This 7-second test exposes a 'Christian' Narcissist

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TLDRThis video focuses on strategies to expose narcissists in your life by using specific questions and observing their responses. Narcissists are described as self-centered individuals who manipulate others to meet their needs, often lacking empathy. Techniques include setting boundaries and holding firm responses like 'I can't agree to that,' which highlight their manipulation tactics. Silent observation, such as mentally singing 'Happy Birthday,' is suggested to avoid emotional escalation and to study their reactions. It also covers how narcissists might react when their lies are challenged—with anger, denial, or gaslighting. Practical advice is offered to refuse enabling toxic behaviors and handle situations with clarity and calmness. Key takeaways include recognizing manipulative behaviors, maintaining emotional control, and identifying narcissistic responses. A free Narcissist Survival Guide is also promoted for further help.

Takeaways

  • 🔍 Learn to recognize narcissists by observing their manipulation and self-centered behavior.
  • ✋ Set firm boundaries and avoid over-explaining to maintain control of interactions.
  • ❓ Use questions to expose their lack of empathy, such as 'It seems you’re only focused on your needs— is that intentional?'
  • 🎂 Mentally sing 'Happy Birthday' to stay calm and focus during confrontations.
  • 🙅‍♀️ Refuse to enable toxic behaviors by challenging disrespect or manipulative tactics.
  • 🛑 Recognize the signs of gaslighting, including denial and flipping blame onto you.
  • 💬 Expect narcissists to react with anger, victimhood, or further manipulation when challenged.
  • 🔒 Hold firm to boundaries and repeat responses like 'I can’t agree to that' to keep control.
  • 🪞 Understand that narcissists care more about perception than genuine change.
  • 📘 Download a free Narcissist Survival Guide for scriptures and practical defense tips.

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    The speaker introduces a method to identify narcissists using a specific question and explains why empathetic individuals are vulnerable to narcissists. Narcissists are self-centered, focusing on their own needs and using manipulative tactics to maintain control. The speaker outlines the first scenario of identifying a narcissist – setting boundaries. Narcissists dislike being told no and will typically react by pressing and questioning the person, attempting to manipulate them into compliance. A suggested approach is to maintain a firm stance and use a specific question to challenge the narcissist's focus on their needs.

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    After explaining the boundary-setting scenario, the speaker advises on how to handle a narcissist's response – whether it be rage, victimhood, or insistence. The focus remains on their perception rather than true change. The speaker introduces scenario two, challenging a narcissist's lies, by asking for explanations of contradictions, and predicting reactions of anger, denial, and gaslighting. The importance of not enabling toxic behavior is addressed in scenario three, suggesting more questions for narcissists when they expect others to prioritize their needs or speak poorly. The speaker emphasizes staying calm and prepared for manipulative responses and implies a religious perspective on handling narcissists.

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Video Tanya Jawab

  • What is the primary focus of narcissists?

    Narcissists focus on self-protection and self-preservation, with little regard for others’ needs.

  • How can I expose a narcissist in a quick and effective way?

    Ask pointed questions that highlight their lack of empathy, set boundaries, and observe their reactions without engaging emotionally.

  • What role do boundaries play in dealing with narcissists?

    Boundaries highlight the narcissist’s sense of entitlement and challenge their need for control. Observing their reaction to boundaries is a revealing test.

  • What are common reactions of narcissists when confronted with lies?

    Common reactions include anger, denial, and gaslighting to deflect blame and maintain their image.

  • Why should you sing 'Happy Birthday' silently while confronting a narcissist?

    This helps you remain calm and avoid reacting emotionally, providing time to observe the narcissist's behavior without engaging.

  • What are signs someone might be a narcissist?

    Signs include a lack of care for others' feelings, manipulative behavior, lying, and attempting to maintain a false superior image.

  • How should you respond when a narcissist manipulates you?

    Hold firm to your boundaries without arguing or justifying your stance, and use calm, repetitive responses like 'I can’t agree to that.'

  • How do narcissists behave when denied control or access?

    They may react with anger, guilt-tripping, manipulation, or attempts to undermine your confidence in your boundaries.

  • What question can reveal a narcissist’s self-centered behavior?

    Ask, 'It seems you’re only focused on your needs and not mine— is that intentional?' and observe their reaction.

  • How does silence affect interactions with narcissists?

    Silence and calmness disturb a narcissist’s strategy, often leading them to reveal their manipulative tendencies.

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    do you ever wish that you had some magic
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    device that could spot a narcissist
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    before they wreak havoc in your life
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    kind of like one of those blue lights
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    revealing hidden
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    stains well what if I told you that
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    there is a quick and easy way to do just
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    that no unfortunately not with a radar
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    detector but rather a simple question
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    that can expose a narcissist in less
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    than 5 Seconds that's why in this
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    episode I will reveal the key question
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    you need to ask the exact reaction to
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    watch out for and what steps to take
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    once you spot it and to do that I want
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    to First help you understand the motive
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    of a narcissist yes even the ones that
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    call themselves Christians and why
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    you've been such easy pray for them you
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    see you are likely a caring empathetic
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    giving person who enjoys being of value
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    in a relationship by contrast
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    narcissists are fragile self-centered
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    egotistical envious exploiters their
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    focus is not on pleasing you or even
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    growing the relationship their focus is
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    self- protection and
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    self-preservation that's it if it
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    doesn't serve them benefit them or
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    support them they're not interested so
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    let's shift that Dynamic shall we
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    instead of focusing on what to say to
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    get them to want to change let's focus
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    on what to say to reveal them so you can
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    finally put to rest the confusion in
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    your mind are you ready we're going to
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    talk about three scenarios that expose
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    The Narcissist every time if you know
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    what to look for scenario number one
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    when you need to set a boundary
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    narcissists can't stand being told no
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    they honestly believe that they are
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    entitled to unrestricted access and
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    control over you and if you've given it
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    to them before well that's just more
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    justification for their entitlement
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    boundaries threaten their sense of
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    superiority and need for admiration it's
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    like telling a child no they can't see
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    beyond their self-centered immature view
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    of the world that just wants what they
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    want when they want it but there's one
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    key difference between the narcissist
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    and a child and it's a scary one you see
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    unlike a child a narcissist knows how
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    they come across they know what is
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    socially acceptable and unacceptable so
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    they've learned manipulative ways to get
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    their needs met and if you have ever met
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    a Charming or conniving narcissist you
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    know how easy it is to be fooled by
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    their facade so the next time you set
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    limits with someone The Narcissist or
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    not avoid overe explaining avoid
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    justifying simply say I can't agree to
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    that or I'm not good with that and a
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    healthy person will say something like
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    oh okay no problem and then move on even
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    if they're disappointed but a narcissist
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    will continue to press and pry why what
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    do you have going on well all I was
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    asking for was and you will get met with
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    manipulative questions questions
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    designed to guilt you into giving them
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    what they want and here's the key no
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    matter what question they ask no matter
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    what statement they make simply hold
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    your ground with the same response I
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    can't agree to that so many people say
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    well they just didn't respect my
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    boundaries no you didn't hold your
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    boundary you see when they continue to
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    press which they will they may take a
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    break and they may try to formulate some
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    other line of attack but they will come
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    back back at which time you can ask this
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    question it seems that you're only
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    focused on your needs and not mine is
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    that
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    intentional now I realize this question
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    sounds very cold and if you're in a
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    close relationship like a marriage or a
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    family member you might hesitate at
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    asking such a question but hanging with
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    me because the next part is going to be
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    crucial and a little fun after you've
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    asked the question I want you to sing
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    happy birthday in your head no no I'm
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    not joking say nothing and watch their
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    reaction don't defend yourself don't
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    formulate what you're going to say next
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    just sing Happy Birthday in your
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    head this will give you the breathing
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    time that you need to observe what the
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    narcissist will do next plus you want to
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    be careful that you don't make any angry
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    facial expressions because they're going
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    to use that against you and how can you
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    be angry singing happy birthday right
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    and as you are silently singing your
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    song a narcissist will respond in one or
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    all of the following ways number one is
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    Rage how dare you accuse me you're the
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    selfish one I was just asking there's
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    something wrong with you number two
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    victimhood oh this is the thanks I get
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    for trying to work with you I don't know
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    what I did to deserve this such abusive
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    treatment forget it never mind number
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    three insistence as they continue to try
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    to find a solution for you to be able to
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    give them what they want or they may
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    actually sound healthy at first with a
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    hearty okay and then come back later for
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    round two of boundary stomping but no
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    matter what reaction they have there's
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    one thing that's missing and that is a
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    care and a regard for your needs and
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    feelings their only concern is their
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    image and your perception of them
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    which is their image and they're not
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    going to change their behavior because
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    they want to change they may change
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    their behavior because they want to
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    change the perception that they're
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    giving people it's all about perception
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    period are you tired of feeling
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    manipulated and drained by the
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    narcissists in your life be sure to grab
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    a copy of your free narcissistic
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    Survival Guide this is my free gift to
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    you packed with powerful scriptures to
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    pray and effective responses to say to
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    help you reclaim your peace and Sanity
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    I'll go ahead and include a link in the
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    description destion section below
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    scenario number two when you challenge
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    their lies if you've been with a
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    narcissist more than 10 minutes you've
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    been lied to lying is second nature for
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    them they even lie when they don't have
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    to their lies can be blatant like
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    telling you a distorted version of the
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    truth or they can be a little bit more
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    covert like exaggerating or omitting
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    pieces of information and whether you're
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    getting a Flatout false information or a
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    different version of what they said the
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    day before there will inevitably come a
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    time when you have to call out a
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    narcissist Lies when you challenge a
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    healthy person in what they said they
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    will be apologetic and eager to clear up
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    the confusion or better yet if they did
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    lie they'll admit it and apologize not
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    so with a narcissist so when you catch
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    them in a lie and realize that you're
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    not getting anywhere I want you to ask
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    this question can you explain why your
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    version of the story contradicts what
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    actually happened and this is going to
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    make a narcissist flounder because they
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    prefer to op at on their own terms where
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    defensiveness and denial and accusations
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    are served up like some festar Buffet of
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    nonsense but you're wise to them once
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    you ask the question you're going to you
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    guessed it happy birthday to yeah you
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    are going to sing Happy Birthday quietly
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    in your head because this is going to
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    keep your mind occupied and your mouth
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    shut and here's what you can expect
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    anger
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    anger is often their go-to reaction they
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    love to use it as a means to intimidate
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    you here's another one denial yes they
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    will actually flat out deny having said
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    or done something if it deflects the
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    shame off of them they'll deny it the
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    third one is gaslighting you see
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    gaslighting is like Denial on steroids
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    here's where they not only deny what
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    they said but now the focus is flipped
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    to you your trust issues your mental
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    instability your unforgiveness all the
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    things that you've done in the past
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    again what's missing no desire to clear
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    up the confusion and give you peace of
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    mind regardless of whether they're right
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    or wrong okay you're getting comfortable
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    with your boundaries you're not buying
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    the lies but what about scenario number
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    three when you refuse to enable the
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    toxic Behavior narcissists thrive in
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    environments where they can go unchecked
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    and unchallenged but maybe you're tired
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    of being insulted or treated like a
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    2-year-old in a Timeout look there are
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    times when we all speak to people that
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    we love in ways that we're not proud of
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    and instead of crying and even playing
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    the victim yourself and begging The
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    Narcissist to stop treating you this way
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    try one of these
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    questions why do you expect me to
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    prioritize your needs over my own even
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    when it hurts me or in the cases where
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    they're not speaking kindly you could
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    ask this why do you feel it's acceptable
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    to speak to me this way and a healthy
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    person who has simply made a mistake
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    will be very quick to catch themselves
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    and repent and they'll actually feel
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    terrible about it not a narcissist and I
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    particularly like this question because
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    if you're truly dealing with a
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    narcissist they will actually answer it
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    because in this case you likely won't
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    even have to sing Happy Birthday they
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    will not be able to resist putting you
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    in your place and the answer will be
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    another version of an insult for example
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    you deserved it if you hadn't and then
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    fill in the blank then I wouldn't have
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    had to talk to you that way all solid
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    clues that you are truly dealing with a
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    narcissist and it is during this time
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    that you are going to be oh so tempted
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    to defend yourself get angry right back
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    at them curl up in the corner or some
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    other dysfunctional trait that continues
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    that toxic Tango and gives them an
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    excuse to say see you're the problem
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    and that is why it is crucial to have
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    these questions handy even rehearsed and
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    the strength to sing Happy
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    Birthday but this introduces another
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    potential problem if you're not
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    comfortable with their reactions you're
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    going to rush in and rescue and negate
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    the entire test so here's an Insider
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    secret a skilled narcissist will
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    outweight you they will know that you
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    are likely going to get uncomfortable
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    with the silence remember they are
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    Masters at the silent treatment and then
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    they'll add that snake like stare don't
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    fall for it you may have to sing Happy
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    Birthday six times but hold firm my
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    friend okay so now you know and it's
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    likely that they know you know now what
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    to keep your peace and to hold your
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    sanity you are going to want to discover
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    what God will do to the narcissist when
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    he's had enough and to do that you can
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    check out this episode here and be sure
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    to grab a copy of your free narcissist
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    Survival Guide it's in the link in the
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    description section below
Tags
  • narcissism
  • boundaries
  • emotional intelligence
  • manipulation
  • toxic relationships
  • self-protection
  • calm responses
  • recognizing narcissists
  • gaslighting
  • conflict resolution