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what CIA taught me was a better way of
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explaining what reality actually is and
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reality is that 98 of human beings are
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trapped in their own perception so the
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two percent that live in the real world
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that have perspective they are able to
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manipulate the perception of everybody
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else this is Andrew Bustamante a former
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CIA officer he teaches Everyday People
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how to apply CIA skills like strategic
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thinking effective communication and
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information gathering to improve their
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personal and professional lives so stay
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with me because this video will show you
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exactly how to apply these techniques
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the phrase perception is reality is
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commonly used to legitimize viewpoints
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that might not align with facts this
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saying can be wielded to impose one
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person's view as the accepted reality on
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a deeper level it introduces a sense of
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subjectivity in situations that
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generally considered objective however
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it's essential to firmly state that
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perception is not synonymous with
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reality the first big thing that you hit
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on and I'm actually gonna I'm gonna
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tweak what you said
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it's not about getting into people's
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perspective most people don't have
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perspective the average person has no
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perspective they live in a world of
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perception
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how they perceive the world around them
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most individuals at least that's what we
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learn at CIA individuals live with a
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frame of reference around themselves
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they're the center of the movie they're
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the star of the show they're the center
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of the universe
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our personal perspectives shape reality
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due to our indirect interaction with the
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world our senses act as filters
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constraining our understanding of
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reality the conviction in one's capacity
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to influence the environment and Achieve
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desired outcomes is a fundamental pillar
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of personal well-being the perception of
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control isn't just the preference it
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potentially plays a vital role in
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sustaining a balanced mental state this
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notion underscores the intricate
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relationship between the mind's sense of
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control and its impact on human
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flourishing so the Pink Matter that
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exists in your brain and mind and
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everybody around us is still very much
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focused on the self as the most
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important element and because of that it
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views everything around its everything
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around the environment and around the
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individual through a lens of perception
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what I perceive is real to me
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to hell with what you perceive what I
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perceive is the truth the nature of
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reality surpasses the Simplicity of our
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perceptions revealing a complex and
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multi-faceted Landscape what we perceive
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isn't an unchanging truth irrespective
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of our perceptions human Tendencies
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often lead us to form assumptions about
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people experiences and the world Guided
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by our individual and limited grasp of
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its intricacies reality is woven from
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our truths which stem from our beliefs
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rooted in our perceptions our
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Perceptions in turn are influenced by
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our focus and what we search for hinges
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on what we think diverse lenses shape
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our perceptions our beliefs experiences
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and values give rise to varied
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interpretations of the world's Converse
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each individual crafts a unique version
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of Truth crafted by their distinct life
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Journey convictions and World Views the
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variety of perspectives highlight lights
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the complex depth of reality
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transcending mere perception what we
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believe to be the only truth influences
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how we think feel and behave which can
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affect the outcomes we experience what
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CIA taught me was a better way of
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explaining what reality actually is and
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reality is that 98 of human beings are
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trapped in their own perception so the
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two percent that live in the real world
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that have perspective they are able to
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manipulate the perception of everybody
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else so when you first walk up to
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somebody you've got to keep in mind that
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nobody is what they appear to be every
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every human being has three lives it's
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what we're taught three lies there's a
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public life a secret life and a private
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life people exhibit varying degrees of
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information processing when it comes to
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understanding others some possess a
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pronounced inclination to deeply grasp
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the motifs behind events and people's
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actions these these individuals
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recognizable in our circles eagerly seek
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explanations for successes failures or
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any social interactions this inclination
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involves a panchan for thoughtful
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analysis of experiences and social
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encounters those inclined towards the
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high need for understanding meticulously
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process information potentially leading
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to more nuanced casual attributions
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conversely those with the lower demand
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for perception May display impulsiveness
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and hastiness in making attributions
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this distinction impacts how
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attributional differences play out
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people leaning towards the high need for
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perception often consider situational
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aspects resulting in more empathetic
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rather than judgmental attributions
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toward individuals from marginalized
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groups so when I approach somebody in
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spy mode or in business mode or in
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Social mode I know I'm dealing with a
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public life first so are you trying to
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peel beneath that sometimes spy mode in
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spy mode you have two objectives
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objective number one is to get into
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someone's private life as quickly as
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possible because if you're not unless
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you're in someone's private life you'll
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never get into their secret life
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objective number two once you're in
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private life is to become one of the few
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people that will ever penetrate their
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secret life and there's only one reason
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why you want to penetrate someone's
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secret life because once you're there
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you never leave once someone has trusted
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you with a secret life secret they're
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fealty to you their loyalty to you is
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beyond question understanding the
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developmental stages of the human brain
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is crucial for comprehending how various
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factors including external influences
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shape the mind just as the brain evolves
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through distinct phases from its
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Inception grasping this progression is
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fundamental to gaining insight into how
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thoughts behaviors and responses can be
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influenced or controlled different
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points in this developmental Journey
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there's from birth to seven years old
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from birth to seven years old we're all
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sponges we don't differentiate between
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true and untrue information there's just
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information the intricacies of
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perception underlie the judgments that
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steer our choices what we deem Universal
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often Springs from personal encounters
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encapsulating our distinctive World
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Views emotions serve as lenses revealing
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in both light and Shadow woven from our
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own creation while they might seem
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spontaneous they arise from the depths
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of our Primal brain structures forming a
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blend of ancient wisdom and fleeting
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changes over the years what we perceive
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becomes a reality etched in our minds
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influencing our understanding of the
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world these perceptions once solidified
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leave an enduring imprint shaping our
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thoughts behaviors and responses the
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complex interplay between perception and
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reality showcases the profound influence
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our mind wields over our experiences the
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second developmental stage happens from
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7 to 13. in that period of time you can
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start to differentiate true and untrue
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information but you choose which
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information you want to give more value
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to so you're still absorbing it you
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still retain it but you might have a
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preference for one bit of information or
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the other adolescence marked by the
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onset of puberty and continuing into the
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mid-20s signifies a critical phase of
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transformation it's remarkable how a
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person evolves from the age of 12 to 24
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showcasing immense shifts across
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biological cognitive psychological and
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emotional domains this developmental
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Journey has implications for mind
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control as perceptions beliefs and
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vulnerabilities can significantly alter
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during this period personal
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relationships take on new significance
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with peers and romantic Partners gaining
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prominence additionally as adolescents
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transition through education and
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employment their susceptibility to
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external influences and the potential
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for mind control experience a dynamic
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Evolution every step in life is built
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upon what came before and when young
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people step into adolescence they're not
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starting with a completely blank slate
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the way they grow during this time is
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influenced by their earlier experiences
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however these early experiences don't
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set everything in stone the teenage
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years are a time when change is possible
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because of how adaptable they are this
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means that even if things haven't gone
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perfect before there's a chance to
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bounce back and grow it's like a window
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of opportunity for positive changes kind
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of like fixing things that might not
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have gone well before including in the
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context of how our minds work and
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develop puberty from 13 to 25 nobody
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thinks about this puberty lasts until
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you are 25 years old that period of time
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cognitively is characterized by the fact
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that you resist some forms of
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information so now you actually have the
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cognitive capacity to hear something and
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reject it and not even let it come into
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your brain at all perception becomes
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intricate because it isn't uniform for
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everyone how we perceive things can vary
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significantly our individual perceptions
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are molded by our past encounters our
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interests and How Deeply we analyze
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information this diversions in
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perception means that a single event or
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person can be seen in contrasting Ways
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by different individuals each of us may
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enter a shared experience with a
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different story echoing through our mind
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and our unique story our inner dialogue
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Alters the way we feel so each of us
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exits this shared experience with a
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different perspective on what just
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happened and sometimes these differences
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make all the difference in the world in
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our daily lives unnoticed narratives
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shape how we perceive and experience the
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world these inner stories not only
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affect our feelings but also influence
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our understandings of reality this
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explains why people in the same
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situation can interpret it differently
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individualized internal dialogues result
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in diverse perspectives often
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significant ones the deepen
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understanding and broadened views a
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conscious effort is essential our
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viewpoints are molded by past
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experiences sometimes restricting our
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understanding just as blind individuals
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touching an elephant each perceive it
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uniquely our past can color our current
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Outlook negative experiences can narrow
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our present Viewpoint as a defense
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mechanism against uncertainty by
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recognizing and reframing these
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narratives we can open new avenues for
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growth and more apparent perspectives on
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life after 25 neuroplasticity is still a
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thing for the entirety of your life
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meaning your brain can always learn
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something new but your world view has
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been set by 25 so unless something comes
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in and challenges your worldview and you
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give it permission to challenge your
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worldview you're never going to change
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the way you think after the age of 25.
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human interaction reveals an intriguing
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phenomenon many solidify core beliefs by
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age 25 shaping their perspectives this
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serves as a cognitive blueprint
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affecting how they process information
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imagine someone raised conservatively
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they might approach novelty with
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skepticism this Insight provides a
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toolkit for conversations this toolkit
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comprises less the initial collects
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experiences up to the age of 25
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establishing a baseline a deeper layer
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considers Hobbies Social Circles and
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habits the strategy is aligning
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conversations with established beliefs
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fostering engagement acknowledging
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former 20 years impact allows us to
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navigate discussions more effectively
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how many like personality types do we
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break into there's science that
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basically I lean heavily on the
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Myers-Briggs type indicator it's what I
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was taught at the agency it's what I've
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seen work in the field so that's where I
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lean on and they break people into 16
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category types would that be in your
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dossier that would be in your dossier
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your Myers-Briggs would be the estimated
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Myers-Briggs type indicator for you
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would be in your dossier whoa the field
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officer actually meets you would then be
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able to tweak it further because again
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public life private life secret life you
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might we might assume that you're an
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introvert and then I meet you and you
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seem to act very extroverted so now are
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you the introvert that we assumed or are
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you the extrovert that you present
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yourself to be only way we're going to
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find out is by continued consistent
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experience with you over time right if I
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can get into your private life and
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especially if I can get into your secret
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life then I'll know personality traits
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exhibit diverse variations warranting
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individualized consideration to
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illustrate envisioned personalities as
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lenses through which we perceive
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personal resources typically humans
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grapple with three core resources time
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energy and money all other resources
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stem from these fundamentals every
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Endeavor no matter how big or small
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Demands a blend of time energy and money
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this Trio underscores our actions
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recognizing resource utilization's
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Dynamic nature is pivotal grasping
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resource levels and distribution offers
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invaluable insights adjusting
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interactions based on this knowledge
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ensures effective communication aligning
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with individual resource Dynamics for
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Meaningful engagement the more a
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person's resources are depleted the
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closer they get to their true
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Myers-Briggs Personality that is
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interesting when they're fully resourced
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they can fake it they can act
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extroverted they can take extra time to
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think something through they can be
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non-judgmental but when when they're
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tapped when the end of the day comes and
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they're fried that's when you see who
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they really are so a big part of the
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process of bringing someone from public
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life to secret life is to drain them of
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their resources systematically so that
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you can see who they really are because
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it's when they're in that low point that
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you can essentially replicate or mirror
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their core personality back to them and
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then they let you into that secret life
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the correlation between childhood trauma
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and later high achievement has an
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intriguing connection that signifies how
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adversity during early life can lead to
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remarkable accomplishments in the future
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the concept delves into the complexities
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of human psychology highlighting the
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diverse ways individuals respond to
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challenges some individuals Channel
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their traumatic experiences into a drive
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full success While others react
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differently this understanding unveils
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the intricate interplay between personal
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history psychological responses and
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eventual outcomes essentially it
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showcases the resilience of the human
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Spirit and the diverse paths people take
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to shape their achievements in the face
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of adversity this phenomenon emphasizes
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the remarkable potential for growth and
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accomplishments stemming from
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challenging Beginnings people who
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experience the right amount of childhood
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trauma the right amount being enough
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that you had to prove something but not
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so much that you had to adopt external
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coping mechanisms right whoa Wells that
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like drugs correct drugs addictions to
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pornography
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substance abuse submitting yourself to
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the authority of others right like
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there's a certain amount of trauma
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that's the right amount of trauma that
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turns you into this High achiever you
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always have to win something because
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you're trying to win favor when
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attention win rewards win Glory win
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something so you're always achieving
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you're always driving yourself towards
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something but it's not because you were
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born with drive it's because some part
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of your childhood those formative years
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taught you that by achieving you will be
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rewarded so that becomes the inherent
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thought by achieving I will be rewarded
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so now all of a sudden you project that
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onto a 40 year old a 50 year old a 25
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year old they're going to have all the
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drive in the world because they believe
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they will be rewarded exploring the
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Dynamics of human interaction unveils a
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fascinating realm the art of effectively
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managing and influencing people this
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skill transcends surface level
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friendships delving into the realm of
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strategic manipulation the focus here
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isn't about casual Amity but engaging
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with individuals who hold critical
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information the core objective in this
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realm is to identify these influential
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yet vulnerable figures and establish
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connections this process involves
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nurturing trust gaining insight into
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their personal lives and understanding
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their motivations at a profound level
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this high level of commitment
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establishes the Bedrock of a
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relationships formed what's intriguing
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is that the end girl isn't transient
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interactions it's about embedding these
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relationships into the fabric of
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interactions the objective is to Foster
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robust Rapport and Trust allowing the
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connection to endure even as primary
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individuals transition out this
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intricate orchestration involves a blend
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of strategic manipulation foresight and
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an understanding of human psychology it
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hinges on deciphering motivations
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vulnerabilities and aspirations to forge
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relationships that serve broader
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interests this complex dance showcases
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the extent to which human interactions
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and motivation can be explored and
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harnessed underscoring how interpersonal
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Dynamics can be understood and
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skillfully employed for overarching
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objectives do you reveal who you are at
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some point sometimes sometimes you
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reveal who you are sometimes it's better
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to leave what we call a fig Leaf where
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they think they know who you are but
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they're never really sure
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because if they were sure they might
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self-destruct right right that's another
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thing another predictable human thing
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human beings like to self-destruct we
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feel like we like to self-destruct what
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yeah we all carry this self-destruct
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button on our chest that's what we say
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right a big red self-destruct button
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line can become a reflex when trapped
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leading to compounded falsehoods however
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the weight of Deceit eventually triggers
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the realization that honesty is the cell
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way out confronting the consequences and
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admitting the truth becomes the sensible
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Choice a pivotal Reckoning in personal
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and professional situations on the
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contrary some vehemently avoid lying due
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to their fear of facing critical moments
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for them truth remains a steadfast
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Choice driven by the desire to evade the
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repercussions of dishonesty choosing to
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exclusively Embrace honesty builds a
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reputation grounded in truthfulness
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fostering trust in interactions
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embracing Canada not only benefits
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relationships but also acts as a
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personal evaluation tool furthermore
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some behaviors could lead to
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self-destruction often shaped by the
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notion that unlikely forgiveness offers
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a fresh start however life lacks a reset
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button while reinvention is possible
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true resetting isn't an onward Journey
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with no reverse gear the past remains
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but moving forward holds the key to
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growth and change and we keep thinking
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that we can reset we keep thinking that
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we can go back to the blank slate that
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you already said never actually existed
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we can't we have to keep playing the
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game you have to you can Retreat or you
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can advance but you can't restart the
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war
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you're in it you're in it and you've
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only got one chance you've only got one
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ride on this rock that circles in One
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Direction Right Time only goes one way
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until we find out how to do it otherwise
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our current reality demands
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acknowledgment a call to embrace our
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path instead of pursuing alternative
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perspectives embracing this reality
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brings forth two key insights the
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recognition that a true reset is
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implausible and the potential to glean
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wisdom from experiences frequently
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self-destructive behaviors stem from
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misinterpreting the present convincing
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ourselves that the new beginning holds
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more promise than building upon our
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existing foundation in a world of
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Perpetual progression embracing the
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truth of our journey offers a clear
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Vantage Point accepting the limitations
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of reset directs our Focus towards
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Evolution rather than seeking an elusive
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restart this shift in perspective aligns
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with the wisdom gained from experiences
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a underlining the value of growth and
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adaptation understanding that the path
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forward is forged on the lessons of the
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past empowers us to make deliberate
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choices ultimately the power lies in
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choosing to build Upon Our foundations
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utilizing the accrued knowledge as a
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driving force navigating the
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complexities of life becomes a process
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of growth where the past provides
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insights and the present offers
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opportunities this Outlook signifies a
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journey forward a continuous Evolution
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anchored in the reality of our existence
