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hi guys episode of spice and nice I am
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man that's SP and
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nice strengths and Witnesses are
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subjective yeah it really depends on the
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situation and how it can be a strength
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or it can become a w weakness in a
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certain situation and then and then
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maybe after that we can have a bigger
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conversation once you know what your
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strengths and weaknesses are or rather
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what your character traits are you need
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to find somebody with that complimentary
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character so like for example maybe if
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the two of us were to go to a networking
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session together oh I will do the the
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talking because that's what my strengths
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are I just sit behind she will sit
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behind eat the pickle and I'll pass out
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the contact she will do some Excel which
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is what her favorite is some Excel uh
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with the character uh character trait
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inside there character yeah so this is
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what she's good at if let's say like for
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for example this YouTube
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channel she has how many consistency so
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in this case her
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determination works better for us it
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helps to pull me along as well so it's
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really about how it's is about self-
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awareness and then how we can come
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together right I I cannot have the the
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fun like this like she can create fun
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all the time but this is an issue you
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know okay this okay this is something
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that okay you know my husband is a very
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serious person oh yeah he's just like
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you he's a prefer he just like me but in
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the male version yeah he just he prefer
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the Excel he doesn't do excel he does
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coding first he prefer structure
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everything is a step by step the process
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right and then I'm just all around the
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place so my my good thing is that
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wherever I am I can make friends and I
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can have fun even by myself you have a
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daughter you understand yeah my God tell
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me about that you leave her alone with
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nothing she also can have fun sometime I
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feel bad by myself like is she Lonely no
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you know I really ask myself is she
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lonely she talk to herself she having
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fun don't disturb her yeah did she
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really have fun by herself yeah of
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course so but this is she like to be
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alone like that or no if she doesn't
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want to be alone she'll come and find
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you sometimes she run to me and she just
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jump on my body and say Mommy I love you
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so much yeah that's when she needs some
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content and then when she done just
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touch touch a she run away again when
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she's done she's like okay I'm done with
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you then she go alone herself again and
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then suddenly she jump to me again so
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this is this is this is what happens but
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the thing about it is that sometimes
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when it comes to
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how people view me like how my husband
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view me uh in Chinese we have a we have
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four letters saying called it means that
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you are not a serious person you do
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everything not seriously and to him it
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is a major minus one because he is a
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very serious person right now I have two
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at home tell me about that so sometimes
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he look at me and and he will be like
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why are you so like like so all over the
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place so not serious ious about what
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you're doing and sometimes it affects
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how he responds or reacts to me in
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certain situations okay because he in
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his mindset I'm already this not serious
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child that is just bouncing around from
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place to place so this is when it can
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become a weakness for there's something
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else we talk about adaptability right so
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when something bad happens it's very
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easy for me to just like okay you know
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what yeah uh they adapt better yeah like
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like like what is the point of me being
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sad about this what is the point of me
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uh being angry with myself does it
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achieve anything yeah no it doesn't so
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what can we do look at what's going on
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where we can do better and then okay
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let's just forget it and let's move on
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if you need to cry cry you need to
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scream and shout you go to Corner Scream
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and Shout okay done with it then we move
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on so that one's adaptability yeah right
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but in certain areas certain situations
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it's very easy for me to give up right
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because sometimes suddenly I'm doing
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something then suddenly something
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happens
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and then I'll be like oh maybe I should
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change my direction yeah because that's
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my adaptability talking also yeah so
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that that's when it becomes a weakness
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yeah when I should stick to it so I
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think just now because we say the word
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weakness it make me also think of like
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oh I I feel like it's not a weakness
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where I have the strength so now I think
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it because I just look at the title
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again actually we talk about why it fail
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us because it talk about fail I have my
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story of why Det amation so what is fair
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you so I guess particular situation will
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be last time I used to be uh uh service
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or is a little bit like a there a little
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bit of sales component for anybody who
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has done sales before you know that
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tenacity is required you need to keep on
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hounding the clients sometimes because
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some clients they are just so busy they
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have no time for you right whatever you
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are selling them is not as important as
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their daily business or whatever it is
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they're doing right y so you have to
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keep on being persistent and because of
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this adaptability right I like oh today
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not then I call tomorrow H you not fa
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mind forget it you know what I mean so
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so it has it has yeah it has affected me
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in that way also it's just like a like a
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very superficial and uh sometimes last
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time when I was younger I didn't
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understand myself as much when I wasn't
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away I would beat myself up all the time
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I like why especially because because I
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grew up in a family uh where my my my
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mom and my sister are very they Earth
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signs right so they are very fixed and
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they're very serious people they're like
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stepbystep people right and I will ask
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myself why I cannot stick to the plan
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yeah why am I so like a child why so
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childish why I haven't grew up yet I'm
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an adult now shouldn't I be able to
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stick to the plan once is the plan I
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should stick to it why do I keep
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changing my mind why am I so
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inconsistent St and this was the
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narrative that I would beat myself up
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with because of that adaptability so you
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see it can be adaptable it can be easy
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to give up or easily distract okay so
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that so that is when my strength filled
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me I feel it filled me but also because
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I wasn't in the right situation yeah if
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I am in a space where my strength can be
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used as a strength then it will become a
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strength it's just a character train
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yeah I think my strength is fair me
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obvious because now I use the word fail
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is more makes sense than weakness
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because I don't think it's weakness for
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me for my from from my last marriage
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that's is called my fail it's called my
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character because you stuck with it for
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too long correct this is an issue with I
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think almost every Earth sign yeah
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because it's like it's come from it come
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to the day that you have to make hope
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and dream that you can make it work
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right for you you're just leaving on
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hopes and dreams yeah because you try
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everything you could to fix something
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because you you think that is your job
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because that's like you know I I always
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joke that I hate upside I don't want to
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leave it upside because I'm one of them
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right and for me up to now I tell you
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only countless upside can survive with
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me you know for example one of my team
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member my my left and my right hand one
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is earthside I think he's a rare one
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that survived as the earth side beside
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me and and so do I in his life I think
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I'm the only up side he been working so
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far you because he has learned to be
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easy going when it is necessary correct
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so it's very tough when you in the I I
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call earth side people is like theer
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Vision it's mean you only see like this
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that's it life is like this and it like
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this right and it can be toxic and
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negative when you married or dat or work
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or stay with parent or kid or children
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or even your own self that negativity
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and toxicity think about it when you
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walk in the tunel and only oxygen you
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smell is toxic you suck every day and
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you get used to it and you think it's
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normal but actually you die yeah I'm
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talking I'm talking that's like visual
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for you to understand I've been there
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right I mean the toxic Merit and I'm
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denying it and right now even I'm share
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about this I don't care people throw
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Stone on me about bad about my ex or
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whatever I'm just bring my story to say
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that I admit that I been married and
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stay with a wrong
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person okay not make me better than him
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or not I'm just saying I'm wrong too
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right I choose to be with him of course
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it's my fault too you know I'm not
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saying like oh it's just only his fault
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I say it's my fault too because I should
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let him go long time ago I should don't
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try to make it work I should don't force
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myself in that situation I should don't
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force him in into that situation I
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should Don't Force us into that
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situation fix someone I can try to make
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to be a better person so that is the
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fail me in my strength so you see in
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this situation your character tra is not
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give up yeah right so in this situation
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her not give up is not working for her
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correct it's a y right it's bad but
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of course certain times when it's like
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business or like certain opportunities
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then it's wor for you yeah because
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you're not give up yeah it's the same
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this is the same issue that I see a lot
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with my husband when something is
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very bad he he sticks it out for way far
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too long too long yeah like sometimes
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like maybe certain things was happening
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and then it's been three years and I
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told him that you need to move on you
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cannot continue this and then he was
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like okay I will give you another few
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months and then another few months
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passed then a year passed another and
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then suddenly it's been five years in
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that same situation and then he was like
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oh I think I should leave I was like did
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I not tell you this two years ago and
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then after he was like I wasted five
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years of my time I said yeah you change
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now no more waiting a few months so so
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it's so it's like that do not give up
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it's a character trait it's a strength
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but it's a it's a it's a fail fail yeah
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it's a f and we will see you guys at the
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next episode of spy and I am and the spy
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den bye
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