how to speak to f*cking ANYONE

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEBT1shPyok

Résumé

TLDRThe video emphasizes the importance of effective communication as a tool to enhance life, suggesting that being articulate can lead to financial success, friendships, and romantic relationships. It offers practical advice on starting and maintaining conversations, stressing the role of compliments, observations, and questions. The concept of being a 'fisherman' in conversations—identifying common interests to sustain dialogue—is highlighted. It discusses letting others talk more, using storytelling to engage and entertain, and treating social interactions as theatrical performances to ease pressure. The video concludes with tips on specific aspects of talking to women, including the use of humor, flirting, and recognizing disinterest.

A retenir

  • 🗣️ Good communication is key to improving various aspects of life, such as making friends and finding partners.
  • 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Learn from confident people who easily engage in conversations.
  • 💬 Start conversations with compliments, observations, or questions.
  • 🎣 Be a conversational 'fisherman' by finding commonalities to expand the dialogue.
  • 👂 Let others do most of the talking to make them feel special.
  • 📖 Entertain with stories to engage and immerse listeners.
  • 🎭 View social interactions as 'theater' to navigate them more easily.
  • 😂 Use humor, especially when interacting with potential romantic interests.
  • 👍 Give genuine compliments to express interest clearly.
  • 💡 Recognize disinterest and gracefully exit conversations when necessary.

Chronologie

  • 00:00:00 - 00:06:22

    The video emphasizes the importance of mastering conversational skills to improve one's life, suggesting that being a great conversationalist can help in making more money, socializing more effectively, and finding a significant other. The host provides foundational advice for starting conversations, such as offering compliments, making observations, or asking questions. They encourage identifying commonalities and allowing the other person to speak more, emphasizing that people love talking about themselves. Storytelling is highlighted as an engaging conversational tool, with advice on making stories more entertaining through humor, tone, and descriptive language. The video also provides mindset advice, encouraging viewers to see life as theater and to adopt a playful attitude in interactions. Finally, the host touches on conversation specifics with women, focusing on humor, flirting, and reading social cues. They stress the importance of knowing when to gracefully exit a conversation if the other person shows disinterest.

Carte mentale

Vidéo Q&R

  • What are the basic principles of starting a conversation?

    Begin with a compliment, make an observation, or ask a question to engage the other person.

  • How can I keep a conversation going?

    Look for common interests or topics to expand on and let the other person do most of the talking.

  • What's the key to becoming a good storyteller?

    Use humor, descriptive language, and immerse the listener by watching and mimicking good storytellers.

  • What's a simple mindset trick for improving social interactions?

    Consider life as theater and interactions as roles to relieve social pressure.

  • How should I use humor in conversations with women?

    Be funny to make women comfortable, without being creepy, and maintain a playful demeanor.

  • What role do compliments and flirting play in conversations with women?

    Use genuine compliments and flirtation to express interest while keeping the exchange playful.

  • How do I know when to end a conversation?

    Look for signs of disinterest and exit politely to avoid awkwardness.

  • Why is storytelling important in conversations?

    Storytelling makes interactions more engaging and helps capture the listener's attention.

  • How can I use the 'theater' mindset in daily life?

    Recognize everyone plays a societal role, which can help you act more freely and creatively in interactions.

  • What are the three pillars of talking to women?

    Humor, flirting, and compliments are fundamental in engaging and showing interest without crossing boundaries.

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    getting really good at talking with
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    other people is the number one thing you
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    can do to quickly improve your life do
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    you want to make more money have a ton
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    of friends and find a 10 on a 10 wife
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    just learn how to speak well we all know
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    those guys that can stroll into any room
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    and immediately strike up conversations
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    with random people while you may resent
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    that guy for chatting up your crush
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    while you just stood in the corner
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    watching don't worry because by the end
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    of this video you'll be that guy too and
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    while this video is not specifically
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    about talking to girls considering about
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    98% of you from my last video were dudes
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    I'm going to take a wild guess and
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    assume you guys would also like some
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    specific advice about talking to girls
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    we'll get to that a bit later but first
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    you need to understand how to actually
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    have good conversations in general let's
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    start with opening a conversation with
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    anyone I'm going to keep this extremely
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    simple just walk up and either give them
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    a compliment make an observation ask a
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    question or a combination of those three
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    from here you'll see how receptive they
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    are to talking and learn whether or not
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    to keep going and this should be pretty
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    obvious from their reaction from here I
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    need you to become a fisherman what I
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    mean is in those first few lines of
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    conversation keep an eye on for
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    commonalities or things you can expand
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    upon for example if they say they're
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    from Colorado and you're a skier then
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    ask them about skiing because if they're
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    from Colorado they're probably a skier
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    you send your hook out to the Sea and
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    wait for it to bite find those common
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    points this is also how you keep a
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    conversation going and never run out of
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    things to say just keep searching for
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    those points so you can expand on in the
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    conversation if you find yourself at a
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    roadblock where nothing really stands
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    out either ask another relevant question
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    or backtrack and say something about an
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    earlier Topic in the conversation now
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    let's move to the most important
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    principle of being good at communicating
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    simply allow the other person to do the
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    vast majority of the talking think about
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    it people's favorite thing to talk about
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    is themselves so if you just let them do
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    all the talking and make them feel
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    special that person will walk away from
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    the conversation thinking not only did
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    they have a great time talking with you
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    but that you're also an incredible
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    conversationalist it's really cheesy but
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    that's exactly why they say you have two
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    ears and one mouth for a reason you may
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    be thinking well conversations are a
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    two-way street I'm going to have to talk
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    at some point and you're right that's
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    why the second most important principle
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    of good conversation is learning how to
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    tell stories if the other person asks
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    you a question try answering it with a
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    story it's 10 times more entertaining to
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    listen to if you can tell stories well
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    it's almost like putting the other
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    person in a trance think about when you
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    watch a really good movie and you're
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    fully immersed in the characters this is
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    exactly what happens when you learn how
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    to communicate stories effectively but
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    how do you actually tell good stories
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    the best way to explain this is with an
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    example of good versus storytelling
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    in the exact same situation so we were
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    at the door and all of a sudden a guy
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    comes through the door with a knife in
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    his hand he goes up to the register and
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    starts demanding all the cash from the
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    guy there then out of nowhere another
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    customer hits the knife out of the
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    burglar's hand and takes him to the
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    ground so we're at Target just going
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    about our day and out of nowhere some
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    dude bursts through the door big ass
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    knife in hand and goes right to the
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    register I'm looking around watching
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    this happen thinking I'm no paulart Mall
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    Cop I'm not saving the day here cuz I
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    don't want to get stabbed then all of a
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    sudden I see this big dude must have
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    been a bodybuilder or something like
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    that rolls up up on this guy basically
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    karate chops the knife out of his hand
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    and takes us due to the ground craziest
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    thing I've ever seen so of course you'd
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    want to listen to The Second Story
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    rather than the first one in the Second
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    Story I implemented humor emphasize my
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    tone use more descriptive language and
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    most importantly immerse The Listener in
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    the story my best advice for learning to
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    tell good stories is just listening to
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    podcasts and videos of great speakers
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    than trying to talk in a similar way to
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    them then just practice in the real
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    world and see how people react the more
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    you do it the better you'll get and
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    before you know it you're the best
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    Storyteller you know now the other
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    principle for having great conversations
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    is a little mindset hack that will make
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    you feel more confident charismatic and
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    outgoing I don't want to get too deep
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    but understand that life out in public
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    is all just theater everyone is like an
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    actor in a movie they get ready in the
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    morning to look their best for other
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    people they smile at the neighbors
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    because it would be rude not to and say
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    thank you to the Barista at the coffee
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    shop everyone is just playing a role in
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    society and when you realize that
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    everyone's just trying their best to act
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    normal it takes a lot of pressure off
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    your shoulders corporate life is theater
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    dating is theater even friendships are
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    theater so where am I going with this
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    well stop trying so hard let the
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    conversation flow say things
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    unapologetically exaggerate how you
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    speak nobody really cares that much and
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    if you look at everything like a big
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    game it's like a breath of fresh air
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    from the monotony of daily life just
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    have fun with conversations and if
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    someone doesn't like that then F them
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    they can go back to their boring lives
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    without us a great trick for
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    implementing this playfulness into
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    conversations is pretending you're in a
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    movie and a camera crew is filming your
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    life how would you tell this story if
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    this was a scene in a major Blockbuster
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    movie I'm sure you'll make the story
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    much more entertaining and the other
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    person will love listening to you now
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    for the moment all you guys have been
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    waiting for learning the specifics and
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    chatting with the ladies I'm not going
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    to go super deep into this because this
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    could be an entire video on its own but
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    I'll run you through some of the basics
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    in talking to a girl you find attractive
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    use all the principles I've mentioned so
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    far as the base of the conversation but
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    there are three pillars that you need to
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    focus on these are humor flirting and
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    compliments starting with humor this is
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    exactly how to make a girl feel
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    comfortable around you and enjoy your
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    company it's 2024 the first 5 minutes of
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    any conversation with a random girl
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    consist them testing the waters to
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    ensure you're not a creep be funny don't
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    be so serious and sure as hell don't be
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    creepy next compliments and flirting I'm
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    going to toss into the same bucket give
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    one to two genuine compliments to a girl
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    in the conversation this puts your
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    intentions right out there in a very
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    obvious way and the conversation will
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    get a little bit tense or awkward just
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    hold your frame and be confident in
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    yourself then for flirting this is where
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    you can have fun and playfully push away
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    in an obvious way it's essentially just
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    putting clear intentions out there then
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    slightly retracting it for a playful
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    banter it's like when you're hang out
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    with the guys and call one of them an
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    idiot it's just playful back and forth
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    chat it keeps things interesting and fun
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    the other aspect of talking with random
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    girls is you have to be very Vigilant
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    and looking for signs that the other
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    person isn't interested you can be the
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    top male model in the world and there
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    will still be girls who just aren't
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    interested that's life once you
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    recognize this interest just say well it
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    was lovely meeting you have a great day
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    then simply walk away don't be one of
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    those creepy guys who awkwardly tries to
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    keep the conversation going or hangs out
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    next to her after the conversation ends
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    and honestly to start that's all you
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    really need humor compliments flirting
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    and knowing when to bounce everything
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    else should be filled in by the other
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    conversational skills that I've already
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    talked about and that is it gentlemen
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    now go out and be that guy that everyone
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    loves having conversations with
Tags
  • communication
  • conversation
  • humor
  • storytelling
  • confidence
  • listening
  • flirting
  • compliments
  • social skills
  • dating