once you
  • 00:19:24
    get angry once your emotions play up
  • 00:19:26
    your whole body goes through a process
  • 00:19:28
    hormonal process that hormonal process
  • 00:19:31
    that goes everywhere Haywire like a a
  • 00:19:33
    storm inside of you
  • 00:19:36
    lasts for 90 seconds if you can wait
  • 00:19:39
    until it all your body gets back to
  • 00:19:41
    normal then you're able to think after
  • 00:19:43
    that if you continue to be angry and
  • 00:19:45
    emotional it means you want to be you
  • 00:19:46
    can say to yourself I don't want to be
  • 00:19:48
    hands up if you can promise yourself
  • 00:19:52
    right
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    now that for the next seven days you're
  • 00:19:57
    not going to get angry who would like to
  • 00:20:00
    okay I'm I'm going to do it with you I
  • 00:20:02
    promise I promise in the next seven
  • 00:20:06
    days that I will not get
  • 00:20:09
    angry I hear someone maybe thinking I
  • 00:20:11
    can hear your thinking say brother how
  • 00:20:13
    can you say that only Allah knows the
  • 00:20:14
    future how can you say
  • 00:20:17
    that of course Allah knows the future
  • 00:20:20
    but you have a willpower you can make a
  • 00:20:22
    promise see what happens you wake up in
  • 00:20:24
    the morning and say today I'm going to
  • 00:20:26
    be energetic W he try it say yourself
  • 00:20:28
    I'm going to be energetic even if you
  • 00:20:30
    slept for 4 hours watch what happens in
  • 00:20:32
    the day I've tried it I try all these
  • 00:20:35
    they say to me how come you smile I said
  • 00:20:36
    cuz I've made a decision this morning
  • 00:20:38
    I'm going to smile and the more you
  • 00:20:39
    smile you smile better and other people
  • 00:20:40
    around you smile too then you see them
  • 00:20:43
    smiling go oh my God everybody's
  • 00:20:45
    cheerful it's because you started it you
  • 00:20:47
    started it start something good that's
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