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have you ever been nervous or felt fear
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when you've had to speak in
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public and maybe you've been on a stage
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in front of a room full of people or
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maybe you had a share a presentation in
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front of your
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co-workers or maybe you've been in a
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room full of Strang and they made you
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stand up and say who you are where
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you're from and what you do now at some
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point most people have felt what it
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feels like to be afraid to speak in
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public for me I grew up with a
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tremendous fear of public speaking and
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my earliest memory of having a fear to
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speak happened in the second
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grade our teacher was going around the
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room and calling on students to read
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anybody been there I was thinking please
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don't call on me please don't call on me
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please don't call on me and she called
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someone else I can
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relax but as they would get to the end
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of what they were reading that anxiety
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would start to build again please don't
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call on me please don't call on me and
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then it happened she called my
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name and this wave of anxiety came over
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my body and as I started to read I
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started fumbling over my words and the
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more I tried to get it together the
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worst it got and I started hearing other
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kids laughing at me
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and by the time I finished I was so
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embarrassed I remember thinking I never
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want to do that again and it created
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this memory early on you're not a public
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speaker this isn't for you you just need
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to stay
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quiet and I kept that memory for years
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to come fast forward to my freshman year
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in college I had to take a speech class
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and when I got up to give my speech that
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familiar wave of anxiety came over my
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body again
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my heart started beating out of my chest
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my adrenaline was racing my throat got
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dry my muscle started to tense up and
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when I was looking at my note card my
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hand just started
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shaking and when I tried to speak my
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voice started
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trembling and I felt this wave of heat
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come over my body and I felt like I was
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about to pass
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out and somehow I made it through the
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speech but that further anchored into my
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mind you're not a speaker you just need
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to give this up
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and I continued to believe that for
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years public speaking is not for
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me but over the years I kept feeling
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this feeling
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inside that I have a message to share
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that I needed to speak that I can make a
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bigger
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impact so that led me to the first key
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that helped me overcome my fear of
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public speaking was the realization that
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everyone has a message to
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share each and every one of you has a
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message inside of you that the world is
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waiting to hear and your message
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matters but maybe you're like me for
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years I didn't think I had a message to
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share I wondered what could I share that
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would help someone
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else well my friend and Mentor Rory
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Vaden says it best he says you are
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perfectly positioned to serve the person
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you once
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were think about that there's stuff
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you've been through in your life there's
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lessons you've learned obstacles you've
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overcome and there's lessons you've
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learned along the way that you can take
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and help other people because right now
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there's someone going through what you
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went through in the past and you can
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take those lessons you've learned and
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help them overcome their
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challenges so I started going through my
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life and I started thinking well what
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have I been through and what lessons
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have I learned that I could use to help
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others and I started sharing those and
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it started helping people and that's why
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I'm here today Shar sharing this message
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because I overcame the fear of public
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speaking years ago and I wanted to share
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what helped me so other people can share
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their message with the world so first I
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realized I had a message to share then I
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started asking myself well what goes
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through my head that makes me so nervous
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before I get up to speak and I would
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think thoughts like they're going to
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judge me what if they don't like the way
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I look or the way I'm dressed or what if
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they don't like the sound of my voice
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or what if I mess up and I say the wrong
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thing all those thoughts that were going
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through my head were about me me me me
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and I realized I needed to shift that
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and that led me to the second
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realization that helped me overcome my
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fear of public speaking was realizing
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that sharing your message is not about
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you it's about the people you're there
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to serve and what's in it for
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them and my friend Rory Vaden says it
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best he he told me fear disappears when
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the mission to serve is
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clear when you have the heart to serve
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people you take the focus off of you and
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you start focusing on what's the benefit
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that they're going to get by hearing my
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message and that changed everything for
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me when I took the focus off of me and I
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started focusing on what are they going
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to get out of my message I realized if
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one person takes what I have to say and
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applies it to their life it was worth
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it so key number one is you have a
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message to share number two your message
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is not about you it's about the people
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you're there to
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serve now the next thing I started to do
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was I started to study well what is fear
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and fear is our body's natural response
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to Danger when our body feels danger we
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go into the fight ORF flight response
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and we get ready to run or fight for our
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lives so I was studying well what are
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the common causes of fear and the most
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common phys ological responses to fear
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are increased heart rate increased
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adrenaline shallow breathing muscle
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tension sweating dry mouth and
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butterflies in the stomach well I used
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to get most of those when I would get up
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to speak but I started to ask myself
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what other times do I feel those
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feelings well I feel those feelings when
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I get
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excited so I looked up what are the most
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common causes or the the common
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physiological responses to excitement
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and they are increased heart rate
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increased adrenaline shallow breathing
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muscle tension sweating dry mouth and
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butterflies in the stomach our bodies go
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through the exact same physiological
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response in response to fear or
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excitement so the way to tell the
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difference if it's fear is associated
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with a threat or danger or if it's
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excitement it's positive anticipation so
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it all comes down to am I in danger or
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am I looking forward to this and that
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led me to the third key that helped me
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overcome my fear was that I could
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transform my fear into
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excitement so when you get up and you
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start to share your message and you feel
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those familiar feelings what I used to
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do was say oh there's that fear again
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remember when you used to speak before
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that didn't go so well they're going to
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judge you this isn't for you why do you
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think you should do this and that fear
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would overtake me but now what I do I
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shifted that and I created a new story
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so when I feel those feelings I tell
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myself you're excited you're about to go
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out there and transform someone's life
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today and now I really do get excited
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because I know that if I go out and if
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one person takes what I have to say and
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they apply it to their life I can make a
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positive impact so I want you to
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remember when you get up you start to
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feel those feelings you have the ability
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to transform that fear into excitement
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so if you're still wondering what why
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should I share my
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message what impact do I have to make
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well I want to take you back to
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2012 uh at the time I was giving the
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biggest talk that I'd given at that
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point and there was an auditorium full
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of 200 people and I was ready I knew my
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message my mission to serve was clear I
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transformed my fear into excitement and
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I went out there and I delivered and at
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the end of The Talk a man came up to me
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and he said Dr Justin I want to thank
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you for sharing that
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message he said I recently underwent
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quadruple bypass surgery he said when I
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was laying in the hospital bed my family
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they brought in my little grandson and
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they put my grandson on my lap he said I
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looked at my grandson and I made a
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promise right then and there that I'm
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going to get my health back because I'm
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going to be around to watch my grandson
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grow up and he said what you just shared
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with me gave gave me exactly what I
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needed to get my health
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back and not only did he go on to get
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his health back at 65 years old he
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completed the Iron Man which is a
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grueling race which is a 2.4 mile swim a
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112 mile bike ride and a complete
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marathon of 26.2 miles not only has he
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done one Iron Man he's gone on to do
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multiple Iron Man
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races and the reason I'm telling you
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this is because I never would have been
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able to make a difference in his life if
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I wouldn't have overcome my fear of
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public speaking if I wouldn't realized I
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had a message to share and if I didn't
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get out and start sharing that message I
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never would have been able to help
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him but just like that man needed to
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hear my message in that moment there is
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someone that's desperately waiting to
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hear your message there's a message
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inside of you that the world needs to
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hear so I want you to ask yourself what
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impact can I make if I overcome my fear
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of public speaking and I start sharing
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my message with the world what lives can
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I touch what Legacy can I leave what
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positive impact can I make in the
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world I want to leave you with one of my
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favorite quotes from BJ Palmer he says
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you never know how far-reaching
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something you may think say or do today
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will affect the lives of millions
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tomorrow if you would have told me years
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ago that one day I was going to be
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standing on the tedex stage in this
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iconic red
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circle sharing my message with the world
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I would have said there's no way but I'm
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here I did it and if I can overcome my
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fear of public speaking so can you so my
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hope is that you'll find your message
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you'll transform your fear into
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excitement and you'll go out and you'll
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start sharing your message with the
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world and you'll make a positive
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impact I'm Dr Justin Mosley thank you
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