Terrified to approach? Watch this.

00:18:58
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jX0dCeAgmfc

Ringkasan

TLDRIn this vlog, the speaker discusses their ongoing struggle with social anxiety, sharing how they prepare to go out and interact with others. They emphasize the importance of overcoming initial fears and anxiety when approaching people and provide tips that helped them improve their social skills. Key strategies include taking care of one's health, surrounding oneself with extroverted friends, practicing solo travel, and engaging in challenges such as giving compliments. They also discuss the importance of quickly overcoming indecision when wanting to approach someone, and mention the benefits of careers that involve regular social interaction.

Takeaways

  • 💪 Embrace fear as a natural part of the process.
  • 🏃‍♂️ The hardest part is just getting out of the house.
  • 🥗 A healthy diet significantly impacts anxiety levels.
  • 🙌 Surround yourself with social people to learn by osmosis.
  • 🌍 Solo travel can push you out of your comfort zone.
  • 👥 Find a wingman to help ease the approach process.
  • 💬 Engage in compliment challenges to practice socializing.
  • ⏰ Use the 3-second rule to reduce indecision.
  • 🌟 Careers involving socializing can improve your skills.
  • ✨ Positive interactions can boost your confidence.

Garis waktu

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    In this section, the speaker discusses their experiences leading up to a night out and the anxiety that often accompanies socializing. They emphasize that the hardest part is simply leaving the house and taking the first step to socialize, and reflect on their own journey overcoming anxiety through self-care and living a healthier lifestyle. They introduce the topic of managing fear and anxiety when approaching others, which will be the focus of the video.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    The speaker acknowledges their ongoing anxiety before approaching people but encourages viewing fear as a natural response. They share that many successful individuals, like actors and fighters, experience fear before their performances or fights. The speaker highlights that starting the action of approaching often alleviates the fear. They also stress the importance of physical health in managing anxiety, noting that improving their diet and exercise routine significantly helped them control their anxiety levels and improve their social skills.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:18:58

    The conversation shifts to interactions with others about defining the 'perfect man' in a relationship. The speaker shares interactions with various people and their responses to hypothetical scenarios about infidelity. They note that positive interactions during their night out contribute to feeling less anxious and that the socializing experience itself helps ease their nerves, further emphasizing the importance of interacting with others and the growth it provides. The speaker concludes the video by summarizing key tips for overcoming anxiety and encourages joining their mentorship program for further guidance.

Peta Pikiran

Video Tanya Jawab

  • What is the hardest part of approaching people?

    The hardest part is often just getting out of the house and starting the interaction.

  • How can I overcome anxiety before approaching someone?

    Understanding that fear is natural, and focusing on your health can help reduce anxiety.

  • What role does diet play in dealing with anxiety?

    A healthy diet impacts mental health, and improving it can help control anxiety levels.

  • What is the compliment challenge?

    Giving out 100 compliments in a day to help break the ice and ease anxiety.

  • What is the 3-second rule?

    If you feel indecisive about approaching someone, go in immediately within 3 seconds.

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    what's up boys it is your famous
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    Italiano Americano and arkans
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    Arkansas um my last weekend here so I
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    have to go out and I've been working a
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    full-time job as well as trying to you
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    know run the business make videos pack
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    for Thailand get everything
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    ready so needless to say I don't really
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    feel like going out but sometimes my
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    best nights are when I don't feel like
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    it because I'm a little bit less needy
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    kind of go out I'm kind of like you know
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    I'll say hi but listen I don't even want
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    to be here so you don't have to talk to
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    I feel like and I I don't know if this
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    is true or not cuz I'm not an expert but
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    I feel like whenever I feel tired and I
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    chug one of these sometimes it's cuz I
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    just needed some hydration sometimes I
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    feel like this gives me energy I don't
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    want to drink caffeine this late um yeah
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    guys going
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    out at night is a skill I'm going to
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    have to find like some day parties or
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    something maybe in Thailand it's going
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    to be
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    easier but whatever hardest part about
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    doing all of this is just making it out
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    here I think that's a big statement for
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    a lot of life you know if you're trying
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    to go out and approach the hardest part
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    is just getting the out of the house and
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    going so I've made it here hardest part
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    is done now I just have to approach so
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    in today's video we're talking about
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    just that what do you do if you're
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    terrifyingly afraid to approach I
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    don't really know how it feels cuz it's
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    been such a long time but I know at one
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    point in my life I was riddled with
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    anxiety and I was not able to approach
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    it was it was a huge thing for me so I'm
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    thinking about my younger self and what
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    I would say to him the five things that
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    I know changed my life and made me more
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    able to approach and got rid of my
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    anxiety so that's what we're talking
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    about today all
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    [Music]
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    right the first thing that I want to say
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    is even now I still have a little bit of
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    fear and anxiety before I approach like
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    I feel it right now there's a little
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    knot in my stomach I'm a little bit
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    nervous I'm about to Vlog in public I'm
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    about to get out of my comfort zone just
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    like a fighter or an actor a lot of
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    actors really successful actors really
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    good ones like throw up before their
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    performance even though they've been
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    doing it for years I know a lot of
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    Fighters who fight they say they're
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    afraid before each fight and they've had
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    hundreds well maybe not hundreds but
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    they have plenty of fights
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    so the point I'm trying to make is this
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    I don't want you to see fear as a bad
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    thing if you're afraid to approach you
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    have anxiety towards approaching don't
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    see it as a bad thing um see it as a not
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    so bad thing hi ladies how are y'all
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    yall look beautiful tonight you're
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    welcome um so yeah just uh wow they were
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    really cute um don't see it as a bad
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    thing that you're afraid funny enough
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    though what I've noticed in a lot of
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    things whether it be fighting or
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    approaching is it's usually very scary
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    up until the moment you start and then
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    when you start it's a lot less
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    terrifying so that's where I'm at right
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    now just got to get started and uh [ __ ]
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    what else is there to do sit around do
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    nothing guys even after so many weeks of
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    doing this I still have anxiety like I
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    still see my voice get a little bit
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    lower I I still see myself get a little
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    bit nervous when going out it's totally
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    normal to be afraid it is totally
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    natural important thing to get rid of
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    your social anxiety when you're
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    terrified to approach and I'll tell you
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    what changed my life the most that's
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    this something called inner game AKA
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    taking care of your health I know very
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    simple I know but listen if you have
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    massive amounts of anxiety the thing is
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    a lot of that is because of your diet
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    and I can tell you right now the minute
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    that I switch to a healthy diet lean
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    meat no more processed foods I started
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    working out consistently I started
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    getting off my phone getting off of
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    social media stop ruining my brain stop
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    Doom scrolling that was the minute that
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    I was able to actually Approach at least
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    like have my anxiety to a controllable
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    level so before that I was riddled with
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    anxiety I couldn't do any approaches it
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    was completely impossible and when I
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    finally took care of my health it
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    changed everything all right guys so I'm
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    actually really nervous right now I I
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    don't know if I do a good job of hiding
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    it I think I do but you know what's
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    funny this is actually really
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    interesting
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    so everyone can tell you're okay there's
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    a saying that I really like by a guy
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    named Owen Cook and that's this the self
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    is always shining through what does that
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    mean basically you're always
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    communicating how you feel through your
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    subc commmunications nonverbal and
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    whenever I'm really nervous and I'm
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    outside and I have my tripod set up
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    nobody wants to be in the video like
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    nobody wants to jump in nobody everyone
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    kind of glances over and then when I
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    glance over they look away they can see
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    that I don't feel very comfortable cuz
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    I'm tense my body language as you can
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    see I'm a little bit like hunched now
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    you can really see what I look like
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    first things first got to loosen up and
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    a lot of anxiety and a lot of how you
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    feel is physical it's it's you know if
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    you work out more you're more loose if
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    you stretch you do yoga you meditate you
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    eat healthy a lot of your anxiety that
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    you're feeling will go away or at least
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    it will make it a lot easier when I was
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    18 the first I tried to approach I was
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    watching the content and I just couldn't
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    do it like literally my brain fog was so
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    bad I couldn't even think of a sentence
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    to say I was so Frozen with fear that
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    the approach it it was just impossible
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    so that is Step number one guys if
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    you're not taking care of your health
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    you're you're really doing yourself a
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    disservice that's number one it's really
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    that simple boom there we go all right
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    so describe your perfect man in a
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    relationship like the perfect guy what
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    is what does he have are you guys dating
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    by the way are
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    thir cool personality maybe status what
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    he has money could be anything doesn't
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    have to just be personality um I want a
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    good respectful guy very tall okay and
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    someone who loves me for
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    me um now the perfect man you found the
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    perfect man he checks off every single
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    box if he cheated would you leave him
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    one time random girl this girl means
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    nothing he slipped up he messed up
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    matter of fact he even told you about if
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    that was his first strike I don't know
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    cuz I've been there and I did take him
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    back but then I broke up with him
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    because it got to me so yeah probably
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    I'd leave him probably leave him just
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    cuz you know it would get to you yeah
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    okay that was the question yeah wow
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    inter it's just a little interesting
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    interview topic I have for today oh this
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    is perfect they got some cowboy hats on
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    wa ladies y'all look like y'all would be
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    perfect for my interview I don't do I'm
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    asking a simple question kind of a fun
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    question too I feel like a Salesman
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    right now what's up guys would you like
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    to buy my
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    interview all righty guys number two bro
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    find a wingman find or maybe not even a
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    wingman he doesn't have to be into the
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    approaching he doesn't have to be a
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    pickup artist or anything crazy just
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    hang around people who are extroverted
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    and you will learn through osmosis what
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    does that mean you're going to take on
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    the qualities of that person you when
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    the first time that I lived with someone
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    who was very positive very outgoing very
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    socialable very just cool I started to
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    become like that person anytime I've
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    hung around someone who was very
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    negative I started to become that person
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    hello how are
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    you good uh and uh yeah so the fastest
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    way to grow as a person and become more
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    social is to hang around other social
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    people now A step above that a level
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    above that is to hang around somebody
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    who is also learning and approaching now
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    if you can hang and you can find a
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    genuine wingman nothing will get you
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    better I the one week that I spent with
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    the fro this last weekend got LEL what's
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    up Vlog me on Tik Tok quick question all
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    right so you found the perfect man you
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    found what's up you're a YouTuber you
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    must okay follow me subscribe like she's
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    like this is my show the F it is what
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    you so you found the perfect man you
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    found the perfect man he's a 10 but 10
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    he's what's your type what does your
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    perfect man look like I want to describe
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    whatever God has got for me okay so okay
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    he he's whatever God's PL I mean country
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    would be nice country if he hunts my dad
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    will like him he hunts family loves him
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    uh everyone loves him good dad he has
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    all the qualities you want to man makes
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    money loves you to death you know he
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    loves you but he cheats cheated one time
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    that [ __ ] at work no the like on me or
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    I would have known that before we got
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    married I would have seen the red flag I
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    would have known he was he's not a
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    perfect man but he is your perfect man
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    if he is rep he is on his knees she she
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    he's repenting to Jesus and he's on his
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    knees and he shows change to God maybe
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    he's got to maybe but I may how far into
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    the Rel how far into the relationship
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    did you cheat three years you guys are
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    about to get married after oh we're not
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    married yet after 3 years if we're not
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    married after one year no damn fair
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    enough years what if he but what if he
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    was like he babe don't even worry about
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    it [ __ ] that [ __ ] don't even think
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    about it like not B deal what's his
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    excuse is he cussing at me now no no no
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    no that's just how I talk I yeah okay
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    his
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    excuse I was you know was he drunk was
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    he damn what is his excuse yeah I was
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    horny I saw her she looked cute she
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    means nothing to me from excuse it
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    better be I got a million dollars babe a
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    million dollar for this it's for you
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    that better be the excuse forgivable
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    honestly you would forgivable million
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    dollar and that would be very forg mean
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    for a million dollars I'd be like I'd
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    shake his hand to be like good business
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    deal on
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    Instagram go ahead subscribe like
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    comment YouTube bye she should be on
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    YouTube she should be on she go viral
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    all right so she was hilarious I swear
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    with every positive interaction that I
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    get I'm a little bit less nervous and
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    that is such a major key and no matter
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    how you feel the beginning of the
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    night um by the end of it if you have
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    some positive interactions you get some
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    good viods going you're going to feel a
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    lot more loose and a lot more happy so
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    it's crazy to feel it time and time
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    again every time I go out it's the same
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    and I had one comment the other day that
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    was like wow you go out you've been
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    going out for years and you still get
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    nervous that means there's no hope for
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    me honestly I disagree I think the
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    beauty in doing this is you get to go
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    through that full experience of getting
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    out of your head over and over and over
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    I think otherwise hey how's it going
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    y'all look cool I saw yall through my
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    camera I was like they look like they'll
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    give me a good answer big man he's car
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    atic funny witty interesting he makes a
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    lot of money and um he's going to be a
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    amazing dad he loves you to death
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    genuinely you know it okay you get the
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    point but he cheated once cheats no if
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    you did it once you're going to do it
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    again he slipped up he's sorry about it
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    sorry about
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    it no done I mean like how do I know
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    you're not going to do it like do it
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    again you're sorry this time but you're
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    going to be sorry next time too you when
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    you did it so he's done for he's gone
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    he's out the house you're taking the
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    kids taking okay fair enough that was
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    the question this has been interesting I
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    actually for some reason I expected um
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    the opposite like I thought girls were
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    going to be like all right I'll let it
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    slide cuz it's so perfect no but no you
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    have to have a high tolerance okay fair
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    enough well sometimes if they seem seem
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    too perfect that's why let's go ahead
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    and do number three and this is
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    something that really got me out of my
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    shell and I think it does it very
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    naturally and that's why I put this on
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    the liist list and that's this solo
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    travel that or travel with a friend but
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    one friend and the reason why I think
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    solo travel can be so impactful and why
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    everyone Raves about it and it's kind of
  • 00:12:10
    like overhyped I think too much of
  • 00:12:12
    traveling can be toxic it's like dude at
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    a certain point you got to work and have
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    a life right and be stable and some
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    people take it too far I definitely took
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    it too far but I think that solo
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    traveling can be one of the best ways to
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    really get out of your shell because
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    when you're going to these new places
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    you're being forced to interact with so
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    many people especially if you're broke
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    and staying at hostiles you're being
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    forced and these hostiles are literally
  • 00:12:36
    designed to make you social um you're
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    you're seeing new things you're
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    traveling you're getting out of your
  • 00:12:41
    head you you don't have y'all want to be
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    in my video it's quick one it's easy one
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    asking a simple
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    question from my YouTube channel cool so
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    I all right so I've gotten the same
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    answer on this all right
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    so describe the perfect man the perfect
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    man for you perfect you're single yay
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    all right so all right let me just make
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    an example you found a man he's
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    charismatic interesting witty has money
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    he's going to be a great dad he treats
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    you with respect he loves you you know
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    he loves you yeah but he cheats one time
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    what what happens well that's a respect
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    thing it was a slip up happened on
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    accident and Che accident there bab
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    there's no accident there he doesn't
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    love her at all do you leave him the
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    perfect man matter and take your chances
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    with someone else who might not be as
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    perfect or do you so cheat on
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    you but he's keep in mind you trust him
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    in every aspect you know he's grounded
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    you know he's a good dude but he messed
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    up what would you
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    do this is hard this is a hard one so
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    wait okay so the perfect guy that you
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    chase once once like you're either going
  • 00:13:53
    to break up with him right or you're
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    going to be like all right I'll let
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    [ __ ] sting I probably would
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    say yeah I mean it depends on the like
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    situation on how he cheat okay if it was
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    like a long like if it was like a whole
  • 00:14:08
    like thing met her at the club when he
  • 00:14:10
    was with his boys bachelor party doesn't
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    even know her
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    name I mean I don't know all right I'm
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    getting out of this okay fair enough
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    fair enough that was pretty do you want
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    to answer it I haven't asked any guys
  • 00:14:22
    this question yet I can answer your
  • 00:14:25
    question you said what I said I can
  • 00:14:27
    answer your question same scenario here
  • 00:14:29
    let's get in a little closer it's a it's
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    a the girl you're dating she's perfect
  • 00:14:33
    in every way beautiful great mom
  • 00:14:35
    everything you could ever
  • 00:14:36
    imagine what she cheats a woman cheating
  • 00:14:39
    and a man cheating are two different
  • 00:14:41
    things explain know well it's
  • 00:14:44
    scientifically proven a woman forms a
  • 00:14:46
    bond with every man she makes love with
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    I mean it's genetic yeah it's a genetic
  • 00:14:50
    Bond they form I mean a man is
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    genetically designed to reproduce and to
  • 00:14:55
    procreate so him doing is not it's not
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    the same because he can disconnect his
  • 00:14:59
    feelings and take it out of the equation
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    yeah whereas a woman is connected there
  • 00:15:03
    has to be a connection there and that
  • 00:15:05
    connection stays and anyone with more
  • 00:15:08
    than five Partners is there's like I
  • 00:15:10
    think it's a 38% chance less that she
  • 00:15:13
    have a successful marriage so really y i
  • 00:15:16
    watch fresh and pit podcast you
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    too wow good stuff man well if you know
  • 00:15:22
    you know epic you know what I feel like
  • 00:15:25
    and here's my general gist at the vibe
  • 00:15:27
    that I'm getting from this question I
  • 00:15:28
    feel like they they think they should
  • 00:15:31
    say okay I'm just guessing but at least
  • 00:15:33
    in this last one I feel like she really
  • 00:15:35
    wanted to say no I would stay I would
  • 00:15:38
    stay stay for him and even one of the
  • 00:15:39
    girls was like yes you would stay
  • 00:15:41
    because let's be real how often do you
  • 00:15:44
    find someone a partner especially if
  • 00:15:45
    it's a guy who's respectful loves you
  • 00:15:48
    great dad makes money is is a great guy
  • 00:15:52
    but cheats once you know like so she
  • 00:15:54
    didn't answer it but I feel like that's
  • 00:15:56
    what she wanted to say I don't know I
  • 00:15:58
    don't know I'm speaking for someone else
  • 00:15:59
    which is not okay not usually what I do
  • 00:16:02
    let's move on all righty guys so number
  • 00:16:04
    four these are like quick more technical
  • 00:16:07
    tips on how to start approaching when
  • 00:16:09
    you're absolutely terrified and this is
  • 00:16:10
    number one whenever I'm like really
  • 00:16:12
    scared to approach but I have I want to
  • 00:16:14
    do something something with my my
  • 00:16:16
    friend's saying is you want to just get
  • 00:16:17
    your mouth moving if you can just get
  • 00:16:18
    your mouth moving you can literally get
  • 00:16:20
    out of your head faster so one huge
  • 00:16:23
    thing you can do massive thing is a
  • 00:16:24
    challenge what kind of
  • 00:16:26
    challenge compliment challenge always
  • 00:16:28
    excuse me y'all look beautiful tonight I
  • 00:16:30
    just want to let you know so a
  • 00:16:32
    compliment challenge literally give
  • 00:16:33
    compliments give a 100 compliments in
  • 00:16:37
    one day and see how it affects your
  • 00:16:38
    brain you're going to get out of your
  • 00:16:40
    head way faster that way so if you could
  • 00:16:41
    just hand out compliments get your mouth
  • 00:16:44
    moving it's still I would still count it
  • 00:16:46
    as an approach bro like seriously and
  • 00:16:49
    then number two the 3 second rule
  • 00:16:51
    whenever you feel any decisiveness at
  • 00:16:54
    all like any indecision like you see the
  • 00:16:56
    girl you want to approach happens to me
  • 00:16:57
    all the time and I'm like [ __ ] I really
  • 00:16:59
    want to approach but I'm nervous should
  • 00:17:01
    I should I not literally as soon as you
  • 00:17:03
    start being indecisive about it 3
  • 00:17:06
    seconds you must go in immediately you
  • 00:17:08
    must go in immediately give yourself 3
  • 00:17:11
    seconds even if it's just a compliment
  • 00:17:12
    even if you're just saying hi even if
  • 00:17:14
    you're like yo y cool I just have to say
  • 00:17:16
    hi I want to be social you must say hi
  • 00:17:18
    immediately that is the key so and all
  • 00:17:23
    of these points I'm just speaking from
  • 00:17:25
    personal experience and the last point I
  • 00:17:27
    want to make is this do a career that
  • 00:17:30
    gets you out of your head now I've
  • 00:17:32
    picked the ultimate career that gets you
  • 00:17:34
    out of your head it's literally to talk
  • 00:17:36
    to people and approach I teach people
  • 00:17:38
    how to approach because I am addicted to
  • 00:17:41
    doing this I love being out of my head I
  • 00:17:43
    love being social one of the most
  • 00:17:45
    important things in my life my country
  • 00:17:47
    accent came out there in my
  • 00:17:51
    life is to be charismatic and be social
  • 00:17:54
    like I hate when I'm stuck inside all
  • 00:17:56
    day 12 hours a day editing or something
  • 00:17:58
    and I leave my house and I'm like [ __ ] I
  • 00:18:01
    feel like an alien that doesn't know how
  • 00:18:03
    to socialize anymore that to me is the
  • 00:18:05
    worst feeling so I want to create and
  • 00:18:07
    I've always wanted to create a life
  • 00:18:08
    where I'm actually socializing so I used
  • 00:18:10
    to bartend I used to do videography
  • 00:18:12
    event videography I used to um weigh
  • 00:18:15
    tables these things like bartending got
  • 00:18:18
    my my small talk so good it really
  • 00:18:20
    forced me to socialize and it helped my
  • 00:18:22
    social stamina so much bartending
  • 00:18:24
    changed my life even though it's a very
  • 00:18:26
    toxic job I would not recommend it but I
  • 00:18:28
    do recommend if you are broke and you
  • 00:18:30
    need money serving tables is a great way
  • 00:18:32
    to learn how to deal with people like
  • 00:18:33
    you genuinely learn a lot so what's up
  • 00:18:36
    guys and uh yeah notice how in the
  • 00:18:39
    beginning of the night I was kind of
  • 00:18:40
    like afraid and nobody was saying hi to
  • 00:18:42
    my Vlog and now everyone's saying hi
  • 00:18:44
    because they can feel the energy that
  • 00:18:45
    I'm unstifled so guys that is pretty
  • 00:18:47
    much it for today's video I hope you
  • 00:18:49
    guys enjoyed thank you so much if you
  • 00:18:51
    need more help join my school approach
  • 00:18:53
    Mastery and I will see you on the other
  • 00:18:55
    side peace guys
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