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okay today I got a question from a
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subscriber and he goes the subject is
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good question for you so when I saw that
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he has a good question for me I was
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instantly like oh this is probably a
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good one he knows how to stand out by
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telling me directly that this is a good
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question so he goes hey Casey how to
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approach online dating since women have
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way too many options question mark do
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you have a science question mark thanks
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so I'm going to take this video at a
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different sort of pace and Cadence than
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probably my other ones and the reason
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being is
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because this is probably a hard message
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for me to convey but this is like my
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true internal beliefs amongst online
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dating and what I am constantly thinking
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of doing or what I am constantly
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thinking of uh expressing with every
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single video that I make is how can I
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basically go against the grain right or
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how can I basically um invert or twist
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majority of what other people are doing
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now the biggest reason why I think this
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way is because I feel when the herd is
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going this way okay think of online
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dating majority of men are using online
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dating so I would I would consider this
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the herd right the herd of cattle right
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but what tends to happen when the herd
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goes one way is they typically all fall
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off the cliff right that everyone has
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seen the meme or the picture of all the
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all the Buffalo or the cattle or the
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herd going one way and then they fall
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off the cliff so what I like to think
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about is is I'm just like okay when
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everybody's doing something that is
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probably a good reason not to [ __ ] do
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it okay so just take this with me
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because I'm going I'm going to break
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this down from a few different angles
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because I try to actually to the best of
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my ability practice what I preach as
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well when I was growing up okay I saw
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everybody go to college I was like okay
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we're definitely not doing that we need
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to find a way to make some [ __ ] money
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then I was like okay I saw everybody
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doing um you know a lot of these weird
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Trends on the internet where they would
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do all this [ __ ] to try to gain
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attention I was like okay I'm not going
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to do that I'm not going to do these
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weird reaction videos I'm not going to
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analyze other people's [ __ ] I'm going to
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[ __ ] just do what I'm good at and
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buckle down into one thing so like what
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I try to do is I try to be as big of a
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contrarian as possible and I always try
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to invert my own thinking and I say if
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all the men are doing this how can I do
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this to stand out in every way shape and
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form now to answer your question on
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online dating cuz I am not trying to be
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like long winded where I give you some
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[ __ ] answer I'm trying to actually
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like get you to understand the
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fundamental Concept in theory first
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let's re watch this or relisten to this
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good question for your video how to
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approach online dating since women have
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way too many options do you have a
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science question mark thanks okay the
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first piece that we're going to be
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breaking down is the problem which is
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the middle of the sentence the problem
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that you just said to me is women have
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way too many options
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okay so first of all you need to think
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of it this way if the problem that
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you're solving for is at women have way
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too many options the chances of you
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beating that game of online dating is
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virtually slim to none okay if you think
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about what online dating is going to be
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heav heavily reliant on it's going to
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often be um very good looks okay genetic
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outliers are going to stand out big time
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on on social media or on online dating
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if you're
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6'5 um if you have shredded six-pack abs
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if you um have a wild social life and
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you can convey that through certain
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photos so you can give women like a
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taste of what your lifestyle might be
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like you could go that way but once
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again you you said do I have a science
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for this and my science is to go against
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the grain so I'm going to be explaining
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what I mean in a second the chances of
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you winning at online dating when
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there's T I mean you're you're you're
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competing against every guy who's using
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online dating which means you're going
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to be going against guys who may be tall
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guys who may be good-look guys who know
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how to take good pictures guys who know
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how to flex a lot of status but the
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problem you're going to run into is even
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all of those guys all of those
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attractive men even to women eventually
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all those guys are going to start to
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look the same eventually she's going to
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go through that Rolodex of options think
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stick with me here think about this
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eventually let's actually like try to
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get inside the brain of a woman or the
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mind of a woman for a second eventually
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she's going to be sitting there on
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online dating going through all of these
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Rolodex of options and she's going to
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say well this guy's good-looking but so
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is he and she's going to say well this
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guy has really good pictures and looks
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like he can Flex status wealth or money
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but this guy looks like he's got a
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Bentley or a Mercedes too uh this guy's
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an accountant and a high level whatever
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but this guy he kind of is too and you
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know what happens is they get confused
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and then you know what happens is she
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feels validated when laying in bed at
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night seeing all 20 options of the
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attractive men texting her first and she
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can sleep soundly like a baby knowing
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that she's validated and she's wanted
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and she's desired and then here's what
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happens too she doesn't have to go out
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on a single date with [ __ ] any of
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them all she has to do is get to lay in
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bed at night and know that she's desired
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the validation the attention so let's
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break this down one more time okay you
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say how to approach online dating since
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women have way too many options if you
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believe in your heart of hearts that
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women have way too many options how do
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you solve for this you solve for this by
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going against the grain so how to
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approach online dating if you're
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wondering this and this is the problem
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that you're solving I would potentially
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recommend to not use online dating and
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actually look at the psychology of
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female nature and of women so what do we
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know about women women are easily led by
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their emotions okay as soon as she's
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hellbent on one guy as soon as she likes
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one guy as soon as she falls in love
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with one guy as soon as one guy starts
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winning her over and one guy this is all
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it takes it takes one guy slowly working
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into her brain okay it takes one guy
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working into her
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subconscious the way that her emotions
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are wired she fixates on him she starts
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to gravitate towards him she starts to
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think about him only and then all of a
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sudden he might not even be the best
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looking guy he might not even be um the
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most attractive out of all the options
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in her inbox but what happens is he was
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able to lead her emotions this guy could
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be short than some of the guys she sees
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on the internet this guy could be worse
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looking sometimes but the thing that he
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was able to do was lead her emotions and
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there's only one way to do this and this
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is specifically through masculine energy
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so now we're going to solve for this
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problem again you say women have far too
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many options well if we know that women
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are easily led by their emotions the
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real problem that we should be solving
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for is if the herd of cattle or if the
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herd is going this way and if you follow
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what every other man is doing every
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other man is probably headed off like
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like the cliff or they're going the
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wrong direction right I'm trying to use
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an analogy think of the herd going the
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wrong direction and falling that is
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probably the route that men are going to
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be going now take this a step further
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why would men be going that direction
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they're going that direction with online
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dating Because deep down majority of men
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are extremely sad scared and insecure so
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think about this for a second the reason
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why they're probably using that method
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of online dating is because they can't
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talk to women on the front end they
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can't approach they can't start a new
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conversation they can't get a woman to
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like them just by being themselves so
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what they're struggling with is actually
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conveying confidence they are struggling
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with conveying masculine energy and what
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they're especially scared of is
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rejection and saying the wrong things in
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the eyes of a woman so what I would do
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if I were you is I would be asking
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myself instead of how to win at online
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dating I would say how can I win at
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thinking differently than 99.9% of all
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other men so I am so much an outlier to
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the point in the way that I carry myself
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I can't help but gain attention I can't
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help but gain recognition and pretty
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soon she starts to view you as this is
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just the type of guy who is this way so
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let me give you an example if you are
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wondering how to approach online dating
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I would say you don't I say you take a
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step back and you say why do I want to
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use online dating as my method of choice
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and what this really boils down to for
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most men is they don't realize this but
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online dating is a buffer it is a buffer
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against social re rection okay it is
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something in the middle it is a it is a
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block and the block is against rejection
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right the block is against social
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humiliation if she says I don't want to
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um go out with you the buffer or the
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block against the rejection is actually
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you not having to feel your heart rate
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go up when you go approach that girl in
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real life it's a buffer or it is
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something against you um not turning
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flush in the face if you're nervous to
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talk to her and blushing
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what you're really asking me is how do I
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not feel the pain that I need to go
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through and that you know you need to go
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through of talking to new women of
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approaching new women of starting new
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conversations okay simply to use a
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method that is not necessarily optimal
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to get women in the first place why is
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it not optimal because 99% of men are
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not genetic outliers 99% of men don't
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have a wild um social life or they don't
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have wild ability to Captivate status or
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wealth through pictures so what you have
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to do is you have to get crafty if
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you're smart and you understand that
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women are led by their emotions what you
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should be saying is how do I effectively
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Captivate their emotions quicker and at
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a better Pace than majority of all other
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men and the way you do that is through
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approaching So when you say do you have
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this down to a science yes the first
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thing you want to use inverted thinking
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when everybody thinks a specific way I
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try to think opposite now the second
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thing that that blends into is your
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identity is contrarian which means you
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think in uh reverse
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okay contrarian thinking means like you
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think different than all the other
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people or you think all different than
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all the other men the third thing that
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you have to do then is you have to say
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how do I
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effectively Spike emotions how do I
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effectively use words tonality things
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that make her giggle things that make
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her laugh how do I effectively do this
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in a way where she's going to be drawn
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to me now to actually answer your
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question directly what I would recommend
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you doing is just get good at a simple
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routine or a simple story or something
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simple to Captivate and to spark arousal
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or to spark attraction or to spark
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desire I'll give you two examples of
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things that I've done in the past that
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work super well the dynamic that I like
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to use if I go out or if I'm at a house
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party is I just like to use the husband
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wife dynamic as quick as possible if I'm
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at a pool party and everybody is uh
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everyone's out talking there's a there's
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a girl let's say she's in a social group
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or let's say she's talking to a bunch of
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men you walk up and you can say why are
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you cheating on me I want my ring back
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right this and I'm not saying to steal
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my lines I'm not trying to say this is
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the magic way to do uh talking this is
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the magic line that's not what I'm
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saying I'm saying have something that's
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congruent to you me what's congruent to
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me is I like to make jokes about the uh
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wife and husband Dynamic the sooner I
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can Implement that the sooner a lot of
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times I can get the right Dynamic going
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where it no longer feels like game and
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it no longer feels transactional it's
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like this is actually a thing and maybe
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we like each other I try to lean into
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that okay the second thing that I I like
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to do sometimes I'll put up a picture of
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what I was wearing uh a week ago I had
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these stupid uh hard eyes glasses that
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were like $2 that I got when I was out
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and I got these I got these glasses from
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uh this dude from London and he had the
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this accent and he was with this girl
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who had these hard eyes glasses on and I
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was like you know um I want these I'll
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do anything I'll pay any I'll and this
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is the tone I was talking to I'm like
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I'll pay any money I have 400 bucks
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right now I will venmo you right now and
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she's like oh that's too much blah blah
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she's she's drunk I go and she goes I'll
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do 40 well she'll do $40 so what do I do
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I get out the venmo she gives me the
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glasses she's been drinking she runs off
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I don't I don't have to pay anything
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well then I got these glasses on so then
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the whole bar that night there's like
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four or five people coming up to me now
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I have a story I was like you wouldn't
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believe this this this girl she was
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going to get $40 and then guess what she
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didn't and she ran off and then pretty
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soon there was people laughing and then
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I wasn't even necessarily trying to run
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into a routine that's just how it
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happened and there was one group of
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women that I was talking to and then all
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I did was tell him the story about the
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glasses the girl goes I like him okay so
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it was low effort it was not try hard I
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didn't need to wear Louis Vuitton I
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didn't need to um wear a $200,000 Rolex
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to act like I'm some hot shot $2 hard
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eyes glasses worked better than any of
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the other [ __ ] that majority of people
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were trying to do with their Alpha
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demeanor and whatever you want to talk
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about okay so to answer your question if
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you need to get better at talking to
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women start to run a story start to run
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some sort of routine start to run
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something that's congruent with you and
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your personality okay and the worst
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thing that you can do is try to emulate
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other people so if you watch this dude
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who has dating content and you start to
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try to talk like him you're doing it
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wrong if you watch my dating content and
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you start to carry your vocal tone and
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your Cadence like I do you're going to
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fail you have to actually get congruent
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with who you are so that's how I would
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handle online dating I would run the
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opposite way I would get good at running
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the opposite way and I would lean into
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more of who I am so that way there's
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full congruency and that way it's like
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you're a man's man who makes your own
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decisions if you like this video hit the
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like
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button comment and subscribe and
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truthfully for those of you who watch
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this video end to end like this is why
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for the past four years I have been
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talking about MBT masculine behavioral
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techniques because for the past four
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years as I've been talking about that if
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you copied those dating techniques if
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you copied masculine behavioral
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techniques into your dating life a lot
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of these problems that you're wondering
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a lot of these things that you're asking
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would have been solved a long time ago
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because inside of that i' teach you how
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to actually make like authentic real
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human to human connections with
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masculine to feminine Dynamic so you
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don't have to do a lot of these things
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that majority of all other men 99% of
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dudes are doing I want you to be able to
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think differently and apply things
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differently so you get results at a
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quicker pace so be sure to go down below
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click that webinar link and actually
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watch that full length presentation that
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I made for you we'll see you in the next
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