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Now people are like, "Why do you put
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yourself through this pain? Why do you
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go through this difficulty? Why do you
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go through this hard training?" You
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don't know the endorphins that it
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releases, man. The happy
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hormones. I feel so good after
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exhausting myself, after crushing it,
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after working so there's a sense,
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there's an inner sense. And that just
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like that in in the physical world,
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Allah created that in the spiritual
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sense. When you and I develop, we find
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comfort in
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This video is a short snippet from our
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deeper look of surah al- marage which is
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TV. Learn about this surah and many
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others in the deeper look section of the
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app. The prophet is then told
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therefore you can call this
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therefore demonstrate beautiful. I won't
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translate yet. Demonstrate
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beautiful. I want to tell you a little
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bit about the word. I know we translate
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that as patience and perseverance and
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constancy and all of those things. But
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Arabic words that are abstract, patience
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is an abstract idea. It's associated
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with visual images. And I want to walk
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you through some of the visual visual
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images in the origin of the word. The
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first of them
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is a pile of seeds or you
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know if you have wheat or seeds or
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anything and they're piled up uh and you
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got mounds of them they're actually
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called
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a similarly
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You know those things. Um I know we
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called them in Udu. We call them. I
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think the Arabics call
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them, right? You have this this thing
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that you sift the rice through or the
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seeds through and the rocks and the
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pebbles stay on top and the pure stuff
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comes underneath and you just make you
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you're not even weighing how much.
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You're just making piles and piles and
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piles of it. That's actually also called
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a subra.
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uh and is
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also back in the day, you know, before
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the days of like cement blocks and
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construction in that way, people used to
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gather large rocks and just make a pile
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of them and they're going to cut those
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up for using in construction, right? So
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those those rocks, those giant piles of
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rocks that are being kind of storehoused
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or made p a pile of next to the house or
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the shed, that's going to be used for
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construction. That was also called a
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solar. So you're noticing piles and
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piles and piles keeps coming up as
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doesn't it? Right? And layers upon
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layers. This is a little bit gross but
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still people who've been to a village
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they know in this this is something I
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first saw in Pakistan and I didn't know
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what it was. Um, and I cuz so in
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Pakistan I when I was a kid, we went on
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a a train trip and you go through a
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village and this is mudous, right? And
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the mud houses have these mud pancakes
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on the wall. Okay. You're like, "What's
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that? Is that is that So you find out
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that's actually animal, you know, manure
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and they pl they make those animal poop
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cakes on the wall and they use that to
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burn fires and they use that for
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fertilizer and they use it for multiple
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purposes." Okay. So, gives a new
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perspective to cooking. But uh but
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that's but the fact that it's piled
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together is actually why it's also
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called a similarly another dimension of
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the word is with a fatun is it's
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actually frozen ice or ice, you know,
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ice blocks are also called in Arabic.
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the the lid of a bottle uh you know the
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the cork on a bottle that holds
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everything in is also called a so so far
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we've got two kinds of themes something
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piling up on top each other and
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something that stays solid or something
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that's contained like the water is
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contained in the ice or the materials
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contained inside the lid of the bottle
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uh clouds that pile on top of each
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other. They feel like they're climbing
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on top of each other. They're actually
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called and snow mountains are also
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called because the snow is piling on
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top, right? So that's why they're called
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also. So basically the meaning the
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overall meaning of the word has to do
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with things that pile on top each other.
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So two two elements that come out are
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things that are piled on top of each
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other and things that remain solid like
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ice or things that remain contained like
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the the contents of a bottle that's been
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cked that's been lit that the lid is
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placed on it.
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Okay, last
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one. There's a plant called you. Some of
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you that are into plant stuff may know
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aloe or aloe vera. That plant is
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actually called sabir in Arabic and it's
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a very bitter plant even though it has
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many medicinal healing qualities. So
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it's great for skin, digestion, all
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kinds of stuff, but it's it tastes
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terrible. Uh, another reason sub is used
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for this word is because some of its
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leaves are design they're hard leaves
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and they can go at an angle and if it
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rains the water can be contained in it
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as if it's almost like a like a bowl. So
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if you're if somebody came by that plant
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and they were starving they could
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actually drink pure water from it
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because it's containing it like a bowl.
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You understand? So another meaning of
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the word
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containing. So anyway, so so these are
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the visual sort of associations with the
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word and from it came the meaning that
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we not now
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know that when someone remains firm no
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matter how hard things
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get and when you keep doing what you're
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doing. So if you want to understand
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there's a negative and a positive to
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make it super simple for all of you.
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Negative, positive. Negative sub is bad
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things are happening to you and you're
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taking it. Right? You're for example,
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somebody's being tortured and they're
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not going to cry or they're not going to
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scream. They're demonstrating a kind of
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subar. They're they're uh tolerating. So
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sar can actually have the meaning of
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tolerance. So tolerate withstand right
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patiently withstand. That's negative
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subur. positive somebody is. I want you
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to imagine that you are uh going on, let
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me not give you the ancient Arab example
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of traveling in the desert. Let me just
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put you on a treadmill. You're on a
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treadmill. You're running out of breath.
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You still got 10 minutes left. You have
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the option of slowing down or decreasing
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the incline, right? Or or holding on to
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the, you know, the I'm a handicap bar,
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but you don't do it. You still
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just keep keep going. Keep going. Don't
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give up. Just keep pushing. Just keep
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pushing. Just keep pushing. You are
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demonstrating what? Sabar. Subar is a
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kind of grit, a kind of toughness. It's
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a kind of I'm going to I'm going to push
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past my pain. I'm going to push past my
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threshold and I'm going to get to the
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other side, you know. So, every Rocky
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film was
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about You guys don't know about that.
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People in Michigan watch movies. You
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guys don't. In Ohio, you're religious
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people. You don't watch movies.
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Okay.
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Quran. So all the expressions in the
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Quran are about that about dealing with
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tough circumstances and powering through
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those tough circumstances.
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Right? As a verb, it was also used for
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uh a kind of punishment. When you when
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you starve your animal, you
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say uh you know when you keep your
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animal from eating, you're making it
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experience actually. So is now this word
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is being given to the prophetam in this
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context. A day is coming where the
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angels are going to ascend to Allah
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along with the count of which is 50,000
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years.
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Therefore, you
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have what's the connection between that
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and you have like you could say, okay,
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they're making fun of you. They're
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attacking you. They're trying to
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dismantle Islam. They're but regardless,
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you should have or Allah's support is
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with you. Therefore, you should have
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sabar. But Allah is saying the angels
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are going to be called for a day that
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will be 50,000 years long. In other
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words, the day of judgment is well
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planned. And this questioning of theirs
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that will punishment happen or not will
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change. None of that will change the
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fact of it. Therefore, you carry on
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doing what you're doing. This ayah, I
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would argue, is not about the prophet
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sallallaihi wasallam tolerating their
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nonsense. He's not being told to
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demonstrate negative. What's negative?
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I'm tolerating, right? It's forget about
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tolerating. The prophet is being told
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persevere. You have a mission in front
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of you. Keep going. Don't even bother
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with this distraction. This is similar
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to just leave them is almost an just
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ignore them. And on the one hand, you're
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ignoring the negative, but you have
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something so much more important to work
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on that you don't have time to focus on
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their nonsense. This is a mindset ayah
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in the Quran and it's telling you us the
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mindset that the prophet sallallaihi
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wasallam was being given from Allah and
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that mindset was you have such an
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important mission in front of you that
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people that are going to make comments
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at you about your work and about your
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mission and about your objective. Those
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comments are so irrelevant that I'm
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telling you I've already assigned angels
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to deal with that problem. So it's off
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your plate. You just worry about your
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mission. Don't get
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distracted. Don't get
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distracted. You know, star
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athletes, star athletes,
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performers, boxers, fighters, you know,
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marathon runners, etc., etc., you know
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what can truly demoralize them? Reading
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comments about their last
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performance. If they start reading the
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even if they won the match, somebody
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says, "Nah, that was bogus. He didn't
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win. That was an illegal punch. The ref
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was paid off. this guy doesn't deserve
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it, etc. What's happening when they read
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these
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comments? They're getting they're losing
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momentum. They're losing focus. They're
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losing steam. They're getting upset.
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Their emotions are scattered. Right now,
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your my emotional capacity as a person,
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my ability to focus on something is a
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limited resource. If you think of the
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brain as a resource and my mind as a
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resource, it's a limited resource. And
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the more distractions come in, the more
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I'm I'm spending that resource on other
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things. So I have less of that fuel left
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for my focus. You
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understand? So even though the surah
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began, they're asking about a
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punishment. They're asking and Allah
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says, "Okay, I'll answer you about the
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punishment. You don't worry about that.
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You focus."
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And I haven't even gotten to the word j
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yet yet, but I'm I'm I'm trying to get
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across to you the concept of grit and
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how the the words the critical words of
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others, the the the dismissal of people
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who don't matter, the dismissal and the
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rejection and the mocking and the
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ridicule and the criticism of people who
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don't matter. They cannot have any space
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in your life. If you have a real
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mission, if you have a real mission, now
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if you don't have a real mission, then
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your entire mission is just looking at
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what other people are
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saying, which describes a lot of
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humanity nowadays, isn't it? So much of
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our energy is focused on what are people
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saying, what are people going to say,
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what are the comments like, who liked
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it, who didn't like it. Pe people's
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entire objective in the day becomes I
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just took a selfie. I went through 18
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different filters to find out which
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filter is most likely to get me some
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appreciation and they post up this
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pathetic photo of themselves and they're
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waiting for the mashallah or the heart
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or the you know which color heart why
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was there a black heart I thought there
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would be pink hearts why was you know
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this is this is the highest object if
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that's your objective then this is not
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for you these ayat are not for you these
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ayat are for the messenger sallallahu
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alaihi wasallam who's been given an
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objective in his life and that objective
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is far too important for the this noise
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to get in the way that's just noise and
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that noise is not a crime against the
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prophet sallallaihi wasallam that noise
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is a crime against Allah and Allah will
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deal with that crime himself so and
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that's why you could even argue that the
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people who were mocking the prophet
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sallall alaihi wasallam they were the
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elites like I keep saying they were the
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elites but they were just
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called some guy who asked the question
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like they're not
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some dude. Who are you calling some
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dude, right? Like they're they're just
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made irrelevant. They're made irrelevant
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in the way that the Quran speaks about
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this and then goes to its subject. The
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the thing that is a reminder for all of
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humanity
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is none of this is answering their
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question. This is not proving that
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judgment day is coming. These ayat do
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not prove that judgment day is coming.
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These ayat are talking about judgment
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day as a matter of fact as a matter that
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I don't have to prove to you. Deal with
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it or don't deal with it. Your problem
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my messenger has more important things
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to do.
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So okay now let's talk a little bit
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about jam. I won't give you the long
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etmology of it but basically jam in
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Arabic has to do with sturdy physique.
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So a strongbodied animal is also called
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jam or jamala. Uh also unfortunately I
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don't know how but in the Arabic
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classical Arabic dictionary over
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overweight women keep coming up. I don't
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know why but they keep coming up. So uh
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jam is the Arabic word for imun. So as a
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you know mashallah lady is called a
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imraina or or jam please. Now I know for
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some of you you will learn no Arabic
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vocabulary but jam you wrote down like
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like I'm going to use this. I'm going to
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text my sister right now. Hey,
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Jam. You know, a python or a thick um uh
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you know, snake is actually called a
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jam. A thick rope is called a Jumal. Uh
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the whale the whale is
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called, right? The whale is called Bah,
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you know. So the the word has to do with
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just density, right? And from it came
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the idea that things that are strong or
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dense are actually beautiful. So the
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Arabs associated strength, beauty with
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strength actually and that's why the
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word j in its core meaning actually has
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to do with strength and from it comes
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beauty right so they they find beauty
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and and so you
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get you know great beauty
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uh so it it could be that something that
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characterizes a person in their in their
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their personality their body or their
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actions
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That would be but what is the word and
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doing here? I talked to you about in its
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passive meaning. I've already talked to
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you about in its active meaning. Now
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let's talk about the qualification. That
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is what like this added
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quality. What does that mean? When
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you're going through
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difficulty but you're going through
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difficulty with a
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smile, right? You're going through
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hardship but it's not showing on your
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face. is not showing on your face. What
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does that do to your
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opponent? It messes them up. It messes
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them up big time. You know, I'm not very
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good at ping pong, but I travel to
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different communities and I play ping
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pong. I take my ping- pong pedal with me
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and some and especially when I know
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there's someone much better than me
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playing. You know what I do? I start
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complimenting them every time they make
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a shot. That was really good. That was a
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really good serve. That was really good.
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And you know what happens to
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them? They start, is he playing with me?
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Oh, he's not serious yet. I'm playing
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the best game of my life, by the way.
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Well, he doesn't know that. So, I'm just
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going to play the psychological warrant.
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That was pretty good. That was really
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good. And he's like, I got to try
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something else cuz he's probably going
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to destroy that one the next time.
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Right. What I'm trying to playfully say
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is I'm demonstrating some form of jam.
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I'm the one getting beat, but I don't
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look like it. I had a big old smile on
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my face. I'm not giving him the
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satisfaction of winning psychologically
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while he's already winning on the
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scorecard. Right now, this idea, the
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prophet sallall alaihi wasallam is being
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told, don't give your enemies the
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satisfaction of knowing that they got to
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you.
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Don't let the sadness come on your face
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or the disturbance come on your face.
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The prophet sallall alaihi wasallam was
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you know Basma he was always smiling
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composed calm you know easy to speak
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with but obviously when somebody gets
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upset their personality changes you
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might be the funniest person in the room
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but if you're upset you're not the same
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person you become a different person.
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The prophet sallallaihi wasallam is
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being told to demonstrate a kind of that
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doesn't give his enemies the
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satisfaction. But there's another
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dimension. What about his followers? His
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followers get all of their optimism, all
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of their hope, all of their inspiration.
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Where do they get it from? From being
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around him. When they see him feel
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defeated, angry, upset, anxious,
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depressed, sad, what is that going to do
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to his
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followers? It's going to demoralize
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them. It's going to break their
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spirit. Your mood as a leader, the way
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you show your mood as a leader, the way
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you is not enough for you. It has to
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be j it has to be j because on the one
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hand this will send a message to your
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your enemies that they cannot get to
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you. They can't break you and it will
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send a message to your followers that
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they must maintain
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hope. Right? So it's both sides that are
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covered and this is why Jab only comes
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for uh the prophets. It only came from
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foram and it came foram. So the only
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other time it's mentioned is
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y two times and then
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here right. So now just one more thing
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about in actually I'll tell you in the
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next ayah but the word j comes in the
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Quran in a couple of places as a
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description of certain actions. So Allah
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says
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in as part of the sequence of these
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suras
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also you know be patient over whatever
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they say take it
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patiently keep persevering keep don't
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don't let that distract you and then he
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says and walk away from them in a
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beautiful
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way. What does it mean walk away from
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them in a beautiful way? Walk walking
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away beautifully means is one thing that
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you can walk away huffing and puffing.
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You can walk away in tears. You can walk
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away with your head down. You can walk
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away looking like you got you got
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intimidated, right? And it's another
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that you walk away a
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victor. You walk away. We'll speak
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another time. And nothing impacted you.
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Doesn't matter what they say. This is
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why. So again, not giving them the
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satisfaction of knowing that they won in
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any way. Don't give them that. So this
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word jam is also used for in in cases of
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divorce. First for the divorce if the
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prophet were to divorce someone and then
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later on uh for the believers to divorce
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Allah says let them go in a beautiful
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way. Let them go in obviously because
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these situations are ugly and that's
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when you need an extra dose of beauty,
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right? So the the departure needs to be
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made beautiful in the in the spirit of
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the Quran. By the way, it's something I
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did mention to you. I think it's coming
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in the next uh slide. And uh J by
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definition is ugly or or by definition
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is in an ugly situation rather. You
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don't need when you're in a good time.
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You need when you're having a hard time.
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The reality is ugly. Somebody's saying
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ugly words to you. Somebody's giving you
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they're they're treating you in an ugly
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way. You find yourself in an ugly
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situation. You're surrounded by
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ugliness. And that's when you require
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and the word it's almost as if Allah is
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teaching the theam that even though
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you're experiencing this ugliness you
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must learn to find beauty
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in so when the world is ugly the only
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thing beautiful left is now that sounds
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hard to understand but let me give you
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an analogy especially the guys here that
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go to the gym will understand when you
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have to push a weight that you were
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never able to
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push you're halfway there And you're
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just and your friends are like come on
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that come on. You know what that
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is. And once you push through, you're
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able to push through. Isn't there a
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euphoric sense of accomplishment? Isn't
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there a joy in that
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pain? Isn't there a pleasure in
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overcoming the obstacle? Isn't it like
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the the joy of winning an easy match is
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different, but the joy of winning a a
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really tough match, a really tough game,
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that's a different kind of high, isn't
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it? That's a has a beauty on its own.
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And once you get used to that beauty,
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now people are like, why do you put
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yourself through this pain? Why do you
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go through this difficulty? Why do you
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go through this hard training? You don't
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know the endorphins that it releases,
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man. the happy
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hormones I feel so good after exhausting
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myself after crushing it after working
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so there's a sense there's an inner
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sense and that just like that in in the
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physical world Allah created that in the
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spiritual sense when you and I develop
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we find comfort
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in we find com we find joy in sabar
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itself right now this leads me to uh
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another reality and that is the there's
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a lot of conversation about vulner
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vulnerability in popular discourse on
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social media. You know, men are being
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told they need to be more vulnerable to
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their families, etc., etc., right? And
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then people are getting on their getting
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on their cameras and they're like,
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"Guys, I'm just going to be vulnerable
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with you. I'm going through a lot right
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now
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and I just want the internet to just
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care for me because no one cares,
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etc." Right? And people actually have
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stationary cameras now so they can
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record themselves
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crying, right?
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And I wanted to help you understand
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something about
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J. On the one
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hand, we are supposed to be vulnerable
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or be open with our loved ones. But that
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doesn't mean that you cry about
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everything to everyone or even your
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loved ones. The concept of J is whatever
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you can handle to the best of your
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ability, you handle it like a champ. You
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take it. You take it. You don't stop at
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every pain point and say, you know what
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happened today? I just feel, you know,
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imagine a boxer who doesn't have jam.
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Every time he gets punched, even in a in
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a sparring, I just I need to talk to my
00:24:02
dad about this, Dad. He got me in the
00:24:04
side of my face. And should I go back? I
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feel like I need to talk to someone
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about
00:24:10
this. Take it. Toughen
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up. Toughen up. There. Yes. There are
00:24:16
some some moments in life where despite
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all of your you need to talk to someone.
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But you know what we've done? We've done
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I need to talk to someone as our go-to
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our entire personality. And you know
00:24:29
what that does? It kills your
00:24:31
relationship with Allah because you
00:24:33
don't turn to Allah to talk to. You turn
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to everybody else to talk to. You turn
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to your your profile to talk to. You
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turn to whoever you're going to text
00:24:41
message to talk to. They've become your
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spiritual outlet. We've replaced
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spirituality with our version of
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psychology. That's what we've done. Yes.
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Sallallam commanded the Sahabah to shave
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their heads after slaughtering the, you
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know, and slaughter the animal and they
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didn't do it. Nobody listen for the
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first time in his life. The Sahaba
00:25:01
didn't listen. He said it three times.
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They didn't listen. And in that moment,
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he needed to talk to someone. And he
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goes back and he speaks to our mother
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and he speaks to her. That's a pivotal
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moment in his life. But do you think
00:25:16
that every day when he has to hear these
00:25:18
things from the kufur that he's going
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and having a I need I need a moment to
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talk to someone about this? No. Even the
00:25:26
the the pivotal example of jam in the
00:25:28
Quran which
00:25:29
is in the Quran he was crying. But who
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was he crying to? He was crying to
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Allah. And he it seems from if you read
00:25:36
the ayat carefully it seems when he was
00:25:38
crying to Allah you
00:25:40
know and all of it whatever he was
00:25:43
saying he was pretty confident nobody
00:25:45
can hear him. He was confident that
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nobody can hear him but his sons heard
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him and they said in in the you
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know you're still lost on
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say you're going to keep mentioning
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until you die kill yourself. And what
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did he say to them in response? Oh my
00:26:04
god, you heard
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me. No, this wasn't for
00:26:09
you. I was only talking to Allah. I
00:26:12
don't want you to hear that stuff. Even
00:26:14
like his normal is not to let anybody
00:26:16
else even know. That's why
00:26:19
it's only Allah knows and nobody else
00:26:21
even finds out. Other early scholars
00:26:24
said is you're you're you're in pain
00:26:26
going through something difficult and
00:26:28
the person next to you will never know
00:26:29
that you're going through something
00:26:30
difficult.
00:26:32
They they won't even know.
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That's so you have this vulnerability,
00:26:37
these tears, this this desperation with
00:26:39
Allah. With Allah. And not just just
00:26:42
with
00:26:43
anybody. You might have people in your
00:26:45
life, they love talking to you about
00:26:46
their problems. He can't talk to you
00:26:48
going through something. And as soon as
00:26:49
they're done hanging up with you, they
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call their call their cousin and go
00:26:52
through all of it again. They got the
00:26:54
rehearsed speech and then they call
00:26:56
somebody else and somebody else and
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somebody else and somebody else. They
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they they have this like uh a trauma
00:27:02
dumping you know you you have trauma you
00:27:05
want to dump who should you dump it
00:27:09
on
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that's
00:27:12
that's as if Allah is telling his
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messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam
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you're going to stand in front of me all
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night and pray come talk to me about
00:27:19
what you're going through pray to me
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speak with converse with me I'll give
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you this
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friend is really powerful words, really
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powerful words and and so so important
00:27:32
in our our our day and age because we
00:27:34
really have replaced speaking with Allah
00:27:37
with speaking with people. Again, I'm
00:27:39
not saying you shouldn't speak with
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anyone if you're going through something
00:27:41
tough, but if you turn that into an
00:27:43
entire personality and that's all you're
00:27:46
doing, it's not going to help. It's it's
00:27:49
just not going to
00:27:51
help. So,
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Abbas is saying there's no complaint
00:28:03
except to Allah. And then
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uh the person going through a difficulty
00:28:16
is among a people and nobody knows which
00:28:19
one is it that's going through
00:28:20
difficulty. They can take it like that.
00:28:22
They're they're demonstrating. They're
00:28:24
covering. They're able to to to take it.
00:28:27
And it's not just you're pretending. I'm
00:28:29
not saying fake it till you make it
00:28:30
either. That's not what I'm talking
00:28:32
about. Means you've learned to embrace
00:28:35
your difficulty and you've learned to
00:28:37
embrace it
00:28:38
withan so that you now don't find you
00:28:41
you find that that that facing it is
00:28:44
actually an honor Allah has given you.
00:28:47
You wear it like a badge like this is
00:28:49
what Allah has given me and I'll take
00:28:51
it. I'll accept this challenge, you
00:28:53
know. And so it's it's a different
00:28:55
mindset altogether. Hey guys, you just
00:28:57
watched a small clip of me explaining
00:28:58
the Quran in depth as part of the deeper
00:29:01
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00:29:03
can seem like a really intimidating
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00:29:06
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