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care of the husband and cook and clean
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and all that so even for me I I didn't
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even notice as I made the
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switch you are the Plus for a man and
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the plus will always remain with you if
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you be sing
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something that you have to deal with
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which is the loneliness that you have to
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deal with your heart yourself that's
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what we should sing the song flower from
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maricas you know I can buy myself flower
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because that song exactly in this case
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yeah I think that's the meaning of I can
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love me more than you to correct and
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that's something you should practice you
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love yourself more than any guy did you
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realize that she even for Miley SRA she
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became so popular after she broke up is
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see
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come on it is not yeah it is not like
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for a joke you know it is no because as
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women naturally maybe it's in our
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character I don't know whether it's in
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our character or sometimes I think about
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it I don't know whether it's your
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character or the social thing and wait
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two second before say I'm not saying it
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so you guys can leave your husband or
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something no I am married please okay
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decision is not based not like what is
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it called you take what is it what what
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what do you mean disclaimer disclaimer
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yeah this is a disclaimer we're not
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telling you to divorce your husbands to
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boyfriend to leave your boyfriends but
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we are saying that this is what is it
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like in ch Chinese
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metaphysics and you can and I make a
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decision yeah you can decide and the end
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will be our test subject she will test
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it for us let's use me for the next how
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long you want to project two year
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project two years ma right huh K was two
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years so this two years now yes correct
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I think at least one year okay let's
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let's make it confirmation make it make
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exactly three years three years because
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I promise
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my promise you I my order Mentor for the
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next seven years um I I'm not allowed to
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boom boom anyone so look like shop is
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closed it's okay I'm good I figured out
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what burn my energy BJJ and gim uh and
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toys yeah no no I don't even think I
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should use toy or no I'm not sure maybe
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you can ask the
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master toys not counted I didn't ask her
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that next time item yeah I will ask her
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I will ask her if she allow you should
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you should ask be CLE ask am I allowed
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for masturbating yeah you should be
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clear you need to be clear I need to be
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clear yeah I ask okay let's get back so
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now the need to share about her her side
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just now she want to say something that
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I cut her
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forgot talk about the the you you want
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to say about woman something oh yeah we
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were talking about disclaimer right I
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think yeah I I was I was very curious
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about this even for myself right when
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when I got married I realized I started
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to take a more feminine energy it makes
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sense like around the house more I take
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out the house correct and all that and
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it's very weird because I do not know
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whether a it is just our character or B
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it is like social conditioning because
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socially uh in normal in straight
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relationships usually the females are
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the ones that will take care of the
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house and and etc etc right and take
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care of the husband and cook and clean
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and all that so even for me I I didn't
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even notice as I made the switch until
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later on when I it became too much for
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me to do everything Plus work so and
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then I I I broke down that I like why
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can't ask for help from my husband when
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he is he is willing and open to help I
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was like I don't know whether is just
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natural women or just social
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conditioning but for most women if you
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um married or together with a boyfriend
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look at yourself before you got together
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and after did you become more submissive
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do you become softer do you become not
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saying you change a new person but just
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you became a softer more feminine uh
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version of you and you you started to
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put your partner okay I'm not saying you
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put your partner at the center of
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everything you do but you started to
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prioritize your partner yes and over
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time this is the happiness become more
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important than yours yes and over time
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this is my own personal experience I
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don't know about you guys but over time
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my husband became more and more of a
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priority so it has to become a very
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conscious choice where is my boundary
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I'm say I don't love my husband I do I
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like him very much and he and I'm a
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priority for him also but I need to
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understand at what point do I need at
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certain situations I need to put myself
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first in certain decisions I need to put
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myself first Yeah by all you to really
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take a look at I mean you listen to our
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talk like that but you also look at your
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own character before and after you got
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together with something seriously I'm
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not talking about like friends with
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benefits or like fun fun type but like
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serious serious you would know what I
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mean that's what they say girl who like
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have do the job of
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the we talking about the boom boom job
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right always talk about girl who young
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who play a lot you see they tend to age
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faster
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quicker okay you guys will say is me no
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woman should marry I don't agree with
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that because I also have a lot of female
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friend remember our friend who are
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married rich guy oh no rich guy but I
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married yeah but they are blooming
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because this they had to be in the Yang
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of the relationship and guy and and the
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man was very very much taking care of
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them loyalty to them support you them
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become like a flower correct so it's it
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is but also they happy with the choice
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you see you have to choose you have to
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really happy to be a submissive because
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I'm very sure I'm not right I'm too much
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um I'm question everything she's loud
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she's question everything she wants to
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see Excel spreadsheets correct she need
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data um if you tell me you're thinking
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you better have some kind of supporting
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evidence yeah you ask me am I wish to be
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a normal woman yes I wish every second
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it's but it's
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my past who already told me I'm not okay
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so I will blame the
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past so convenient right so con every
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time tell me
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something like that one what do you want
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me to do yeah my part is why you so L my
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part is very
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loud why you so demanding my part is
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demanding so
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convenient a choice and some people they
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are happy to take a supporting role yes
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because for people like me I would love
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someone that support me but at the same
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time you cannot because if you want
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someone to support you have to listen to
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the person right but you cannot yeah you
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no I happy would I have the
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M I'll listen to you or you listen to
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listen is is what like take order yeah
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yeah yeah no I don't need people to take
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order from me no it's like uh you take
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order from
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people be leader is you serve everyone
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one W that's true you wear at yourself
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one every everybody come to you is want
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a piece of you want your time want your
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information want your energy your energy
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because I can pick myself up again you
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know again and again again so that's my
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power but some people they don't have it
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then you have to help outside sauce
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correct so I don't need anything from
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people what that's true I'm actually she
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she self sustainable I'm an ecosystem
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for myself for yourself yeah why you why
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you so self-sufficient my say
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so what you soop my P say so you got
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problem what can I do I my P
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sorry everything my B sorry it's very
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convenient oh but she you cannot it's
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just like it's it's the same as asking
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me to be as forceful as her yeah it's
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just it will not work yeah like ask her
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to be as Buell as me it so work I cannot
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I'm TR I'm true it's not I don't want to
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no you just look at a tattoo she has was
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a tattoo you want know H is like eag
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lion tiger Phoenix it's like
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flower
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flower and H's like over here here here
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like here
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flower yeah so you know now I'm curious
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okay let's you check chib oh and let's
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book our P together share and subscribe
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and we will see you guys at the next
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episode of spy and I am and the SP ni
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bye by
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