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it's 7 p.m. it's
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95°
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got hi everyone welcome to my channel
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whenever we start the intro
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with you know you're on my main Channel
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second channel right here so I actually
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don't love making videos about men
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because why why but I have so much data
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recently data and evidence that I had to
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make this video of course we need to
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prefer by not all men just a lot of
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men so these are 22 harsh truths about
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men that I wish more women knew they are
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based on my observations data povs from
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guy friends guys I know guys I've been
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out with all here in this video and I'm
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going to be giving some anecdotes too
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some story times and I know they're
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going to watch this video so if they
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are hello kidding okay number one there
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are a lot of videos on like how to be a
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dream woman I hate that like how to be a
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dream woman for a man babe first of all
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you need to be a Dream Woman for
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yourself and that especially involves
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having self-respect a girl who's easy
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and has no self-respect that's not a
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dream woman because men like a challenge
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as well and they respect people
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especially women who respect themselves
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and then makes them work like a little
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bit harder so yeah it's not about doing
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this for them it's about doing it for
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yourself and naturally you will turn
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into a dream girl I ha it it's just so
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cringe next you should never take
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rejection personally whether that's in
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dating or in life but especially in
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dating it is more about them than it is
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about you like there's nothing wrong
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with you you're just not a match or
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sometimes a girl can actually be so
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great or even a guy you know this roles
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can be reversed here and you don't
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actually know what to do with it like
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you can feel at a subconscious level so
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undeserving of that person that you
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sabotage it and you know when guys say
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oh you deserve so much better than me it
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often just means they know you deserve
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better and they don't want to meet you
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at the level you want because maybe they
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don't like you that much or they can't
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even meet themselves at that level so
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they feel bad and they want you to go
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and find someone else and then that's
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why they run to easier women and
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sometimes rejection is also because
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people can be avoidant they're afraid of
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getting hurt like wow they seem so great
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what if they reject me I should reject
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them first which is why it's really
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important to look at someone's
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attachment style but you hear so many
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girls going oh I was like completely out
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of his League how could he treat me like
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this like he didn't know what he had he
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knew what he had but he didn't know what
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to do with it and sometimes it's not
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good to be out of someone's league so
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much so you know when you go for a job
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if you're overqualified they actually
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don't hire you and logically you should
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think well I am so overqualified I can
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do so many things at this company help
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them so many ways why would they not
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hire me because they know eventually
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another company's going to approach you
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or they're going to have to pay you more
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eventually and you can demand it so
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they'd rather just hire someone else
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which mean which meets their
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requirements instead of going above and
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beyond you can be too good sometimes but
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if you are toxic and you feel like
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you're deeply undeserving as someone
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amazing comes along you might sabotage
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it cuz you're not ready you feel
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undeserving of it you would rather see
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someone a little bit more flawed because
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it will make you feel better remember
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this all happens subconscious
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level if you are convenient and you know
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you give it up easily they're going to
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keep you around even if they don't like
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you and then one day they might just
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vanish and you'll be like what what what
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what happened I thought everything was
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going perfectly they didn't even like
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you they liked how convenient you were
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and the fact that you were providing
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them easy sex and guess what even if
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they don't like you and you haven't
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slept with them yet they're going to
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keep seeing you until they sleep with
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you don't give in easily men the way
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they bond is different in their brain If
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you give it up too easily and sex is a
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prize it is hard to overcome that but
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again every connection is different do
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what feels right for you follow your
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intuition two story times here the first
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one I went on a date with this guy and
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he was pursuing me for a really long
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time like literally like flew country
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and everything I kind of found out he
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was seeing somethingone else which was
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fine cuz we weren't exclusive I mean I
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literally met him once but he lied about
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it to me and I brought it up and he said
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Simone I have never even taken that girl
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who he'd been seeing for like 6 months
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to dinner and she would like fly to his
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country all the time and apparently like
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follow him everywhere and he described
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her as almost like being a nuisance like
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annoying like he couldn't get rid of her
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and why would he like why would he she
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was hot she was pretty they were
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probably having fun times like why would
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he get rid of her you know Second Story
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Time has happened the past two weeks I
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know this guy's watching this hello to
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you um I'm just going to preface by
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saying I got this information from my
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friend who knows him so it's not through
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me this guy that I went on like a couple
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of dates with and then I stopped seeing
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he was seeing this other girl and he
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didn't really know if he liked her and
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she didn't really have a lot of self
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resect and he would describe her
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literally he would talk about her using
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heinous ter minology she's like so dumb
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like she's dumb as a rock and he' be
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like I can just like treat her however I
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can take her wherever because she's so
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dumb like she doesn't care Rob and why
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would he get rid of her why would he get
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rid of her because she's so convenient
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and he's she's providing love and
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affection she actually didn't sleep with
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him yet and he said this which shocked
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me coming from him cuz I expected better
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from him but I guess not he said I need
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to keep taking her out because at this
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point she's just edging me and I need to
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have personn Clarity to figure out
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whether or not I even like her so he's
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talking [ __ ] about her and now he's like
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I'm just going to keep seeing her until
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I get to sleep with her and you hear
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this happening so often and then girls
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are like well what happened well you
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have no self-respect he didn't like you
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to begin with and babe like you got to
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be the one to walk away I feel like
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girls they can miss the warning sign so
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early on granted there are some guys
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which are absolute players and they're
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really good at you know
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pretending but the signs are always
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there there are little little signs that
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you can see like if he's not planning
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dates he's not treating you with with
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respect respect meaning he's not booty
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calling you at like 11:00 p.m. yo what
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are you doing he plans a date he sends
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you a car like he inquires about your
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day he cares about who you are as an
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individual that is someone who cares and
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respects you but more importantly yes
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everyone deserves respect but especially
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with men you need to train them how you
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want so if you want them to treat you a
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certain way you also need to treat self
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a certain way so this girl at 11:00 p.m.
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he's like come over and she's like okay
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I'll come over like what is that doing
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what is that doing so yeah when I heard
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that I was a little bit shocked but not
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surprised I got away hello to you if
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you're watching this you really should
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reevaluate things anyways next Point men
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settle more than women they're going to
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hate that I said that but it's true how
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many guys know what they want in a girl
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literally if you're pretty pretty maybe
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maybe smart if you're smart wo dream
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girl pretty fit moderately smart healthy
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good body they like you every time I go
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on a date I'm like hey so like what is
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your do you have a list of what you're
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looking for in a girl they're like
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No And I think it's a red flag every
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time cuz how can you even know when that
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person comes along yes you can rely on
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intuition but still you should have like
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somewhat of a checklist and that's why
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so many guys are getting into
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relationships and they don't leave it
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they get comfortable they're like not
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really that happy but they don't leave
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it very few men will initiate leaving a
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relationship they just stay because it's
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comfortable and meanwhile that girl is
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not even the dream Bell I mean you know
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the whole taxic cap Theory it is so real
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especially like I'm turning 25 soon and
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I have friends who in their 30s like 20s
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I see this so often where we're a guy
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he'll be in a relationship for 10 years
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and then he meets one of my friends boom
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married in a few months and yes she'll
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be amazing but it's more a matter of
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timing like timing matters so much to a
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guy if he's not in the stage of his life
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where he wants to get married or he can
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even have a girlfriend it's not going to
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happen but when the next girl comes
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along and he's ready it doesn't mean she
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is his dream woman she just meets the
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criteria at that point in time they get
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married in my opinion this is also a
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reason why the divorce rate is so High
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because you know it's good in the short
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term you're in like this honeymoon stage
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for a while but eventually you know this
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is meant to be a lifelong partner you
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want to marry your dream person this
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goes for both men and women so you
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should wait you shouldn't just think
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okay the timing's right I'm going to go
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get married or I feel a little bit
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pressured let me go get married and
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settle down your partner is going to
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dictate everything in your life it's
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actually better off being single than
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marrying the wrong person and settling
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but men settle all the time like going
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back to the first point why leave
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something that's comfortable I think
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women we can be a little bit more
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aggressive in that sense where because
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we're so emotional so if we're in a bad
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relationship or in a relationship that's
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not really meeting our needs we leave
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because every day we're like so
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miserable while guys can really
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compartmentalize and block it out and
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hey if you're like giving them sex
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they're happy because it's harder for
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men don't forget it's harder for guys to
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be single and get laid like it's very
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difficult fragile men will seek
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validation through multiple women also
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because guys are ruled by their ego and
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their ego drives them they will do
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everything to repair their ego I hope
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this guy doesn't watch this I was on a
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date what I sound like I go on a million
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dates I mean as of recently
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yes but I usually just see them once
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andly you're not the one I don't feel a
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soul connection I feel a soul bond with
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you and I leave
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yeah I don't kiss I don't do anything
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just like bye anyways okay so I was on a
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date this guy was funny I didn't know if
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I liked him but at the end of the night
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he literally like just went to touch my
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arm in conversation and my immediate
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response was I went don't touch me I was
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like don't touch me it actually kind of
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shocked me how fast that reaction was
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and I don't know why I reacted that way
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like maybe at a core level I didn't
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really I was like M I don't know he was
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so hurt by this naturally he's like
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that's really he's like that's really
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weird I've never had anyone do that and
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I'm like okay well that's my boundary
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and he's
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like red right anyways I actually sent
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him a a real on Instagram after and it
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was like when you're in a first date and
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you know you're never going to see them
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again and I sent that to him and said us
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and he seen it so I'm like okay this guy
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like literally hates me so I'm like
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that's that that's that he messaged me
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again like two times the first time he
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said I have someone to set you up with
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weird okay send them he sends me this
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guy who looks like he's 19 like not my
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type in the slightest like it was
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actually insulting and I knew why he did
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that he was trying to build up his ego
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and humble me and then the second time
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he came back he he just he ghosted me
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after I replied and I I knew exactly
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what he was doing he's trying to repair
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the ego that don't touch me he's like so
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hurt by it he needs you know oneup her
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right now hey it didn't work because I
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actually I like him as a
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friend if you're watching this I think
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we are going to be best friends and
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nothing more okay men are drawn to women
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who have self-respect and set boundaries
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as we established early on however if
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they are narcissistic and they are very
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very fragile style big egos it might
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actually be the opposite like initially
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they they might see you as a challenge
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and they like that cuz it's fun it's a
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game but over time when you get into
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that relationship they're going to try
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and break you down and control you men
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need to feel needed and valued in your
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life so yes you can be a girl boss like
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do your own thing but it is important I
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think to sometimes lean on your partner
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a little bit to make them feel important
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everyone wants to feel like they're
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important and valued however it is not
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your job to make your man feel like a
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man it's not your job to build him up if
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he is not if he doesn't feel like a man
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already nothing that you do is going to
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make him feel masculine men can be gold
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diggers
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too men can be gold diers too I'm not
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paying like you're you're not going to
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get a drop of my
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coin I've heard guys word for word say I
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like this girl just because she's Rich
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please lady if you have if you have
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money you must establish early on that
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he's going to be doing everything and he
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ain't getting a drop of your money
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that's just how it is that's just how it
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is okay next if he doesn't reply and
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he's replying very late to you he also
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doesn't care oh sorry I've been busy bro
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he don't care when a man likes you he so
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fast I mean think about your reply game
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when you don't like someone you might
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take a long time to reply and you send
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the I'm so sorry I've been really busy I
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do that all the time I'm I've been so
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busy I'm sorry when I like someone yo
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I've got my phone did they they message
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me no did they message me I'll go to the
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gym to literally distract myself and if
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someone's giving you mixed signals and
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you don't know where you stand they
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don't like you period and you deserve
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someone who likes you going back to the
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ego boost thing cuz I know I'll get a
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question on this should you take someone
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back who keeps coming back why are they
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coming back you know if they're
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repeatedly coming back it's a game
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looking for an ego boost are you still
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available don't take them back leave if
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someone comes back once in my opinion
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and they actually it's been a
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significant period of time and they send
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you a nice message about wanting to
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reconcile or meet up and you know
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discuss things I think that's very very
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different if you're in a no contact
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period and they keep coming
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back what is that LE they need to take
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accountability and so do you it takes
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two people to make a relation
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relationship work it is never just one
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person that is causing relationship
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issues and sometimes we need to rise
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above our ego in order to see that this
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is the final one if he is bad early on
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and he's doing things you don't
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like imagine what he's going to be like
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when you're actually together because at
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the beginning that is when you're
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putting your best foot forward so if
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it's not good early on and he's causing
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some issues it's going to get even worse
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later on guilty until proven innocent
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what is meant for you will always be for
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you you can't miss it that is something
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I'm going to leave you with remember Not
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all men but a lot of
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men guys I love you see you next time
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