5 Days to Your Best Year Ever - DAY 2

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6UQ-W935OBo

Résumé

TLDRIn this video, the speaker discusses the importance of confronting the past to facilitate personal growth and happiness. Drawing insights from a conversation in the movie "Rudy," the speaker outlines a three-step method: acknowledge past events, learn from them, and adjust future behaviors. To aid in this process, the speaker presents seven reflective questions designed to help viewers evaluate their previous year, identify key themes and accomplishments, confront disappointments, and draw valuable life lessons. This exercise aims to clear emotional baggage, enabling individuals to move forward with a focus on setting effective goals for the future.

A retenir

  • 💭 Acknowledge your past to move forward.
  • 📚 Learn from experiences to prevent repeating mistakes.
  • 🔄 Adjust behaviors for better future outcomes.
  • 🎬 Reflect on last year like it’s a movie.
  • 💪 Identify what you accomplished and are proud of.
  • ❗ Recognize regrets to prevent them from holding you back.
  • 🔍 Determine what was missing from your past year.
  • 📝 Extract meaningful life lessons from your experiences.

Chronologie

  • 00:00:00 - 00:08:46

    In the second day of the program, the speaker emphasizes the importance of personal breakthroughs by pushing beyond one's comfort zone for happiness, growth, fear conquering, and inspiring others. The focus then shifts to dealing with the past, highlighting the need to complete past experiences rather than dragging them into the future. A significant dialogue from a film illustrates regret and the value of self-acknowledgment. To effectively process the past, the speaker introduces a method akin to the U.S. Army's 'after action review,' which includes acknowledging what happened, learning from experiences, and adjusting future behaviors accordingly. Participants are encouraged to answer seven reflective questions in their study guide to foster this processing, such as identifying the past year’s themes and lessons learned. The day concludes by stressing the importance of emotional processing to ensure a productive move into the future, setting the stage for the next session on goal setting.

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Vidéo Q&R

  • Why is it important to deal with the past?

    Dealing with the past is crucial for personal growth, happiness, overcoming fears, and inspiring others.

  • What is the three-element process mentioned in the video?

    The process involves acknowledging what happened, learning from the experience, and adjusting behavior accordingly.

  • What type of questions should I ask myself to process the past?

    You should ask questions about the past year's genre, major themes, accomplishments, unrecognized efforts, regrets, missing elements, and life lessons.

  • How does acknowledging past experiences help?

    Acknowledging experiences helps to confront and understand them, allowing for healing and preventing them from negatively impacting the future.

  • What can help in setting goals for the future?

    Completing the past ensures you have a clear mindset to set smart goals.

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    i'm ready to make a change i want to
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    make more money i want to get healthy i
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    want to start a business i want to spend
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    more time with my family
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    welcome to day two yesterday we talked
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    about the importance of creating
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    breakthroughs and the importance of
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    getting out of your comfort zone we said
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    that's important for four reasons first
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    of all it's important if you want to
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    experience happiness second it's
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    important if you want to grow as a
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    person
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    third it's important if you want to if
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    you want to conquer your fear and fourth
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    it's important if you want to inspire
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    others
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    but today we want to turn a corner and
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    talk about the importance of dealing
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    with the past and i want to give you a
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    process for completing the past so that
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    you're not dragging it into the future
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    it's a little bit like the conversation
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    between rudy and the janitor
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    hey hey hey
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    what you doing here don't you have
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    practice
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    not anymore i quit
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    oh
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    well since when are you the quitting
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    kind
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    i don't know i just don't see the point
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    anymore so you didn't make the dress
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    list
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    there are greater tragedies in the world
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    i wanted to run out of that tunnel for
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    my dad
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    to prove to everybody
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    what
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    that i was somebody oh you are so full
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    of crap
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    you're five feet nothing
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    a hundred and nothing
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    and you got hardly a speck of athletic
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    ability and you hung in with the best
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    college football team in the land for
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    two years
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    and you're also going to walk out of
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    here with a degree from the university
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    of notre dame
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    in this lifetime you don't have to prove
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    nothing to nobody except yourself
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    and after what you've gone through if
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    you haven't done that by now
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    it ain't gonna never happen
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    now go on back
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    i'm sorry i never got you to see your
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    first game in here
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    i've seen too many games in this stadium
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    i thought you said you never saw it i've
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    never seen a game from the stands
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    you were a player
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    i rode the bench for two years
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    thought i wasn't being played because of
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    my color i got filled up with a lot of
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    attitude
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    so i quit
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    still not a week goes by i don't regret
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    it
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    and i guarantee a week won't go by in
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    your life you won't regret walking out
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    letting them get the best of you
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    you hear me clear enough
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    you and i both know people like the
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    janitor who lives with a lot of regrets
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    kind of stuck in the realm of coulda
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    woulda shoulda you know where you wish
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    things could have been different wished
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    you had taken different actions and that
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    can really get you hung up and stuck and
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    keep you from making forward momentum
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    into the future and i don't want that to
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    happen to you not if you're going to
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    have your best year ever you've got to
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    do business with the past you've got to
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    put it to rest you've got to complete it
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    now the us army has a process that they
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    go through
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    that they call the
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    after action review and it consists of
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    three elements and it's really a good
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    process for you and i to use as we deal
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    with last year and as we get complete
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    with last year element number one
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    is
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    to acknowledge what happened you know we
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    can't ignore it we can't pretend it
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    didn't happen we can't gloss over it
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    we've got to acknowledge it if there was
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    a breakdown if there was a failure then
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    we just got to acknowledge it and be
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    honest with it element number two is we
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    got to learn from the experience
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    you know several years ago i went
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    through a horrendous business failure it
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    was 1991 i had a business that i loved
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    and the business grew too fast and the
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    business failed in fact
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    we were so broke that we couldn't even
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    declare bankruptcy because all of our
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    assets were pledged but it was
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    humiliating it was embarrassing it was
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    one of those experiences that i would
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    never want to relive but that i also
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    would never trade because i learned so
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    much that has served me well in the
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    years since that experience so we've got
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    to be able to learn from the experience
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    then the third element in processing our
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    past and making sure that we complete it
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    is to adjust our behavior accordingly
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    you know if nothing ever changes if all
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    you do is acknowledge it and if all you
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    do is learn from the experience but you
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    don't really adjust your behavior you
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    really haven't learned from it and
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    you're going to be dragging the past
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    right into the future i don't want that
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    to happen to you and that's why you've
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    got to go through these three elements
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    if you're going to complete the past
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    so let's move now to the action plan and
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    for this session this is the most
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    important part and i want to ask you to
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    ask yourself a series of seven questions
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    and to answer those in your study guide
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    so pin out study guide at the ready
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    let's go question number one if the last
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    year were a movie of your life
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    what would the genre be drama romance
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    adventure comedy tragedy or both here's
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    some possible examples one of my friends
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    who lost his son simply said tragedy
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    another who got engaged and married said
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    romance another one of my friends said
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    he experienced a great misfortune one
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    after another and said comedy in fact it
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    was slapstick so that's the first
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    question
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    second question what were the two or
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    three major themes that kept recurring
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    now these can be single words or phrases
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    for me this last year it was deeply
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    moving times with family and friends
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    another theme making difficult decisions
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    in the face of the economic crisis or
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    another one learning to get along with
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    less and enjoying it more
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    third question
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    what did you accomplish this past year
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    that you were the most proud of these
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    could be any kinds of things like
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    running a half marathon which is
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    something i did a couple of years ago or
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    cutting your company's expenses in order
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    to meet the challenges of the economy or
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    having a book hit the best seller list
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    it could be anything that you were the
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    most proud of
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    fourth question
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    what did you feel that you should have
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    been acknowledged for
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    but weren't you know these are the
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    things that that we wish the boss would
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    have noticed or our spouse would have
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    noticed but they just weren't
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    things like for example working two jobs
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    as a single mom in order to feed your
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    family or never giving up on your
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    marriage not giving up on your marriage
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    when it would have been frankly easier
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    to quit or making time to work out even
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    when you wanted to sleep in
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    fourth question or fifth question
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    what disappointments or regrets did you
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    experience this past year
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    you know we naturally have high
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    expectations of ourselves and there are
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    probably things that we had hoped would
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    happen but they just didn't happen and
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    it's okay to acknowledge those and to
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    list those out in fact it's important in
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    the process of completing them
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    number six
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    what was missing from this last year as
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    you look back
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    again look at the major areas of your
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    life for example more time spent on
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    strategic planning or more time spent
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    with your spouse or more time spent with
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    your kids or more books that you wished
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    you could have read these are the things
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    that are missing go ahead and write
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    those down
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    number seven what were the major life
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    lessons that you learned this past year
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    try to distill them into short pithy
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    statements for example here's one that i
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    had from a couple of years ago there
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    comes a point in every experience when
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    i'm too far in to quit but almost
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    certain i can't finish if i keep moving
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    forward i'll eventually get to the other
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    side that was a life lesson an important
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    one that's still serving me to this day
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    or here's another one don't overthink
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    the outcome just do the next right thing
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    the important thing is to complete the
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    past to work through these exercises to
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    process it not only intellectually but
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    also emotionally when you do this you
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    clear up the past so you don't get stuck
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    in it so that you can move on to the
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    future
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    that's really all we have for day two
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    day three we're going to move into this
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    important area of setting smart goals
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    see you then
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    i'm ready to make a change i want to
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    make more money i want to get healthy i
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    want to start a business i want to spend
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    more time with my family
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    you
Tags
  • personal growth
  • reflective questions
  • past experiences
  • goal setting
  • self-improvement
  • Rudy
  • after action review
  • dealing with regrets
  • learning
  • life lessons