The “Pick Me” Era Is Back...And WORSE Than Ever

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Résumé

TLDRIn this video, Tony Brienne discusses the resurgence of the 'pick me' culture, examining its roots in media portrayals and the influence of the red pill movement. She critiques how women are often encouraged to seek male validation through behaviors that downplay their worth and individuality. Brienne highlights the impact of economic instability on women's choices, leading many to embrace traditional roles and the 'soft life' as a coping mechanism. The video also addresses the policing of women's clothing, particularly in gym settings, as a reflection of internalized misogyny. Ultimately, Brienne advocates for women to embrace their true selves rather than conforming to outdated stereotypes.

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  • 💬 The 'pick me' culture is back, driven by societal pressures.
  • 📺 Media portrayals have historically shaped women's self-perception.
  • 🗣️ The red pill movement emphasizes male validation as a goal.
  • 👗 Women are often judged for their clothing choices, especially in gyms.
  • 💔 Economic instability leads women to seek traditional roles.
  • 🌸 The 'soft life' trend reflects a desire for escape from hustle culture.
  • 🤔 True empowerment comes from embracing individuality.
  • 🚫 Policing women's choices is a form of internalized misogyny.
  • 👩‍🏫 Femininity coaches promote outdated stereotypes.
  • 💪 Women should focus on self-love and authenticity.

Chronologie

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The video introduces the topic of the 'pick me' era, discussing its resurgence and the societal pressures on women to conform to traditional roles for male validation. The host, Tony Brienne, emphasizes the need for this conversation and shares a positive quote to set the tone.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    Tony explains the concept of a 'pick me girl' as someone who seeks male attention by downplaying feminine traits and denigrating other women. She reflects on how media representations have historically glorified the 'different' girl who wins the affection of men, perpetuating harmful stereotypes.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    The discussion transitions to the 'girl boss' era, where women gained independence and success in the workforce, rejecting traditional gender roles. This empowerment was seen as a shift away from the 'pick me' mentality, but Tony suggests that the rise of the red pill movement has contributed to the return of 'pick me' culture.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:20:00

    Tony introduces the red pill movement, highlighting its misogynistic tendencies and how it has influenced women to seek male validation. She shares her personal experiences with the movement and critiques figures like Kevin Samuels for promoting harmful ideologies about women's worth and desirability.

  • 00:20:00 - 00:25:00

    The video critiques the current trend of women creating content focused on how to attract men, which Tony argues is a repackaged version of 'pick me' culture. She notes that this content often promotes submission and moral superiority disguised as empowerment, leading to a resurgence of the 'pick me' mentality.

  • 00:25:00 - 00:30:00

    Tony discusses the policing of women's gym wear, arguing that societal expectations and internalized misogyny contribute to women feeling pressured to dress modestly. She emphasizes the importance of women feeling comfortable in their own skin and challenges the notion that certain outfits are inherently provocative.

  • 00:30:00 - 00:38:13

    In conclusion, Tony reflects on the economic factors driving women back into traditional roles and the trend of embracing femininity as a response to burnout from the 'girl boss' culture. She calls for a return to authentic self-expression among women, free from the constraints of 'pick me' culture.

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Vidéo Q&R

  • What is a 'pick me' girl?

    A 'pick me' girl is a term used to describe a woman who seeks male attention and validation by acting differently from other women, often by downplaying feminine traits.

  • How has the 'pick me' culture evolved?

    The 'pick me' culture has evolved from earlier media portrayals of women who are 'not like other girls' to a more curated version that emphasizes femininity and submission.

  • What role does the red pill movement play in the 'pick me' culture?

    The red pill movement has framed male validation as the ultimate prize, leading women to seek approval through content that often degrades them.

  • What are some examples of 'pick me' behavior?

    Examples include women seeking validation through social media by promoting submission, cooking for men, or competing for male attention.

  • How does economic instability affect women's choices?

    Economic instability has led many women to opt for traditional roles, seeking the 'soft life' as a way to escape the pressures of the modern workforce.

  • What is the impact of social media on 'pick me' culture?

    Social media amplifies 'pick me' culture by promoting content that encourages women to conform to traditional feminine roles for male approval.

  • What does Tony Brienne suggest about women's empowerment?

    Brienne suggests that true empowerment comes from embracing individuality rather than conforming to societal expectations or seeking male validation.

  • How does the policing of gym wear relate to 'pick me' culture?

    The policing of gym wear reflects internalized misogyny, where women are judged for their clothing choices based on how they may attract male attention.

  • What is the significance of the 'soft life' trend?

    The 'soft life' trend represents a shift towards traditional femininity, often as a response to burnout from the hustle culture.

  • What does Brienne hope for the future of women's empowerment?

    Brienne hopes for a future where women can be themselves without the pressures of 'pick me' culture and societal expectations.

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    What is up you guys and welcome back to
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    my channel. And if you're new to my
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    channel, welcome to my channel. My name
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    is Tony Brienne and today's video we're
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    going to be discussing how the pick me
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    era is all the way back. I have been
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    keeping my mouth shut on this topic for
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    some time because I know how the ladies
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    like to tussle, but the conversation
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    needed to be had and it needed to be had
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    ASAP. From the policing of gywear to the
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    rise of trad wives and how to get a man
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    content to internalized misogyny to
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    Jenz's obsession with the soft life, we
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    have a lot to break down in today's
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    video. But as always, before we get into
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    today's video, I like to start off with
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    a little bit of positivity. So, let's
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    first start off with the quote of the
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    day. Today's quote of the day is, I
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    refuse to let a negative experience
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    change who I am at my core. Today's
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    verse of the day is Matthew 5:E5 and it
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    reads, "Blessed are the meek, for they
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    will inherit the earth." And without
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    further ado, you guys, let's get
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    straight into today's wild ride of a
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    video.
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    [Music]
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    We have been for a long time in a time
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    period where women are gaining
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    popularity and going viral for making
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    content on telling women how to keep a
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    man, how to get a man, and how to shrink
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    yourself in order to get the man of your
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    dreams. And that's easily by submitting,
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    staying quiet, and looking pretty while
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    doing so. And what the absolutely crazy
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    part about this is that this is all
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    marketed as self-love and knowing your
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    worth. But the question is, how exactly
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    did we get here? How do we get to the
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    deepest depths of hell? Well, the Pikmi
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    era has absolutely always existed. But
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    before we talk about how long it's
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    existed, let's talk about what exactly
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    is a Pikmi for those who may not know.
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    Let's Google it. What is a Pikmi? Okay,
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    according to AI overview, which I don't
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    typically like to use, but here we are.
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    A pickme girl is a sling term used to
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    describe a woman who tries to get male
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    attention and validation by acting
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    differently from other women, often by
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    downplaying traditionally feminine
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    traits or interest or by denigrating
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    other women. This behavior is seen as
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    performative and driven by a desire for
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    male approval. Ooh, now that was quite
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    the definition. And quite frankly, as
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    young girls, we have seen this a
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    multitude of times. I mean, look at the
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    shows and movies we grew up watching.
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    The girl that was not like the other
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    girls was always the girl that was
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    picked at the end of that said movie or
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    TV show. My favorite is Starruck.
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    I don't know if you guys remember that
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    movie Starruck on Disney Channel where
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    the small town girl didn't care about
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    boys and didn't care about concerts,
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    didn't care about looking all cute and
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    pretty and is disgusted by the fame of
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    this singer named Chad. Who is it? Chad?
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    I think it's Chad. Hold on. I lied.
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    Christopher. But Chad is always the name
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    of the star athlete or the star male
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    person inside a movie or TV show. But
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    anywh who, he's basically like Justin
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    Bieber back in the early 2000s and he
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    probably reflected it because he had
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    little sad swoop bang going on that was
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    so prevalent in 2010 when this movie
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    came out, but she just did not want to
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    hang out with this guy, but then he ends
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    up falling in love with her and then
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    they all live a happily ever after
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    story. Whereas the girls that were seen
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    as more ideal or more digestible don't
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    ever get the guy. This is seen in
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    another Cinderella story. And honestly,
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    there's multiple Cinderella narratives
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    that we grew up with. But it's the girl
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    that likes to wear sneakers with her
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    dresses and doesn't care to wear makeup
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    or doesn't care to be on the
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    cheerleading squad ends up being picked
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    because she's just so different. Mean
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    Girls One and Mean Girls 2. Katie
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    transitioned herself into that male gays
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    persona. But the dream guy didn't like
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    that. He liked the girl from Africa that
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    liked to ride on elephants, which is
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    another stereotype that we can talk
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    about for days on end. But anyways, and
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    then Mean Girls, too. I mean, they went
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    far beyond this trope because they
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    really made this girl be a pick me.
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    Like, I like to work on cars with my dad
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    and I don't care about going to the
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    dance and I don't want to go to
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    homecoming and I don't want to wear a
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    dress. I'm different. And then who gets
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    picked? She gets picked at the end of
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    the movie by the dream guy. Think of the
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    movie Tall Girls. She's tall. She's
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    different. She gets bullied for it,
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    which is not okay, but she gets picked
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    at the end. So, the pick me trope that
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    we saw in movies and TV shows was meant
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    to uplift women. However, in doing so,
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    it put down other women. It put down the
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    women that fit more into the feminine
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    standard. So, when young girls are
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    constantly seeing this growing up, they
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    start believing that they're different.
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    They want to be different. I don't hang
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    out with the girls. I hang out with the
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    boys because I'm special. when in all
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    actuality, it's probably because you're
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    too busy trying to be like the boys
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    versus hanging out with the girls
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    because it makes you not like the other
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    girls, which is quite interesting.
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    However, I do strongly believe this
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    trope started to die down as the girl
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    boss era rose. And basically, the entire
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    I don't need a man rhetoric. Feminism
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    was on an all-time high. I would say
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    between 2013, 2014 until right about
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    2020, 2021. And this was when I believe
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    a lot of millennials were entering into
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    the workforce and they were trying to
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    break the stereotypes that women just
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    stayed at home. It was all about
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    rejecting the traditional paths of males
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    being the only ones that were able to
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    climb that corporate ladder. And not
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    only that, women didn't just have to be
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    able to be successful by climbing that
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    corporate ladder because social media
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    exploded. Women were selling things on
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    Etsy. They were selling things on eBay.
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    They were creating blogs, creating
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    social media platforms where they were
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    making so much more money than the
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    traditional man in the corporate space
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    was making. And how can we forget all
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    the pyramid scheme companies? How can we
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    forget Mary Kay, Avon? Women were
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    selling things without needing a man's
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    approval. So, it was all about
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    #girlboss. And that's when a lot of the
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    graphic te's with #girlboss were being
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    sold. the Pink Mugs, the Blazers, rising
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    artists like Lana Del Rey, Taylor Swift,
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    Beyonce, Rihanna, who else? I'll say
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    Ariana Grande, Miley Cyrus even. But so
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    many women artists, especially in pop,
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    were taking over the charts. Women were
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    trampling over men. So yeah, women were
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    on the top of their game, and that's
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    when a lot of the girl boss rhetoric
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    came about. But I also want to be clear
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    because this will later connect into my
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    next point as to why I believe the
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    PickMe era is back. But the girl boss
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    movement was all about no sleep, hustle
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    culture, no days off, feminist ambition,
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    feminine power. We can do it all. We
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    don't need to sleep. Women can do
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    everything. Moms can do everything. And
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    that inevitably meant empowerment to a
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    multitude of women. Mind you, these were
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    mainly millennials and even some Gen
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    Xers. Gen Z was soon to touch the
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    workforce, but not quite yet. And that's
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    how we'll navigate that conversation a
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    little bit on, but please bear with me.
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    Let's now get into 2020, okay? Women
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    were all about themselves and not
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    needing a man for quite some time. Until
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    the men found microphones and have not
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    stopped yapping since then birth the red
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    pill movement, circa 2020/2021.
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    But before we get into the red pill
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    video. The red pill movement was such a
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    dark era. And the funniest part is I
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    stopped talking about the red pill
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    movement because when I was a mere 20
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    years old, I had grown men that were
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    like 50, 60 trying to drag me and say
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    I'd be single for the rest of my life
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    because I did not agree with a lot of
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    the things that were being said about
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    women in this era. And hell, maybe they
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    are right. Okay, cuz 5 years later, I'm
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    still single. But thank God because woo.
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    Anyways, let me stop. But the red pill
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    movement framed male validation as the
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    ultimate prize. Women would go on
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    podcasts like Kevin Samuels. RIP to him.
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    He's no longer with us. Fun fact, but
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    not necessarily a fun fact. I used to
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    date a guy that was neighbors with him,
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    like direct neighbors with him. And the
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    apartment that he passed away in, the
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    penthouse he passed away in, the guy I
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    was dating literally lived next to him.
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    He was like, "Yeah, that's his
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    apartment. like we used to be cool. I
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    guess I should have taken that as a sign
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    cuz um he wasn't too far off from Kevin
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    Samuels beliefs. So that's why we no
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    longer speak anymore. Kevin Samuels was
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    a very pivotal figure in the
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    mainstreaming of the red pill movement,
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    specifically on platforms like YouTube
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    and Instagram. He would literally go on
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    Instagram live and women and men, but
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    the content that made him get popular
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    was women going on his lives asking him
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    for advice as to why they're still
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    single. And the women that would go on
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    his lives, the women who I would say
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    shamefully would go on his live would
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    then be ridiculed by a man who
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    identified himself as a highvalued man.
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    And by high value, just in the
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    definition, it's just a man that is
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    supposed to be above levels that every
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    woman should want. And he would then
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    give them very controversial advice
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    primarily to black women, calling them
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    fat, saying they're undesirable, they're
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    unattractive, and that they need to be
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    realistic in their thought process when
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    it comes to dating.
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    A lot heavier. I hold a lot of weight in
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    my face, but I'm I'm petite.
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    Do that so we can see up and down cuz I
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    don't really
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    Well, I don't really have like real
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    clothes on right now. I kind of have I I
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    recently had surgery so I have like um
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    What kind of surgery?
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    Um I don't I don't want to blast myself.
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    You got like 6,000.
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    Okay.
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    How much What's the most you've ever
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    weighed?
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    Share.
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    What's the most you've ever weighed?
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    Umund
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    and
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    150 lbs.
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    Okay.
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    Uh yeah, you you look a little you look
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    much bigger than a dress size.
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    I mean full face, but
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    Okay.
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    No, I'm not. You still talking?
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    I said I said okay. But if you ranked
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    yourself on a scale of 1 to 10, what
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    would we
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    Yeah. Let's get back to reality.
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    No, I'm in reality.
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    No. No. You're not in reality. You're
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    not in reality. If you're going to be a
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    10, we can end this because that's not
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    reality. You're not a supermodel.
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    I'm far from ugly, honey.
  • 00:11:55
    I didn't say that.
  • 00:11:57
    You made this combative, ma'am. If you
  • 00:11:59
    want to say you're a 10, that's fine.
  • 00:12:00
    But show me where the Show me where the
  • 00:12:02
    model contracts are.
  • 00:12:04
    I don't want to be a model.
  • 00:12:05
    I I didn't ask you whether you want to
  • 00:12:06
    be a model or not.
  • 00:12:07
    Somebody asked me today.
  • 00:12:08
    But you're not But you're not a But
  • 00:12:10
    you're not But you're not that. Come on.
  • 00:12:13
    Okay. Well, you said, "Show me where the
  • 00:12:15
    model contract is." Somebody asked me
  • 00:12:16
    today. Oh, model.
  • 00:12:18
    Let's try this. Let's try this again.
  • 00:12:21
    Where would you honestly rank yourself?
  • 00:12:25
    I just told you.
  • 00:12:26
    A 10.
  • 00:12:27
    Yeah. Maybe to you I'm not, but beauty
  • 00:12:29
    is an
  • 00:12:30
    Oh, no. No. So, you're a 10?
  • 00:12:32
    Yeah.
  • 00:12:32
    So, you mean to tell me that there are
  • 00:12:34
    no women that are more attractive than
  • 00:12:36
    you?
  • 00:12:37
    What?
  • 00:12:38
    I'm asking. It's hard.
  • 00:12:39
    If you're a 10, that means you're at the
  • 00:12:40
    top.
  • 00:12:42
    It's like I'm not I
  • 00:12:44
    If you're a 10, that means you're at the
  • 00:12:45
    top. A 100 on a test is as high as you
  • 00:12:49
    can go. It's a perfect grade. You're
  • 00:12:52
    saying you're a 10. A 100 on the test.
  • 00:12:55
    Are you saying that there's nobody who
  • 00:12:57
    scores higher than you on looks? You're
  • 00:13:00
    in the You're in the top percentile
  • 00:13:03
    worldwide?
  • 00:13:07
    Possibly.
  • 00:13:10
    Possibly, honestly. But it doesn't
  • 00:13:11
    matter to me. No other woman I'm
  • 00:13:14
    intimidated by. Not one. You can. I'm
  • 00:13:17
    not. Now, like I said, some of these
  • 00:13:20
    things could very well be true with the
  • 00:13:21
    women that he was speaking to, but the
  • 00:13:23
    way that he would speak to these women
  • 00:13:25
    was in a very misogynistic and
  • 00:13:28
    downgrading way. His ideologies were all
  • 00:13:30
    under the guise of self-improvement, but
  • 00:13:32
    to me, it was just in a way to make
  • 00:13:34
    women feel less than and to degrade
  • 00:13:37
    those women that genuinely sometimes
  • 00:13:38
    called for honest help on how to find a
  • 00:13:41
    man. But a lot of men loved this. They
  • 00:13:43
    loved the fact that this man was going
  • 00:13:45
    online and attacking women, telling
  • 00:13:47
    women that they're a seven at best. And
  • 00:13:49
    it led to this entire entire journey of
  • 00:13:53
    men hopping on camera, getting a
  • 00:13:55
    microphone, and doing the same exact
  • 00:13:57
    thing, degrading women. I know a lot of
  • 00:13:59
    women, I'm sure y'all could relate to
  • 00:14:00
    when the red pill movement was on an
  • 00:14:02
    all-time high of men coming in your
  • 00:14:04
    comments saying, "You're unattractive.
  • 00:14:05
    You're not pretty. You think you look
  • 00:14:07
    better than you really are. You're a six
  • 00:14:09
    at best." They were going in. Okay, it
  • 00:14:11
    was a very, very dark time. Thank god
  • 00:14:13
    they chilled out a little bit, but it
  • 00:14:14
    was cringey. So basically, Kevin Samuels
  • 00:14:17
    would have these pickme women go on his
  • 00:14:19
    lives, go in his comments asking and
  • 00:14:21
    seeking his validation. And thus was
  • 00:14:23
    born a bunch of other red pill
  • 00:14:25
    commentators. And the most infamous, I
  • 00:14:28
    would say, is the Fresh and Fit podcast
  • 00:14:30
    where they are some of the most
  • 00:14:32
    disgraceful men on the internet. And you
  • 00:14:34
    say one thing about them, not even a
  • 00:14:36
    negative thing, and they are ready to
  • 00:14:39
    attack primarily women. I don't think
  • 00:14:41
    I've ever seen either of them attack men
  • 00:14:43
    on the same level that they attack
  • 00:14:45
    women. But the amount of women that
  • 00:14:47
    continue to go on a podcast, especially
  • 00:14:50
    like this podcast, just shows how much
  • 00:14:52
    the PickMe era is still on the horizon.
  • 00:14:54
    I thought after the multitude of women
  • 00:14:56
    that he's disrespected, that other women
  • 00:14:58
    would not want to go on the show. But
  • 00:14:59
    since so many women are seeking male
  • 00:15:01
    validation or seeking a platform to seek
  • 00:15:04
    more male validation, they're dealing
  • 00:15:05
    with this disrespect, letting men speak
  • 00:15:07
    to them egregiously all for the male
  • 00:15:11
    gays. They think if they're picked by, I
  • 00:15:13
    think his name is Marvin or Marwin, that
  • 00:15:15
    they're better than the next woman. And
  • 00:15:16
    then when you see these women in the
  • 00:15:18
    room with other women, say he's
  • 00:15:20
    attacking one woman on the show, the
  • 00:15:22
    other women don't speak up. They sit
  • 00:15:24
    there and shut up because they'd rather
  • 00:15:26
    have male validation versus doing what's
  • 00:15:28
    right, which is making sure you're
  • 00:15:29
    defending your other women counterparts.
  • 00:15:31
    Take a look at some of these clips from
  • 00:15:33
    the Fresh and Fit podcast. And then
  • 00:15:35
    Kevin Samuels.
  • 00:15:36
    I don't think I don't think it's uh
  • 00:15:38
    doesn't make sense to ask for advice
  • 00:15:40
    from women.
  • 00:15:42
    Yeah.
  • 00:15:42
    Right.
  • 00:15:43
    I mean, why the [ __ ] would anyone live a
  • 00:15:45
    big difference?
  • 00:15:45
    Why would you live with Marin? He's got
  • 00:15:47
    like 50 [ __ ] properties. He's ahead
  • 00:15:49
    of the game. He made he popped off in
  • 00:15:51
    the first year of doing a podcast. Why
  • 00:15:53
    would you ever as a woman give him
  • 00:15:55
    advice?
  • 00:15:56
    What would you give him advice on?
  • 00:15:58
    What what I was explaining, let me let
  • 00:16:00
    me bring it full context. I was saying
  • 00:16:01
    that I don't think men should be going
  • 00:16:03
    to women for like advice on life because
  • 00:16:06
    I think the trajectory that a man lives
  • 00:16:08
    in his, you know, mission versus like
  • 00:16:11
    the trajectory of a woman, we live
  • 00:16:12
    completely different existences. He's
  • 00:16:14
    being verbally violent and emotionally
  • 00:16:16
    abusive and he responds with his hands.
  • 00:16:20
    Is that fair play?
  • 00:16:22
    No.
  • 00:16:23
    Okay. Why not?
  • 00:16:25
    Because men are physically stronger than
  • 00:16:28
    women and a real man will walk away and
  • 00:16:30
    walk away from
  • 00:16:31
    Thank you. That's and that's at the root
  • 00:16:33
    of everything, gentlemen. Ladies, that's
  • 00:16:35
    at the root of everything. You're a
  • 00:16:37
    woman that believes that men are
  • 00:16:40
    stronger and men should walk away, then
  • 00:16:42
    if that's the case, then you should keep
  • 00:16:43
    your mouth closed and not incite a man
  • 00:16:47
    cuz you can't whoop his ass.
  • 00:16:50
    But how many women do that? Why wasn't
  • 00:16:53
    she a real woman and just run away?
  • 00:16:56
    Why'd she hit back? What sense does it
  • 00:16:59
    make to agitate somebody who you cannot
  • 00:17:03
    defend yourself against?
  • 00:17:05
    no sense.
  • 00:17:06
    I absolutely hated the red pill movement
  • 00:17:09
    and I'm so glad that it has slowed down
  • 00:17:11
    significantly and we stopped giving
  • 00:17:13
    these men the attention that they so
  • 00:17:14
    much wanted. And they also started an
  • 00:17:16
    entire movement of having other men
  • 00:17:19
    disrespect and degrade women. But though
  • 00:17:22
    so many women spoke out against the red
  • 00:17:24
    pill movement and did not like Kevin
  • 00:17:26
    Samuels and did not and don't like the
  • 00:17:28
    Fresh and Fit podcast people, a lot of
  • 00:17:30
    women bought into it. Even if it was
  • 00:17:33
    subconsciously, women began adjusting
  • 00:17:36
    themselves and began making their own
  • 00:17:38
    content on how to be a highvalued woman,
  • 00:17:41
    how to live the soft life, how to be
  • 00:17:44
    picked. It was no longer just men
  • 00:17:47
    pushing this narrative. It was the women
  • 00:17:49
    taking what they saw was viral and they
  • 00:17:51
    began seeing that a lot of women were
  • 00:17:53
    not confident within themselves as much
  • 00:17:55
    as they preached to be and they decided
  • 00:17:57
    to monetize off that content and thus
  • 00:17:59
    began the soft life era. This is when we
  • 00:18:01
    begin getting the femininity coaches,
  • 00:18:04
    the how to be chosen videos, how to get
  • 00:18:06
    your ex back, how to make him fall in
  • 00:18:08
    love in five days, how to get that
  • 00:18:10
    second date, how to get the first date,
  • 00:18:12
    how to get that ring. All this content
  • 00:18:15
    began taking over women's spaces online.
  • 00:18:17
    And we began literally seeing this
  • 00:18:19
    content everywhere. There was an era
  • 00:18:21
    that I joke with my sister about how she
  • 00:18:24
    literally would be sending me so many
  • 00:18:27
    videos about dating and like how he's
  • 00:18:29
    not the one or how he is the one and
  • 00:18:31
    different dating tricks to try and all
  • 00:18:32
    these things. And I was like, Ty, I feel
  • 00:18:34
    like every time you send me something on
  • 00:18:36
    TikTok, it's a new lesson. It's new
  • 00:18:38
    advice. Like, I'm just on this app to
  • 00:18:40
    laugh if anything or maybe see a little
  • 00:18:42
    social commentary. But dang, I don't
  • 00:18:44
    want to hear about dating all the time.
  • 00:18:45
    And then she even noticed like I really
  • 00:18:47
    am getting a lot of that content because
  • 00:18:48
    y'all know the algorithm be algorithming
  • 00:18:50
    because if you say you like one type of
  • 00:18:52
    video, they're going to show you 10
  • 00:18:53
    different variations of that same video.
  • 00:18:55
    But the main difference between the Piki
  • 00:18:57
    culture we saw growing up and the Pikmi
  • 00:18:59
    culture we see now coming back is that
  • 00:19:02
    it's just repackaged, but it's in the
  • 00:19:04
    same box. Back then we had the I'm not
  • 00:19:06
    like the other girls mindset. But today
  • 00:19:09
    it's more curated. It's more pretty and
  • 00:19:12
    feminine with the Pikmi woman going
  • 00:19:14
    online preaching femininity, submission,
  • 00:19:17
    soft life, and moral superiority
  • 00:19:19
    disguised as empowerment. So, the reason
  • 00:19:22
    why a lot of people don't realize that
  • 00:19:23
    Pikmi culture may be back is because
  • 00:19:25
    they're not so loud about it. They're
  • 00:19:27
    actually soft about it. She's teaching
  • 00:19:29
    women how to be more softspoken, be more
  • 00:19:32
    delicate. She's teaching you how to gain
  • 00:19:34
    more male approval without blatantly
  • 00:19:37
    saying, "This is how you get male
  • 00:19:38
    approval." And a lot of the times you
  • 00:19:40
    guys dragged me when I made this video
  • 00:19:43
    when I said that a lot of the Christian
  • 00:19:44
    content creators are mean girls
  • 00:19:46
    disguised. Take a look at that video if
  • 00:19:48
    y'all want to check it out. It is here
  • 00:19:50
    or here, wherever it pops up on screen.
  • 00:19:52
    But in that video, I talked about how I
  • 00:19:54
    feel as if a lot of the Christian
  • 00:19:55
    content creators aren't necessarily
  • 00:19:57
    girls girls the way they preach
  • 00:19:58
    themselves to be. They're just very
  • 00:20:00
    judgmental women that use their moral
  • 00:20:01
    compass in order to degrade women. But
  • 00:20:04
    if you guys want to hear a little bit
  • 00:20:05
    more of what my opinion was when it came
  • 00:20:07
    to the Christian girlies, go and check
  • 00:20:08
    that video out. But they definitely are
  • 00:20:11
    a main group of people that are a part
  • 00:20:13
    of this pick me error being back.
  • 00:20:15
    They're too busy shaming women versus
  • 00:20:17
    preaching the Bible. And honestly, I do
  • 00:20:19
    not believe that God is as male-centered
  • 00:20:21
    and female centered the way that you
  • 00:20:23
    guys try to make it seem to be. I think
  • 00:20:24
    God really wants us just to be good
  • 00:20:26
    people. I really highly doubt the top of
  • 00:20:29
    his concerns is if one of his followers
  • 00:20:31
    is wearing a minikrt. But hey, who am I?
  • 00:20:34
    Something that I've noticed in very
  • 00:20:36
    intelligent but very religious women is
  • 00:20:37
    that sometimes they have the biggest
  • 00:20:39
    issues with male validation, they can be
  • 00:20:41
    their biggest pickmies. And my theory on
  • 00:20:43
    that as someone that grew up with five
  • 00:20:45
    very intelligent but very religious
  • 00:20:47
    sisters or four, sorry. Um, is that I
  • 00:20:49
    think the thing is with intelligent
  • 00:20:51
    women, I think because they are so
  • 00:20:52
    intelligent, they are very observant and
  • 00:20:54
    they are very aware of the societal
  • 00:20:55
    imbalances between what religious men
  • 00:20:58
    get and what religious women get. They
  • 00:21:00
    know that when a man is very religious,
  • 00:21:01
    he gets power. He gets control. He gets
  • 00:21:03
    leadership qualities. He gets to be a
  • 00:21:04
    scholarly. He gets to it. It it it
  • 00:21:07
    levels him upwards. When a woman is
  • 00:21:09
    religious, she gets compliments. She
  • 00:21:10
    gets protection, love, care, and she
  • 00:21:13
    might even get a good husband if she's
  • 00:21:14
    lucky enough. And I think the thing is
  • 00:21:16
    with intelligent women is that they're
  • 00:21:17
    very observant and they know that this
  • 00:21:20
    isn't fair. So, it leads them to two
  • 00:21:21
    options. Number one, they could start
  • 00:21:24
    questioning, but then that would lead to
  • 00:21:26
    cognitive dissonance, which then could
  • 00:21:27
    lead to them leaving the faith. So a lot
  • 00:21:28
    of them choose the second option which
  • 00:21:30
    is doubling up on their religious
  • 00:21:31
    devotion. Told that because they're
  • 00:21:33
    women they are inherently um cherished
  • 00:21:36
    and loved and valued but they're also
  • 00:21:37
    because they're a very intelligent
  • 00:21:38
    woman. They're also aware of the fact
  • 00:21:39
    that if they leave the religion all of
  • 00:21:41
    that cherish and love and protection
  • 00:21:43
    will lead them. So they understand their
  • 00:21:44
    worth in their religion is not intrinsic
  • 00:21:46
    to themselves. She knows that she isn't
  • 00:21:48
    loved and respected because of her
  • 00:21:50
    intrinsic value as a woman. She knows
  • 00:21:52
    that she gets it because of her
  • 00:21:53
    compliancy because she's a compliant
  • 00:21:55
    obedient person. Not respected and loved
  • 00:21:57
    for being a woman. Respected and love
  • 00:21:59
    for being a compliant woman. I mean, I'm
  • 00:22:00
    personally sick of seeing the content of
  • 00:22:02
    women saying how I submit to my man or
  • 00:22:04
    how I let my man lead. Girl, just focus
  • 00:22:06
    on your relationship and don't worry
  • 00:22:07
    about the rest of us. Okay, but now it's
  • 00:22:08
    time to show you guys some examples of
  • 00:22:10
    how the Pikmi culture is back besides
  • 00:22:12
    the ones I just showed you just now. So,
  • 00:22:14
    the repackaged Pikmi fits in several
  • 00:22:16
    different categories. We have the wife,
  • 00:22:18
    which is the ones that make the mommy
  • 00:22:20
    content, make the wifey content, how to
  • 00:22:22
    submit to my husband, how I am the
  • 00:22:25
    perfect mom, how I cook my recipes, all
  • 00:22:27
    of that. And the third, think of the
  • 00:22:28
    preachers's wife, think of the Christian
  • 00:22:31
    content creators. Like that is the one
  • 00:22:33
    box. Okay. Then you have the Jezebel
  • 00:22:36
    Pikmi. And I'm seeing this quite a bit,
  • 00:22:38
    especially unfortunately when it comes
  • 00:22:41
    to the women that look like me. It truly
  • 00:22:43
    saddens and breaks my heart. But I'm
  • 00:22:45
    sure I'm only seeing it with people that
  • 00:22:47
    look like me because that's the content
  • 00:22:48
    I mainly digest. So that's what I'm
  • 00:22:50
    hoping. Fingers crossed. But the
  • 00:22:52
    examples I'm about to talk about are
  • 00:22:53
    primarily black women. India Love, who
  • 00:22:56
    is the OG influencer, as many like to
  • 00:22:58
    call her. She is a 29-year-old
  • 00:23:00
    influencer. She blew up back in the
  • 00:23:02
    Tumblr days, and she was known to be
  • 00:23:04
    very beautiful. A lot of men wanted her.
  • 00:23:06
    She's been known to date a lot of
  • 00:23:08
    rappers and athletes and kind of have
  • 00:23:10
    her way and live that soft life that so
  • 00:23:12
    many women so desire. But recently,
  • 00:23:14
    she's gotten caught up in the streaming
  • 00:23:17
    lifestyle. And we're going to talk about
  • 00:23:18
    more of these streaming girls in just a
  • 00:23:20
    second. But I don't know if you guys
  • 00:23:21
    have heard of Kai Sinat's streamers
  • 00:23:23
    university where he had a bunch of
  • 00:23:25
    streamers in one college and they all
  • 00:23:27
    did content together. And India was one
  • 00:23:30
    that came in though she wasn't a
  • 00:23:31
    streamer, but she was known to be a very
  • 00:23:33
    popular influencer with millions of
  • 00:23:35
    followers. So, while India was streaming
  • 00:23:37
    through her stream and other streams,
  • 00:23:39
    because literally everybody on that
  • 00:23:40
    campus was streaming, you can see her in
  • 00:23:42
    multiple men's faces. She was in Duke
  • 00:23:45
    Dennis's face, J. Sinko, DDG, who we
  • 00:23:49
    already know is problematic in his own
  • 00:23:50
    right, and a lot of the women he
  • 00:23:52
    surrounds himself with are known to be
  • 00:23:54
    Pikmis as well, but that's besides the
  • 00:23:56
    point. But in these videos, India is
  • 00:23:58
    being very flirty, kind of throwing
  • 00:24:00
    herself at them, and it's giving kind of
  • 00:24:02
    cringe, especially given her age. No one
  • 00:24:04
    is saying she is old. India is not old
  • 00:24:06
    by any means. She's not even 30 yet. But
  • 00:24:08
    a lot of the people at the streamer
  • 00:24:10
    university are significantly younger
  • 00:24:11
    than her. They're like 20, 21 years old.
  • 00:24:14
    So their behavior makes sense if they
  • 00:24:15
    are doing the most. But with India being
  • 00:24:17
    nearly 30, people didn't expect her to
  • 00:24:19
    be so like I want all of your attention
  • 00:24:21
    to all of these men in multiple
  • 00:24:22
    different scenarios. She's caught
  • 00:24:24
    twerking on these men, acting jealous
  • 00:24:25
    when these men are talking to other
  • 00:24:27
    women, these men that she's not dating.
  • 00:24:29
    And I at first thought, you know,
  • 00:24:30
    they're just doing this for content.
  • 00:24:31
    Like I mean you have to be interesting
  • 00:24:33
    when you are a streamer because people
  • 00:24:34
    are literally sitting and watching you
  • 00:24:36
    for several hours at a time, sometimes
  • 00:24:38
    days at a time. So you may need to get
  • 00:24:40
    some scripts together in order to retain
  • 00:24:42
    your audience's attention. However, that
  • 00:24:45
    quickly shifted when I saw her go viral
  • 00:24:48
    recently for saying that a baddie turns
  • 00:24:51
    18 every day. Take a look at this mix.
  • 00:24:54
    You know, you know what my motto is? A
  • 00:24:57
    [ __ ]
  • 00:24:57
    Tell us.
  • 00:24:58
    There's a [ __ ] that turns 18 every day.
  • 00:25:00
    Okay. So, you need to be on your [ __ ]
  • 00:25:02
    cuz a [ __ ] turns 18 every [ __ ] day.
  • 00:25:05
    And I'm not going to be the [ __ ] that
  • 00:25:07
    used to be the cool [ __ ] No, I'm going
  • 00:25:09
    always [ __ ] forever and ever and ever.
  • 00:25:12
    And y'all going to know me as being the
  • 00:25:14
    original cool LA [ __ ] That's just what
  • 00:25:17
    it is. I'm never going to be like
  • 00:25:18
    washed. I'm never going to be like in
  • 00:25:20
    the past. I'm always going to be like
  • 00:25:23
    the one. Like I'm the blueprint. Like I
  • 00:25:25
    know y'all know that. Like
  • 00:25:26
    we do. I like it. I like it. We are
  • 00:25:28
    fully aware. You are the blueprint. out
  • 00:25:30
    there. Listen to me. That might be
  • 00:25:32
    That might be the first time I heard
  • 00:25:33
    that. There's always going to be a [ __ ]
  • 00:25:34
    turning 18 every day. A [ __ ] every day.
  • 00:25:37
    I mean, you saying we we say like like
  • 00:25:39
    we say like uh if we like, you know,
  • 00:25:41
    sports hoop or whatever. It's always
  • 00:25:42
    going to be some younger wave or like
  • 00:25:44
    [ __ ] that dress cooler.
  • 00:25:46
    Respectfully, we always say there's a
  • 00:25:47
    new draft class every draft class.
  • 00:25:49
    Exactly. Same exact thing.
  • 00:25:51
    You got to you got to stay fresh or
  • 00:25:52
    you'll get left behind.
  • 00:25:53
    Facts.
  • 00:25:54
    In this clip, it shows that she is
  • 00:25:56
    competing with basically children. Any
  • 00:25:58
    woman that is worried about an
  • 00:25:59
    18-year-old after I would say 22 is not
  • 00:26:02
    confident in who they are as a person.
  • 00:26:04
    Me at 24 years old, I don't think about
  • 00:26:06
    what an 18-year-old is doing. My little
  • 00:26:08
    cousin, she'll be 18 in July and she
  • 00:26:11
    just graduated high school. She is a
  • 00:26:13
    baby to me. I'm not worried about what
  • 00:26:15
    Maddie and her friends are doing because
  • 00:26:17
    we shouldn't even be dating the same
  • 00:26:19
    men. Let's really clock that. And if
  • 00:26:21
    you're dating a man that is interested
  • 00:26:24
    in an 18-year-old when you're
  • 00:26:25
    approaching 30, what does that say about
  • 00:26:28
    him? And what does that say about you
  • 00:26:29
    for continuing to date him? That entire
  • 00:26:32
    mindset just reeks of pick me culture
  • 00:26:35
    and it just reeks of male validation.
  • 00:26:37
    I've dated older guys and I've told you
  • 00:26:39
    guys this on several occasions. Like
  • 00:26:41
    when I was younger, 18, 19, I thought,
  • 00:26:43
    "Oh my god, like this 27year-old wants
  • 00:26:45
    to talk to me or this 30-year-old wants
  • 00:26:47
    to talk to me thinking it was cute." Now
  • 00:26:49
    at 24, you guys, I don't want an old man
  • 00:26:51
    in my face at all. Okay, it's the
  • 00:26:53
    funniest thing because the past few
  • 00:26:54
    weekends, my sister and I have gone out.
  • 00:26:56
    We've had older men try talking to us
  • 00:26:58
    and I was like laughing at the fact that
  • 00:27:00
    before when I was younger, I thought
  • 00:27:02
    that was kind of like a badge of honor
  • 00:27:03
    because oh my god, like he sees I'm
  • 00:27:05
    mature or oh my god, like I'm only 18
  • 00:27:07
    and I'm like pulling these older guys.
  • 00:27:09
    No baby, that's not a flex. And me at
  • 00:27:12
    24, if I'm dating a man that has dated
  • 00:27:14
    someone younger than me and he's older
  • 00:27:15
    than me, we don't need to be talking.
  • 00:27:17
    The youngest I would say it's a limit.
  • 00:27:19
    So I feel like most of the guys I talk
  • 00:27:20
    are probably about 29 30 and I think a
  • 00:27:22
    29 or 30-year-old talking to a
  • 00:27:24
    22-year-old is a little bit odd too. I
  • 00:27:26
    think I'm the cut off quite frankly. I
  • 00:27:28
    think 24 25 is the cut off when you get
  • 00:27:30
    to 30. But everyone has their
  • 00:27:32
    preferences but I just want to be
  • 00:27:33
    talking to him and that's because I'm
  • 00:27:34
    not a pickme and I don't want to compete
  • 00:27:36
    with 18-year-olds. I don't care to. We
  • 00:27:37
    should not be in the same dating pool
  • 00:27:39
    quite frankly. But when women say things
  • 00:27:41
    like this it further pushes men to this
  • 00:27:43
    higher level that they do not need to be
  • 00:27:45
    on. Okay. And this goes into more of the
  • 00:27:48
    other girls in the streaming world. When
  • 00:27:50
    watching Kai Sonat, it's Sonat, right?
  • 00:27:53
    His streamers university. I did not
  • 00:27:54
    personally watch it. I saw clips on my
  • 00:27:56
    FYP. And I guess once you like one video
  • 00:27:59
    or interact with one, you see a
  • 00:28:01
    multitude of them. And plus, he was just
  • 00:28:02
    blowing up. So kudos to you, Kai. I
  • 00:28:05
    truly respect the hustle. I respect the
  • 00:28:06
    game. I love it. And I might want to get
  • 00:28:08
    into streaming. I don't know. I feel
  • 00:28:10
    like it would be fun to get into. I
  • 00:28:11
    know. I've never understood why people
  • 00:28:13
    would sit and watch one person all day,
  • 00:28:15
    but it could be fun. But anyways, a lot
  • 00:28:17
    of the girls that are doing the
  • 00:28:18
    streaming thing, they do a lot of things
  • 00:28:21
    for male validation, like cooking with
  • 00:28:24
    Ka. Cooking with Ka went viral, not for
  • 00:28:27
    her cooking, for her twerking while
  • 00:28:29
    she's cooking, and for her saying, "My
  • 00:28:31
    food is so good. I could steal your
  • 00:28:33
    man."
  • 00:28:33
    Girl, I could steal your man with this
  • 00:28:35
    dinner I just cooked. Bro, take a good
  • 00:28:37
    look. Once again, another girl seeking
  • 00:28:39
    validation from the male gays in order
  • 00:28:42
    to grow her audience. And then they get
  • 00:28:44
    shocked when women call them out for
  • 00:28:45
    being a Pikmi and only wanting and
  • 00:28:47
    seeking male validation. And even women
  • 00:28:49
    at Kai Sonat's streamer university, they
  • 00:28:52
    were saying that Cooking with Ka was not
  • 00:28:54
    really nice to the other girls. No, dead
  • 00:28:56
    ass. I'm not even making that up. Like I
  • 00:28:58
    was like, "Hey girl." And I started
  • 00:29:00
    dancing. I seen her and I was like,
  • 00:29:01
    "Cooking with Ka." And she was like,
  • 00:29:04
    "Fuck."
  • 00:29:07
    Damn, [ __ ] Okay, cuz one thing about
  • 00:29:09
    it, I'm trying to support every
  • 00:29:10
    singlebody and I'm trying to support you
  • 00:29:13
    too cooking with Ka. So, yes, I did your
  • 00:29:15
    little dance and she looked at me like I
  • 00:29:16
    was crazy with an attitude and I'm like,
  • 00:29:17
    "Nobody has done that on campus." But
  • 00:29:19
    she did. But maybe she has a different
  • 00:29:21
    vibe on stream. Now, granted, I will say
  • 00:29:24
    I have seen clips. I was just watching
  • 00:29:26
    my girl Queen Shama. Hey, Chama. Um, and
  • 00:29:28
    she made a video about cooking with Ka.
  • 00:29:30
    And Kaio recently lost her sibling, so
  • 00:29:34
    she was acting a little bit off or maybe
  • 00:29:35
    she's like a little bit socially
  • 00:29:37
    awkward. So, I'm not going to 100% say
  • 00:29:39
    that this was the truth that she was
  • 00:29:41
    being mean to other girls. Like maybe
  • 00:29:43
    she was just a little bit nervous or
  • 00:29:44
    intimidated or going through something.
  • 00:29:46
    So, I won't say that much. But, however,
  • 00:29:48
    her entire presence on the media was all
  • 00:29:51
    about male validation and seeking male
  • 00:29:53
    validation. And a lot of these girls,
  • 00:29:55
    these IG girlies that get on these
  • 00:29:57
    platforms, specifically these male
  • 00:29:59
    streamer platforms and these male
  • 00:30:01
    YouTubers and Tik Tockers, they do the
  • 00:30:03
    most. They're like 30 years old twerking
  • 00:30:05
    on camera on a 21-year-old stream. And
  • 00:30:08
    the crazy part, it's a lot of these
  • 00:30:09
    former IG baddies. They basically are
  • 00:30:12
    going wherever the money is at. Right
  • 00:30:13
    now, streaming's popular, so they're
  • 00:30:15
    going to pop on every stream that they
  • 00:30:16
    possibly can. And what disgusts me is
  • 00:30:18
    that they willingly go on being
  • 00:30:20
    disrespected by these men, being
  • 00:30:22
    humiliated, and being sexualized by the
  • 00:30:24
    men and also their 10-year-old audience
  • 00:30:27
    members all for the sake of clicks and
  • 00:30:29
    content. And yeah, you guys can say, "Oh
  • 00:30:31
    my god, it's just to be funny. They're
  • 00:30:33
    just having fun." Yeah, it's masked like
  • 00:30:36
    that. But underneath the mask, we're
  • 00:30:38
    watching women lower their standards,
  • 00:30:40
    lower their values, all for male
  • 00:30:42
    validation. So, now let's get into the
  • 00:30:44
    entire internet seemingly pushing
  • 00:30:46
    modesty, specifically when it comes to
  • 00:30:48
    policing gymwear. So, recently there was
  • 00:30:51
    a lot of commentary on what women are
  • 00:30:53
    choosing to wear to the gym. And a lot
  • 00:30:56
    of people have been downplaying or
  • 00:30:58
    degrading women for wearing smaller
  • 00:31:00
    clothing when they are at the gym. Now,
  • 00:31:02
    I say when it comes to this topic, it's
  • 00:31:05
    pretty evident when a woman is being
  • 00:31:06
    just disrespectful when she's at the gym
  • 00:31:09
    and just trying to be very
  • 00:31:10
    attention-seeking where you are wearing
  • 00:31:12
    basically bra panties at the gym. Like,
  • 00:31:14
    there's a time and a place. However,
  • 00:31:16
    some of these outfits that people are
  • 00:31:17
    talking about, I'm just like appalled.
  • 00:31:19
    You guys expect women to go into the gym
  • 00:31:22
    with sweats on where you're going to go
  • 00:31:25
    and sweat? I don't understand why I'm
  • 00:31:27
    going to be wearing oversized clothing.
  • 00:31:29
    Now, some women choose and prefer to
  • 00:31:31
    wear oversized clothing in the gym. But
  • 00:31:32
    somebody like me personally, I am not
  • 00:31:34
    doing that. I don't like sweating. I
  • 00:31:36
    don't like overly sweating, should I
  • 00:31:37
    say. So, I am going to wear clothes that
  • 00:31:39
    fit my body and allow me to properly be
  • 00:31:41
    able to cool myself off. If you look at
  • 00:31:44
    any gym line, like especially for women,
  • 00:31:46
    you look at any of their clothes for
  • 00:31:48
    women who work out, everything is tight
  • 00:31:49
    fitted. Everything is painted to the
  • 00:31:52
    body. Have you ever tried to work out in
  • 00:31:54
    loose sweats and a loose t-shirt? It's
  • 00:31:56
    difficult. It's hot. The clothes that we
  • 00:31:59
    wear to the gym, they are gym outfits.
  • 00:32:03
    Leggings and a bra, leggings and and a
  • 00:32:06
    shirt, a tank top, whatever. It's gym
  • 00:32:08
    wear. That hasn't changed for years. It
  • 00:32:12
    is the culture, the society, and the
  • 00:32:15
    people in our generation who have
  • 00:32:18
    sexualized
  • 00:32:19
    gym outfits that now have women getting
  • 00:32:23
    dressed to go to the gym sitting here
  • 00:32:25
    like, "Oh, this is going to cause too
  • 00:32:26
    much attention. Oh, this is going to
  • 00:32:28
    draw too much attention towards me.
  • 00:32:30
    Maybe I need to cover up. Maybe I need
  • 00:32:32
    to put on a longer shirt. Maybe I should
  • 00:32:34
    just put on some loose basketball short.
  • 00:32:36
    Like, and it doesn't matter. Okay,
  • 00:32:37
    honestly, if you see a woman doing
  • 00:32:38
    squats, like her booty going to be
  • 00:32:39
    bootying, period. Let's adjust our
  • 00:32:42
    mindsets to to stop over sexualizing
  • 00:32:45
    things that were never meant to be
  • 00:32:47
    sexualized. Not trying to seduce you.
  • 00:32:50
    Like, that's a you problem, and you're
  • 00:32:51
    not going to put that weight on us
  • 00:32:53
    anymore. has changed is this provocative
  • 00:32:55
    generation who over sexualizes
  • 00:32:58
    everything to the point where women
  • 00:33:00
    don't even want to go to the gym. So Tik
  • 00:33:03
    Tockers and influencers or just people
  • 00:33:06
    that want to spectate and spit out
  • 00:33:07
    commentary on the app. They're calling
  • 00:33:09
    out women to cover up more when they're
  • 00:33:11
    at the gym versus just minding their
  • 00:33:13
    business. When I go to the gym, y'all, I
  • 00:33:15
    am locked in. I don't look at anybody.
  • 00:33:17
    The only time I'm actually looking at
  • 00:33:18
    other people's bodies is when I'm like,
  • 00:33:20
    "Damn, I want to look like that very,
  • 00:33:21
    very much so soon." Okay? And that's
  • 00:33:23
    typically at Pilates because we're in a
  • 00:33:25
    workout class. So, we kind of have to
  • 00:33:27
    look at each other and that's the only
  • 00:33:28
    time I'm never looking at what they're
  • 00:33:30
    wearing or what they're choosing to
  • 00:33:31
    wear. I'm just like, "Wow, you look
  • 00:33:32
    beautiful. You look good." Like, "Oh my
  • 00:33:34
    god, body's tea. We love it." However,
  • 00:33:36
    other people are in the gym like where
  • 00:33:38
    you're lifting weights and y'all are
  • 00:33:39
    worried about other people. Girl, I'm
  • 00:33:41
    too busy trying to survive and finish
  • 00:33:43
    this set. And that's why I say it is
  • 00:33:45
    internalized misogyny that you're
  • 00:33:47
    masking as someone that can't mind their
  • 00:33:49
    damn business. And once again, it's less
  • 00:33:51
    about choice and more about how we can
  • 00:33:53
    continue to police and control women. So
  • 00:33:57
    the question is, is this about
  • 00:33:58
    femininity or internalized misogyny
  • 00:34:01
    overall? I want to make it very clear,
  • 00:34:03
    there's nothing wrong with trying to
  • 00:34:05
    embrace your softness and embrace your
  • 00:34:07
    femininity. If you like to cook, if you
  • 00:34:09
    like to serve your man, like I don't
  • 00:34:11
    think there's necessarily anything wrong
  • 00:34:13
    with that. It's truly your choice and
  • 00:34:15
    whatever floats your boat. The problem
  • 00:34:17
    is what we're seeing is not empowerment.
  • 00:34:20
    It's judgment. It's misogyny. It's
  • 00:34:22
    pickme culture. When femininity becomes
  • 00:34:24
    synonymous with obedience, we're in
  • 00:34:27
    trouble. There was just another woman
  • 00:34:29
    that just went viral for telling women
  • 00:34:31
    that you need to sleep with your man if
  • 00:34:33
    you're married. Excuse me. Number two,
  • 00:34:36
    consent doesn't exist in marriage. I
  • 00:34:38
    know this is going to piss a lot of
  • 00:34:39
    people off, but when you get married,
  • 00:34:41
    your body belongs to your husband and
  • 00:34:42
    your husband's body belongs to you. Two
  • 00:34:44
    become one. body, mind, soul, and
  • 00:34:46
    spirit. Like, I'm telling you, these
  • 00:34:48
    trades are out of control. They're so
  • 00:34:50
    out of control because they're trying to
  • 00:34:52
    control everyone else but themselves.
  • 00:34:54
    And the reason why I believe a lot of
  • 00:34:56
    Gen Z is now buying into this, this ties
  • 00:34:59
    back to what I was talking about
  • 00:35:00
    earlier. When it comes to girl boss
  • 00:35:02
    culture, when girl boss culture became a
  • 00:35:05
    thing, the economy was in a much
  • 00:35:06
    different place, okay? Bills were not as
  • 00:35:09
    high, rent was more achievable,
  • 00:35:11
    groceries were lower, gas was lower.
  • 00:35:13
    Heck, getting a drink at the bar, prices
  • 00:35:15
    were lower. But today, with everything
  • 00:35:18
    being on the rise, Gen Z's burnt the
  • 00:35:21
    out. Economic instability makes
  • 00:35:23
    hypertamy sound like a dream and the
  • 00:35:25
    safe choice. So, a lot of women are
  • 00:35:27
    opting out of the girl boss culture and
  • 00:35:29
    being your own individual because
  • 00:35:31
    they're just tired. We're just tired.
  • 00:35:33
    We've worked so hard and we're not
  • 00:35:35
    seeing results. Before, we were told if
  • 00:35:38
    you work hard, you get to play even
  • 00:35:39
    harder. But we keep working and nothing
  • 00:35:42
    is changing. So, we're like, you know
  • 00:35:43
    what? I'm over it. I'll just be the soft
  • 00:35:46
    life dainty princess you want me to be
  • 00:35:47
    and get my husband so I don't ever have
  • 00:35:49
    to work a day again because I am tired.
  • 00:35:51
    I am burnt out. Let me be the Pikmi,
  • 00:35:54
    please. So, they don't literally say,
  • 00:35:55
    "Let me be the Pikmi," but they start
  • 00:35:57
    changing their ideas and their way of
  • 00:35:59
    thinking and try to conform their own
  • 00:36:00
    personalities because they just want a
  • 00:36:03
    break. They just want to not have to
  • 00:36:06
    work so hard any longer. And of course,
  • 00:36:09
    as always, it's a trend. Not being a
  • 00:36:11
    pick me necessarily, but being the wife,
  • 00:36:14
    living the soft life, drinking your
  • 00:36:15
    matcha, going to Pilates, going to yoga.
  • 00:36:18
    It's what's trending. So, you're just
  • 00:36:19
    going to try to adapt to those trends.
  • 00:36:22
    Being the fun, wild girl is not a trend
  • 00:36:24
    right now. Being the soft, dainty
  • 00:36:26
    princess is the trend. So, a lot of
  • 00:36:27
    women are trying to become that trend,
  • 00:36:29
    or should I say women and young girls.
  • 00:36:32
    So unfortunately, this just shows that
  • 00:36:34
    the Pik me era is indeed back and I'm
  • 00:36:36
    going to need it to go all the way back
  • 00:36:38
    because I want women to just be women.
  • 00:36:40
    However, everything plays a role. I
  • 00:36:42
    always say the economy affects
  • 00:36:44
    everything from fashion to mindsets to
  • 00:36:46
    the decisions we make. But you guys,
  • 00:36:49
    that is the end of today's video on the
  • 00:36:52
    Pikmi era being back. What are your
  • 00:36:54
    thoughts? I want to know what you guys
  • 00:36:55
    think in the comments down below. What
  • 00:36:56
    are your thoughts on the origin of the
  • 00:36:58
    Pikmi culture? What are your thoughts on
  • 00:36:59
    what's going on now? What are your
  • 00:37:00
    thoughts on the red pill movement, the
  • 00:37:02
    streamer girls, India love and her
  • 00:37:04
    thoughts on 18-year-olds being a
  • 00:37:06
    competition to a 30-year-old woman?
  • 00:37:07
    First of all, and then India is
  • 00:37:09
    gorgeous. The older you get, the more
  • 00:37:11
    attractive you get to me. You get wiser,
  • 00:37:13
    you look better, you feel better. Why
  • 00:37:15
    the heck would I want to go back to
  • 00:37:16
    being 18 years old when you're all
  • 00:37:18
    confused? Okay, but maybe if you're
  • 00:37:19
    still confused at 30, you might want to
  • 00:37:21
    go back to being 18. So, that's why I
  • 00:37:23
    think self-improvement and
  • 00:37:24
    self-development is definitely essential
  • 00:37:26
    as you get older. But let's get the
  • 00:37:28
    discussion going on the comments down
  • 00:37:29
    below. Remember you guys, for the
  • 00:37:31
    billionth time, we're on the road to
  • 00:37:33
    300,000 subscribers.
  • 00:37:36
    YouTube hates me right now. I don't know
  • 00:37:38
    what I did to YouTube, but like I'm
  • 00:37:39
    getting very suppressed and it's making
  • 00:37:41
    me depressed. So, YouTube, push this
  • 00:37:44
    video out. We need to make sure no more
  • 00:37:45
    girls are being Pikmis, okay? Because
  • 00:37:47
    that error needs to be dead. So, push
  • 00:37:48
    this video out to all the Pikmis, all
  • 00:37:50
    the soon to be Pikmis, and all the
  • 00:37:52
    retired Pikmis, okay? But you guys, I
  • 00:37:55
    love and I appreciate all the support so
  • 00:37:56
    much and I will see you all in my very
  • 00:37:59
    next video. Love you guys. Bye.
  • 00:38:10
    Taking you in this moment.
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  • femininity
  • self-worth
  • economic instability
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  • validation
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