Why Girls HATE Nice Guys & LOVE Bad Boys

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVwoTj9E6XU

Résumé

TLDRThe video elucidates the psychological tricks bad boys use to attract women, contrasting them with the ineffective behaviors of nice guys. Key points include the importance of avoiding fake niceness, being outcome indifferent, using playful teasing, and maintaining confidence. The speaker highlights the significance of assumptive language and the necessity of taking the lead in dating scenarios. He encourages men to flip the validation dynamic by granting it rather than seeking it, and to avoid constant questioning that can undermine attraction. Ultimately, it provides practical advice for men seeking to enhance their dating lives through psychological techniques.

A retenir

  • 🚫 Avoid the fake nice trap: Fake niceness repels women.
  • 💪 Cultivate outcome indifference: Be relaxed about outcomes.
  • 😄 Use gentle disapproval: Create tension and engagement.
  • 🎯 Employ assumptive language: Signal confidence and high status.
  • 📅 Take charge in planning: Lead the date logistics yourself.
  • 💖 Grant validation: Flip the power dynamic in your favor.
  • ❓ Use statements, not questions: Avoid seeking approval.
  • 🗣️ Don't filter yourself: Trust your instincts in conversation.
  • 👉 Create emotional peaks: Use playful teasing to engage.
  • 📱 Master texting: It's crucial for setting up successful dates.

Chronologie

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The video discusses how psychological loopholes lead women to favor 'bad boys' over 'nice guys.' It emphasizes that 'nice guys' often embody fake niceness, attempting to earn attraction through compliance, while 'bad boys' showcase confidence and outcome indifference, heightening their appeal. For example, 'bad boys' complement women assertively and use body language to effectively communicate intent, setting them apart from 'nice guys' who remain overly agreeable and stagnant in conversation.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:13:03

    The video continues by highlighting the importance of emotional dynamics in conversations, particularly through playful teasing and gentle disapproval to create attraction. Successful approaches involve reframing objections, using assumptive language to indicate desirability, and providing direction in dating scenarios. They emphasize the importance of not seeking validation and making bold statements to reinforce leadership, ultimately reshaping interactions to enhance attraction and engagement.

Carte mentale

Vidéo Q&R

  • Why do girls prefer bad boys over nice guys?

    Girls find bad boys attractive due to their confidence, unpredictability, and emotional engagement.

  • What is the 'fake nice' trap?

    The fake nice trap is when men pretend to be nice to gain a woman's interest, leading to women being repulsed.

  • How can I avoid being boring on dates?

    Use playful teasing and gentle disapproval to create engaging conversations and emotional peaks.

  • What is the significance of assumptive language?

    Assumptive language signals confidence and implies social proof, making you appear more attractive.

  • How should I plan a date?

    Take the lead by suggesting a place and time instead of asking the girl where she wants to go.

  • What is the difference between seeking validation and granting it?

    Seeking validation shows insecurity, while granting validation positions you as the prize, enhancing attraction.

  • What should I do if a girl rejects my advances?

    Maintain your composure and don't take rejection seriously; use it as an opportunity to learn.

  • How can I develop bad boy traits?

    Focus on building confidence, being outcome indifferent, and practicing playful communication.

  • What is 'gentle disapproval'?

    It's a playful critique that creates tension and engagement in the conversation.

  • Why is texting important in dating?

    Texting is crucial for setting up dates and maintaining attraction through clear communication.

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    there are 10 psychological loopholes bad
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    boys exploit to get women obsessed But
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    99% of men don't even know they exist
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    And in this video I'm going to break
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    down why girls hate nice guys and love
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    bad boys and show you multiple examples
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    of exactly how I use these hidden
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    loopholes in real life conversations so
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    you can steal them for yourself and
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    start getting reactions like this Do you
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    have Instagram or something yeah sure
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    What are you doing tonight and the first
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    loophole is most important Avoid the
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    fake nice trap If you're like most guys
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    you've probably tried being nice
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    considerate and even bending over
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    backwards just to get a girl's attention
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    only to watch her chase after a guy who
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    couldn't care less Here's exactly why
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    Nice guys aren't actually nice They're
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    fake nice and supplicating to the girl
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    because it fits their agenda They think
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    if I exchange niceness the girl will
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    give me attraction and sex in return
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    Hence why women are repulsed by nice
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    guys and instead attracted to bad boys
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    If you struggle with nice guy tendencies
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    here's the easy fix Don't hide your
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    intentions A big reason guys get stuck
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    in boring small talk is because they're
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    too afraid to get to the point Whether
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    it's during a cold approach first date
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    or over text aimless banter is a huge
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    turnoff Instead compliment her
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    physically or make a suggestive joke
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    Here's an example of how I did this less
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    than 30 seconds into an interaction with
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    a woman I approached on the street Sorry
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    I need to study quite a lot Well you're
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    smart and you're well dressed so you
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    have a lot going for you Thank you
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    Notice I gave her a compliment and I
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    looked her up and down to communicate
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    intent with both my words and my body
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    language Just before this she mentioned
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    she's studying for medical school
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    something boring and platonic but I used
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    it to convey my intent Also notice my
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    body language and tonality when I
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    delivered the compliment I'm not seeking
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    her approval or waiting to see how she
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    reacts This is another bad boy trait
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    that nice guys completely mess up It's
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    called outcome indifference While most
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    nice guys are acting nice to try and
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    force an outcome the bad boy plays fast
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    and loose He's high off his own energy
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    and isn't too attached to the outcome
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    with any one girl This laid-back take it
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    or leave it attitude is magnetic because
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    it allows the connection to form
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    naturally If you're a successful guy
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    this trait is actually easy for you to
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    adopt because your life is already great
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    Whether you strike out with one
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    individual girl isn't going to change
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    the number in your bank account or the
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    quality of your life This is why
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    successful men who know how to integrate
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    these bad boy traits absolutely crush it
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    with the most attractive women And it
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    allows them to easily do the next thing
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    which will prevent you from being boring
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    the absolute worst thing a girl can say
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    about them Use gentle disapprovals Nice
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    guys are overly agreeable because they
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    don't want to rock the boat They
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    actively avoid conflict because they
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    believe that agreement builds attraction
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    But the opposite is actually true
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    Conflict creates tension and tension
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    creates attraction The uncertainty of
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    what's going to happen next in an
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    interaction is what gives a girl
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    butterflies and leads her to hanging on
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    to your every word Playful conflict and
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    gentle teasing create emotional peaks
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    and valleys These create an addictive
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    emotional experience for her Constantly
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    agreeing is antithetical to attraction
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    because it flattens these emotional
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    peaks turning the interaction boring
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    predictable and stale Here's an example
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    of how I use a gentle disapproval just
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    10 seconds into a cold approach This is
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    a latte but uh cold It's a little basic
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    I'm I'm kind of judging the drink a
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    little bit You got to get something with
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    a little bit more spice What about you
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    did you get something more respectable
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    sophisticated basic What you You're kind
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    of fitting like the the basic white girl
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    vibe Starbucks blonde
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    Got the athletic wear on but we could
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    work with it What are you doing tonight
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    you'll see I make a joke about her drink
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    choice being basic She reacts
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    immediately so I double down with a bit
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    more playful teasing That little back
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    and forth instantly gets her smiling
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    laughing and fully invested even though
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    we literally just met 10 seconds prior
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    Back and forths like this create stakes
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    in the conversation and can make a girl
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    way more engaged than normal boring
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    small talk That's the power of gentle
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    disapproval done correctly If you never
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    use playful disapproval your interaction
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    become forgettable and she'll quickly
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    lose interest So the next time you're in
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    conversation deliberately pick something
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    minor she says or does and gently tease
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    her about it Watch how the energy
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    immediately shifts creating way more
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    investment and excitement towards you
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    But be careful because gentle
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    disapprovals are just one conversational
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    tactic There's another essential skill
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    bad boys master that multiplies
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    attraction even further and that is
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    don't take the girl too seriously Nice
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    guys treat women like they're an
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    authority figure Never pushing back
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    questioning or just playfully dismissing
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    what a girl says Bad boys are masters at
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    creating interactions that feel like
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    play They'll poke fun at a girl or
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    simply just ignore and reframe what a
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    woman says to get what they want Here's
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    an example of how I reframed a woman's
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    objection about my age In this clip I
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    approach a woman who's probably about 8
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    to 10 years older than me And when I
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    tell her my age she says this I'm not
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    sure how old you are 26 You might be a
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    bit too young for me A bit too young to
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    exchange Instagrams and perhaps No
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    that's fine And go out sometime here or
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    in New York Uh I'm open to that Yeah
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    Notice how I playfully dismissed her
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    objection around age and didn't take it
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    seriously I reframed the idea of us
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    getting to know each other as something
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    that's not a big deal Most guys would
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    just fold at the first sign of pressure
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    or backtrack or simply let a girl
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    dictate how an interaction goes If you
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    want to command respect and build real
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    desire you have to be willing to man up
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    and play to win And the easiest way to
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    do this is to use assumptive language
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    Women's attraction is heavily based on
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    pre-selection meaning they're attracted
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    to men who other women already desire By
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    speaking assumptively when you assume
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    she want to see you again or assume
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    attraction you instantly imply you've
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    experienced this outcome before You're
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    signaling I'm used to women being into
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    me which immediately positions you as
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    high status and attractive This subtle
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    communication triggers her attraction
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    instinct because it signals other women
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    have already chosen you Notice how I use
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    assumptive language in this clip from an
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    approach where a woman tells me she's
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    never dated a Dominican man Oh I've
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    never dated Dominican or Puerto Rican
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    Well you might have to now I say you
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    might have to now Referencing myself and
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    assuming that she'd be interested in me
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    since we're already on the topic of
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    romantic relationships You might have to
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    now Come on I just met on the street
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    Well you just met me on the street now
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    Maybe we go on a date or two We feel it
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    out and go from there
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    bold You open to that i'm open to
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    chatting you guys She gives an objection
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    and says "Someone I just met on the
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    street." And I double down on my
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    assumptive language by saying "Maybe
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    we'll go on a date or two and feel each
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    other out." She literally says "Bold
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    acknowledging my assumptive language."
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    And that's when I double down even more
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    and ask her if she's open to it Then she
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    suggests chatting again and I secure the
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    phone number Now speaking assumptively
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    like you just saw instantly positions
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    you as a guy that women crave But to
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    truly seal the deal you need this next
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    skill If you skip it you'll risk losing
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    attraction right at the finish line And
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    that is provide direction and leadership
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    Think about planning a date The nice guy
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    texts a girl "Where do you want to go?"
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    Instantly forcing her into the
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    leadership position and putting the
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    burden of logistics on the woman
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    Meanwhile the bad boy will just suggest
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    a place he likes and assume she'll agree
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    unless she says otherwise Let's check
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    out this bar downtown They have the best
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    cocktails As the man it is your job to
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    assume the burden of logistics and lead
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    her If the girl is to pick the time pick
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    the place figure out how she's getting
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    there and spend 2 hours getting ready
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    for the date she's just going to say no
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    That's why the text conversation and how
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    you ask her out on the date is make or
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    break If you say the wrong thing she'll
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    ghost you and never agree to the date in
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    the first place This is why texting is
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    one of the most important dating skills
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    And if you struggle with getting ghosted
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    dates and increasing the chances she
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    says yes and real life examples of the
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    blueprint in action This is the same
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    texting blueprint my client Ted used to
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    secure three dates in a single week So
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    if you want to copy paste the same
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    click the link below now Now taking
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    charge isn't just about logistics like
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    planning dates Because even if you're
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    leading a conversation constantly asking
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    for approval or permission undermines
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    everything you've just built So the next
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    tip is just as important for maintaining
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    that attraction you've worked so hard to
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    create And that is stop seeking
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    validation Start granting it Most men
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    enter conversations desperately hoping
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    for validation trying hard to be funny
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    agreeable or impressive But this
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    constant seeking instantly signals
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    weakness and insecurity and it's overall
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    just low status energy Bad boys
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    naturally flip this dynamic on its head
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    They never seek validation Instead they
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    confidently grant it When you grant
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    validation rather than seek it you
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    immediately position yourself as the
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    prize to be won taking complete control
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    and shifting the power dynamics in your
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    favor This can be done in a positive way
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    that makes the girl feel good while also
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    setting the frame that she's trying to
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    impress you An easy way to do this is to
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    simply compliment and highlight
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    something you like about her in
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    conversation Here's an example of this
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    in action Well I have a cat I'm a cat
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    mom Really yeah I'm kind of responsible
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    for my cat Well I'm glad to hear you're
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    responsible That's a good green flag
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    Notice the frame of me complimenting her
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    and saying her responsibility is a green
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    flag The subcommunication is that I'm
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    evaluating her to see if she's the right
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    kind of girl This puts us on an equal
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    playing field and prevents the nice guy
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    tendency of putting the girl above you
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    You're suddenly the chooser not the one
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    hoping to be chosen Now once you flip
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    the validation dynamic it naturally sets
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    you up to lead And this is where 99% of
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    guys absolutely fumble all attraction
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    That's why you want to use statements
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    not questions Nice guys habitually ask
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    for approval or validation through
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    constant questioning Is this okay are
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    you sure well what do you want to do
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    these types of questions naturally place
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    you in a subordinate role You're handing
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    the power of decision-making to the girl
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    But bold statements clearly signal you
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    know who you are you know what you want
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    and you're not afraid to own it This
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    ties back into the previous point on
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    taking the lead If you're on a date and
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    things are going well and you'd like to
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    invite her back to your place don't ask
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    "Want to go back to my place?" State it
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    instead Let's head back to my place I'll
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    make you a drink on my balcony and
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    introduce you to my dog This makes it
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    easier to follow your lead because
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    you're stating something rather than
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    asking a question and forcing her to
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    make a decision You want someone to
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    follow your lead You have to remove the
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    burden of making a decision This is why
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    statements are so powerful for
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    establishing a frame and allowing a
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    woman to relax into her feminine because
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    she trusts you can lead her Now using
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    bold statements puts you firmly in the
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    driver's seat But what about the actual
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    content of your conversations because
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    even if you're confidently stating your
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    thoughts constantly agreeing with
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    everything she says will still kill
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    attraction That's why this next
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    technique is crucial for getting the
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    girl addicted to you That is don't
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    filter yourself Think about it Nice guys
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    constantly second guessess every word
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    every move and constantly analyze
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    endlessly over how she'll react But the
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    bad boy doesn't waste mental energy on
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    imagined judgment He trusts his gut He's
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    operating from a higher level of
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    authentic consciousness He speaks and
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    acts directly from his instincts If he
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    wants to do something he's just going to
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    do it He doesn't stop to think is this
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    logical is this analytically the right
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    thing to do no of course not He's acting
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    from the heart from the spirit Just
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    feeling it in his gut is reason enough
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    for him to take action He doesn't need a
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    three paragraph essay or a pros and cons
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    list to justify his actions and mentally
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    masturbate over This is exactly why the
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    overly analytical nice guy who
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    constantly worries always loses Now if
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    you're a successful guy who constantly
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    comes off as too nice or too boring and
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    you're frustrated because you're not
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    seeing the dating results you deserve
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    listen closely The difference between
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    you and the men who effortlessly attract
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    high-quality women isn't luck It's
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    simply knowing exactly how to activate
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    the right psychological traits at the
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    right moments Whether it's online or in
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    person I've personally helped hundreds
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    of men turn their dating lives around by
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    teaching them exactly how to embody
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    these powerful traits naturally and I
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    can personally build your dating
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    profiles for you and coach you through
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    your in-person interactions so that you
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    can leverage these traits and finally
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    become the guy that women actively chase
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    But there's a catch Because I work with
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