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it's easy to treat students with respect
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when they do when they do what you want
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the challenge as a teacher though is to
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treat all students with respect
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even when they're off task when they're
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refusing to follow your directions when
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they're out of bounds
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or they're using abusive language and
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that's not easy to do
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a young teacher once complained to me
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that her high school students
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did not show her respect they didn't
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listen when she was teaching
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they rolled their eyes and turned away
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when she tried to reprimand them
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and they were generally difficult to
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manage in her opinion
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kids should just show respect to
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teachers because she'd done that when
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she was a student
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she didn't feel the need to prove that
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she deserved the student's respect
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or that she needed to work at building
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relationships with them
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and while i understand her perspective
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and also her frustration
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because she was being ill-treated by
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those students
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a significant but over often overlooked
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aspect
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of your job as a teacher is to teach
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students
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how you want to be treated and you do
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this through
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explicit lessons about appropriate
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behavior by
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modeling respectful behavior towards
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your students and your colleagues
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and through building a positive
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classroom culture where students learn
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respectful ways
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of relating to each other some high
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schools can dismiss the importance of
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teaching values
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as simply the work of primary schools
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but with our current knowledge of brain
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development
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it's unwise and potentially detrimental
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to treat teenagers
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as if they're adults and assume that
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they don't need explicit instruction
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in social and emotional skills
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in the past teaching was about
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controlling or suppressing students and
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corporal punishment was part of the
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course
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teachers today though need to
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deliberately incorporate ways of
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relating to their students
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that model mutual respect and the use of
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positive behaviour management strategies
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supports social learning and shows that
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you care
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about your students and that you
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understand them
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in this video i'll share why it's
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important to show
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students respect especially when they're
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not behaving appropriately
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and the effective strategies that you
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can use to show
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students that you respect them as people
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my name's maria yamaro and i'm the
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principal presenter at the highly
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effective teacher
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i'm a teacher and i've been working with
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students and supporting teachers for
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over 30 years
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i'm passionate about teacher wellbeing
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and i combine
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research and experience to provide
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strategies that improve teacher
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well-being
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and relationships with students
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especially those practices that take no
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more extra teacher time
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and it can actually give you back time
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because you're working more effectively
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i love coaching teachers so that they
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learn to thrive in the teaching
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profession
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not just survive improved teacher
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well-being means improved student
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well-being
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and that contributes to better academic
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and social outcomes for all our students
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why is it important to demonstrate
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respect for your students
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well first of all it builds positive
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relationships with your students
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and that's good for you and it's good
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for your students
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and when you have a good relationship
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with your students they're more likely
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to be on board with what you're doing
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and you're more likely to get more
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learning done secondly
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showing respect maintains the dignity of
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both people so it maintains your dignity
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and the dignity of your students and
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that enables people to act in better
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ways
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it also means that especially in a case
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where a student is acting
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inappropriately they they still maintain
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dignity
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and you do as well because you don't
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give in to your feelings
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showing respect increases students sense
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of belonging and connectedness to the
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school
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and that means improved outcomes for
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students because it decreases the
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likelihood of students dropping out of
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school
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which is a high predictor of antisocial
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behaviour
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incarceration and lack of literacy
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skills
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so when you show students that you
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respect them you bring them
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in and help they have a stronger sense
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of connectedness to the school
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when you show respect for students it
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reduces the levels of stress
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conflict and behavior problems within
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your classroom
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and within the school because you deal
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with
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issues in a calm and considered way
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showing respect for students also
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improves communication
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because when students are treated with
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respect
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they're more likely to listen to you
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because they know that they'll get a
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chance to tell their
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side of the story so how can you show
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respect for your students and ask some
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of the things you're doing already
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succeeding with that sometimes it helps
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to ask how would you want
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someone you love to be treated if they
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were
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displaying challenging behaviour either
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someone
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in a nursing home or someone in a
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preschool
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or a young person in a high school
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first thing that you would like to do to
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show respect
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is to listen the best way to show
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respect to someone is to listen to them
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and one issue that consistently comes up
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in school climate data
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is that kids don't feel heard and this
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is particularly
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the case with our more at-risk kids
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number two
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understand what student behaviour means
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know
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that problem student behaviour is
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communication
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and if we're to be successful we need to
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discover what it is that the student is
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communicating
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and then teach them more appropriate
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ways to get their needs met
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number three be aware of your own body
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language
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and your tone of voice especially when
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you're speaking to students
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who are off task or when the behavior
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that they exhibit
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is a button pushing behavior for you if
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you're interested in learning more
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about how to use your body language in a
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positive way
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and how it can impact communication
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please check out our video
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on body language use scripts
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for when you're dealing with triggering
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situations or behaviors
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when a student's behavior is difficult
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to manage even
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low-level non-compliance or unsafe
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dangerous behavior
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a planned script is useful because it
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will help you to remain
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calm and then you can de-escalate the
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situation
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rather than making it worse for example
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your script might be joe back to your
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work thanks
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rather than joe you're always talking
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stop right now and get back to your work
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i'm sick of telling you the same thing
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every lesson what students hear when you
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do that
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is blah blah blah they switch off
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give your corrections and redirections
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using minimal language
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and you increase the likelihood that
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your directions will be followed
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and using thanks at the end is a really
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great strategy being prepared for your
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corrections means you know what you're
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going to
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do and say when students are off task
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disruptive or challenging
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and having a plan for those corrections
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means you'll be more likely to respond
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in ways that are respectful
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generous and in keeping with the kind of
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teacher that you want to be
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next remove the emotion if you can
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focus on the behavior that you want from
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the student and remove your own feelings
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from your response to them
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and deliver your instructions in that
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calm measured tone
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don't take student behavior behavior
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personally
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and acknowledge your feelings to
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yourself because you may be starting to
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feel
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frustrated angry and totally fed up with
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the students behavior
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but you have to remember that the
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behavior is not about you
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and letting those emotions get the best
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of you
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won't help the situation one way to deal
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with this
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and maintain positive teacher student
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relationships
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is to acknowledge the feelings and
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recognize that that's not the right time
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to discuss it for example you might say
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tim i'm feeling really angry right now
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so i'm going to wait for a few minutes
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until i feel calm
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then we'll talk about it this gives you
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thinking time
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and processing time and that means that
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you won't say something that you wish
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you didn't
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thanks for watching our video stay safe
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and happy teaching
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you
