00:00:00
manipulation is an art and those who
00:00:01
Master it hold immense power you might
00:00:04
not realize it but every day you're
00:00:05
influenced by skilled manipulators today
00:00:08
I'm going to show you how to harness
00:00:10
this art Yourself by the end you'll be
00:00:12
stunned at how many of these tactics
00:00:14
have been used on you trust me you can't
00:00:16
afford to miss this stick around to
00:00:18
uncover the shocking truth ready let's
00:00:20
dive
00:00:21
[Music]
00:00:27
in one gaslighting gaslighting is when
00:00:30
someone makes you doubt your reality
00:00:31
it's subtle but the manipulator twists
00:00:34
situations to make you question your
00:00:35
memory perception and even your thoughts
00:00:38
you'll find yourself wondering if maybe
00:00:40
you did overreact or misunderstand
00:00:42
things the goal is to confuse you so
00:00:44
much that you trust their version of
00:00:46
events over your own here's how it looks
00:00:48
in real life you argue with someone and
00:00:50
by the end they convince you that you're
00:00:53
the problem even though they're the one
00:00:54
who started it be careful gaslighting
00:00:56
sneaks into everyday situations and
00:00:59
before you know it you're second
00:01:00
guessing yourself two reverse psychology
00:01:02
reverse psychology is one of those
00:01:04
tactics that sounds easy and it actually
00:01:07
is the person will tell you to do
00:01:09
something knowing you'll want to do the
00:01:11
exact opposite for example if I wanted
00:01:13
you to stop drinking Coke I'd say go
00:01:15
ahead drink Coke every day breakfast
00:01:17
lunch dinner don't even touch water
00:01:19
naturally you'd start feeling like you
00:01:21
should stop drinking Coke it's a mind
00:01:23
trick that plays on your desire to Rebel
00:01:26
think back to all those times when
00:01:27
someone told you you can't do it and
00:01:29
suddenly you felt an urge to prove them
00:01:31
wrong that's reverse psychology in
00:01:34
action three Choice restriction this one
00:01:36
is sneaky because it makes you feel like
00:01:38
you're in control when really you're not
00:01:41
by limiting your choices the manipulator
00:01:43
can guide you toward the decision they
00:01:44
want you to make here's how it works I
00:01:46
give you two options either study or do
00:01:49
house chores like washing dishes or
00:01:51
sweeping obviously you'll choose the
00:01:53
easier one which is studying and I'll
00:01:55
get what I wanted without forcing you
00:01:56
limiting someone's choices restricts
00:01:59
their freedom and they'll end up doing
00:02:00
what you want without even realizing it
00:02:02
guilt trip a guilt trip is when someone
00:02:04
makes you feel bad for your past actions
00:02:07
or words this tactic works best on
00:02:09
emotional people as guilt lowers their
00:02:11
defenses and makes them more likely to
00:02:13
agree with the manipulator have you ever
00:02:15
heard someone say you shouldn't have
00:02:16
done that it wasn't fair or you owe them
00:02:19
an apology they're using guilt to
00:02:20
influence your behavior once you feel
00:02:22
bad you'll do whatever they ask to make
00:02:25
up for manipulative negotiation ever
00:02:27
been in a shop and the salesperson says
00:02:29
something like this is the best deal
00:02:31
you'll ever get trust me it's unbeatable
00:02:33
that's manipulative negotiation they'll
00:02:35
use tactics like exaggerating the
00:02:37
quality of a product or rushing you into
00:02:39
a decision to get what they want it's
00:02:41
all about making you feel like you have
00:02:43
no other option but to agree with them
00:02:45
six amplifying issues this one is all
00:02:47
about turning a small problem into a big
00:02:50
deal the manipulator exaggerates the
00:02:52
situation to create a sense of urgency
00:02:54
or fear you'll see this tactic often in
00:02:57
conflicts where someone blows a minor
00:02:59
issue way out of proportion to make it
00:03:01
seem like a serious problem they do this
00:03:04
so you'll feel pressured to react
00:03:05
quickly often without thinking things
00:03:07
through properly seven love bombing love
00:03:09
bombing is when someone showers you with
00:03:11
affection compliments and attention to
00:03:13
win your trust at first it feels great
00:03:16
who wouldn't want to be treated like
00:03:17
royalty but once they've hooked you they
00:03:19
start using that bond to control you
00:03:22
they'll make you feel guilty if you
00:03:23
don't reciprocate their affection or do
00:03:26
things their way it's manipulation
00:03:27
wrapped in kindness and it's one of the
00:03:29
most most dangerous forms of emotional
00:03:31
control eight silent treatment the
00:03:34
silent treatment is when someone ignores
00:03:36
you to punish you they withhold
00:03:37
communication to make you feel insecure
00:03:40
confused and anxious eventually you'll
00:03:42
be the one reaching out apologizing or
00:03:45
trying to fix things even if you didn't
00:03:47
do anything wrong it's a power move
00:03:49
designed to make you chase after their
00:03:51
attention and approval nine
00:03:54
triangulation this tactic involves
00:03:56
bringing a third person into your
00:03:57
conflict or situation to create drama
00:04:00
the manipulator might say even so and so
00:04:02
agrees with me on this to make you feel
00:04:05
outnumbered or unsupported it's all
00:04:06
about making you feel like you're in the
00:04:08
wrong because more people are supposedly
00:04:11
on their side 10 flattery flattery
00:04:13
sounds harmless right but when it's used
00:04:15
strategically it becomes a tool for
00:04:17
manipulation people will compliment you
00:04:19
excessively to get you on their side or
00:04:21
lower your guard once you feel good
00:04:23
about the praise you're more likely to
00:04:25
do what they want without questioning
00:04:27
their intentions a full video on this
00:04:29
technique is uploaded on my channel
00:04:30
which you can watch later 11 scarcity
00:04:33
tactics scarcity is when someone makes
00:04:35
you feel like you're going to miss out
00:04:37
on something valuable if you don't act
00:04:39
quickly you'll often see this in
00:04:41
marketing limited time offer or only two
00:04:44
left in stock it creates a sense of
00:04:46
urgency making you feel like you need to
00:04:48
act now even if you're not fully sure
00:04:51
about the decision 12 emotional
00:04:53
blackmail emotional blackmail involves
00:04:55
using your emotions against you to force
00:04:57
you into doing something the manipulator
00:04:59
will make you feel guilty fearful or
00:05:02
anxious to get what they want they might
00:05:03
say something like if you really loved
00:05:05
me you do this for me or after
00:05:08
everything I've done for you this is how
00:05:10
you repay me it's a manipulative tactic
00:05:13
designed to make you act out of fear of
00:05:15
losing their approval or affection 13
00:05:18
fake concern this one's tricky because
00:05:20
it seems like the person genuinely cares
00:05:22
about you they'll Express concern over
00:05:24
your decisions or actions but it's
00:05:26
really just a way to control you they
00:05:27
might say I'm only telling you this
00:05:29
because I care about you but their real
00:05:31
motive is to manipulate your choices
00:05:33
under the guise of concern 14 blame
00:05:36
shifting blame shifting is when someone
00:05:38
Dodges responsibility by putting the
00:05:40
blame on someone else often on you you
00:05:42
could confront them about a mistake and
00:05:44
instead of owning up to it they'll say
00:05:46
well you made me do it or if you hadn't
00:05:48
done that I wouldn't have had to do this
00:05:50
they turned the tables so quickly that
00:05:52
suddenly you're the one apologizing even
00:05:55
though it wasn't your fault in the first
00:05:57
place 15 playing the victim this tactic
00:06:00
is used to gain sympathy and deflect
00:06:02
criticism the manipulator will make
00:06:04
themselves look helpless or
00:06:06
misunderstood to avoid taking
00:06:07
accountability you'll hear lines like
00:06:09
everyone is always against me or you
00:06:11
don't know what I'm going through this
00:06:13
makes you feel bad for them and instead
00:06:15
of focusing on the issue at hand you'll
00:06:17
rush to comfort them 16 negative
00:06:20
reinforcement unlike positive
00:06:22
reinforcement rewarding good behavior
00:06:24
negative reinforcement involves removing
00:06:26
something unpleasant to encourage a
00:06:28
specific behavior for instance a boss
00:06:30
might reduce your workload only after
00:06:32
you've agreed to work overtime it feels
00:06:34
like they're doing you a favor but in
00:06:36
reality they're pushing you to do more
00:06:38
by dangling relief in front of you 17
00:06:41
passive aggression passive aggression is
00:06:43
indirect hostility instead of
00:06:45
confronting an issue directly the
00:06:47
manipulator will Express their anger or
00:06:49
frustration through sarcasm backhanded
00:06:52
compliments or silent sabotage for
00:06:54
example they might say oh don't worry
00:06:56
about it you're the expert when they
00:06:58
really mean the opposite it's a way to
00:07:00
criticize without appearing openly
00:07:02
aggressive leaving you confused about
00:07:04
their true intentions 18 love withdrawal
00:07:07
this is a powerful emotional
00:07:09
manipulation where the person threatens
00:07:11
to withdraw love affection or attention
00:07:14
if you don't comply with their demands
00:07:16
this tactic plays on your fear of
00:07:18
Abandonment or rejection forcing you to
00:07:20
meet their demands to keep the
00:07:22
relationship intact 19 false promises
00:07:25
false promises involve making you think
00:07:27
you're going to get something valuable
00:07:29
but it's all a lie a person might
00:07:30
promise you a raise promotion or reward
00:07:33
in the future if you work extra hard
00:07:35
right now but when the time comes they
00:07:37
always have an excuse for why it hasn't
00:07:40
happened yet it keeps you putting in
00:07:41
effort while they never deliver 20
00:07:44
isolating this technique is all about
00:07:46
cutting you off from your support
00:07:47
network the manipulator doesn't want
00:07:49
other people influencing you or giving
00:07:51
you advice so they'll slowly isolate you
00:07:54
from friends and family they might say
00:07:55
things like those people aren't good for
00:07:57
you or why do you need them when you
00:07:59
have me the goal is to make you
00:08:00
dependent on them for everything so
00:08:02
you're easier to control 21 fear
00:08:04
mongering fear mongering is when someone
00:08:07
uses fear to manipulate your decisions
00:08:09
they'll exaggerate potential dangers or
00:08:11
Consequences to make you feel unsafe or
00:08:13
insecure you'll hear lines like if you
00:08:15
don't do this your life will fall apart
00:08:18
or everyone else is doing this and if
00:08:20
you don't you'll be left behind the
00:08:21
tactic creates anxiety and forces you to
00:08:24
follow their lead because they've
00:08:25
convinced you that something terrible
00:08:27
will happen otherwise 22 future F future
00:08:30
faking is when someone makes Grand plans
00:08:32
for the future to get what they want
00:08:34
from you now they'll talk about how
00:08:35
great things will be if you stay with
00:08:37
them or how you'll build an amazing life
00:08:39
together only to Never follow through
00:08:41
it's about giving you false hope to keep
00:08:43
you invested in the relationship or
00:08:45
situation even though they have no
00:08:47
intention of making those promises come
00:08:49
true 23rd stonewalling stonewalling is
00:08:53
when the person refuses to engage in a
00:08:55
conversation or acknowledge the issue at
00:08:57
all they'll say I don't want to talk
00:08:59
about about this right now or give you
00:09:00
the silent treatment leaving you
00:09:02
frustrated and unheard by shutting down
00:09:05
communication they avoid being held
00:09:06
accountable for their actions and force
00:09:08
you to either drop the issue or keep
00:09:10
pushing making you look unreasonable 24
00:09:13
triangulation in relations in
00:09:15
triangulation a third person is brought
00:09:17
into the situation to create jealousy
00:09:19
competition or insecurity this tactic is
00:09:22
commonly used in romantic relationships
00:09:24
where the manipulator might flirt with
00:09:26
someone else or talk about how great
00:09:28
someone else is just to make you feel
00:09:30
inadequate or anxious it keeps you on
00:09:31
edge and makes you work harder to win
00:09:33
their approval 25 false comparisons a
00:09:36
manipulator will often compare you to
00:09:38
others to make you feel less worthy or
00:09:40
capable they might say why can't you be
00:09:42
more like someone else or soand so would
00:09:44
never do this the goal is to make you
00:09:46
feel inadequate so that you'll try
00:09:48
harder to meet their expectations even
00:09:51
though the comparison is completely
00:09:53
unfair or unrealistic 26 double bind a
00:09:56
double bind is a situation where no
00:09:58
matter what you do you're wrong the
00:10:00
manipulator will set up two conflicting
00:10:02
demands or conditions so whichever
00:10:04
choice you make you lose for example
00:10:06
they might say you never spend time with
00:10:08
me but when you do they complain why are
00:10:10
you always around don't you have
00:10:12
anything better to do it creates a no-
00:10:14
win scenario that leaves you feeling
00:10:16
frustrated and trapped 27 moving the
00:10:18
goal posts this tactic is all about
00:10:21
constantly changing the standards or
00:10:23
expectations so you can never succeed
00:10:25
you might meet their demands one day but
00:10:27
the next day they'll say it's not enough
00:10:29
enough and you have to do even more it's
00:10:31
a NeverEnding cycle of trying to please
00:10:33
someone who keeps shifting what success
00:10:35
or approval looks like 28th preemptive
00:10:39
defense in this strategy the manipulator
00:10:41
will defend themselves before you even
00:10:43
accuse them of anything they'll say
00:10:45
something like I know you're going to
00:10:46
think I did this on purpose but I didn't
00:10:49
or I'm sure you're going to blame me but
00:10:51
it's not my fault this tactic is
00:10:53
designed to shut down any criticism
00:10:55
before it even Begins by making you feel
00:10:58
like you can't breing up the issue
00:11:00
without looking unreasonable 29 playing
00:11:02
dumb when someone plays dumb they
00:11:05
pretend not to understand what you're
00:11:06
talking about to avoid accountability or
00:11:09
taking action you'll explain something
00:11:11
clearly but they'll say I don't get it
00:11:13
or what do you mean I didn't know I was
00:11:15
supposed to do that it's a tactic to
00:11:17
delay frustrate or confuse you into
00:11:20
dropping the issue altogether 30 bait
00:11:22
and switch this tactic starts with the
00:11:24
manipulator offering something appealing
00:11:26
but once you're hooked they change the
00:11:28
terms of the deal for instance they
00:11:31
might offer you a job with a great
00:11:32
salary but after you accept they reduce
00:11:35
the pay or increase the workload by then
00:11:38
you're already committed and it's harder
00:11:40
for you to back out without facing
00:11:42
consequences 302nd minimizing this is
00:11:45
when the manipulator downplays your
00:11:47
feelings or concerns you might Express
00:11:49
that something upset you and they'll
00:11:51
respond with you're overreacting or it's
00:11:55
not a big deal this tactic makes you
00:11:57
feel like your emotions are invalid or
00:11:59
unimportant forcing you to question
00:12:01
whether you're being reasonable when you
00:12:03
probably are 33rd feigned helplessness
00:12:05
feigned helplessness is when someone
00:12:08
pretends to be incapable or clueless to
00:12:11
get you to do something for them they'll
00:12:12
say I don't know how to do this or I'm
00:12:14
so bad at this so you'll take over and
00:12:17
handle things for them it's a way of
00:12:19
manipulating others into doing their
00:12:20
work or responsibilities while they
00:12:22
appear innocent or overwhelmed 34
00:12:25
overloading with information information
00:12:27
dump in this technique the manipulator
00:12:30
overwhelms you with so much information
00:12:32
data or unnecessary details that it
00:12:35
becomes difficult to focus on the actual
00:12:37
issue they'll bury you under irrelevant
00:12:39
facts and figures making you feel lost
00:12:42
or confused so they can slip in
00:12:44
something they want without you noticing
00:12:46
35 sympathy Ploy this is when someone
00:12:49
deliberately uses their struggles or
00:12:51
past trauma to gain your sympathy and
00:12:53
manipulate your actions they might
00:12:55
constantly bring up how hard their life
00:12:57
has been so you'll go easy on them or
00:13:00
Overlook their faults they play the woe
00:13:02
is me card to make you feel guilty if
00:13:05
you confront them 36 pretending to
00:13:07
forget the manipulator will forget
00:13:09
things conveniently to avoid
00:13:11
responsibility you might remind them of
00:13:13
something they promis to do and they'll
00:13:15
respond with oh I totally forgot about
00:13:17
that or that slipped my mind they use
00:13:20
this tactic to get out of obligations
00:13:22
without looking like they're
00:13:23
intentionally neglecting you 37
00:13:26
selective truth telling selective truth
00:13:28
telling is when someone shares parts of
00:13:31
the truth but leaves out key details to
00:13:33
mislead you they'll tell you enough to
00:13:35
seem honest but they strategically omit
00:13:37
information that would change your
00:13:39
perspective this creates a false sense
00:13:41
of transparency while still manipulating
00:13:43
The Narrative 38 playing the Savior this
00:13:47
tactic involves someone swooping in to
00:13:49
save the day often from a problem they
00:13:51
created in the first place they'll mess
00:13:53
things up behind the scenes and then act
00:13:55
like the hero when they fix it this
00:13:57
boosts their importance in your ey
00:13:59
making you feel indebted to them and
00:14:01
more reliant on their help in the future
00:14:03
39 using silence as punishment silent
00:14:06
treatment is when the manipulator
00:14:08
deliberately ignores you or refuses to
00:14:11
communicate for extended periods as a
00:14:13
form of punishment it's not just about
00:14:15
being quiet it's about making you feel
00:14:17
anxious and desperate for their
00:14:19
attention you'll start wondering what
00:14:21
you did wrong and may bend over backward
00:14:23
to please them just to break the silence
00:14:26
fourth black and white thinking this
00:14:28
technique involves presenting a
00:14:29
situation as an either or Choice with no
00:14:32
room for middle ground for example they
00:14:34
might say either you're with me or
00:14:36
you're against me or if you don't do
00:14:38
this then you must not care about me it
00:14:40
forces you into a corner where any
00:14:42
decision that isn't in their favor seems
00:14:44
wrong or disloyal so there you have it
00:14:47
powerful manipulation techniques that
00:14:49
people use every day whether it's in
00:14:51
relationships at work or even in casual
00:14:53
conversations knowing these tactics
00:14:56
gives you the upper hand remember the
00:14:58
goal here isn't is n to manipulate
00:14:59
others but to protect yourself from
00:15:01
falling into someone else's trap a video
00:15:04
on flattery and playing dumb is already
00:15:06
up on my channel go check it out before
00:15:08
it's too late you don't want to miss how
00:15:10
these tactics can be used to influence
00:15:12
and control others watch it now and
00:15:14
level up your psychological game if you
00:15:16
found this video helpful make sure to
00:15:18
hit that like button and share your
00:15:20
thoughts in the comments let me know
00:15:22
which techniqu stood out to you the most
00:15:24
or if you've ever experienced any of
00:15:26
them firsthand and as always subscribe
00:15:30
if you want more insights into
00:15:31
psychology self-improvement and
00:15:34
mastering the art of influence
